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My best freind is this girl i hang out with her everyday......and i love her so much but if i tell her how much i love her i think she will never talk to me again but if i dont tell her....and then i would of wish i would of told her....... (link)
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What kind of love are you talking about here? Do you think of her as a sister, or is it more physical?
If you love her as you do a sister or another close family member, then I would think she would be happy to hear it. Simply tell her sometime, "I want you to know that you're the best friend I ever had. I'm so lucky to have you in my life. You're like a sister to me, and I love you."
On the other hand, if you're talking about a romantic, intimate kind of love, it may be more complicated than that. You don't mention your own gender - that makes a difference (it would be nice if it didn't, but that's not the way our society is right now).
Either way, confessing such a love is a risk. If she doesn't feel the same, it will put a strain on your friendship - probably more of a strain than it will bear over time. But if she does feel the same way, or if she feels that she could, then the results will be wonderful indeed. There is nothing so great as when the person you love most in the world is also your best friend - take it from a man who considers his wife to be both of those things.
If you are female, and you're talking about romantic love, then there is an additional risk - which is that even if she does feel the same way, she may not be willing to show it out of fear. Furthermore, she might be disturbed by the very idea. I don't know your friend, of course, so I can't say what the result would be.
If you could confirm what kind of love you're feeling, and whether you're male or female, you might get more valuable advice.
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Is it ok to use pre-punched (loose leaf)paper in an inkjet printer like Epson's Stylus Color 880 or might damage result to the print head?
Tatarewicz, Canada (link)
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No problem. Go ahead and use it.
The only thing that will damage the print head is if you're using paper that's been ripped out of a spiral notebook or something, and has fringes that might come off and get clogged up in the printer's mechanics.
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I'm going to be Strawberry Shortcake for Halloween but I'm going to a party with a date. He needs to match me. Does anyone know what would match Strawberry Shortcake? Don't give me ideas for other costumes, please. I already know of other things we can do, I just really want to go as Strawberry Shortcake (link)
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I'm not sure I can come up with any ideas, but I can tell you this much - if you can actually get your guy to dress up in something that matches a Strawberry Shortcake costume, then he's REALLY secure in his masculinity.
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ok well lets start off by this. i went into highschool this year and got this real big crush on this one kid. i think he likes me too and stuff because he always tries to start up conversations with me, stares at me, and tries sits next to me. WE barely even talk though! haha i love playing "hard to get". But ANYWAY... i found out that he does drugs (pot) and drinks. To me i think thats really hot. I dont know why... but i think the whole bad boy thing is mega hot. What should i do? Should i still try to hook up with him... or just drop him from no beginning. I'm really confused but I REALLY wanna hook up with him! I've never kissed anyone or done anything yet. But with him I'm not nervous to be goofy infront of. Whats your advice? Thanks (link)
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Speaking as someone from a generation above you, it's hard for me not to get all parental and such. In any event, from what I gather, adult disapproval would probably just make him more attractive to you. So, in the interests of minimizing the harm you're going to do to yourself by dating him, I offer the following tidbits of advice:
(1) Don't carry, store, deliver, or sell his drugs for him. I'd say don't use them either, but who are we kidding? You're probably going to anyway.
(2) Be prepared for hurt. The thing about "bad boys" is that they're rarely bad about just one thing. He's willing to bend the rules on some things, and he'll probably also be willing to bend them on things like kissing other girls and such. You'll want to make up your mind now how you intend to react to that.
(3) You're going to get a reputation. People will look at the two of you and think, "He's bad. She likes him, so she must be bad too. She must be a slut." I guarantee you that whether it's true or not, people will think that, so decide now if you can live with that.
(4) Another thing about "bad boys" is that they sometimes get worse. Decide now how far down into the well you'll be willing to follow him should that happen.
Finally, and I really can't help myself, what the hell is so attractive about using drugs and alcohol? Anyone can do that. Frankly, your standards of what makes for a desireable guy are pretty low, and it's probably just as well that you're removing yourself from the list of eligible girls for decent guys to date.
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ok, so my friend (that im not close with) has her first boyfriend. She doesn't even like him, and it's obvious. All of my friends and her friends think she just went out with him to say she has a boyfriend. My friend told me that her boyfriend asked her if she wanted him to kiss her and she said "i dont know." Normally that would be fine, but when she's going around saying OMG im in loveeeee with him and then she doesnt know if she wants to kiss him? If she was truely in love with him, then she would've said something different. Is there something we should do about this situation? or should we leave it alone and let her do what she wants?
ps. i'm not her good friend so I cant have a like serious conversation with her, but my other friends could. THANKSS (link)
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She's confused. It's probably as simple as that.
Leave it alone and let her sort it out. There's probably nothing you could do about it that wouldn't fall firmly under the category of "butting in", and since she's not that good a friend she'd probably resent it.
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Okay so I'm 15/f and there's this guy (duh isn't there always?) and hes mormon and I'm Jewish. He's 16 though so hes allowed to date now. I know he likes me; he told me so. He said he can't ask me out because of his parents and that hes only supposed to date in the church. However, we were hanging out when all of the happened and after he said that and during we was just holding me in his arms (which I fit into perfectly by the way).
It kind of tears me up inside because it feels like we have something special and I realize I'm only 15 and am not in love or anything like that, but I can see a future with him probably a lot because of his religous principles. Like he won't cheat on me or anything.
Anyways I dont really have a specific question or anything but I would really like to know how to handle this! (link)
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His parents may have told him that he's only allowed to date within the church, but that's their call - the Mormon religion has no such restriction. Actually, the church ENCOURAGES dating those who are not Mormon, the purpose being to convert them.
It may be that the guy's parents don't want their son to have to do that, and so they see to it that it doesn't come up. They may also feel that only those within the church are "worthy" of dating their son.
Frankly, I'd pass on him if I were you. Not because of his religion, but because of his parents. If you date him, they will never give you an even break. I suggest you put the idea of dating him out of your head, find someone else whose arms you fit into perfectly, and let him date a nice Mormon girl.
And just so you know, belonging to any given religion does not make a person inherently good or bad. There are many truly evil people who say their prayers every night, and lots of very decent people who only go to church for weddings and funerals.
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Well My problems in my name. The situation is complicated but basically im in a long distant relationship, and i keep cheating on him. I love him so much AND NO ONE SAY I DONT BECAUSE I DO. i dont know what to do about it cos i love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but i keep cheating and its hurting him and me. What do i do (link)
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I notice that you do not say WHY you feel you keep cheating, or what the nature of it is. By that, I mean are you cheating with just one person, or is it a series of one-night stands, or something in between? Do you set out to do it, or is it something that "just happens"?
You will not be able to stop until and unless you can clearly identify why you are doing it, and take steps to solve that problem. And it is a problem that needs to be solved, not just because of the moral issues, but because you may be putting his life at risk. You could conceivably contract an STD and give it to him.
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Hello. I have lived with my boyfriend for a year. We have seperate rooms though because i have lots of stuff! anyway, hes 29 this month and i was thinking about doing something really nice for him. do any of you have any ideas? And should i get him a physical gift? or should it be a romantic gesture or a hot bath, with candles and rosepetals etc. Its our first special occasion together.
Also, he keeps bringing up marriage. How do i remind him tactfully that im only 16 and im really not ready?
Thanks x (link)
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I'm not sure where you live, but if it's in the United States, you're not only not ready for marriage, you're not legal. A minor under the age of 18 cannot enter into a legally binding contract, and that includes signing a marriage license. So there's your reason why you can't get married.
I cannot in good conscience advise you on what kind of gift to get for him, because the idea of a man of nearly 30 having a live-in girlfriend of 16 (or 15, when you actually moved in) is sending up all kinds of red flags. Maybe he's a perfect gentleman, maybe he's the best thing that ever happened to you, but the fact of the matter is that unless he has the consent of your legal guardian to cohabitate with you, he's also breaking the law.
The best gift you could probably give him is to move out, so he doesn't have to face the possibility of kidnapping or statutory rape charges.
For a 29-year-old man to seek out a young teenage girlfriend is very unusual behavior. For the two of you to be living together is borderline criminal behavior. Consider VERY CAREFULLY the possibility that he does not have your best interests in mind.
Please take this advice seriously. I'm sure you're thinking right now that I just don't understand, that it's not like that, and that he loves you and you love him and that's enough. Just remember that you are literally betting your life on that.
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15//female.
practically ALL of my friends have a boyfriend//girlfriend. and I have been single.. forever.. literally.. ive never had a boyfriend.
ims so depressing for me to always see them together and all happy.. especially when we leave school and its always like "love you, bye" and then they kiss.
i mean, its incredibly awkward, and i dont know what to do because i feel so lonely.
i dont know what its like to be happy like that and i just wish i did.
there are a few people i like but im too afraid to say anything, and only one of my friends [[who has a boyfriend]] is the only one that knows.. i just dont know what to do.
sorry this was long :x :/ (link)
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You have time.
Fifteen is still young. People are dating younger these days than they did when I went to high school (which wasn't THAT long ago, thank you very much), but that doesn't chage the fact that you still have four years of high school, and then the rest of your life after that, to date people.
I remember that feeling you describe very well. I rushed into one thing before I was ready, and as a result I have less than happy memories about my first kiss and my first relationship. My point is, don't go get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one - it's not fair to either of you.
Just so you know, as long as you are afraid to reveal how you feel, nothing will happen. I got a girlfriend the exact same day I spoke up and asked out the girl I wanted to date.
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ok so this has never happened to me... I'm not one to act like this AT ALL.
I have the most amazing boyfriend(17) ever. He is perfect for me in every way.
I think about him every second of the day and at night.. I stay up for 2-3 hours thinking about him. Whenever I don't see him for a few days I miss him so much I cry (sad, I know).
Sometimes he'll drive across town just to see me for 10 minutes then, 1 minute after he leaves he'll call me just to tell me he misses me.
Every time I'm with him everything seems to fit just right (like a puzzle, he says). We are so comfortable with eachother it's unreal. I feel like I've known him forever even though we've only been dating a few months.
(he told me he feels the same about me)
What's going on with me? I feel like I'm going crazy! (link)
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What's happening to you is what's happened to people since the dawn of time; it's called Love.
It sounds to me like you've been lucky enough to find someone you really click with, and what's more the feeling is mutual. Enjoy the rush, while it lasts.
I say "while it lasts" because even if this is true love which will follow you through the length of your days, it won't always feel this way. Think of the intense joy you're feeling right now - that's the intensity of the hurt you will inevitably feel later, eventually, when something goes wrong. I'm not saying this to frighten you or to rain on your parade - I'm saying it because you need to know it's coming in order to be able to get through it and come out the other side with your love still intact.
I'm speaking from a certain amount of experience, and hopefully I can help you avoid what happened to me. I also had a relationship, at roughly the same age, which seemed ideal and I couldn't imagine anything better. However, that was the downfall - we were both so afraid of ruining the veneer of perfection, we were afraid to talk about the little problems we had here and there - until it all blew up at once. Having dated for a year and a half, we had never had a real argument of any kind, and when it finally happened we couldn't deal with it, and it was over. The irony is that all the while we thought we were being honest with each other, when in reality we were playing parts in our own idealized relationship that couldn't possibly last.
So here's a nickel's worth of free advice: The first time you feel yourself getting upset with something he does, don't hold it in for fear of ruining everything! Talk about your problems, even the petty things, because you don't want issues and resentments building up. You might even try deliberately arguing about something totally unimportant, like a movie you just saw, just to see if you can agree to disagree. Make sure you maintain lives and support systems outside of each other, so when you do become totally pissed with each other over something, it won't feel like the end of the world.
And don't listen to anyone who says you're too young to be in love. They don't know what they're talking about.
All the best to you!
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I love photgraphy and theres a school project im doing to take 15 different pictures of yourself. its hard to explain, but yeah. i've taken 15 but theyre all basic from the top. no smile. weird makeup etc.
i really want to get into this class, so any ideas? i want to try some cool settings,hair,makeup, and clothes.
PLEASE help. (link)
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Odds are, your instructor is looking for you to find different and creative ways to take pictures of yourself. Fifteen similar portraits makes a statement (I could certainly imagine a photographic display along those lines, and it would be artistic) but it also shows a certain lack of initiative. See if you can experiment a little with different kinds of self-portraiture. Here's some ideas:
(1) Reflections. Don't just stand in front of your bathroom mirror, though; try to find something that will show a more interesting sort of reflection, like the side of a glass building or a silver teapot or a polished car door. Try to find something that represents your personality.
(2) Hands. Try to photograph your own hand holding something or doing something.
(3) Shadows. The trick is to make sure that the shadow is definitely the subject of the picture, not something accidental.
(4) Pictures of pictures. One interesting thing to do would be to take a picture that shows you as a child holding a favorite toy or something, and shoot of picture of that picture with the actual toy also in the frame.
(5) Long exposure. This one is difficult to get just right, but if you can set your camera up for a 30-second exposure and then move into the frame, you can get a very interesting "blur-motion" effect.
(6) Another kind of long exposure can be done in a darkened environment with a hand-held strobe. Set up your camera and open the shutter, and then move about the room and fire the flash at yourself. If it's done right, the resulting image will show multiple images of you.
(7) Abstract. Try to find some way of taking a picture of yourself that's symbolic - for instance, dressing a mannequin in your favorite clothes (if you have an understanding boyfriend, he could even pose in the picture with the mannequin as if it's you).
(8) Extreme close-up. If your camera has a Macro setting, use it to take a picture of your thumbnail, or your eye, or your lips.
(9) If you're lucky enough to have a twin sister, you can cheat!
Bottom line, the more creative you can get, the more likely you are to score well on the assignment - and more important, the more you'll learn about photography.
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i NEED to go to my school dance tonight, but i didn't buy a ticket! i already e-mailed the administrator and asked if i could, but she hasn't e-mailed me back yet. the deadline to buy tickets was yesterday, and you can't get them at the door. but i REALLY NEED to go. IF ANYONE HAS ANY IDEAS I WOULD GREATLY APPRECIATE IT!! (link)
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Go to the dance without a ticket, but with enough money to buy one. I find it hard to believe they'll be hard-hearted enough to turn you away at the door.
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My best friend is dating this boy who has been with 23 girls. They've been together for about 6 months. She didn't believe in having premarital sex before she met him. She gave it up to him a few weeks ago. He broke up with her a week later. He started talking to another girl. He begged my friend to keep having sex with him, although they weren't together anymore. She said no. He asked her back out a couple days ago. They started doing it again yesterday. Does it not sound like he's using her? He's this very munipulative type person. It's driving me crazy. Should I tell her how I feel? (link)
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She knows exactly what kind of guy he is. She'd have to be emotionally blind not to. And he probably IS using her, but you know what? She's letting herself be used.
Still, you should tell her your thoughts - once. When the s--- hits the fan, you don't want her to be able to say, "You're supposed to be my best friend! Why didn't you say something??" It's also possible that she's inwardly pleading for someone to come along and talk her out of it.
Just don't leave her. I'm not making any judgement calls, but manipulators are sometimes abusers too. Your friend will need her friends.
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Alright, i was wondering if it's normal for someone to go to homecoming alone? do alot of people do that? also what is the right attire for attending a homecoming dance? I'm a freshmen so this is my first one and I don't know a thing.. thanks alot (link)
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I've been to about a hundred homecoming dances, as a photographer. It's perfectly normal to go without a date. It happens all the time.
However, it's very, very unusual to go completely alone. Those without dates are generally with a group of friends, or at least one friend. On the very rare occasions that I saw someone completely by himself/herself, that person was having a lousy time and would probably have been better off staying home. Harsh, but true.
Attire varies, but one generally dresses up a bit. It's not as formal as the Prom, but the guys usually wear jackets and/or ties, and the girls are in party dresses for the most part. Sometimes I'll see dresses that obviously cost over $300 and guys wearing tuxedos, but I think that's over the limit for a homecoming.
Speaking as a photographer, I have the following advice: get your pictures done early. Then you can dance, have fun, and not worrry about wrecking your hair or your outfit. Also, the lines are shorter at the start of the evening.
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I know there are cashier and shelf stackers but what other positions are there? Specifically Safeway. (link)
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If you're under 18 and you have no experience, you can count on one of three options being open to you:
(1) Bagger.
(2) Sweeper.
(3) Stockboy.
Safeway isn't going to make a young, inexperienced, brand-new employee responsible for thousands of dollars worth of transactions every day, so don't look forward to working as a cashier right off the top. Jobs in areas like the Deli, the Produce department, or the Bakery require training that you won't get from day one.
You start at the bottom. That's how it goes.
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im NOT having sex i just have a question.so dont get my wrong. okay if the guy is wearing a condom does the girl have to wear one too? if both the guy and girl wear it then will there will be a less chance she will get pregnant? or how about if just the girl wears a condom and not the guy? (link)
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Doubling up on the condoms like that will pretty much guarantee that there will be no chance of pregnancy, but it will also guarantee that neither of you will actually feel anything. So, if you're not having sex to conceive, and you're not getting the pleasurable feeling, what's the point of doing it at all?
I have no experience with the female condom, but it always seemed to me that the only advantage with it is that the girl doesn't have to count on the guy remembering to put it on - and if you're with the kind of guy who's going to "forget" something like that, you probably shouldn't be having sex with him in the first place.
Short answer: One condom is all you need. When used properly, they are very close to 100% effective.
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I really need some new music for my iPod. I like rock, pop, punk rock/pop, and some hip-hop. Thanks so much in advance! (link)
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There are about seven million songs that would fall into one or more of those categories. If you want a meaningful answer, you're really going to have to narrow that down a bit.
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hi, well i know the old story behind the poker hand, "Dead mans hand" but i was just wandering what the ACTUALL 5th card was, because there are so many different answers on the net. thanks in advance (link)
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The one on display in Deadwood is the nine of diamonds. I'd say that's about as authoritative as you're going to get.
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Okay, to make a long story short I got bit by an ant, it swelled up, I'm allergic to them, I went to the doctor, and they gave me an antibiotic. There are red lines on my skin sticking out from the area of the bite. The doctors said that they can get in my blood stream and go to my heart. I have to go back if it's worse tomorrow and they have to give me a shot. I'm freaked out now. What happens if it gets to my heart? (link)
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I suspect that your information is not quite correct. There is no reason a doctor would give an antibiotic for an ant bite. What you got was more likely an antihistimine, similar to a benadryl but more potent and fast-acting.
I think that the doctor's concerns about it "going to your heart" has more to do with what might potentially happen if you were to be bitten again. Any venoms or allergens from your existing bite are already in your bloodstream and going through your heart, and don't seem to be doing any harm.
If it does turn out to be worse tomorrow, and you get the shot, they might give you an emergency hypodermic needle to carry around with you. This is a cylinder about the length of a pen and about half an inch wide that contains a loaded syringe of antihistamine. Then, if you're bitten by an ant and have a serious allergic reaction - trouble breathing, for instance - you can jam this thing into your leg and counteract it. It sounds worse than it is; my mother is severely allergic to bee stings, and she carries one around, but in 20 years and three stings she's never had to use it.
Talk to your doctor again, and make sure you're clear on what he's telling you.
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i have this guy who is my best guy friend. we've been friends for a little more than a year, and it's been great. we don't go to the same school anymore, but it seems like we always have time for each other online - on myspace and AIM and stuff. last night, i started to wonder if i still like him as a friend or more than that. most of the time, i catch myself thinking about him daily, and getting jealous if he talks to a girl. sometimes i think it's just because i care a lot about him, and i don't want him to like a girl that won't feel the same way back, but sometimes i think that maybe i have a crush on him. i don't know what to do. my friends say me and him make a good couple, and i can see why they would think that, but i don't know what to think. is it still friendship or more than that? (link)
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I say go for it. The best kinds of romantic relationships start as friendships.
However, you should consider carefully whether he wants that kind of relationship with you. If he doesn't, you could be setting yourself up for heartbreak. Your friends say that the two of you make a cute couple - do they have some inside information on his feelings for you, by any chance? If he has given you no reason to think that he wants something more - no signals whatsoever - I'd suggest you leave it alone, and try to get over the jealous feelings.
Here are common "guy signals":
When you see each other, and he give you a hug, does he seem more uncomfortable or reluctant than he used to? This is a sign that he's feeling differently than he once did.
Does he compliment you on the way you look on days that you know you're not at your best?
Does he have a picture of you in his wallet/locker/computer screen?
Does he make a serious effort to get along well with your mother?
Does he compare other girls to you and find them lacking? (For instance, "Tammi's hair looks like it came out of a bleach bottle. I prefer more natural hair, like yours.")
Does he suggest activities that compel you to spend alone time together, like study sessions or movies?
Does he get quiet and contemplative when you talk about dating other guys?
Does he complain about his dating life to you?
Has he ever said that he would like to see you naked?
All the above are signs of budding affection. If you see any of them, take the chance.
Here's how to do it:
(1) Do it in person, not over E-mail or AIM.
(2) Make yourself pretty. It shows you're interested.
(3) Be alone with him. Peer pressure is bad for new relationships.
(4) Be honest. Don't try to "make him jealous" or play silly games like that.
(5) Start the conversation by saying, "Why can't guys be more like you?" and then say how you just can't seem to find anyone worth dating. If he has ANY romantic ideas about you and the bare minimum courage to act on it, he'll make his move. If he doesn't, he's not sufficiently interested. Don't blame him for it; sometimes the chemistry just ain't there.
Good luck!
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