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I can't believe how mean he's being
Two weeks ago I got into a fight with a man that was a close friend of mine. The fight was over msn messanger. I told him I would never have an affair with a married man but that I still wanted to be his friend. Now he wants nothing to do with me and has even blocked me off his contact list. It hurts so bad because he had been a friend of mine for the last 4 years- I was beginning to think that he was hoping I would have an affair with him because he isnt happy in his marriage- I would only ever be intimate with him IF he left his wife. I can't believe what a jerk he is being- It's kind of stupid to end a four year friendship over that. Does anyone have any advice for how I can feel better? And don't you think he is being a jerk?
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i know your hurting but i think you should be hapry that your not with him because if he's trying to hyave an affair with you why he's married imagine if yall was together would he do the same thing to you. just fall back he'll be back because he's gonna miss your friendship
Jazzy**
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He is definetly being a jerk!
A way to get over this is to tell your husband. I've been in this similar situation. My husband could tell I was troubled... then I told him. Of course he was upset but not with me, he was even happy that I wouldn't even consider cheating on him.
But he was outraged at the man. At first he was going to go talk to him face to face, but I knew that would all end up in a huge fight- maybe physical!
So we just called him and talked to him, and he apoligized!
*Hope I Helped*
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&& Good Luck =)
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he is definetely being a jerk, and to me, it seems like hes acting this way becuse you sed you wouldnt have an affair with him. maybe thats what he had wanted, and becuse you told him straight up that you would never do that- he used that as an excuse to not want to talk to you anymore. very big jerk.
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If you assumed he would want to cheat on his wife without him blatantly saying so, I don’t think it’s surprising that he is upset with you. Unless he told you point blank he was interested in having an affair with you, the assumption that that was what he was after is rather insulting.
If he did tell you he wanted to sleep with you and you rejected him, well then yes, he is being a jerk.
However, this jerky behavior is the perfect reason to end a four year friendship. If he propositioned you while he was married, I’d certainly end the friendship. I would have no desire to be friends with someone who thought cheating was okay, or even worse, that I would help them do it.
If you made an assumption about his intent to cheat with you, I think you owe him an apology. Without solid proof (as in him saying the words “Come over and sex me up” or the equivalent) then your assumption was hurtful and insulting and I think a good friend ought to have offered him understanding and helped him talk through his conflicted feelings about his wife, not accuse of him infidelity. However, if you have that proof then I would let the friendship die. Someone that disloyal doesn’t make a good friend anyways.
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Try getting a hobby to keep your mind busy and yes i do think he is being a jerk.
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Wow. Small world, same thing is happening to me. Only, I'm alot younger, & hes not married. What I'm trying to do is just stay away from him.. because, hes obviously not worth it, right? Hes not a very good friend, if he doesn't respect your opinion. & will not listen to you. Hes being a complete fag. If I were you, I'd give him room to breathe. & then once he gets over it.. start talking to him again... & maybe tell his wife. You'll be doing her a favor. Because, thats something she needs to know. Okay, I hope I helped!
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Well to be truth full your not doing any thing wrong if this guy wanted to have and affair with you and you wont let it happen your a good person and and guy would wunna be with some one like that, As for the problem tyr your hardest to talk to him and when you do dont try to be all nice put him on the spot and ask him why he doesnt wunna be friends any more, then ask him if he doesnt like his wife that much get a divorce. If i was married i would never want my wife to cheat on me no matter how bad the relationship wa getting cheated on is probully the worst thing to do to someone
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