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Last Update: February 21, 2010
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so i'm fighting with my mom a lot and she apparently has heard stuff from two people about my friend that they are bad and what not and i've known my friends for a long time and hang with them all the time so i know what ever she had to say is a lie and i still dont know if shes lying i bet so. our relationship wont improve i think ill never forgive her for putting me through this. i thought it would be better to be with my mom but she doesnt trust me whatever i say my dad doesnt talk to me at all and im not even allowed in he house. now i want to move out but i dont all at the same time im 17 in NY i want to have a good relationship with her and if i do want to leave i want to leave on good terms but if this situation happends again i want to know if i can leave with out getting into trouble legally. basically i need advice (link)
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Sounds like my mom and I a few years ago... Leaving now while you are not an adult would allow her to report you missing as soon as she knows. The cops would get involved, and that's never pretty. My friend in high school left and the cops found her getting on a bus (she used her parents' credit card) and she ended up in the psyche ward for 3 days. Best idea is to try as hard as you can to work it out with your mom. I know it's hard, trust me I've been there, but in the end it's better than causing a rift between the two of you. I stuck it out until college started and our relationship improved immensely. My mother now considers me one of her best friends... not really ideal for me because I have to hear about her boyfriend, but it's much better than the constant screaming matches. When I was still living at home we tried some family counseling, which might have worked if my mom had been more receptive to it back then. We still go to some appointments when I'm home for breaks and things are going well.
Good luck, I hope it all works out well for you.
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Ok, haha. So, my boyfriend is a total nerd. Ever since he was a little kid, he's wanted the One Ring of Power from Lord of the Rings. Our anniversary is coming up in a few months and I really want to buy him one for a gift. I've looked ALL OVER the place and I can only find ones that are 100% gold and are like $500, or I can find the ones that are gold plated, but are meant to be worn on a chain so they only come in size 10 (my boyfriend's a size 8). If anyone would be willing to find something for me, I'd be ever grateful. Please, this would mean so much to him! (link)
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Can you buy a gold-plated ring and get it resized? I don't know what they look like so i don't know if it's going to mess up the design. Maybe you could take a picture of the ring to a local jeweler (not the big chains, they'll rip you off) and ask them if resizing would work.
Or maybe he'll actually wear it around his neck... that's what they did in the movie right?
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i'm on probation for six months and my probation officer said she's going to drug test me randomly during this time period. and i was wondering if the drug tests also screen for tobacco?
and if so, how long does it take tobacco to get out of your system?
thanks. (link)
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Tobacco can be detected in drug tests. It can even be detected in those new tests that they have out for parents to screen their kids. Luckily tobacco is not illegal and you shouldn't have anything to worry about...
To answer the second part of your question, tobacco stays in the blood for 6 - 8 hours and can stay in the urine for up to 30 days. It can stay in the hair for 3 months to a few years.
Here is a website that might help you/give you links to others that may help.
http://howto.dcrdetox.com/an-insight-into-how-long-does-tobacco-stay-in-your-system
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Hey.. When i was in high school, nursing was one of my choices besides political science and communications. I took up nursing because it was always in demand and i have loved the sciences as well.. I am now in my sophomore year and i don't think that nursing is really for me. I've been experiencing ups and downs. One time, i didn't come to class because i was so lost as to what i really like to happen in my life. They say, you have to love what you do but I guess i'm not happy with what im doing so how can i succeed? Writing is my passion and i regret it now for not really taking a course that suits me best.. How do i manage this??
Should i go on with my course? Or shift now? Is it too late?? I'm in my sophomore year at present.. And i think i lost a lot of time and effort already.. But at some point, i cannot handle the stress and depression any more.. :(
18f/phil
thanks!! :) (link)
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Better to know now that you probably don't want to be a nurse now than later. You're still in college, therefore you haven't wasted as much time as you think, and you aren't going to be wasting a degree. Many people do change their minds, often after years of being unhappy in an unfulfilling career. It gets expensive to wait too long, so if you know in your heart that you aren't going to be happy, and that you aren't just copping out because it's hard, then go with your gut and pursue you dreams. If you're worried about disappointing your family or something, think about this; YOU are the one that has to live with your career choice. YOU are the one that has to wake up every day and go be a nurse. While your family should have some input, this is ultimately up to you and no one else.
I hope you find happiness.
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is it possible to be allergic to pot? well i mean, i know it is... but i've been in a room full of people smoking pot and never had a reaction, so am i more likley not to be allergic to it? (link)
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I have heard or allergies to marijuana. It's apparently rare but possible. I know that with many things, you can be allergic to it but not show symptoms for a while. For example, poison ivy. The chances of you breaking out with a rash increase every time you're exposed to it. I tromped through the stuff many times as a kid and never had a reaction. Three summers ago I encountered it while doing to weeding for my aunt and I ended up in the hospital. Point is, if you think you're allergic then you need to stay away from it until you know for sure so whatever reaction you're having doesn't get worse and land you in the hospital or something (and I don't know how you'll find out seeing as it isn't legal.)
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My boyfreind's 21st birthday is in a little less than a month, and im trying to find some really good ideas to do for it. We have been together for about three months so i don't want it to be totally over the top, but i do want it to be something really good. He'll be 21, but i'm only 19 so I won't be able to go out with him for his birthday, so i'm looking for other things to do (link)
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It depends on how much you're willing to spend. 3 months isn't a long time so I understand not knowing where to go with this. I was in a similar situation with my boyfriend when he turned 21. I bought Metallica tickets for him (but then again we had been together for two years at that point.) Another gift that I gave him for an anniversary when I was really broke was a coupon book. I made up this little coupon book with things that I would do for him, such as making a steak dinner, giving him a neck massage etc. Whenever he wanted to feel special or had had a really long day or something, he could tear out a coupon and "redeem" it. lol... It sounds really lame but he loved it. Of course you would tailor it to your bf so that you target exactly what he likes.
A romantic night for 2 is always a good option as well :-)
Good luck!!
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I am fourteen, and my best friend has been really mean to me, she punches me in the stomach, pressure points me, squeezes my arm, and it's her way to take out her anger!! The other day she broke into my other best friends locker and tried to steal her gum! I don't want to rat her out, but I need to get her controlled!!
She rammed her violin into me because I didn't give her the answers to our math test! I told her she needs to figure it out, it's your test. Was i right about doing that? Should I remain friends with her? What do I tell her? How do I tell her? Please help me!! (link)
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I'm in agreement with answer #1. You need to tell someone so that you are no longer being physically assaulted, and so that you don't blow up one day and beat the crap out of her and get in trouble yourself. She may have a lot going on that you don't know about and the only way she knows to take care of the problem is by "kicking the dog" aka you. You may help her a great deal by letting someone know what she is doing.
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My whole life I have been really active. I did a sport every year in HS and ran/worked out during off season. However, my health now is not good. I started my 1st job in September as a server for a nursing home. While I do get a lot of exercise from picking up heavy trays and running around, I haven't been getting the exercise that I need. My eating has also been whack since I pig out on food when I'm working. Prior to working as a server, I had a lot of issues with food. I struggled (and still do) with bulimia and disordered eating. I wish I had more time to do stuff with my health, but I work so much (5/7 days a week) and don't have time to do anything when I get home from work (I basically go to work right after school, don't get home until 8, then have hw to do). I can't cut down my hours because I need the money badly and I can't seem to get into the habit of eating correctly (I bounce from eating healthy, to barely eating, to binging). I've managed to balance school and my job relatively well, but I'm worried about my health. I've also noticed that I don't feel as happy anymore, especially during the weekends. I would rather sit in watching a movie than go out to a party (Which before was not my personality at all). I don't know how to balance everything. I just wish someone could give me insight on what to do or how to manage everything. Thanks. (link)
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Wow... you sound like me 4 years ago. Having school and a job is hard (as you already know.) It's great experience for the future, but it's not worth killing yourself over. Have you considered talking to someone. Your parents or a counselor possibly? It may be embarrassing at first, or downright terrifying, but you aren't superwoman and you shouldn't have to be. (That would be for the how to manage everything AND enjoy life part.)
As for eating.. you obviously know that it's important, and I completely understand that you may get so busy you forget to eat and suddenly are stuffing your face at work bc you're so hungry. Set a timer or something on your phone to remind you if you have to! Trust me... it's mortifying if you forget to eat for 4 days in a row and pass out at work... I've been there.
Would it be possible for you to drop a class in school so you have some free time to get homework done during the day?
You're probably going to hear it from just about everyone, but I'll say it anyway; you're young and you need to enjoy life while you can. The real world is going to come much faster than you think and it's not as amazing as it's made out to be. And no, I'm not some creepy old lady with 15 cats telling you this... I'm 21 and I just graduated from college. Life can be hard, but you'll get through this and you'll be better for it.
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