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i've feel like no one can help me
okay stright to the point! im 14/f
my brother has done some pretty bad things to me! he hasnt all the way raped me! but done enough to bother me and it depress me! i also have a bad home life with like my dad.. i've talk to a close teacher about it. he got me to talk to the conslor..which made me talk to the school social worker! i hated tlaking to her! i told my teacher who i was close with that i didnt want to ever talk to her again! he promised me he wouldnt make me do anything i didnt want to! well the other day i was updating him because he told me to when ever i needed to! i told him i rather not have him tell the conslor so i wouldnt have to talk to the socail woker! he sad he wouldnt! but he ended up tellin anyways!.. so then i had to sit in a room with the social worker again!! after he told i made me feel so bad.. ike i dont want to hate him! he was the only one i could trust! so after school i went up to him and said why did you tell! he said he had to! so i looked at him and walked away1 he didnt bother to say anything else!
and now im confused. now i dont know if i can trust him or if he even cares about this! please someone what do i do now???
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He does CARE, that is why he is telling. i know you don't want to talk to the social worker, but this could be serious. Your brother is bad for doing this, even though he didn't do the whole rape. But even getting close is bad. Tell the teacher that you arn't going to talk to him if he tells them and tell him that if you think you need to tell someone other than him then you will
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Dont be mad at your teacher he had to say something he rerally does care and thats why he told listen i dont know what is going on in your house hold but it dosn't sound good you really should consider taling to a social worker. They can really help get out of the missery dont be afraid
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He does care, he did the only thing he thought was right. He wants to help you, he's even prepared to loose your trust to help you out. He knew you didn't want him to tell. He went against your wishes because he wanted to help you. I'm sure it was a tough decision for him, and I bet he's sorry.
You do need to talk to someone about your problems. If you can't talk to the social worker, you could ask to only talk to the councillor, or even ask to see another social worker, who you like more. These people are here to help you, and you are free to ask them whatever you want.
I don't know what the social worker did to make you dislike talking to them. Was it too embaressing to tell them? If so, well done for being brave. Did they make suggestions that you didn't like, i.e. suggested you leave home? If so, perhaps you could ask them all the different things you can do that will help your family life. This really needs to be sorted out, so try to be brave and see a social worker, they're only trying to do their job and help you out!
If you wanna talk about it I'm all ears.
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I think he was helping you, you might not think that you wanna talk w. her but you have to. It will make you feel better in the long run. I hope everything works out.
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I have no doubt your teacher cares about your situation and wants the best for you. However, he has a duty to report possible child abuse to the appropriate person. His mistake was not in telling someone else about the problem - though I can see why you didn't want him to. Where he went wrong was telling you he wouldn't tell anyone, when he knew he would probably have to.
What is it that you dislike about the social worker? If it's a clash of personalities, perhaps there is a possibly to work with someone different. If it is the idea of what social workers do, rather than the person themselves, perhaps you could give her some time before judging her.
Simply put, if your home life is in a position to be affecting your life in a really negative way, then people want to be able to get involved and support you. That's what social workers do. She won't automatically pull you out of your home, since social workers work to keep families together - they offer support, information, and advice to the family.
The counsellor could also be a really good person to talk to about how you feel about all of this. Be warned that she too would have to report abuse, but everything about your feelings would most likely be confidential. You have the right to ask her/him exactly what is and is not confidential.
Finally, your teacher is obviously someone you trusted a lot. While he shouldn't have been dishonest with you, in his mind he was working in your best interests.
Whatever you do, it's vital that you don't let one bad experience put you off from getting help. if your brother is bothering you in a sexual way, that's totally inappropriate and you deserve support.
I wish you the best.
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Hi. I understand you probably feel betrayed by your teacher, especially since he was the only person who felt you could trust when you had absolutely no one. I know you don't like him telling your personal business to your counselor and you feel betrayed and you may even dislike him now. I'm not trying to tell you that you should like it or that you shouldn't be mad (anger is a human emotion and is okay as long as it stays a human emotion until your forget about it and not turn into an action of revenge or ressentment). However, even if you feel angry at your teacher right now, at least aknowledge that him telling your counselor that doesn't mean he doesn't care about you or wants to hurt you. Quite the opposite, actually. He was worried about you. And also, I don't know what you told your teacher, but there is a sort of 'confidentiality policy' counselors and therapists have. They won't tell anyone what you tell them UNLESS it involves someone hurting you or you hurting or planning to hurt somebody else or yourself. Now teachers don't get that policy cause their job is different, so they are likelier to tell a counselor (actually it is their job to telll the school counselor) if there is ANY thing that can mean something isn't right, whether at home or school or where ever. I don't think your teacher planned on telling the counselor and he did want to keep his promise to you, however, what you told him probably made him worry and he felt that he should tell the counselor because he felt it would do you more good than bad.
Your teacher obviously cares about you very much and in a few years from now you'll see that clearer. I think you can trust him. He's worried about you and his intention is to help you and do what's best for you, even if you don't realize it's best for you yet. Well good luck. And sorry that your teacher told, ocne my friend told something to a school staff person who told the school counselor and... it wasn't pretty.
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It is a law that teachers and health care workers have to report any possible sexual abuse. He would get into trouble had he not said anything. So please don't blame him for looking out for your best interests.
You really shouldn't stay in the situation you are in at home. Talk to whoever offers to help you. :)
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I know what your going through...to some point. From my eyes, he told to protect you and help you. The same way you would if your best friend swore you to secrecy then told you that her dad beats and rapes her all the time. You wouldnt be a good friend if you didn't tell!! I hope thats a good enough example to help you better see why he chose to tell. Have a talk with him, he was only doing what he thought was right.
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i don't think you should be mad that your counsler told. he CARES about YOU, and he is doing what he thinks is best. you may not want him to tell the social worker & you may not want to talk to the social worker, but how else are you going to solver your problem at home? think of it this way...would you rather have your brother doing bad things to you, or would you rather have educated adults who care about you trying to help you? i don't mean to sound harsh, but i think you are lucky that these people are willing to help you, and i think you shold let them.
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sounds lik you got it bad. Well you should tell a relative. You could tell the cops but they would just put you in a foster home or somthin and that's not a good thing. Tell a family member and maybe things could go better for you. I wish you all of my luck, <3.
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