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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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ok. so my hair bores me. its plain brown...but my mom will not let me die it or anything.

do you know any homemade dies or anything like that?

There is no such thing as homemade dies. Sorry.

where do babys come from.

Vagina`s.

ok well, i want to dye my hair a shade of brown, but i'm not really sure if i should or not. cause my hair has always been blonde and i wanted to know what you think http://i14.tinypic.com/2mzab8z.jpg
( im the girl by the way lol )
-thanks :)

Since your eyes are so blue, I think that a darker brown would look really pretty on you and it would make your eyes really pop. Just go for it. It'll look great.

i got 200 dollars from my grandparents for my birthday, and i have absolutely no idea what to spend it on! i want some unique ideas pleaassee. thank you!

also please DO NOt tell me to save it

Just because you got $200 doesn't mean you HAVE to spend it right away. You might regret spending it on something that you might not need later on. If you don't have an iPod, buy yourself one. A camera, jewerly, clothes.. anything that you would like to keep for a long time and that's worth spending $200 dollars.

i think i am ugly. i try to fix my hair right and i wear nice clothes but i cant get any guy to like me. what can i do to be prettier any advice?. i have low self asteem because everyone is always telling me i am ugly and i know it everytime i look at myself in the mirror please help!

p.s what can i do to make guys like me, i am too ugly!

Confidence is what makes people pretty. Being pretty isn't all about having nice hair, wearing cute clothes but it's about taking care of yourself. Just because some guys may not like you doesn't mean you're ugly. Put yourself out there. Be fun, outgoing and flirty and just talk to guys. Sometimes looks aren't everything and guys love when girls have a good personality and good confidence. No guy wants to hear a girl that keeps saying, I'm so ugly. If you don't like your apperance, do something about it.

ok this might sound stupid but i need help when your making out do you have to use your tongue and do you like move your head i really need help cause ive been going out with my boyfriend and all we do is kiss like a little peck so can you help me to kiss him for like an hour cause i really want to but i dont know what you do

Kissing for an hour straight can get pretty tiring and boring. Making out is using your tongue & you don't have to move your head, but you most likely will.

Ok I wear pajamas to sleep but on tv and stuff I see girls wearing a tank top and some shorts.
Baby-ish? or am i old fashioned?

I wear shorts & a t-shit when I go to sleep. Once in a while I wear pajama pants but I still love pj's :]

im 15/f and so. i have a dance next week; a formal one. and i have date.

and i wanna stand out, or look really pretty.

This is usually what i look like at school: i have grayish eyes and i wear black eyeliner and mascara.

What kind of makeup should i wear to the dance.
im part asian so maybe cat eyes might look good... but i dont know...i dont know how to do it. How do I? How can my eyes look super big? and my eyelashes really long? I want my eyes to stand out a lot.

and jewerly, i think im wearing 2 earings cause im doule pierced and a necklace.

Also should i straighten my hair or curl it?
my hair is like straightish wavyish:]

Anything else to make me look better?

THANKS!

To make your eyes stand out, put a thick line of eyeliner on your top lid. You can eather use a liquid liner, or pencil but I would perfer the liquid if you're going to do cat eyes. When applying mascara, put more on the outer lashes and that also creates more of the "cat eye" look. "Use an eyeliner brush to dab black eyeshadow along your lash line. It gives allusion for thicker lashes" (Seventeen magazine)

Since it's a dance competition, curl your hair. It will give it more volume and fun to it.

Just be confident and have out there. That will most defenetly stand out and I'm sure you're going to look great.

Is a mystic tan a good idea? Will it make me look orange? Is it expensive? How long will it last for?

Mystic tanning is a good idea but there are bad and good things about them. Make sure you go to a good salon for it. Some places aren't the best and will leave you orange, others may not depending on the quality. It's not really expensive.. about $25-30 but again, depends on the place. The mystic tan usually lasts about a week. When you go, they will give you more information about it and explain to you how everything works.

this could go under a number of catagories... im sorry.

my life is like a freakin train wreck. its one thing after another. family problems, friendship problems, relationship problems... (my ex bf moved 2000 miles away 3 years ago and we are still in love) we broke up cause he moved... im stressing out about school.
i feel like i cant trust anyone, because as soon as i do, they end up walking away from me saying that they cant handle it.
i used to cut. was clean for 7 months then recently started again. i hate my life and at times i want to end it. im more stressed at home than i am at school.
my friend told me to take things one at a time and work on making them better... but im not sure where to start. i cant really talk to my family. they dont understand me. im having problems with my best friend. i need someone to talk to who will understand who i can go to at anyhour and will comfort me. but i have trust issues. my life is fucked up. and i want it to be better. but i dont think i can make it better... what should i do? please dont tell me to call hotlines, or talk to a therapist or my parents. cause that will make everything worse. what things can i do personally to improve my life? if you need more info let me know.

Every teenager goes through a period like this, and honestly.. it get's better. You can't just give up because some things go wrong. Life is hard and you're going to expirience different emotions and things but you have to learn how to take it in and deal with it. Trust is a big issue for people and as well as with me. It's okay not to trust everyone but you can't always hold back from people. Cutting won't help you with your problems and I'm sure you learned that. Your friend is giving you good advice so just take things day by day. Don't think that your family doesn't understand. Have you ever even tried to talk to your parents about it? They love you no matter what and they are the only people that you should trust. You can deffenetly make your life better but that's only if you let it happen. I'm going to tell you exactly what you don't want to hear. Get help. Understand that I'm not saying that to be harsh or mean, but seriously if you really want to change your life around and be happy, you should go see a therapist. It doesn't make you seen crazy or fucked up, but there really isn't anything else you can do. You need to do this for yourself and you'll feel so much better. They're not going to judge you chances are, they went through exactly what you are. I can't really help you with anything else. Why is your life so messed up? Can you change it? What's so wrong that you want to just give up? Why can't you accept the fact that you need to talk to someone? Ask yourself questions and just think about what you want to do. Talking to someone won't make things worse and how would you know if you haven't even tryed it. You have to give things a chance for them to work out. Good luck with everything and if you need more help, just let me know.

you know those birkenstock shoes everyone is wearing? well i want to buy a pair, (the regular tan color) but i don't know if i should or not. what opinions do you guys have on them? thanks, soo much!

I actually have birks. Mine are dark brown and real and I love them. They're really comffy but if you like them, buy them. A lot of people think they're ugly and a lot of people think they're cute. It's your opinion and you're going to be the one wearing them ;]

People have like glowing stars on their myspace pictures and their names written on their and hearts dotting the "I"
how can i do this?

what program??

Where can i get it from??

PLEASE AND THANKS

The program is Photoshop. You can get a 30 day free trial and you can download it at download.com You can also go to this website [ www.lunapic.com ] and you can do really cool effects on your pictures. Make them flash different colors, add things and such & the best part, it's free.

I just got this problem i got some great friends and i get to no them and then they all of the sudden get mad at me for the littlest thing cause of me being me and they never talk to me again and it hurts me bad but im not sure what to do...Any ideas

They're not great friends. Who ever doesn't like you for who you are and your personality is not your friend. You don't need to try to impress someone or fit in just so they like you. Meet new people and start talking to more kids in your school. That way you'll get to know more people and make new friends that are like you. Don't trust everyone who you think is your "friend" because you never know when they're going to backstab you. Chose your friends wisely.

well;this may get long + sorry if it does (:
so on 10|10|06 this guy i liked alot asked me out. his name is joey. he broke up with me about a month after. and i must admit hes my first love. he knows im still not over him. everyone knows. well today on aim i was talking to his best friend Jake. Jake said Joey doesnt like me like that. and i knew that;he also said i just need to find someone else. i have had boyfriends within this time of me still likeing him;i have had 4 realtionships (well 5, one was with the same kid twice so basically 4) but anyway; when joey broke up with me he broke up with me for his ex Kasey - they are now ex's again. i must admit. i thought when they broke up he would ask me out;or to atleast dance at our school dance but he didnt. and i cried over that. i cry over him soo much, i just need to get over him. he is my 1st love. and the way its going hes gonna be the last and im gonna be wishing i had him when im 45. i just need to know how to get over him. thanks so much in advance ! xo !?

It's not easy to get over someone so don't force yourself. I understand that it's really hard but I don't think that you've accepted the fact that you guys are over, for good. Don't push yourself into relationships if you're not ready for them, don't cry over Joey because it's not worth it. You need to think about the good things in your life. Your family, friends and other important things. He's just a guy and no guy is worth the tears. It's going to take you some time to get over him, but oh well. You're most likely always going to have a little thing for him since he's your first love, but you'll find someone who really cares about you.

I love to read. And I found this really great book called just listen by sarah dessen and ive read it like five times and it never seems to get boring. But i need a new book to read. I like books that are written like diaries, like the book It Happened To Nancy. Or the princess Diary series. So if anybody knows any good books like that or anything other then mystery please let me know. THANK YOU.

I recomend this book to everyone. "Go Ask Alice" It's her diary & it's amazing. Also, "Fat Chance"

Hey im 17/m and i am around 200 pounds and got a pouch and i really want to get rid of it so any ideas please let me know

It's common sense. Healthy diet & exercise. Be motivated & stick to your plan to reach your goal.

what are some good like rap songs that are kinda perverted with a good beat? thx!

I'll name some rap songs but just listent to them and then see if they're perverted or not.

- I Wanna Fuck You
- Ass Like That
- Candy Shop
- Dem Jeans
- Rock Your Hips
- Ain't No Bitch in Me
- Pop, Lock & Drop It
- In Your Face
- Superman (Eminem)
- Circle Circe Dot Dot (Jamie Kenedy)
- Turn off the Lights (Jefree Star)
- Everytime the Beat Drops
- Throw Some D's
- Break it off

is playing with your clitoris to orgasm technically masturbating or no?

Yes. That's masturbating.

okay so i have stretch marks on my inner thighs. i got them from having to stop gymnastics for almost a year because i had to get surgery on my ankle. anyways i'm getting back into everything so will working out and strengthening my thighs more make them less noticeable? i also use mederma i've been using it for a couple of months. anything else to help them? i'd really like them to fade before summertime thanks!

Cocoa Butter daily moisturizer. It eventaully fades away your strech marks but you have to use it regularly. It also makes your skin healthier and smoother.

hello ! well there is this boy that i go out with and well im not really sure if he likes thisother girl! but dont want to ask him about it! his step sister is my BEST friend and i ask her and she says no! well i really dont no what to do! and i dont want to check up on him! but i really like this guy! and the reason i think he like the other girl is because the other day he got off the phone and his step sister asked who he was talkin to and he said my girl and he didnt mean me he ment the other girl i think he likes! well please help me ! thank you so much! !!!!

Don't start assuming that he might like another girl. They could just be really good friends and that's the reason he said it. Since you guys are together, it is kind of weird asking if he likes someone else because chances are, he'll lie or tell the truth. Keep that in mind and just see how the relationship goes. If you notice anything weird about him or that he's changing, he's probablly talking with that other girl. Don't break up with him or anything unless you're forsure & also, if he liked that girl, he wouldn't be with you.

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