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i cant take my own advice
okay! so i have a bunch of problems!
i've been sorta melested! and abused in some ways!
its sooo easy for me to give people advice! but when i see people with like the same problems as me and i give them adivce i just cant understand it enough for it to help me! like i used to cut myself..i stop i started again last week! then today i read that its a sin! i had no idea! and now i feel so bad! and nothing i do gets better...ever! so could someone please give me any advice to help me!
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tell someone or it will always hold you back.It was not ur fault
i dont know wat else to say, so i hope i helped in some way.
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While your religion might call cutting a sin, many people would say it's a coping device some people use when they feel overwhelmed. Some people spent lots of money, some cry for hours, some lock themselves in their room, some cut.
Cutting can help people in the short term, though it isn't a good way to heal, grow, or cope in the long term. It can also be dangerous if you are using dirty implements or are cutting in an unsafe area. A replacement can be squeezing an ice cube, snapping a rubber band on your wrist, or even using a red marker to draw on yourself. All of these are short term solutions, though, and in order to move on you'll need to find something that can help you really work through your problems instead of just helping you to react to them.
It might help if you had a safe, confidential space to talk about your feelings in - your school should have a counsellor. If you feel uncomfortable talking to a school staff member, then perhaps your parents will help you find a counsellor outside of school.
Counselling offers you a chance to really explore your issues with someone who will not judge you - and someone who has excellent listening skills. It's not helpful for you to feel bad or blame yourself for how you are coping; it WOULD be helpful to perhaps learn new coping skills and also deal with the underlying stuff.
Being molested or abused is a serious thing that often requires the help of a professional. If the abuse is still happening, please consider talking to a safe adult - a parent, aunt, teacher, counsellor, priest. If the first person you tell doesn't help you, tell someone else. You deserve support and care, so don't settle for less.
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I see where you coming from by saying you can give out good advice but cant give your self none. I too am that way. For starters you need to know what compells you to make you want to cut. I suspect from a traumatic childhood (you mentioned you were molested) So you have to deal with that first. Go talk to a guidance counselor or some other adult that you trust and let them know what happened, perhaps getting it off your chest and making peace with the past will help you a great deal with not cutting anymore.
Cutting is what experts call an unhealthy coping mechanism. This means that the people who do it have not developed healthy ways of dealing with strong emotions, intense pressure, or upsetting relationship problems.
These substitute behaviors won't work for everyone. They also don't help people get in touch with why they are cutting. What they do is provide immediate relief in a way that doesn't involve cutting, and therefore holds less risk of harm.
*Rub an ice cube on your skin instead of cutting
*Wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it gently against your skin
*Draw on the skin with a soft-tipped red pen in the place you might usually cut
Take a sec and visit this website, I think it might help ya' even if it's just a little bit.
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