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best guy friend
i have this guy who is my best guy friend. we've been friends for a little more than a year, and it's been great. we don't go to the same school anymore, but it seems like we always have time for each other online - on myspace and AIM and stuff. last night, i started to wonder if i still like him as a friend or more than that. most of the time, i catch myself thinking about him daily, and getting jealous if he talks to a girl. sometimes i think it's just because i care a lot about him, and i don't want him to like a girl that won't feel the same way back, but sometimes i think that maybe i have a crush on him. i don't know what to do. my friends say me and him make a good couple, and i can see why they would think that, but i don't know what to think. is it still friendship or more than that?
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That is sort of how I am feeling. I like my best friend and don't know how to tell her. But, you know what? He's probably thinking the same about you. I know you probably aren't going to listen to me, because I know this is going to be extremely hard to do, but you should probably tell him. If he likes you the same way, it will be easier for him if you tell him. It's bad to keep things bottled up inside for so long, though I am keeping things bottled up like that, and It's probably going to be the end of me someday...I'm going to eventually explode because i can't hold it in much longer.
But, we have to learn to take risks. We have to learn that taking risks is what life is all about.
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let him know everything you just told me. After all, you said he was your best guy freind.
-jan
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i am not sure but i think it is alittle bit more than that...if you can't get him off your mind maybe he's supposed to be there....just if you make the first move and go out with him make suree you remain friends afterwards.i hope my advice helps you!!=]
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I say go for it. The best kinds of romantic relationships start as friendships.
However, you should consider carefully whether he wants that kind of relationship with you. If he doesn't, you could be setting yourself up for heartbreak. Your friends say that the two of you make a cute couple - do they have some inside information on his feelings for you, by any chance? If he has given you no reason to think that he wants something more - no signals whatsoever - I'd suggest you leave it alone, and try to get over the jealous feelings.
Here are common "guy signals":
When you see each other, and he give you a hug, does he seem more uncomfortable or reluctant than he used to? This is a sign that he's feeling differently than he once did.
Does he compliment you on the way you look on days that you know you're not at your best?
Does he have a picture of you in his wallet/locker/computer screen?
Does he make a serious effort to get along well with your mother?
Does he compare other girls to you and find them lacking? (For instance, "Tammi's hair looks like it came out of a bleach bottle. I prefer more natural hair, like yours.")
Does he suggest activities that compel you to spend alone time together, like study sessions or movies?
Does he get quiet and contemplative when you talk about dating other guys?
Does he complain about his dating life to you?
Has he ever said that he would like to see you naked?
All the above are signs of budding affection. If you see any of them, take the chance.
Here's how to do it:
(1) Do it in person, not over E-mail or AIM.
(2) Make yourself pretty. It shows you're interested.
(3) Be alone with him. Peer pressure is bad for new relationships.
(4) Be honest. Don't try to "make him jealous" or play silly games like that.
(5) Start the conversation by saying, "Why can't guys be more like you?" and then say how you just can't seem to find anyone worth dating. If he has ANY romantic ideas about you and the bare minimum courage to act on it, he'll make his move. If he doesn't, he's not sufficiently interested. Don't blame him for it; sometimes the chemistry just ain't there.
Good luck!
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Would you rather hug him or kiss him [on the lips]??
I'm serious. That almost always answers these questions.
If you pick kiss...rethink about this. You have a best guy friend...that is not easy to find and you've managed to have a friendship going on for a year. Do you really want to break this friendship by going out or just telling him that you like him and risk the friendship going poof?
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