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My friend and I
I am fourteen, and my best friend has been really mean to me, she punches me in the stomach, pressure points me, squeezes my arm, and it's her way to take out her anger!! The other day she broke into my other best friends locker and tried to steal her gum! I don't want to rat her out, but I need to get her controlled!!
She rammed her violin into me because I didn't give her the answers to our math test! I told her she needs to figure it out, it's your test. Was i right about doing that? Should I remain friends with her? What do I tell her? How do I tell her? Please help me!!
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I'm in agreement with answer #1. You need to tell someone so that you are no longer being physically assaulted, and so that you don't blow up one day and beat the crap out of her and get in trouble yourself. She may have a lot going on that you don't know about and the only way she knows to take care of the problem is by "kicking the dog" aka you. You may help her a great deal by letting someone know what she is doing.
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And this is your best friend? There are three approaches to a problem like this.
1. The aggressive and easy way (my personal favorite). If you have a stronger body physique, and she hurts you, you can always hit her back. Prove your dominance over the girl, who obviously has no respect for you. It's not recommended, but she has some issues.
2. The nice, but hard way. Report it to someone you could trust, (but also has authority). Also, confront her nicely about the way she treats you. You shouldn't remain friends with her, because despite what everyone says, people do not change. They usually just undergo a cycle, in which there is a "Break" period, and then usually return to the "attack" period.
3. Neutral- Don't do anything. Ignore everything, and it will be all right the next day. This will never happen. Not in a lifetime.
My best bet is to go with #2, as it's the most "morally-correct" way. I'm still strong for number one though.
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What your friend is doing to you is wrong, but I think you already know that by now.
I think you should tell one of your teachers, or you mother/father and see what they say because they may have also experienced something similar.
I think if you generally had/have a good time with her at weekends and during school hours, you should stay friends. Because you never know, she might be having problems at home which may cause her to act the way she does towards you and her other friends. Therefore, you should probably text or ring her asking if she is OK and maybe why she acts like she does. You should also tell her that you are always there for her if she needs you. It may be that she is suffering from bi-polar or has anger problems - but these are of course extreme and if you agree, you should probably talk to a teacher whom you trust to talk about this with.
I hope I've helped you out a little!
Good luck,
- Fornorina X
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Well, before you go to anyone else. Try talking to her about it. Tell her how you feel about it and ask her if she would stop. If she does, then that's great. It might not be easy at first for her, because of habits but if you see her trying, she's making an effort. If she doesn't stop, you need to distance yourself or even back out of the friendship. You don't want to keep getting hurt. Just calmly talk to her about it. Good luck!
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Look,this sort of thing happens all the time. The thing to do is just tell her how you feel. If she stops then stay friends with her. But if she doesn't, you'll have to let her go. Telling friends how you feel is hard. I suggest writing an email. About the tests and breaking into lockers, you have to tell her by cheating she's only hurting herself, and telling on your friend to an adult may seem bad but this has to stop if you're unhappy.
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you need to tell an adult what she is doing to you. that is no way to treat your friends. you should probably quit hanging around with her. she probably has some major problems such as, bipolar? anger managment either way she is going to need counsling. I think if she gets the help she needs you can start hanging out with her again but for your own safety you need to stay away with her. first off be around alot of people when you tell her because she could get angry or ask your principal if you can tell her while being in his office incase she gets mad.
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You need to tell an adult, and then end your friendship with her. Her behavior is very violent, and if you keep letting her hurt you without saying anything, it's only going to get worse. Punches in the stomach will become kicks to the head, etc. Do not let her do that. Tell an adult (principal, teacher, counselor, anyone) and get this taken care of.
You did the right thing when it comes to the math test. If she doesn't know the answers, that is her fault for not paying attention. You are not her cheat sheet. If she wants good grades, she needs to pay attention and study just like everyone else.
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