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Q: I need some help...... I don't know what to say because I don't want it to seem like I am feeling sorry for myself but I want to die. I want to have it some way where it's not to selfish for leaving the people that care about me. But I am on my wits end. This bipolar is kicking me in the rear..... What do I do?

You need to talk to someone get some help. Harming your self or even being suicidal isn't the way to go. Now I am not religious but i do know god takes people off earth for a reason and its not you doing it your self. There is medication for bipolar and if you are already taking some its obviouslt not working. You need to go back to your doctor and explain the thoughts you are having dont feel ashamed or anything. When I was in middle school im graduated from high school now. I had a friend we became close that year and then i found ot how depressed she was. she was cutting and hurting her self. and her and i spent probably 3 hours talking online. finally convincing her to talk to her mother.and her mom called me and was so happy i got her daughter to talk to her and tell her she was cutting and my friend got the help she needed. i seen her internet page a while back and shes happy now and im glad for that. you can fix things in your life and a lot of people need that help to do it. talking to a counsler is wonderful if you dont like the counsler you talk to you can switch counslers.

Q: so long story short, i got into a bit of trouble recently. and my dad doesn't trust me anymore. he says i have to earn it back, since he can't take my word for anything anymore.

i was wondering if anyone would have any thoughts on what i could do?

i'm 17/f, and i can't drive. if that helps any.

Earning anyone's trust back takes time. It isnt just a one day thing. You can't lie not even a little. You need to keep up with your chorese in the house and doing extra things. Dont be a suck up but ask your dad to play a game with you or if he wants to go to the movies with you. Cook dinner one night. I mean do this for 2-3 weeks and hell see you are really sorry for what you got in trouble for.

Q: I'm a teenager, and I'm trying to convincemy parents
to get me a cell phone! They never let ne even look at one! Anyone know what I should do???

Well depending on your age. Do you go out wih your friends a lot? Do you walk home from school. Honestly. If i could afford it my 6 year old would have a cell phone with the way the schools are now a days. Tell them about that shooting that just happened in Flordia. (i think it was flordia) and that shooting snday in Cali.tell them when your out you would like to be able to get ahold of them. things like that.show them your responisble. youll do more around the house keep your grades up.

Q: so i met this guy at a party. actually, i didn't even meet him. we didn't really even speak a word to each other hah but he was only there for a little. somehow he ended up getting on my camera, i guess someone took a picture of him so i added him on facebook. he messaged me and then we exchanged numbers and starting texting alot. he's kinda been flirting a little and we're supposed to hang out soon. are there any ways to not make things awkward? we've never talked in person and i'm not a real "meet someone online kinda person" if you know what i mean so i don't really know how to play it lol so i would loovee any help or advice

Talk on the phone and just be your self. I know its hard sometimes in front of a guy you may like alittle bit but if you act all shy it makes it akward. talk about your self ask questions about him etc.

Q: I am fourteen, and my best friend has been really mean to me, she punches me in the stomach, pressure points me, squeezes my arm, and it's her way to take out her anger!! The other day she broke into my other best friends locker and tried to steal her gum! I don't want to rat her out, but I need to get her controlled!!

She rammed her violin into me because I didn't give her the answers to our math test! I told her she needs to figure it out, it's your test. Was i right about doing that? Should I remain friends with her? What do I tell her? How do I tell her? Please help me!!

you need to tell an adult what she is doing to you. that is no way to treat your friends. you should probably quit hanging around with her. she probably has some major problems such as, bipolar? anger managment either way she is going to need counsling. I think if she gets the help she needs you can start hanging out with her again but for your own safety you need to stay away with her. first off be around alot of people when you tell her because she could get angry or ask your principal if you can tell her while being in his office incase she gets mad.

Q: 18/female.
You should know that when I like I guy .. I distant myself and won't talk to him unless he texts/calls me first .. yeah I know doesn't get me far at ALL .. but I can't break it.

So.. there is this guy i've liked for so long .. we flirt all the time but don't get to see each other that often since we're both busy. We don't go to the same school either .. he's actually a yr younger than me. I haven't talked to him in like three weeks :(

ANYWAYS - my problem is that I had borrowed something to him about a month ago and had never gotten it back. I actually forgot he had it until now. I feel bad just texting him saying "do you think I could have it back?" To me, that just sounds kind of like a bitchy move .. but maybe its just me because I think everything sounds dumb when I'm talking to a guy I like. I remember telling him a few weeks ago he could have it for another week .. but then I needed it back and he was like haha okay .. but then I forgot about it and obviously he hasn't said anything. We never text each other just saying like "hey" so that would be strange for me to do .. and then ease my way into asking for it back.

I don't know what to do .. how can I ask for my stuff back without me seeming like a retard. I could say something like I forgot you had it .. but then what .. but now I remembered and it'd be nice to have it back??

I look into things way too much .. but could someone please help me on what to just text him saying ... because then after I ask him it'd be nice to talk to a little bit .. so I don't really just want to be like do you think you could give it back to me? Because he'd probably just be like "yeah"

whhy dont you just start the conversation with hey what are you up to today I haven't talked to you for a while? when he texts back talk for a little bit. then say Do you think we can meet up so i can get that thing i let you borrow back and maybe we can hang out a little bit. you have to just go for it. send it and then take a breath.

Q: Okay so this is kinda gay but here goes...
I met this guy through my friend and he seemed pretty chill. I only met him one but after we met he started texting ke and was like hey hin I wanna hang out you're so cute and hot andni wanna hang it with you. So I'm kind of prude, I've only hooked up with two guys and I've never had a bf. I've heard from some people that this guy is kind of weird or desperate or whatever but it's not like he's uglyI thought he was pretty cute andnhes obviously interseted in me . So he weants to hang out and hook up so I have two concerns.. .
First of all shouldni hang out with him in the first place, I mean if people say he's desperate I dint want to se desperate or prude cause like he's the only guy. Could yet or somethig like that
and second.... Imnervous to hang out with him because I onlyy met him once in person and then he starts texting me saying you were so cute but j feel like he's gonna see me and be like oh I remembered you diifferently or something idk I guess cause I'm inexperienced I'm ius nervous to hang out with him one on one. Sorry this is so long and lame haha.
Any advice???.

i think you should wait before hooking up with anyone until you are at least dating and know each other better. It doesnt seem like a good idea to go hang out with if you have all of these second thoughts about seeing him.

Q: Hello i was thinking about switching from Yaz birth control pills to possibly the Depo shot. I dont want to have to worry about missing pills. I have read a little bit about the depo and the side effects seem worse than the pill. Weight gain, mood swings, periods sometimes lasting 3 weeks. Does anybody have experience with this. What method are you using that you like?

Thanks for the advice :)

I rate!

A friend of mine used the depo shot for several years until she got of it and after her baby switched to the implant in the arm. She liked the depo shot until the very end when she gained a little weight but that was many years after using it.

Q: ok thanks for the advice, but i have another question about it. do you think i'm being to persistent? i mean i just really liked him last year (well admired from a far.) and so i just don't want this to slip away. i don't want to regret not saying something. i've never been like this. i've always been the one getting chased. but its weird because its like once we start talking hes pretty talkative, but its like he doesn't know how to start or end conversations. i understand now why he didn't have friends at school, but i mean i want to like try. i want us to be friends or something. but like, ok say he doesn't text me like tomorrow at all, would it be ok if i texted like "hey so are you free tonight?" or noo. is that bad. should i just not say anything. i don't want to look needy. i just don't want a good thing to slip away. i mean we have a lot in common & always have really good conversations. but i don't know. any advice? ah.

it doesn't show being presistent it shows you are just interested inn him as more than friends. go for it.

Q: 17/f I really liked this boy last year I thought he was really cute. So he graduated and I was really sad because I never got to talk to him. He was new to our school and didn't have any friends and people thought he was weird and socialably awkward. Anyway a week ago I took a risk and added him on myspace he accepted we talked a little he asked for my number we had a lot in common and then two days ago he asked me to hang out. But I couldn't because I had school the next day and it was late. But the thing is he asked for my number and texted me that day for a few hours and then next day nothing then the next day I texted him and it was great and he asked me to hang out so Yano I couldn't. Next day he didn't text me at all but my friend talked me into testing him and asking him to hang out and the conversation went like this I asked him he asked me where when time I told him and he said oh ok sounds good. I think I have to work but earlier. So what does this mean? Yes no? Am I being too persistent! I've never done this. So help is appreciated.

it means yes but a little earlier because he has to work around that time.

Q: so theres this boy in the year abouve me in school an i like him quite alot. at first it was just the usual crush but now as time has gona on i actually love him, but the thig is hes got a girlfriend and no matter how hard a try to forget about him i just cant. i cheeck his facebook 5-6 times a day and even if it just says he friends with someone new i have to look who it is, my friends say im obsessed with him and i al ways use to just tell them that they were wrong but there not i think i have some sort of obsession with him that just wont go away, ive tryed liking someone else but it dont work. what shall i do ?

forgetting about someone it hard. you may even have to delete him off of your facebook for a long while. talk to your friends. hang out with them talk to a few new guys make new friends.

Q: Kay. My boyfriend (whos now my ex) left to teach in another country last year and during that time i found him on a dating website and we broke up over aim. Just recently I've been talking to him and some of his friends are meeting him at the airport when he comes home and he asked me to go. I actually think that he wants to get back together with me (based on some things he said) and i would like to get back with him but i don't want to make it easy for him, you know?? Sooo should i go to the airport or would it be better if i didn't?? Its happening in like 2 days so any advice is appreciated!! =]

I think you should go. Only because hes been gone for such a long time and it would mean alot to him if you want. He obviously wants to see you.. but after that i think you should take it slow make it difficult for him to get back to the way things were . make him work for it. and if he doesnt want to work for it then he isnt worth the time.

Q: I was in the tanning bed the other day and noticed that when I was lying down I felt like someone was tugging my stomach or something like that.
It didn't hurt, it was just like someone was pulling my stomach, trying to stretch it out or something.
But when I started to put just a little pressure on my stomach, it hurt.
Not too bad, but more of an ache.
But I felt it everywhere I pushed on my stomach.
The lower I pushed, the more it hurt until I pushed like an inch below the belt line.
My period has been whack the past two months.
I get it a week or two early.
And it's very light (Like not even enough to fill a pantyliner in a day), and it would last about 4 days each time.

I was explaining it to my boyfriend because he was wondering why I kept pushing his head off of my stomach when we were laying down.
So I got him to push just like I had to explain why I was pushing him away.
He said that my stomach felt harder.
I think it actually does feel harder.
I'm not sure though, I don't touch my stomach much, but he's always touching it so he would notice more than I would.

It feels fine with jeans on and everything.
Like when I sit, it doesn't hurt when my jeans push into my body.
But then again that might be because it's pushing lower?

I was getting pretty nauseous last month, but not so much this month. Just a little every now and then.
I still get lightheaded a lot though.
Not jsut when I stand but also when I sit.
And lately, whenever I close my eyes while laying down, I feel like the room is shaking?

I don't know.

I think you should take a pregnancy test.

if you are not pregannt are you on birth control. talk to your doctor about taking it because it will regulate your periods (taking the pill) or taking the shot will get rid of them.

make an appt with your doctor they can give you a pregnancy test. just tell your doctor what has been going on (if you think your not prego because of a period a girl i worked with had her period for months during her pregnancy.)

Q: I have known this guy for a year now we have been talking alot and i like him.. anyhoo he texts me every day after school and wants to hang with me and he says all this sweet stuff to me and was like thinking about someone lately and he finally told me it was me so what does he mean does he like me or what?

Defintly Yes.

Q: I'm 15. My boyfriend is 17. I am a pretty normal person, but he is a complete geek. He wears glasses, likes computers, etc. I don't mind though, because he's still cute and I love him. The problem is that we have only been dating for 3 weeks but he acts like we're married! It's Valentines day on Sunday but I won't be seeing him so today he gave me this huge rose and a chocolate and a teddy bear and this huge home made card and everything! The worst part is that it was in front of everybody! He wants to be with me 24/7. I don't mind that, but I also need some time with my friends! It feels like he's smothering me with too much love. I want to take it a bit slower or the love will fizzle out too soon. How do I tell him it's too much too soon without hurting his feelings?

Don't listen to that girl alyssa or what ever you need to report her answer thats rude.
Being honest with your boyfriend is your best bet. Tell him I like you a lot or love you and I dont want a break I just want us to slow down and I want to spend sometime with my friends to. Just say it nicely.

Q: 15/f

I'm currently emotionally/physically involved with a guy I'm extremely interested in and attracted to. He's amazingly sweet and we both are not looking for relationships, just close friends and people to be there for each other. However, as much as I'm completely infatuated with him, I can still recognize when I've become intested in multiple people. His good friend and I happen to be interested in each other as well although we have no physical relationship. I'm content with where I am at the moment and get to be with the people that make me happiest (them) everyday.

If everything's going wonderfully but the friend with which I share a physcial relationship is ultimately doomed to fail, should I be looking ahead and actually work towards a relationship with the other, our friend, his good friend?

I'm unsure of what to do in this situation and would greatly appreciate some advice.

thank you

Well I know you say and Boy 1 don't want a relationship together but are feeling that empty spot the spot were you want a boyfriend a relationship. If you know that will never happen with boy 1 why keep it. boy 2 isnt just interested in a physical relationship since you two havent done anything physical i think you should try for the relationship with boy 2 and drop the physical relationship with boy 1.

Q: okay so i like this boy brian. i want to talk to him more without seeming clingy or annoying. i'm nervous to text him unless i've been drinking. i need some help!

Act like your self. If i get nervous I just think in my head I can do this I can do this and I do it. i might freak a minute after its done but I do it. You wont seem clingy or annoying just texting once in a while.

Q: what are some cute things couples can do for valentines day? Me and my boyfriend have only been together for less than a month so we don't want it to be like expensive and all that.Just cute and casual and spontaneous.We're both 17 and I can drive.So any suggestions? thanks!

One year I was probably 16. I went to the movies with a guy and we then went to the beach sat and talked walked up and down the shore.

Q: Recently, I have been spitting up blood in my phlegm and normal spit. Im on Amoxicilin (875 mg) and i have to take 1 tablet every 12 hours. I last took one at about 7:00 NY time. It now is 11:09. For the past hour and a half, i have been noticing my spit has been tinted with pink, but now, it is getting worse. My Throat felt fine earlier, it was easy to swallow and it wasn't in as much pain as it was over the weekend...But now, it just hurts to swallow again. My mother said i was fine, and that the antibiotic is just doing it thing trying to get rid of the infection. I searched online if it was normal, and nothing was really said. I'm sure ill live if im supossed to go to the doctors and i dont, but i'm just curious. Is it bad or is it just normal?

I have had strep many times to the point I almost died. I have never spit up blood althogh im allergic to Amoxicilin. Below are serious side effects and not so serious side effects. You can call your hospital and for the option where to direct you tell them you need to speak with a nurse. explain to her you have strep throat and you are taking amoxicilin 875mg and 1 tab every 12 hours. Then tell her you have been noticing a pink tint to your spit. Or you can call your doctor office and tell those nurses.

SERIOUS SIDE EFFECTS::;

fever, sore throat, and headache with a severe blistering, peeling, and red skin rash;

nausea, stomach pain, low fever, loss of appetite, dark urine, clay-colored stools, jaundice (yellowing of the skin or eyes);

diarrhea that is watery or bloody;

fever, chills, body aches, flu symptoms;

easy bruising or bleeding, unusual weakness;

urinating less than usual or not at all;

agitation, confusion, unusual thoughts or behavior; or

seizure (black-out or convulsions).

NOT SO SERIOUS SIDE EFFECTS:

nausea, vomiting, stomach pain;

vaginal itching or discharge;

headache;

swollen, black, or "hairy" tongue; or

thrush (white patches inside your mouth or throat).

Q: i have my winter formal dance this saturday and my boyfriend and i were elected the king and queen for the court. i never dress up but this time i have to alot and actually look good. can anyone help me with a few simple things? its on my 16th bday :)
1.) my friends wont let me wear my gauges but my ears are stretched so i need something to cover so there making me wear regular size crystal earrings, would they fall out or like droop down since their alot tinyer?
2.) i dont want to walk the whole ways because i am so unstable in heels id fall. so would it be ok if i wore flats instead? it is a very fancy dance.
3.) my boyfriend and i have to do a slowdance on stage and im scared we usually just bullshit slowdances and kiss alot or lay against him as we go, but how could we properly slow dance on stage since people will actually be watching? im so nervous.
4.) i have a tiarra i need to wear so how can i do my hair so it looks good? and curled.
5.) i also have a concussion(just like at my homecoming) and bruises on my feet and knee, how can i fix it by then other than makeup?
6.) i don't know what bra to wear since the back is very different it doesnt cover where a normal one should go, and i jump around alot i dont want sticky or none..?
-sorry im bad at dressing up, very worried and im not quite the girliest girl.. but i'm going to wear a fitted short black dress with a very fancy back, low and crossed. with red shoes, red roses, sparkley tiarra and jewlery. thank you soooo much!

1. im not sure
2. they have fancy flats. theres alot of females who wore flats. I wore them at my wedding because my husband and i are close in height.
3.staring into each others eyes or resting your head on his shoulder are both cute aww moments for everyone to watch.
4. you can wear your hair down and curled or i always wore an updo. with a few curls hanging down.
5. i am not sure
6. they have the stick on bras at walmart. they look funny but work wonders my sister in law wore one with her wedding dress.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.