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Hey I am 16 and me and my bf have been going out for a long time. I am thinking about getting birth control pills but I dont want to tell my mom. Is there some doctor I can talk to with out having to have my mom there.

You can go to any OBGYN doctor without having to have your mom there. The doctors have a law they must abide by it's called Patient privacy privelge act. which means if they told they could get in a lot of trouble. You could try your local health department. They have it to where you dont have to pay anything as long as your under the age of 18 and your parents never have to know.

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hi my name is diego now i need advice my girl warned me that she could not cum at all i took it as a joke but she has had sex before now im 18 yrs of age and hav 15 - 16 cm long penis now i had sex with her for the first time the other day and she didnt cum at all and she toled me that she could not feel anything what does that mean. is my penis to small or is it her????

Nah your penis isn't to small for her, dont worry about that..Im a firm beliver that thou size is a good thing....it also has alot to do with the way you rock the boat if you get my drift. How old is she? Sometimes girls that are younger don't cum simply b/c they havent yet figured out where there G-spot is. I'll give you some helpful hints, thou they may be graphic so here's you warning to stop reading this advice now...lol OK....... Oral Sex, This is a no-fail thing for girls that may have trouble cumming from actual sex. A girl's G-spot is located at the top of the Vagina right where it starts--get my drift? massage your tounge there while fingerin' her at the same time make sure to clip your fingernails prior lol! Sex wise, let her get on top and ride, this position allows for more stimulation of her G-spot or you on top (the closer your body's are together the more stimulation she will get at the base of her vagina) Doggy is another good one, while your doin' your thing, she can manually rub her self, make sure the lights are off, it will probably make it a more comfortable situation for her if she is shy...Hope this helped, need more advice, just drop it in my inbox.

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what do you do wen your 14(female) n the person your were wit is 17 goin on 18 (male) n you 2 broke up n you lost it to him n that is the only person you've done it with for like 4 months str8t n you find out its jus sex with him but wen your with him he acts like your his gurl.....but he says its jus sex.. wat do you do? PLZ help me

How he acts and what he says are 2 totally different things. It seem's that even thou he is good to you, as you say he act's like your his..It's just a booty-call for him, if he acts jealous as far as you talkin' to another dude, then he's going thru that I dont want you but dont want no one else to have you either phase. Tell him you've met someone else that is willing to commit to something more than what he is willin to give and see if that "pressure" makes him change his mind.

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I was wondering were i could find a penpal (to like talk to through email or aim)
or if any GIRL who types nice would like to be my penpal
(even though the word penpal is pretty stupid more like friend.)
and im 13/f by the way.

aw you sound like a sweet girl, mine is lost_carolina@yahoo.com with everyone that has responded to your question, looks like now you shouldn't have a problem at all finding a penpal now!!

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so, a random question bout sex. i was just wondering, since statistics show that the average teen loses their virginity by the age of 17. well.. is it possible to have sex (when the guy uses a condom) and NOT get pregnant? cuz like, other teens have done it and they havent got pregnant riight? but what im scared of is that my sister had an unplanned pregnancy and she already had a baby. she said she used a condom and i guessed it broke.

questions:
is it common for a condom to break?
can a girl get pregant if a guy uses a condom?

thanks in advance.

Yea a girl can get pregnant even if the guy uses a condom, hence forth if it breaks. The safest way to not get pregnant is abstence. But I'm not going to preach that to you. You want to make sure you dont get pregnant so get on birth control and use a condom..or if for whatever reason you dont want to go to a Dr. You can go to like a Walmart or Foodlion grocery store and they have something called Non-Oxyol 9 and its something you stick in your vagina PRIOR to sex and should a condom break, the Non-Oxyol 9 "kills" the sperm on contact. It'll cost ya' about $5 bucks, and that's ALOT cheaper than a baby! And no there is no age limit on buyin it so don't worry about that and it's found on the same isle as the other femine products. Hope this helped!

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Hi, this is going to make me sound really messed up. Sometimes I laugh uncontrollably when a situation doesn't call for it. Today for example my parents were fighting, and I just started laughing. I didn't find it funny at all and I was really upset about it, but I couldn't stop it. It also happened once when my friend told me her mother died.. I laughed as I told other people, even though i felt awful about what happened..
Is there something wrong with me? I hate not having control over my reactions like this.

Dont worry sweetie, I myself, including my sister does the exact same thing! Im 23 now but when I was 17, my mom found out I was pregnant and started screamin at me, im tellin you girl, that shit was NOT funny, yet all i did was sit there and grin like a idiot... It's just part of how your made up. It's called a defense mechanism, everyone has there own different ones, and yours is smilin' or laughin' under pressure. It's your way of dealin' with a tricky situation.

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OK so i cant get Myspace at all i mean im not slow with computers at all i just dont understand the background and stuff its sooo hard please please please help me ill rate high promise!

Go to your myspace page, in another brower open up internet explorer (or whatever you use to search) type in www.freeweblayouts.net look at all the backgrounds they have there, under each background is a code it will look exactly like this:
table, tr, td { background-color:transparent;
but alot longer. ok here's the tricky part. Take your mouse and click in that box with all that writing and hold "Ctrl" on your keyboard and press the "A" key. Then hold "Ctrl" and press "C".
3. On your Myspace account go to "Edit My Profile" then under "About Me" click "Edit".
4. Now hold "Ctrl" and press "V" inside the "About Me" textfield, then finally click "Preview" and afterwards "Submit".

If ya' need anymore help, lemme' know..

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ok i am about to have a mental breakdown with scott..i don't know how much more i can take of all this crap...everyday its problem after problem...so he told me that he was going out to eat with his ex and her family...ok fine..then the next day its him vita (his ex), his friend sam and his girlfriend...i was like so your going on a double date and he goes in a way and i was PISSED!! he was like its not a date for me and vita its for sam and his girlfrined...and this is the girl who was buying his presents..i was crying and he goes why are u crying? why the hell do you think! he was like nothing is going to happen and then i said if you cheat on me with her dont even call me...so then yesterday we got into another fight b/c i was supposed to go and see him but my ride bailed and he was pissed and then he told me that he was haning out with vita friday and saturday and i got so mad i was like well i hope you have fun and i hung up then he called me back and left a message saying if you thought i was pissed befor you can't imagine how pissed i am now i dont even want to talk to you today so dont call me.. so thats how things are right now...i dont know what to do anymore..i'm going to have a mental breakdown...help me please

I can give you advice and say call him and tell him how you FEEL and then it will go in his one ear and out the other. He doesn't see why what he is doing is wrong so turn the tables on him! Do something similar to what he is doing (let it be all a act) and let him "catch" you or you mention to him your going out with *Chad and his sister and her boyfriend, her brother wanted to come and the sis didnt want him to be my his self so its just a "pity" date, dont worry nothing will happen lol well you get my point, see how he acts when you flip it and get him at his own game.

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i am 15/f ive always known my mom has been doin drugs cuz shes a friggen mess... ive began to hate ehr lately, my dad got mad when she came home at 4 the other night when he already left for work.. yelled at her


i cant be her anymore she aggirvates me to the max , thinks im stupid and leaves coc on the table when i walk in and jumps to put her hand ove rin like im fuckin stupid


i cannot be here i want to leave, my dads at my vacation house now and i just dont want to be around here anymore

what can i do?

Let me get this str8 your mom is in the kitchen or whatever doin coke and she covers it up when u walk in? and your dad leaves to go to another house to get away from it and leaves his children there..wow There's no doubt that your mother loves you, however, a mother that can be on drugs, isnt that good of a mother to start off with. Have a talk with your dad and tell him if he doesn't fix this problem that you will. If he ignores it after you have told him this, you need to turn your mom in. I know it will be so hard on you to have to do that but she needs help, later on she will thank you when her life is clean. Or you could turn her in and not give your name or anything then they wouldnt know who did it. You will have to go stay with someone else when and if you decide to do this. like you and any bro or sis' you have would go live wit your dad or some other family member while your mom goes to rehab and cleans her self up. This drug is the most awful one there is. It will never go away and you cant stop on your own, it's to powerful. If you ever just want someone to talk to im me anytime under yahoo as lost_carolina or email lost_carolina@yahoo.com Here's hoping that you can find the strength to do the right thing.

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I just want some opinions on this:

Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?

I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.

What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea.

I share similar thought with you on this matter. My bf has been to one before I met him and the idea of this has came up since we have been together. At first I was like ok you can go - as long as im there with you. The thought of him going alone does bring up un-easy thoughts in my mind. I would like to think because he is so good to me that he would never cheat on me, but the thought of him getting lap dance from another woman pisses me off to no end. haha. Everyone has different opinions on this matter. If you dont want him to go, don't say YOUR NOT GOING! just tell him I would rather you didn't go, because it blah blah blah (whatever ur reason is) the reason I tell you to tell him this way is because men do not like a woman telling them what they can and cant do, that seems like there mom to them, and your not the mom, your the girl friend. If he really wants to go that bad then go with him. I told mine I would but he could not recieve lap dances. (lap dances is like the woman is basically dry humpin your man so hell nooo lol) after I told him i was ok with it, he stopped talkin about going so thats more than ok with me! He probably just wants some re-assurance from you that even thou he's with you that your not going to limit him from things he hasn't got the chance to try yet. In your question you said you didn't see why some women would go with there man to the stripclub, this is why, because its something there man really wants to try and they dont want him going by himself and so they go with him. If he really wants to go that bad, he'll go wether you want him to or not, so it's best to just accept the idea and go with him or find someone else who has already expierenced this and is ok with never going again.

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im kind of embaressed...but like, i masturbate and i think its gross and i know everyone says its not gross and its compltely natural and everyone does it and its not a big deal, but i cant help how i feel you know? but im trying to do it less like only once a week or something and (this sounds dumb) i told god that i would only once a week but it seems like i cant and i've done t like three times already and im worried im going to go to hell for lying to god...and i feel really stupid but i just wanted to ask someone...

LOL! Don't worry about it...I used to think the same thing, that it was so wrong for someone to do that, your thoughts on this matter will change when you get older. Your not going to go to hell for masturbating. If you think about it... Why do women orgasm in the first place? It serves NO purpose what so ever. It is so we will want sex more (re-create more) or somethin' like that so enjoy what ya doin' don't limit urself to a certain number of times lol just do whatever u want when the mood strikes haha EVERYBODY does it and if they say they dont, there lyin'

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Alright, I have this guy friend that I met at work, and we started hanging out alot. He would call most evenings and we would either go to eat or hang out at his place, whatever. This went on for a few months, and alot of people at work assumed we were dating since we always were together, and showed up at work together all the time. I liked him alot, but I could never read how he felt towards me. I mean, he wasn't afraid to let other people know he didn't care to hang out with them, so if he didn't want to hang out, he would have definately said so, he is pretty forthright like that. We always had a lot of fun together, and I felt very safe with him. He never let me pay for anything when we went out, so it seemed like they were dates, but we never hooked up or anything like that, we were just generally affectionate towards each other, like hugs or holding hands, stuff like that. I always thought was kind of odd that he never tried to kiss me, its not like we're in middle school, we're both in college, and he's not a shy kind of boy. But at at the same time I thought it was kind of sweet and kind of like old fashioned courting. But anyways, that wasnt the problem... suddenly he just stopped calling, and wouldn't return any of my phone calls. I don't see him at work anymore, though we usually had pretty different schedules anyways. I haven't heard from him in over a month and a half or seen him, and I am kind of worried. I can't think of anything I did wrong, but maybe I made him angry somehow? Its like suddenly I don't even exist to him, and I can't even ask him whats wrong because he won't answer. I stopped trying to call after I left him like 3 voicemails after not trying hearing from him the first week. So, I guess my question is, what should I do? I could give you more details on the situation, but I don't want to make this excessively long.

Let me make sure Im up to speed on this...You liked him he liked you (obviously or yall wouldnt of been going out- if he's paying then it's a date, I think any girl would agree with me on that) then just poof he disapers out of your life. I can see why your asking, that was kinda' messed up for him to do that. It would be easier to let go of him had he been a man and gave a explanation as to why he didn't want to continue seeing you. Chances are he found someone else. I didn't want to be the one to tell you that but you asked me for advice, so im giving it to you honest. Does he have a cell phone and do you? If so, text message him and ask him what was up with the way he just kinda' disapeared. He might be willing to answer you that way since he wont have to actually talk to you. Or you could try E-mailing him. If you don't get a reply- just let it go. I know that's easier said than done but it's just sometimes, whatcha gotta do. Good Luck -Also, if you feel there is more to your story that you want to tell me to better understand what happened, and you think would change the outcome of the advice that I have given you, feel free to ask again...

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hey im 14/m and im stumped. i cant thing of sweet things to say to my gf i love her to death and she thinks im the sweetest thing in the world but i like went stupid and cant think of anything else and its really bugging me can someone tell me some things so say i really need it to help me get going again. ill really appreciate it thx everyone.

Hmm Im trying to think of all the things my boyfriend says to me...Hmm In the morning when we wake up and I look like a bum, he looks at me and says Good Morning beautiful lol but that wouldnt work for you cuz yall dont spend the night with each other. Comment her on the way she smells, or tell her that her hair smells good or her outfit is pretty or just stare at her and wait for her to be like WHAT!! and you say nothing, your just gorgeous!! I LOVE WHEN MY BF SAYS THAT TO ME!!! Good Luck!!!

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i was just wondering if you can give me any advice on a good place to take a girl out on a first date. which would be better,the movies or the mall. if a movie what one would be the best. if the mall what oculd i do there.

Why not break the tradition and take her somewhere else, I personally, being a girl love that about a guy. Take her to the beach for a walk and then to a seafood resturant or if it's cold out, take her somewhere to eat at like a cozy resturant and then yea i guess the movies, that's what sucks about cold weather!

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I have to write an essay about a serial killer for my english class. It can be about any serial killer I want, so I chose to write about Jeffrey Dahmer. Everyone else wanted to write about Ted Bundy or Aileen Wournoes (the Monster character that Charlize Theron played )
Does anyone know anything about Jeffrey Dahmer? I rented the movie Dahmer, and so far it looks like he just likes to kill for company, mainly gay guys.
Does anyone know if Dahmer was executed in prison? And did he ever kill woman, or just men?

No, Im not a weirdo who just knows alot about serial killers lol I just googled it and found a really awesome site for you. So here are the answers to your questions: Here is how he died: Dahmer adjusted very well to prison life at the Columbia Correctional Institute in Portage, Wisconsin. he was given some janitorial work to do with other teams of inmates. For some incredible reason, he was paired up with two highly dangerous men on a work detail: Jesse Anderson, a white man who had murdered his wife and blamed it on a black man, and Christopher Scarver, a black delusional schizophrenic who thought he was the son of God, who was in for first-degree murder. It's not difficult to imagine how Scarver viewed Jeff Dahmer, who had butchered so many black men, and Anderson. It was a disastrous combination.
On the morning of November 28, 1994, the guard left these three men alone to do their work. **Twenty minutes later, the guards came back to find Dahmer's head crushed and Anderson's fatally injured body nearby. A bloody broom handle seemed to represent Scarver's statement on the subject. Jeffrey Dahmer was pronounced dead at 9:11 A.M.**
Did he ever kill any women? **NO**
Here is the site for you to go to. It has more information that you could possibly need.

http://www.crimelibrary.com/serial_killers/notorious/dahmer/bibli_6.html

Good luck on your report, hope I helped....

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Can someone give me some songs i can think of for my wedding? thanks!

ALL MY LIFE -KC&JOJO This is a R&B song. It's especially about finding that one person youv'e waited your whole life for. (All my lifeeee I've waited for someone like you and I thank God that I finally found you)

BROKEN ROAD -RASCALL FLATTS This is a Country song. It doesnt contain any lyrics about marrying them, but still a very awesome song. (God Bless the broken road, that led me straight to you)

ON BENDED KNEE -BOYS II MEN -This is a R&B song. I think the title to this song says enough. I love it!

Best of luck and congratulations! on getting Married....

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im a 13 year old girl. im really nervous that ill get my period one day in the middle of school. are there any signs that will let me know if im about to get it?

Symptoms are different for everbody, While some girls go through hell and back that 1 week out of the month, 4 sum, it's just a minor set back. I think we can all agree to some variation that we all have maybe leg pains, lower stomach pains, feel irritable or have headaches. It has been my experience, and I am fixing to turn 24 that your period only seems to come on that one Saturday night that you've been waiting for 4 like a month. lol :)

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what do you use on your skin to keep in nice and clear looking? yours is very pretty and mine always looks ruff and bumpy!

lol well thanks for the compliment. Alot of what happened to my face as far as it clearing up, was be me going tanning. Also, find some really good face scrubbing stuff that you can use in the shower (I use all different kinds) I also, take a milti-vitamin. There really good for your face and for the whole rest of your body for that matter. Vitamin E and vitamin B5 are especially what your looking for to help ya'

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I'm 18, and my child is due on March 3rd. I'm really excited about this, but the problem is with the father.
Don't get me wrong--I really love him, but I'm scared we leaped into everything too soon.
We were dating for 3 months when I found out I was pregnant. I was scared to tell him, but he was so supportive, and he ended up absolutely ecstatic about it once we'd both been reassured about some things. We're engaged now, and things are going great.

But, that's the problem.

I think things are too good, and that once the baby is born that things might fall apart. I really want to talk to him about this, but I don't know how to approach it.

Any help is more than appreciated.
Thanks for your time.

Are you one of those people that when things are finally going great in your life, you cant enjoy it cuz your waiting for the bottom to fall out? Relax and thank your lucky stars that he is being so supportive of you and your expected arrival. If you do feel uneasy about how things might be after the baby's born, just casually bring up the subject. Baby's are wonderful and yet, stressful. Explain to him that your a lil worried that with the stress of the new baby that things between you and him might get rocky? Best of Luck...

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the other nite the guy i like told my friend he likes me bak and i was rele happy but today i got to play practice (which hes at) and hes completely ignoring me i ask my friend to find out y and she said he decided he doesnt like me cuz he feels like hes being forced into it (i have no idea wat it is) and n e way my friend goes to tell him i think hes a complete and total jerk and hes all like w/e
the thing is i dont think i like him n e more but im not sure and i still rele wanna b his friend so idk whether i should talk to him about it or just return his favor and just ignore him (while hes ignorin me so it probably wudnt b much differant for him)

What's the deal with him saying he doesn't like you like that anymore because he felt forced into liking you that way...Who "forced" him? lol Yea girl talk to ole' boy and see what his prob his and tell him your fine with there not being anything between yall but that you value his friendship, and hope that yall can continue to be friends. Also, ask him for the hell of it what made him feel forced into it... Even im curious! lol best of luck!!!

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