tasuki's advice column

Ok my birthday is coming up and im thinking about doing a tropical themed birthday party in my backyard. I already have ideas on music, decorations, and everything but i dont have a clue what to do for games and stuff. I kinda want the4 games to be based on the theme which is a luau(not 7 minutes in heaven or spin the bottle). Any ideas?? I rate high for good answers!!!

Hm...pin the tail on the palm tree, or perhaps coconut bowling. Or a SUPER FUN TIME DANCE COMPETITION!! YAY! *cough* Yeah, sorry, I got out of hand. Well, I hope you have fun.

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Does anyone know of a website where i can copy and paste my essay and the site will show me grammer errors or rate me on my writing or will anyone do that for me? lol sorry if that doesn't make sence. WILL RATE THOUGH!

Even if there is a site like that, it will probably have flaws. The best thing to do is ask other people to read it for you! Perhaps your parent or legal guardian, or your teacher, or a friend who is skilled in English! That is always the best way (and this is coming from a serious writer!!) =)

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when you have your period, is it bad to jump. for example, pole vaulting, high jumping, etc. because thats like MY LIFE !! thank you. bye !!

If you are wearing a tampon, it should be okay. It might even be okay with a pad, but that could cause some discomfort.

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what are a few good songs that females can sing to? as in like for karaokee er something?

thanks!!

"What Would Brian Boitano Do?", "99 Luftballoons", and um...anything by Britney Spears!

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help i just got my dog some shoes from pet's mart, and they're sooooo cute! and we just got them today, but she walks really funny and weird in them... like she lifts up her feet too high and walks slow, and doesn't really want to move... do you think she just needs to get used to them... and do you think that once she gets used to them she'll start walking normally? if you think she will, how long do you think it'll take? we only put it on her feet when she goes outside, and she goes outside like after every few hours or something.

please help i rate high!!!

P.S. also, if you have a dog that actually has shoes too, then tell me how your dog was walking at first, and if it ever got used to it, and all that stuff!!! please give me some details so i'll know exactly!!!!

Well, here's my opinion on it. You should not make her wear shoes. Why? Because dogs were not really meant to wear shoes. It goes against nature. And sure, we see people dressing up their pets and it seems fine, but what if the animal is developing major psychological problems? It's like when I put a collar on my cat...he tried to attack his neck. I didn't want to force him to wear it, that would be cruel, so I took it off. If this is actually causing your dog to not want to move, I really do think you should take them off. I think it's degrading and humiliating to her, and like I said it goes against nature. She is meant to run around and chew stuffed animals, not to get dressed up, so please for her sake allow her to be a dog.

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It's humiliating because it makes her walk funny, perhaps?

I took the collar off him because it made him ATTACK HIS NECK!!! How is that healthy for a cat? You think I should just let my cat scratch up his neck and bite himself til he bleeds to death?!?!? And who puts a leash on a cat? What cat would even allow itself to be walked? They are different from dogs, you know.

I don't see how it's retarded. Dogs were not meant to wear shoes! How hard is that to understand? Before their descendants were domesticated, they did not wear shoes. If her feet get muddy, give her a bath and wash the floor! DUH!

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i had a question. besides the risk of stds and pregnancy why are adults so against teen sex? like parents make a huge deal out of it and i dont see why if you use male/ female condoms and are on birth control. i mean there is always still of risk of those things but they arent the end of the world.

Well, besides all the risks even WITH one or more simultaneous methods of birth control, I think it's just because they still see you as a child, and you're not ready for such an adult thing. Of course, the only person that can decide that is you, but in a lot of ways they are right. There are great emotional risks to having sex as well. If you are a girl, you might have sex one time and get a reputation for being a slut! Or the person you have sex with might just be using you, and that is not a good feeling. Not a good feeling at all. With all the things that have changed over the years, that is still the same as thousands of years ago. Anyway, that's why parents don't like it and they have every right to feel that way!

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hey guys, alright one question.

i last had my period october 30th, and right now i have my period. at least i think i do. i'm not sure if its my period... or if it's cause i "had my cherry popped" or something. do you bleed alot when that happens? cause i think i have my period. but i'm really honestly not sure.

answer, please?

Wait, wait. You last had it on October 30th? LAST YEAR?! Because October 30th of this year has not happened yet...has it? No, I'm sure it hasn't...because then I'd be overdue for my college essay. What a relief! I thought I was in a vortex. *sighs amusedly* Anyway, I think if the last time you had your period was a year ago, you should be getting to a doctor! And fast, girl! This could be serious!

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My boyfriend and I have been dating 3 months. We both have decided that we're not going to throw around the word 'love'. Seeing as most 14 year old couples do. So this is what we do..

When we do say i love you, we agreed we should only say it when we feel the moment is suitable, but we both know that when we say it we mean 'like is too small of a word, but love might be too strong of a word'

Other times we just say like 'I like you a whole lot', but we both know it's not just a normal 'crush' kinda of like.
Do you understand what I mean?

Does anyone think this is a stupid way of going about things?

No, it's not stupid. Saying "like" seems like it's too small, and "love" sounds too serious, right? I totally agree. I think there needs to be a different word, for in between. Maybe you can make one up =) like "loke", or something. Although, there are different kinds of love. Maybe you can say the word "love", but both of you know that you don't mean "married couple"love, you just mean "deep affection for someone you have only been seeing for 3 months" love. Or not. I don't think it's stupid and even if I did, it's up to you in the end. =) =)

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WHAT iS THE WHiTE GUNK WHEN YOU POP A PiMPLE.? BECAUSE WHEN i POP MY PiMPLES A LiTTLE WHiTE THiNG SQUEEZES OUT WHAT iS THAT..?

Tis merely pus. It's the stuff that is clogging your pores and causing the pimples. You should not pop them because that is bad. They can get infected that way. Instead, Neutrogena has this wonderful cream cleanser that works like acne-ridding-of magick powers, almost! =) And if you must pop them, afterwards you should wash with hot water and soap and then put bag balm on the part where you popped because it prevents infections. And, yes, infections are very bad and can kill you!! Well, goodbye.

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I am really shy around guys but I think I come off as standoffish. I don't mean to be shy...I just can't ever think of anything to say. Is this why guys don't like me?

Probably! I'm totally the same way! *sigh* Oh well.

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well i am a girl, and i kinda like another girl. but i like guys too, so byish..but for the girl: what are some "things" we can do...i know basics but some fun/sexy things? sry for people who are offended by this. but thanks for the help.

Well, I'm hesitant in telling you this because you seem kind of young. I don't know your age and I don't want to be giving sex tips to a 12-year-old. But I'll tell you a few things...you can kiss, just like kissing a guy only the lips feel, um, nicer. And you can feel her up =) And fingering, eating out, etc. I'm not going to go into too much detail on those because this is kind of a child's site. And, um, watch Girls Gone Wild. =) I guess. Bye now.

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Yesterday I was a size 32a non cup bra. I have a bra that is paded and is a size 34 a that used to be my sis's. Yesterday it was like big on me. I woke up this morning and my regular bra that I wear was small on me. I still wore it but its as lose as it can go. I tried putting the 34 a on and it fits me. Do you think it's irnormal to grow a boob size over night?

The word is "abnormal", and no, I think you're okay. I think somebody else said that your cup size didn't change, but that you got a little wider. That can happen. If you are a little bloated it could be your period. Also, all bras are different.

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Ok.. i'm going out with a guy and he smokes ..

i'm 14 and he is 15. do you think thats bad?

i rate high for good answers.

Well it depends on your feelings. If you hate people that smoke then yes, it's bad but if you don't mind, it's fine. I mean, you can be physically harmed by his second hand smoke but I think you pretty much know this and are willingly putting yourself at risk. The only reason to break it off with him is if he tried to pressure you to smoke.

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i feel that im being abused by words.. is that possibal?

and im 13/f and would i be able to call a abuse line? and get my mom taken away from me?

Yes, it's called verbal abuse and yes you could call a hotline, but I think it would be better to talk to your school guidance counselor.

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how do you get rid of dandruff with out like scratching it out or buying shampoos?

like home products if you can make something

Trust me, it's easier to buy dandruff shampoo (NOT head&shoulders!!!!) than to make your own remedies. =)

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how do u know when your in love or what does love feel like?

I've said it before (many times in fact) and I'll say it again: if you have to ask this question, it's not love.

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whats that new song thats like "la dah dah didee dah dah didee dah de day"?

whats the name of it and who sings it?

"Heart of a Princess" by the band Stoner Spaz. I love that song!

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where can i buy a microscope?

Discovery Channel store.

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Ok so there is this girl on my bus named jessica. And were arent friends or anything. And she told the kid across from me that her stepfather beats her. So me and the other kid decided that we would tell the guideance counseler about it. Well the other kid goes to Vo-tech during the day so he wanted me to tell the office. So I did. Well somehow Jessica found out that I was the one who told and now shes mad at me. She is being really nasty to me what should i do? I mean I was only trying to help

If what she says is true, she is probably deeply embarassed that you did this. You're not her friend, and I know it was an act of kindness, but to her it feels like it was none of your business. She is somewhat right about that. On one hand, it really wasn't your place to interfere but on the other hand, if you hear something like that how can you just turn the other cheek? This is something very serious and was probably looked into immediately, now there are probably a lot of counselors and lawyers and other people involved with her life and it's very stressful to her.

Now, if what she says was not true and she was just saying that to be "cool" (I know it's weird, but it happens), people are probably investigating her home for no reason and she doesn't want people to find out she lied.

Either way, I think she should get over it. If it was the truth and she is being abused, tell her that you didn't mean to interfere, you just wanted to help and that you're there for her if she needs it. If she was lying, well, she is the one who did the wrong thing, not you, so just forget about her.

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