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So like, me and my gf live together in an aprtment in Vancouver. We've been together for about a year, but living together for just a few weeks. And lately ive been thinking that she wants me to break up with her. You know how sometimes girls dont wanna break up with you, so they act differently so you break up with THEM? Yeah, she is doing that. She is trying to make herself disgusting and ugly so that i will break up with her, and thats exactlty what she wants, but i dont want it.
Just yesterday it was her turn to do the dishes, and she left them all out and even made it worse by making it dirtier than usual. Then she went out into the rain with her shoes and walked right inside our place with her muddy, wet, shoes and got all over the floor. Then at night she took a shit with the door open and started screaming like it was funny... like WTF. I know what she is trying to do... And plus shes making herself look like a fatass when we watch tv, as if she is letting herself go, trying to make herself undesirable. She walks around with no make-up, wears nasty pajamas with a giant coffee stain on it, wears my over-sized shirts with BBQ sauce on it (that she puts there on purpose), and btw, she is a near freak, but lately shes been leaving food wrappings in her car and empty water bottles and shit, which i know isnt her. ... I know what shes trying to do. And i have no idea how to respond to this.. help? (link)
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Dude, she has checked out of the relationship but doesn't want the guilt of initiating the breakup. You clinging to her makes you look weak and needy to both her and any girl who knows you. So you gotta hit the eject button. When it's over it is over, okay?
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Meh and my boyfriend started having sex bout a mounth ago... he is my first so i realy dont knw much about it... we just now had sex without a condom and he said he pulled out before he came... i wanted to ask him how did he know that it some didnt get inside but i waz too shy n i knw i shudnt be shy when it cumz to that... my question is... iz it posible for a guy to pull out before they cum... and if he pulls out but before its all the way out he cumz just alil inside... cud you be pregnant??? thanz (link)
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Yes, he pulled out and came outside of your vagina. Unfortunately, when a man gets aroused, he starts secreting pre-cum, which contains sperm, too. So you could definitely get pregnant that way.
So from here on in either use birth control and/or condoms. Btw, condoms also can break, so they aren't 100% effective. Thus, getting on the pill or using a cervical cap or some other IUD is the way to go. Talk to your doctor about this. If you don't feel comfortable with that, try calling Planned Parenthood and see if they can do anything for you.
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2 days ago i was at my boyfriends house (we r both 18 and have been together for 2 years) and he was studying for some upcoming test. I was getting bored so I started talking to him asking him questions like "how is the studying going" etc. I didn't mean to get on his nerves and I didn't know I was annoying him. Then all of a sudden he just snapped saying "SHUT UP B****" and pinned me on the wall and was about to punch me but at the last second moved his hand and punched the wall instead leaving a hole in the wall.
I was scared and I felt the tears coming but I don't like him to see me cry so I told him "maybe I should leave so I dont interfere with his studying,and I didn't mean to make u mad." So I left and when I got home I just went to bed crying and like 15 minutes later he knocked on my door and was apologizing saying "he was just stressed out, I wasn't the reason why he got mad and he would never treat me like that and he was just really stressed and he loves me so much and doesn't want to lose me etc." he gave me flowers Chocolates and a stuffed bear and the apologizing went on for about 30 minutes and I did eventually forgive him because I feel that if I wasn't bothering him he wouldn't have done that and he's normally a very calm person. But now i'm so scared of him, I don't know why but now he just scares me and I'm always nervous around him. I don't know if I made the right choice forgiving him or if I made the wrong choice
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Yeah, what you got was a warning that this guy has major anger issues. Certainly, you shouldn't have interrupted his studying, which was a totally selfish move on your part. However, there is such a thing as a sense of proportion and this guy showed he obviously has trouble knowing what that is.
Also, you are way too young to be tied down in a serious relationship. Break up, go to college, date around, explore life and then you can get serious once you reach your mid-20's.
I also want you to ask yourself what attracted you to an abuser. Do you have an abusive home situation, maybe a father who has anger issues? Women often repeat their relationship with their fathers in their personal lives. If this description fits you then you may need counseling to help deprogram you from this destructive orientation.
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Well i'm 22 and i've been with my bf for 2 years. I've always been insecure. Anyways my problem is that when we first started dating my friends wanted to meet him, so i introduced them to him. One of my friends then introduced him to one of my ex gf's (i'm bi by the way). Now long story short about me and my ex gf is that she cheated on me so i dumped her and never had anycontact with her sense i broke up with her. Anyways I was not around when my friend introduced him to my ex gf. So when i found out he was talking to her I started being insecure and scaed that he would cheat of me with her.
My bf constantly tells her our problems and when we fight (which is alot of the time) and she constantly butts in when he tells her whats going on in our relationship. I told him about it one time that he needs to shut his mouth because and none of her god damn busniess what we fight about or anything else for that matter, and his answer was "well i needed someone to talk to about us" Told him sure he could tell someone like one of his guy friends or something but NOT my ex gf. But he said he'll tell anyone he pleases which got me mad at him for a while. She gives him advice about us, which she has no right to because she always cheats on anyone she's with and as so many bf's and gf's at one time.
He told me yesterday that he was talking to her AGAIN for the second or third time this week, he told me that she called him baby. I'm not upset about that i'm just upset that she'll make moves on him and he'll go for it and cheat on me with her (onless she already has made moves on him and he hasn't told me about it).
Am i over reacting or do i have every right to be scared that there's a chance that he'll cheat on me with her?
Any advice on what I should do? (link)
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What is keeping you in such a dysfunctional relationship? You a drama vampire or something? Simplify your life and leave him and then find a boyfriend who has better defined boundaries.
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So I've been with the same man for almost 2 years now, we've known each other for about 3. I do love him, but honestly, I'm getting bored. I've seriously thought about it and I've almost left him a few times. The thing that stops me is the fact that I could never get him back and my fear of being alone. So what should I do? I'm not sure if this is something I should talk to him about or maybe just something I need to decide on my own.
Any help appreciated! (link)
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Part of the growing process is being able to live as an independent person. And having to stay around people you have trouble tolerating for long is a hell all of its own. So you need to jettison the boyfriend and seek another mate because your growth as a human and the opportunity to widen your social circle is being stifled by remaining in the relationship.
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is kissing like hugging?
you automatically know what to do? (link)
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Well, there are people who are good kissers and those who are not. But it's pretty instinctual. The main thing is to relax, take your time and don't slobber.
Keep in mind, too, that women like kissing a lot, so don't skimp on it on the way to getting naked. Learn to really enjoy it and try to communicate something to her through your kisses.
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Im a college guy dating my high school sweetheart she is a year younger then me in high school and we had a fight and she dosen't believe me when i call her gorgouse or tell her how much i love her she keeps on trying to get me to say she is ugly, unattractive worthless and meaningless. cause i dated a modle along time ago. its ripping me apart inside cause she dosen't believe it when i say she is pretty. I can't be with out her of all the girls ive been with she means the most and can hurt me the most i dont know what to do if i dont say she is ugly she is leaving me and ive tried to convince her so so many times but she wont listen she says she loves me and shes im settling for secound best that i desever better then her. truth is i can only think of her and only image myself with her i need advice and some help please. (link)
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Dude, she needs a therapist. She obviously either has been mentally abused by her parents (women often repeat what they faced in their families with their mates) or she is suffering from depression or some other mental illness.
This is a lot more than you can handle. So you need to let her go. I know you will probably feel guilty dumping her, but you have to know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em. We all ultimately have to take care of number one in this life because we are the only ones who can live our lives. So move on.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months. We broke up for a month though, I left him because I wasnt sure If I really loved him or not. We got back together and everything has been great... Until last week turns out he had a one night stand and the girl is now pregnant.. shes not even done high-school and wants to keep it. He wants nothing to do with her and if she has the child he wants to be apart of its life. Im so heart broken by the whole situation and dont know what to do.. I tried to talk to the girl to ask her if she knew for sure if it was his and she didnt take that very well... I dont know what to do... I cant stop thinking about everything.. its kind of my business but at the same time its not.. Thinking about it makes me sick and I dont know if i should stay or leave.. I love him but I dont know what to do :( Please help. (link)
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This is an awful lot of drama. Why are you putting up with it?
Also, he is likely going to be on the hook for child support, which is going to limit you guys economically going forward.
You may also be feeling a sense of competitiveness with the other girl and don't want to lose him because of that. This is irrational.
Now you can demand that he ask her for a DNA test to prove he is the father. He should do that anyway because she could actually be pregnant by a real loser and sees your boyfriend as being likely to have more money coming in to support her and the child. He also has to keep in mind that only a court can decide custody and the amount of support, so whatever he or the mother feels about it or whatever support agreement you want to try to negotiate privately would have no legal foundation, so he will have to indeed go through legal channels and that will be expensive, too.
So, rationally, you need to boot the boyfriend. Don't let your emotions sabotage your life since you are the only one who can live it. And consider this as a warning to be more picky about who you hook up with from here on in.
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I started looking at, well I wouldn't nessicarially call it porn, but I guess you would. But I have been looking at "porn" since I was like 5....nothin ever happened...and its not a girl and guy, its 2 men...is it normal that I look at it at my age? Or am I like some weird girl pervert? I mean I have a whole collecton on my phone and computer and only my 2 friends that I know really really well and sister and brother know...and they have never told my parents...so was it normal of me to look at 2 men doing it when I was 5 and is it normal now?
P.s...this is probably in the wrong catogorie... (link)
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Young women who look at male gay porn is more common than many would believe. So no big deal. Different strokes for different folks.
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So this weekend me and my friend went out of town to go see our friend Nick play hockey. I put a status on facebook up saying we were going there and then when we get there i get a call from this kid Cory. Turned out that Cory, Paul, and Shaun (Nick's friends) were all up there too watching him, me and my friend also know these boys. So they came to our hotel before Nicks game and then after they all came back to our hotel room and stayed the night. Well in our bed it was my friend me and then Shaun. We didn't try going to bed until like 3 in the morning. Well Paul was acting really strange and was basically freaking me and my friend out (thats another story) so as we were laying down in the bed i got really close to Shaun because i was scared and he is a boy so i felt safe. Keep in mind all the lights were off so it was pretty dark in the room. Then all of a sudden Shaun puts his arm around me and we started cuddling. I thought, there is no harm in this it's nice to just cuddle with someone every once in a while ya know!? But ...then i couldn't resist him. He had his shirt off and he has a really nice body so i just started gently running my fingertips down his sides and i could tell he was getting turned on. I never thought that would turn him on. So then he started running his fingers down my arm since his arm was around me and it tickled a little but felt good and as he was doing that i was still running my hands down his sides and you could tell he loved it. Then my legs were basically tangled in-between his but i wasn't on top of him at this point. BUT then after a little bit he basically put me on top of him and i could feel he had a boner. All of our clothes were still on, well he just had his shirt off. I started to just move my body up and down on his, so we were basically dry humping. He had his hands down my pants but was only touching my butt and then had his hands all over me and i was running my hands through his hair and was really close to his face. But we never really even did anything..we never kissed, madeout, he never fingered me and i never gave him a hj or bj. But then he tried doing something and i was like stop because my friend was in the same bed right next to us so it was a little weird and then he was like yeah okay well i dont think we should be doing this or it's not a good idea and i was like yeahhhh and then i got off of him and he turned and faced away from me in the bed.
But then in the morning he was acting really weird and making it SO awkward. He was telling his friends get your stuff and lets go i'm going to wait in the car for you guys. Nobody knew what had happened at night, only us. My friend didn't even know. My friend was like jeez Shaun was acting really weird this morning why did he want to leave so bad? But now i feel like it's going to be awkward when I see him next. I don't really even feel like we did anything bad? But he was the one who made it really awkward. Should I feel awkward about this...? I don't know how to make it not awkward when I see him after he basically didn't say anything to me in the morning. (link)
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This is easy: he wanted to bone you and was disappointed that it didn't happen. He was also sporting a bad case of blue balls from all the touching you guys were doing. Once you put up the stop sign, he wasn't sure how to proceed and just said, "screw it."
Keep this in mind, too: when a guy is allowed to sleep in your bed or your house, or your hotel room, he is hoping to have sex with you. So if you don't want any misunderstandings, don't invite guys to sleep over!
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okay so this is going to probabaly be long okay so there is this guy and we started talking awhile ago and his great his nice and he makes it obvious he likes me and i liked him so then in school i would be a total bitch and ignore him because i was embarrest of him because my friends said he was ugly so after that we stopped talking for a long time and during this time he went out with one of my friends for two weeks and she broke up with him and told me it was because her life was stressedfull and he was just adding to it, and two weeks after they broke up we started talking again and we some how told each other we like each and he said that since he just got out of a relationship w should just get to know eachother for a while and and i agreed. so then i told my aunt all this and she said that he was going to use me as a rebound. and i just dont know. his 15 and im 15.
so should i keep talking to him or am i just going to be his rebound??? (link)
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Can't hurt to keep the lines of communication open.
He's a pussy, though. It's pretty obvious that the opinion of your girlfriends is more important to you than his feelings. I mean, you pretty much emasculated him when you broke up with him like that. Yet, he is coming back for more.
Look, let this be a lesson to you: do not let others tell you how you should handle your personal life unless you are doing something destructive (either to him or to you) by being in that relationship. You are the only one who can live your life. So take control of it and if others don't like it tell them to take a hike!
Your friends suck, btw. If you keep them around they will cause you more problems with future boyfriends. Most guys hate it when their girlfriend's friends are around. When you are with your boyfriend, your friends have to get lost. Got that?
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how do you know if a guy really loves you, or if he is just using you for sex? (link)
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Make him date you regularly for at least three months. Most players don't want to put out the money or the time if they just want some poon.
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Okay so last semester I was hooking up with this one guy. It kind of fizzled off right before winter break. I want to start this up again, but I have no idea how. I don't want to be obvious about it, but I feel like asking him to come out to a party over the weekend is. Help please! (link)
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Just ask if he wants to hook up again. Nothing wrong with it. I'm sure he'll be flattered and, unless he is with someone now, he will take you up on the offer.
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I'm 22 and have been hooking up with a 40 year old, we've had sex once before but he wants to continue hooking up. Has anyone else been with someone older than them or do you guys think it's wrong??? (link)
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You guys are adults. Do what makes you feel good. Never let others dictate to you how you run your life unless you are hurting others or yourself. Live life according to what makes you personally happy since nobody else can live it for you.
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Hey guys, So I'm going to get right down to it, I have been sleeping with this guy, and we had protective sex usually but one night we didn't have protection so he would just pull it out before he would 'cum' inside of me, but now Ive been noticing these kinda small.. completely white bumps that look like they're underneath the skin, the aren't anywhere near my actually vagina, they're more towards the lips, outer area. I thought maybe it could be an infection of some kind. I can't go to the doctor because I'm only 14 and my mom doesn't know I'm sexually active. By the way, I've had no symptoms, no discharge, smells, nothing. Anyone have an idea what this is? (link)
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Call Planned Parenthood and see if they can help you.
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I'm a 21 year old girl and i've never given a hj or done oral. I've hooked up with guys, but it's always them who get touchy feely and i never return the favor because i have ZERO clue what to do. I'm embarrassed to tell them that i've never done it, because i feel like i'm at the age that should have at least tried those things a few times. I'm sure there are guys who wouldn't care and who would walk me through it, but i keep thinking that i'm gonna end up getting the one who looks at me wierd and then things would be awkward...or if i didn't even mention i've never given a hj or bj, and it ended up going wrong, i would just die of embarrassment. So guys, i want your honest opionion please! What would you do? Do you even notice if the girl is a newbie at certain things or what?
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Teaching one's girlfriend how to give head can be fun. The main thing you need to do is to relax your jaw and mouth so that they don't become fatigued easily. Also, you will likely be unable to take the full length of his penis in your mouth unless he is on the small side (like, say, four inches erect). Don't feel bad about it.
Use the tips of your fingernails to gently brush his balls and you can gingerly pull the skin around his balls downward because it feels good.
You can spice things up by using whipped cream, chocolate or flavored lube on his cock (recommended only for guys with either trimmed or shaved pubic hair).
When he cums, let him cum in your mouth. If you don't like the taste or texture, don't spit it out, but rather, let it drip down your chin, which is totally hot. Either that or when he is ready to go off, you can take his penis out of your mouth and stroke him the rest of the way and he can cum on your body, or, if you're into that, on your face.
As for a handjob, use lube like Astroglide or some other water soluble brand. Keep your hand relaxed and put pressure on the head, the most sensitive part, on each down and upstroke. However, when he begins to shoot, only stroke his shaft and do it like you're milking it. The head will be too sensitive to touch. Speed up your strokes the closer he gets to cumming.
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Hi i am thirteen and i play with myself! I dont know why i do it but i try to find anything that vibrates and i stick it down there it feels so good tto me but it makes me feel funny! but i love the way it tingles down my body and i am addicted to it what do i do??? (link)
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It's called masturbation and it's pretty wonderful. It is also safe. So just relax and keep doing it (in private). You won't outgrow it and there is no need for you to do so. It will teach you how you like to be touched and licked when the time comes when boys start to become a major preoccupation in your life and you can then teach the guy what turns you on.
There is nothing dirty about it. Just lay back and enjoy.
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Do guys like when you moan? I never thought i'd be a moaner but turns out i am. Is this a turn on for them? What other turn on's are there? I usually run my hands through his hair and grab it gently but other than that and moaning I don't know what else i can do!
I know every one is different, but any suggestions are welcomed. Thanks! (link)
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Any indication that you're enjoying what you are doing together is a turn on for the male half of the equation. Moaning, screaming, digging your nails into his back, shoulders, or biceps, it's all good.
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Hi all, I just wanted to know somthing about my weight... I'm 13 5'3 and 126 lbs. I think I'm overweight. Yes, I do have a bf and he picks me up all the time, but I'm just barely off the ground.... like mabeye an inch?? Anyway I have huge thighs, both of my sisters are smaller than me and they call me thunder thighs. My gut isn't that big, and my boobs are a size B. But I that pink skin around my nipple is really big and covers the whole tip of my boob. So when he does pick me up I can see the look on his face that he is sorta struggling. Ok, there is more like a few questions about everything in here so bare with me. Every day at lunch he sits with this one whore who flirts with him all the time. She once kissed him on the cheek and said she was smelling his cologne. She keeps telling me that she will never flirt with him because she knows we are dating but she is a whore!! I keep telling him I'm ok with it but I'm not.. I love him and we kiss all the time. So today she kissed him on the lips and he kissed back. They say that they always pretend to be sister and brother but i am sooo mad at her!! What can I do to make her stop and not seem overprotective?? P.s. everyone always says he treats my like shit and I think so to. everytime he sit with her they always tell him to sit by me cuz we are dating bu he ignores them so what can i do? Sorry it was soo long... please help with all my questions!! Thanks!!! (link)
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You like him because he is in demand and your feeling of competitiveness with other women is keeping you in the relationship.
Also, by treating you like crap the guy shows he is not a pussy and that also turns you on. The person least emotionally invested in the relationship has all the control in it.
The thing is you have to determine where your boundaries are and be firm about setting them, So next time you see your BF tell him the next time he shows that kind of affection you will dump him. You better be prepared to follow through with that threat, too, or you will look like a total lamer. Also keep in mind that anybody's chances of marrying their junior high school sweetheart is about the same as winning the lottery: about nil. Once you leave him other guys will get in line to get with you.
Your weight is fine, Just eat right (low fat diet, about 2000 calories a day with at least an hour of vigorous exercise a day) and you'll be fine. You will fill out as you grow up and some of that puppy fat will be redistributed in a way that will be even more appealing to guys by the time you graduate high school. Don't worry about your thighs. They aren't finished vertically growing yet. Just keep them toned by regu8lar running, long walks, bicycling or swimming and you are good to go. Some guys like thick thighs anyway.
As for the coloration issue on your breasts, don't worry about that, either. First, no guy ever broke up with a girl due to the tint of her aureolae or nipples. So you can write that issue off right now. Plus your breasts aren't finished filling out, either.
Finally, women are built through evolution to have some fat on them. That is what makes them soft and so huggable. Nobody wants to hug a girl who is so skinny that she is basically like a skeleton in a shroud. Believe me, your boyfriend gets hard everytime he embraces you because it feels so good. So relax.
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Hi!! well my friend is fourteen years old, and still has not got her period. Is there anything she could be doing to prevent it? (link)
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If you're friend engages in sports with heavy workout loads (this is especially true in gymnastics and track) that could delay the onset of her period.
But absent that, her genes will determine when she will begin ovulating, so she will just have to sit back and let nature takes its course.
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