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Me and my friend (lets call her ellie) are both 13, we both wanted to get the same job but her mum already knew people who worked there so she got ellie a job and now they dont want any more workers. The thing is, ellie will now get about £25 a week from her job plus 8 quid pocket money and the fact that her parents buy her things all the time. I only get a fiver a week, and although you probably think i'm just jealous, what i get annoyed about is the fact that i'll say i really want something (mostly clothes and accessories) and that i'm gonna save up for it, but after ive said that, she goes and buys it for herself straight away cos shes got the money to do it. Then, once ive saved up, if i buy the top or whatever it always looks like ive copied HER so i dont usually get the things i want or i do and then get accused of copying, please help, how can i get more money, and stop her buying things straight after ive said i like them? (link)
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The easiest answer? Don't tell Ellie what you like. If she is constantly copying you, the quickest way to stop her is by keeping some stuff to yourself. If you like a top, save up for it, buy it, and look fabulous.
You can also try talking to Ellie about how you feel, if you think she'll respond in a mature way.
Finally, you may be able to find other work. Babysitting can pay quite well, and free CPR/babysitting courses are available to help you get good work. You can also talk to your family about doing extra work around the house in exchange for more pocket money.
Best of luck.
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I'm not exactly sure what I'm looking for; what kind of advice I need. I don't even know if I need advice.
I'm 13/f, btw.
Last year (2005), during the summer, I met with a guy I knew over the internet. He'd told me that he was 14, and lived about 30 miles from my house. I met up with him, and well, it turned out he wasn't exactly what I expected. Things happened, that, well, weren't exactly supposed to happen. I personally just don't like the term "rape" but sure, lets use it. Since, no matter how much I hate the word, it's what happened.
I've done a pretty good job at hiding it from everyone. Luckily, I have heavy periods, and so I was on the pill at the time to make my bleeding lighter, so I didn't get pregnant. I was 12 at the time. Should I be hiding it from everyone? I've told three people so far. One of them, it was on accident, but she ignored it as if I had never said it. I've also told a good guy friend of mine, let's call him Anthony, but I don't think I can really trust him with the information. And I've also told my boyfriend, let's call him Andrew. He thinks I should tell someone, the poliece, or something. But I refuse to. It's just a weird feeling. I don't really want people to know, I don't really want people to do anything about it. But I don't know, should I tell more people? Like my mom, or the poliece? The guy, well, he told me that if I ever told anyone about it he'd track me down and kill me. And I know some people would think it stupid to listen to a threat like that, but I don't know. I really just don't know what to do. It's like it keeps coming back to haunt me. I was doing a good job at ignoring it, forgeting about it, but lately, it just hasnt been working.
Sorry it's so long. (link)
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This is the sort of situation that won't go away on its own. While you certainly can choose whether or not to pursue a legal action, it's not necessarily needed in order to recover. Telling people means that you can start to work through your emotions.
You might not like the word 'rape' because it's harsh, but rape IS harsh. It's an occurance which can leave deep scars on your emotions, and talking with a professional can definitely help. You should tell an adult that you trust to be discrete - then you know your experience won't be spread around, and you will also begin to be able to access support. A parent, aunt, teacher, etc is good to tell, but be aware that telling a professional means they have a duty to involve other services. Telling your parents is less exposing.
They should then help you find a counsellor that specializes in young people and sexual abuse. Just working through the situation will help you deal with it better, and move forward.
Also, I would point out that you may have contracted a sexually transmitted disease if no condom was used. It's important to get yourself checked out as soon as possible, because some STDs lead to infertility or severe illness.
I sincerely wish you the best.
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Hi,
I am a 21 year old female. I have been dating my bf for quite some time. We have just started being sexually active and we both enjoy oral sex as well. The only problem is that he does not like doing oral sex on me and refuses, but it is a very important part of pleasure and sex to me. I have given him bjs but he does not want to do it to me. What should I do?
We have talked about it and he says it makes him feel uncomfortable, so I said I respect that and don't pressure him at all, but deep down it does bother me. Is there any other alternatives that you can think of or am I just going to have to live with this? I just want to see if there are any other options that I have not considered. I know I sound insensitive and I don't mean to be that way. I do respect his wishes, but deep down it is hard for me.
Thanks for listening bye. (link)
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I don't think it's insensitive to know that something is important to you - and then try to figure out what you can do to get that into your life.
The first thing I might do is explore the word 'uncomfortable.' Ask your boyfriend to be as honest as possible, and then try to unpick it - is he unsure what to do? Afraid it will taste bad? Had bad experiences with this in the past? Have some sort of moral objection?
Maybe a compromise can be reached - like you giving him 'lessons.' Or possibly him giving you oral sex for only a few minutes instead of until you orgasm and working up to it.
There is a definite imbalance of power if you are giving and not getting, but it's a big grey area. I understand you don't want to pressure him, but you also are uncomfortable with the idea of not getting any oral sex. It's a tricky area to navigate, and I think having open conversations with your partner is a good start.
Make sure to have them OUT of the bedroom, when you haven't been fighting. Also use lots of 'I's and not many 'yous', so he won't feel blamed. 'It's important to me to receive oral sex.' 'I get a lot of pleasure from oral sex.' 'It would really turn me on if we did this.' Etc etc etc.
If your boyfriend isn't doing it because of a minor dislike, then it could be argued that he's actually the one being insensitive and selfish. If you are going along with things and not telling your boyfriend that oral sex is important to you, he might genuinely not realize how bothered you are.
If you tell him how you feel, then you are allowing him to make a more informed choice. If you keep your mouth shut, then he would certainly see no reason to change his habits.
Finally, there is a sex toy called 'The Tongue.' It's pricey, but supposedly gets the job done.
With open communication, you hopefully won't have to only resort to this toy - in a deep, genuine, respectful relationship, many sexual problems can be overcome. Sex & couples counsellors could also help.
Best of luck.
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okay i just went to the doctors to get a perscription birth control and she told me take it the sunday that your period starts, i feel the breast tenderness and i feel like im going to have one, but i dont kno if its the sign of pregnancy, what do u think? (link)
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Wait until your period comes, as that's the only way to tell if what you feel is related to your period or something else. If you have not missed a period, it is highly unlikely your body would be feeling any signs of pregnancy, even if you were pregnant.
If there is a chance you might be pregnant, it's important to ask your doctor for a pregnancy test. If it's not possible, then you should relax and take the pill on the first Sunday that happens after your period.
For example, if you got your period this Wednesday, you would start the pill the Sunday afterwards.
Best of luck.
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can you still get pregnant and have your period? i mean i had intercourse a couple of days ago and now i feel my period coming but i might be pregnant... i mean we used condums and doubled up. so i dunno what to think... (link)
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For future info, using two condoms is VERY unsafe. The friction of the condoms rubbing together makes it much more likely that the condoms will break. It is far safer to only use one condom, and use it properly.
Depending on your body's cycle, it's possible to get pregnant at varying points. If your body feels the way it feels every time you get your period, then your period is probably coming. If you feel particularly stressed or anxious, though, your period could end up a couple of days late.
Best of luck!
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okay well this is the deal.
im ready to have sex i know i am. im with a boy right now and we've decided that were going to do it. im just really nervous cuz im not on birth control and im scared something is like going to happen to the condom, like rip. i told him that i was nervous and asked him that whenever he felt like he was going to bust he would take it out and then put it back it when he stopped ..
is that a god idea and if your not on birth control and you use a condom is it most likely you can get pregnant or is like 1 in every 500 people?
please comment back asap !! thank you !!
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The male condom, if used properly, is 98% effective. This means that out of a 100 women who are using the condon correctly, two will get pregnant. The package of condoms should come with very clear instructions - make sure both you and your boyfriend read & understand them.
Having your boyfriend pull out before he comes can lessen the chances of being exposed to a lot of sperm, but even precum holds 80,000 sperm - more than enough to get you pregnant. If your boyfriend decides to pull out, make sure he hangs onto the condom. Also, he should NOT put it back in you, as the condom will be full of semen.
If you feel this uncomfortable about not being on birth control, this anxiety might make sex less enjoyable. Why not contact your local health services for younger people and make an appointment - birth control could be offered free or very cheap, depending on your age and ability to pay money.
Best of luck.
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Hey. I've been a veggietarian for nine months now, and I've changed so much. I am so malnurished and I'm having like a million mental break downs. I've become really sad and angry. I wanted to stop being a veggie but its so hard! I wont eat meat or i'll start like crying...well not really but ill feel really sad and become moody. im also really malnaurished cause im allergic to a lot and cause im kosher. i need advise from a veggie or someone who once was one. thanx to anyone who can help! by the way...incase you wanna like address me in ur note back my names joey f/! thanx!!
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Being a vegetarian doesn't go hand-in-hand with malnourishment. If done properly, it's actually better for your body than eating meat.
A good first step might be to see a nutritionist. He/she would help you work out the sorts of food you'd want to include in your diet to make sure you were getting all you needed. This includes lots of beans, pulses, etc.
Any good vegetarian cookbook would be able to explain what non-meat foods are needed for a healthy diet, and these days there are a good number of websites offering recipe suggestions and diet guidelines.
Your allergies and being kosher will certainly impact on your diet whether you eat meat or not - but being kosher actually fits well with being a veggie, as there's no meat involved! At any rate, you'll need to get medical advice to set you off on the right foot. If you are feeling poorly and the only possible reason is because of your diet, then your body is trying to tell you something.
Get a doctor's guidelines, browse the web, and then you can be a healthy veggie.
Best of luck.
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I'm 18/f. Please don't answer this if you're younger than me... you couldn't possibly have gone through what I am if you're 13... no offense.
I've been in psychoanalysis since I was 10 years old. They THINK I have bipolar disorder, but the psychiatrist told me they can't conclusively know or medicate me until I'm 21-22.
I'm in university right now, and I'm in danger of failing out because of my mental issues... I tried to tell this to the doctor, but she doesn't want to do anything. I'm worried that if I continue at this rate I'm going to fail at university, and at life, and that there won't be a me in 3-4 years to help anymore.
I have suicide hotline numbers, and I have really supportive friends... but everything is so hard, and the doctors are being useless...
Is there anybody here who has been through something similar, and who can offer a few words of advice? I'm dying here, and my exams are coming up.
Thank you for reading this VERY long question.
--Amanda (link)
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The first thing I would point out is that psychoanalysis is very different than psychotherapy - if you've not tried therapy/counselling, then it could be a good way to go. Analysis focuses on the therapist being very quiet, bordering silent, and then offering interpretations of the client's material.
Psychotherapy/counselling is not that way at all, particularly in humanistic therapists. The focus in on you as an individual - no labels, no interpretations, no judgements. It allows you space to talk through your issues with an empathetic, non-judgemental, and genuine person. Because the focus is on YOU rather than your label, you are more free to explore any deep issues and feel you will be valued as an individual with varied experiences rather than as a patient with some symptoms.
Your university should offer free counselling to students, so check it out. If it's not helpful, then you can move on - but it might offer you another way to cope with your studies and your unique issues.
It might also be worth getting a personal academic adviser and confiding in them; they can be great allies if problems crop up in future.
Best of luck.
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How long can sperm live in a female's body? Or what is the average time?
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Sperm can live in a female's body for up to seven days. This means that while people might consider it 'safe' to have unprotected sex as long as it's not the female's fertile period, the sperm could actually stay alive and active - and she could end up pregnant.
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okay! so i have a bunch of problems!
i've been sorta melested! and abused in some ways!
its sooo easy for me to give people advice! but when i see people with like the same problems as me and i give them adivce i just cant understand it enough for it to help me! like i used to cut myself..i stop i started again last week! then today i read that its a sin! i had no idea! and now i feel so bad! and nothing i do gets better...ever! so could someone please give me any advice to help me! (link)
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While your religion might call cutting a sin, many people would say it's a coping device some people use when they feel overwhelmed. Some people spent lots of money, some cry for hours, some lock themselves in their room, some cut.
Cutting can help people in the short term, though it isn't a good way to heal, grow, or cope in the long term. It can also be dangerous if you are using dirty implements or are cutting in an unsafe area. A replacement can be squeezing an ice cube, snapping a rubber band on your wrist, or even using a red marker to draw on yourself. All of these are short term solutions, though, and in order to move on you'll need to find something that can help you really work through your problems instead of just helping you to react to them.
It might help if you had a safe, confidential space to talk about your feelings in - your school should have a counsellor. If you feel uncomfortable talking to a school staff member, then perhaps your parents will help you find a counsellor outside of school.
Counselling offers you a chance to really explore your issues with someone who will not judge you - and someone who has excellent listening skills. It's not helpful for you to feel bad or blame yourself for how you are coping; it WOULD be helpful to perhaps learn new coping skills and also deal with the underlying stuff.
Being molested or abused is a serious thing that often requires the help of a professional. If the abuse is still happening, please consider talking to a safe adult - a parent, aunt, teacher, counsellor, priest. If the first person you tell doesn't help you, tell someone else. You deserve support and care, so don't settle for less.
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i was recently raped and im scared. the guy who raped me..was my bedt friends boyfriend (shes 14 hes 15 turning 16) and im scared. i have nightmares about it and im afraid to go to sleep..i keep getting calls that have perverted breathing for like 15 seconds then he hangs up i havent told anyone..and im SCARED!! he threatend to kill me and my family..what should i do?? (link)
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It's very important that you tell an adult about this. While it might seem scary as he's threatened you, the way to regain your power is by telling your experience to someone and getting help. It's also important because keeping your mouth shut not only will hurt your healing process, but it could allow him to do this to other girls.
In order to heal and move on, to feel strong again, you'll need to talk to someone. A counsellor is an ideal person to work through your feelings with. You would see a counsellor once a week for as long as you needed to feel you were okay.
Your parents, if you feel close to them, are probably the best people to talk to. If you tell them what's happened and they don't take action, then tell someone else. This is a bad thing that has happened to you, and finding someone who believes and supports you is the first step in learning to cope with your fear, nightmares, and anxiety.
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okay stright to the point! im 14/f
my brother has done some pretty bad things to me! he hasnt all the way raped me! but done enough to bother me and it depress me! i also have a bad home life with like my dad.. i've talk to a close teacher about it. he got me to talk to the conslor..which made me talk to the school social worker! i hated tlaking to her! i told my teacher who i was close with that i didnt want to ever talk to her again! he promised me he wouldnt make me do anything i didnt want to! well the other day i was updating him because he told me to when ever i needed to! i told him i rather not have him tell the conslor so i wouldnt have to talk to the socail woker! he sad he wouldnt! but he ended up tellin anyways!.. so then i had to sit in a room with the social worker again!! after he told i made me feel so bad.. ike i dont want to hate him! he was the only one i could trust! so after school i went up to him and said why did you tell! he said he had to! so i looked at him and walked away1 he didnt bother to say anything else!
and now im confused. now i dont know if i can trust him or if he even cares about this! please someone what do i do now??? (link)
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I have no doubt your teacher cares about your situation and wants the best for you. However, he has a duty to report possible child abuse to the appropriate person. His mistake was not in telling someone else about the problem - though I can see why you didn't want him to. Where he went wrong was telling you he wouldn't tell anyone, when he knew he would probably have to.
What is it that you dislike about the social worker? If it's a clash of personalities, perhaps there is a possibly to work with someone different. If it is the idea of what social workers do, rather than the person themselves, perhaps you could give her some time before judging her.
Simply put, if your home life is in a position to be affecting your life in a really negative way, then people want to be able to get involved and support you. That's what social workers do. She won't automatically pull you out of your home, since social workers work to keep families together - they offer support, information, and advice to the family.
The counsellor could also be a really good person to talk to about how you feel about all of this. Be warned that she too would have to report abuse, but everything about your feelings would most likely be confidential. You have the right to ask her/him exactly what is and is not confidential.
Finally, your teacher is obviously someone you trusted a lot. While he shouldn't have been dishonest with you, in his mind he was working in your best interests.
Whatever you do, it's vital that you don't let one bad experience put you off from getting help. if your brother is bothering you in a sexual way, that's totally inappropriate and you deserve support.
I wish you the best.
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MY boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year, but for the last couple months we've been going out in secret while he rebuilds the friendships he lost. Innocent right? Not really.
Now, all he does is joke around about liking these other girls and then will be like "jk, i love you". He hurts me all the time. His myspace doesnt have one mention of me, his 'girlfriend' and 'best friend' but at least 5 things for this other girl. He wrote this poem to my other friend and now he's entering into a contest. He's always in a bad mood around me but act likes the perfect guy around everyone else. I understand he's trying to get his friends back, but I really want to be treated like I mean something to him. Online, he hardly talks to me! Sometimes 10 minutes will elapse before he'll say "ok" or "cool". I don't know what to do! The only time he acts like a real boyfriend is when we're hanging out just the two of us. He always sends me parts of conversations with other girls that I don't want to see and I tell him not to send it but he does anyways.
Am i just overreacting, or reading too much into it? I'm pretty sure he loves me, but all his 'jokes' about liking other girls is starting to make me question our relationship. I feel forgotten and talking to him about it makes everything worse. He just says I complain too much or im 'abusive'. I love him so much and I'm so confused! All the stuff he used to do to me he does for other people while i just stand on the sidelines being jealous.
Help!!
Reading this over i sound ridiculous but I'm really hurt and this whole this is both emotionally and physically draining. (link)
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I can see why you would feel hurt and drained. What I can't see is why your boyfriend needs to be 'single' to rebuild friendships. In fact, I would question how genuine his friendships are if he's hiding his relationship from the other people.
While your boyfriend may claim you are abusive, from your post it appears the opposite is true. Keeping you secret, repeatedly throwing other girls in your face despite you asking him not to, ignoring you online, and being in a bad mood around you despite being happy with others - all of this is not the actions of a boyfriend who respects and cares for his girlfriend.
While it might be painful to comtemplate the relationship ending, it's definitely worth taking some time to decide if you are genuinely happy with the way things are - and if you could stay with someone who treated you this way.
I wish you the best.
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I am 25. She is 22. Together we have spent almost half a year together. However She has broken up with me after seeing a pornsite on my computer. My question is why has she now turned her back on me. Why has she cut off all means of comunication with me. I mean we were so close. I did everything for her. I held her when she cried. I gave her flowers when she least expected it. I did everything for her. Now she wont even look at me. I am so confused. I mean she wont even talk to me. I love this girl and would do anything to get her back. I am not much of a comunicator. How can I win her back when it seems hopeless. PLease help me. (link)
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Your ex-girlfriend probably feels betrayed by you - almost as if you have cheated on her with other women. While some women are okay with porn, some really aren't. And it certainly seems like your ex falls into this category.
There are lots of reasons why she might feel so strongly about it, but perhaps she did not feel as secure in your relationship as you thought she did. The way forward?
You need to try to get yourself heard by her. If she won't communicate to you, it doesn't mean she won't read something you've sent to her - it's almost human nature that she would. Take some time and think about what you would like to say to her, and then put it into a heartfelt and GENUINE letter.
Once you've said your piece, the ball is in her court. Hopefully she'll listen to you and possibly open the channels of communication with you - but there's a chance she won't. Either way, porn is something that probably needs to be discussed in the future (with her or others) if you plan be casual about it. Being open about something from the start can help prevent big problems later on.
Best of luck.
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hi, i missed my period but then i took a test and it says im not pregnant but its been a while and i still havnt started my period. ive been gettin these weird painful feelings in my stomach and dizzy at the same time. im still sexually active and my boyfriend fingered me and he said that he felt somthin small and fleshy that wasnt usually there and he pushed on it a lil and it slide upwards and was gone and that the inside of me was swollen in a way its hard to explain, but do u have any idea wat could be going on? and i just started having my periods this year (link)
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Vaginas are unique to each woman. There could be lumps, bumps, wrinkles, smooth bits - it's really dependent on the woman. The vagina also responds to stimulation - it might become lubricated, swollen, tight/loose. These levels of reponse would change depending on how excited you feel.
The cervix (the link between the vagina and the womb) also changes throughout the month, so that is another thing that isn't always the same.
I don't think your boyfriend has felt a baby, if that's what you're thinking. If you've only just missed your period, any posible fetus would be so small you could barely see it with your eyes, let alone feel it. It also would not be in the vagina.
If you've only started having your periods, they could just take awhile to establish a regular pattern. The pain you are feeling in your stomach could be cramps.
However, only a doctor would be able to tell you what's happening with your body. If you feel concerned about yourself, it's always best to make an appointment with a doctor you trust and get a check-up. Until you've put your mind at rest, you will probably begin to feel more and more stressed - I'm imagining your boyfriend is feeling fairly anxious as well, which is why he might have noticed something 'new' in your vagina.
Best of luck.
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well your probably going to laughwhen i tell u this hes actually 15 and im 20 thats a big no no i know but the reason y im going out w him is cause he is like super mature for his age i mean super well i mean about the turning in thing with the police my friend told me that the nurse at the clinic said that it was her job to turn me in but i thought that only the parents were aloud to do that ? and the nurse didnt even tell me that she told my friend and i dont know if i should believe her should i?
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No matter how mature a 15 year old is, he's still 15. No matter how mature he is, he's still only experienced the very beginning of life - he's at a completely different stage of life to you. He's only starting high school, and presumably you've been out of high school for a few years. This is a difference that is big, glaring, and will probably not lead to a lasting relationship - and as you yourself said, it's a big 'no no.'
Most places have laws that allow anyone to give information to the proper authorities regarding child abuse - which is what this technically is.
So I'm far from laughing - if anything, I'm concerned both about you and your boyfriend. If you've been 'turned in,' you could potentially be in quite serious trouble. And if you haven't been yet, there's a very good chance someone else might report the situation.
You probably will want to do some very serious thinking about how important this relationship is to you - evaluating how genuinely mature this guy is, how well suited and compatible you are, and the fact that you are breaking the law by having sex with him.
I wish you the best.
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hi, its the same person who asked about the sex question: can u get pregnant if a girl uses a condom. and im a girl by the way. lol. anyway,a LOT of teenage girls have had sex before they turn 17. so does that mean, ALL of them go on birth control pills after having sex?? (link)
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Are you asking about a male or female condom? Both have high rates of effectiveness if used properly, but neither are 100%.
No, not all teenage girls go on the pill. Some of them don't use condoms, either.
The fact that other girls are making bad decisions, however, shouldn't be used as a reason for you to make one.
People who are having smart sex ARE using condoms, and preferably another form of birth control as well. You know, using the right form of protection can actually inhance the sex - when you're protected, you don't have to worry that THIS time you might get pregnant. You also don't spend the rest of the month breathlessly waiting for your period.
Everything is, however, your choice. And before you make a choice, just make sure you've got loads of information so you know you're making the right one.
Best of luck.
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I am a cool person to talk to and become friends with...but it's really hard for people to know this because I have communication issues.
1. I talk so less that I'm sure no one really knows as much about me like I know about them...I wil start a convo with like "Hi...nice to meet you how are you? how's life?" And that's basically where the convo ends. I mean with my friends I go on and on...but like boys and girls n people who I now met I just freeze with how's life?
2. I'm constantly thinkin of how people will think of me when I'm there talking. One minute I'll think I'll sound educated to say I where this place is...n on the other hand I'll sound like a rich spoilt brat if I say I don't.
I don't really need help with the second one...because I jus go with what flows...it's just the first one because I'm so scared people will think I'm a real freak.
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Asking 'how's life' can be a conversation killer because it's such a broad topic, it's hard for the person to know how to answer. To guarantee a reply, ask more specific questions about the person - classes they're in, sports they play, etc. Most people feel flattered when someone takes an interest in them, and a good way to make someone feel comfortable with you is by asking questions - and being genuinely interested in the reply.
If you're asking just to ask, people will know and the conversation will probably stall after a few minutes.
Just as it's important to genuinely listen, it's important to make sure you respond with whatever you feel. While you may have voices in your mind competing over how you should answer, answering from your gut instinct means you'll be talking from a more honest and carefree part of yourself. If the person you're speaking with knows you're engaged in some kind of internal debate that makes you uncomfortable (and people are amazing at picking up other people's discomfort), it will make them uncomfortable as well.
Finally, perhaps you need to think about how you feel versus what other people feel about you. It's impossible for you to go outside of yourself and see how you communicate - if other people are telling you you're doing well, they might be worth listening to. The problem could be that you communicate fine (or could, with a little practice!) but feel really insecure while doing it.
Whatever the case, I wish you the best of luck.
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Which of these thesis paper topics (about anything in American History)sounds more like a thesis & something a teacher would probably prefer?
1. Arthur Miller's personal life experinces were the biggest contributuions to his success as a great American playwright.
2. Many different events and issues in the later half of the 20th century helped to shape the ideology of American theatre.
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It depends on what your aim is. Strictly speaking, I would say the first topic is more appropriate. It's limited and specific and shows a definite idea.
The second concept is too large to be able to write about in depth and would focus more on surface issues. You also might not be able to find one uniting thread, which is already there in the first topic.
Either way, good luck!
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so, a random question bout sex. i was just wondering, since statistics show that the average teen loses their virginity by the age of 17. well.. is it possible to have sex (when the guy uses a condom) and NOT get pregnant? cuz like, other teens have done it and they havent got pregnant riight? but what im scared of is that my sister had an unplanned pregnancy and she already had a baby. she said she used a condom and i guessed it broke.
questions:
is it common for a condom to break?
can a girl get pregant if a guy uses a condom?
thanks in advance. (link)
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The male condom is 98% effective if used correctly. Each box should come with a set of instructions, and it's very important to read these to make sure both people know how to use them. Let me know if you want more info on that.
Condoms also reduce the risk of transferring infections. Condoms should be used every time sex happens, and the risk of pregnancy is further reduced if they are used with a second form of birth control (like the pill, patch, etc).
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