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Why he is making this so awkward?
20female Shaun-18
So this weekend me and my friend went out of town to go see our friend Nick play hockey. I put a status on facebook up saying we were going there and then when we get there i get a call from this kid Cory. Turned out that Cory, Paul, and Shaun (Nick's friends) were all up there too watching him, me and my friend also know these boys. So they came to our hotel before Nicks game and then after they all came back to our hotel room and stayed the night. Well in our bed it was my friend me and then Shaun. We didn't try going to bed until like 3 in the morning. Well Paul was acting really strange and was basically freaking me and my friend out (thats another story) so as we were laying down in the bed i got really close to Shaun because i was scared and he is a boy so i felt safe. Keep in mind all the lights were off so it was pretty dark in the room. Then all of a sudden Shaun puts his arm around me and we started cuddling. I thought, there is no harm in this it's nice to just cuddle with someone every once in a while ya know!? But ...then i couldn't resist him. He had his shirt off and he has a really nice body so i just started gently running my fingertips down his sides and i could tell he was getting turned on. I never thought that would turn him on. So then he started running his fingers down my arm since his arm was around me and it tickled a little but felt good and as he was doing that i was still running my hands down his sides and you could tell he loved it. Then my legs were basically tangled in-between his but i wasn't on top of him at this point. BUT then after a little bit he basically put me on top of him and i could feel he had a boner. All of our clothes were still on, well he just had his shirt off. I started to just move my body up and down on his, so we were basically dry humping. He had his hands down my pants but was only touching my butt and then had his hands all over me and i was running my hands through his hair and was really close to his face. But we never really even did anything..we never kissed, madeout, he never fingered me and i never gave him a hj or bj. But then he tried doing something and i was like stop because my friend was in the same bed right next to us so it was a little weird and then he was like yeah okay well i dont think we should be doing this or it's not a good idea and i was like yeahhhh and then i got off of him and he turned and faced away from me in the bed.
But then in the morning he was acting really weird and making it SO awkward. He was telling his friends get your stuff and lets go i'm going to wait in the car for you guys. Nobody knew what had happened at night, only us. My friend didn't even know. My friend was like jeez Shaun was acting really weird this morning why did he want to leave so bad? But now i feel like it's going to be awkward when I see him next. I don't really even feel like we did anything bad? But he was the one who made it really awkward. Should I feel awkward about this...? I don't know how to make it not awkward when I see him after he basically didn't say anything to me in the morning.
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This is easy: he wanted to bone you and was disappointed that it didn't happen. He was also sporting a bad case of blue balls from all the touching you guys were doing. Once you put up the stop sign, he wasn't sure how to proceed and just said, "screw it."
Keep this in mind, too: when a guy is allowed to sleep in your bed or your house, or your hotel room, he is hoping to have sex with you. So if you don't want any misunderstandings, don't invite guys to sleep over!
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The problem is pretty easy to spot. You didn't see it as a big deal. He did.
Imagine if you were fooling around with this guy, had a great time, then all of a sudden he stopped, rolled over and went to sleep, then pretended that nothing had happened the next morning. You would question yourself. You'd question your sexual prowess. You'd be embarrassed that you had allowed yourself to be led on only to be abruptly dropped.
Some people don't think that physical contact is a big deal. Others do. If I had the sort of night you did, I'd be seeing it as a pretty huge freaking deal. He might be taking it more seriously than you, but unwilling to discuss it because he sees that you don't see it as a matter of importance, and doesn't want to appear 'weird'.
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Well, I can understand his feelings. He was turned on and rejected. That's pretty much the sum of it. It's pretty much like that electricity saving thing "How would you like it if someone turned you on and just left?"
If you are worried that much about your relationship with him (whether it be friendly or an item) I suggest you talk to him. Explain to him why you had him stop. Best of luck. I hope it works out ;/
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