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Meeting Ex At Airport
Kay. My boyfriend (whos now my ex) left to teach in another country last year and during that time i found him on a dating website and we broke up over aim. Just recently I've been talking to him and some of his friends are meeting him at the airport when he comes home and he asked me to go. I actually think that he wants to get back together with me (based on some things he said) and i would like to get back with him but i don't want to make it easy for him, you know?? Sooo should i go to the airport or would it be better if i didn't?? Its happening in like 2 days so any advice is appreciated!! =]
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I think you should go. Only because hes been gone for such a long time and it would mean alot to him if you want. He obviously wants to see you.. but after that i think you should take it slow make it difficult for him to get back to the way things were . make him work for it. and if he doesnt want to work for it then he isnt worth the time.
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Nah. Don't go hang out with him and his pals in a strange party/welcome back sort of mood. That is like the very defination of 'making it easy for him'. Unless you have a better reason to go, like hanging out with people you haven't seen in a while, or another draw to this get togeather besides your ex, hang back.
Stay in your element and don't give him the cushion of all his friends being around. That puts you in a weak position, and you might fall back into 'something' with him without the groundwork being laid for an actual relationship. If the boy actually wants you back, let him come to you with the face to face apology you deserve.
It's not about playing hard to get (which I don't think is EVER a good idea) it's about being honest with yourself about your reasons for being in his company. If you want to see him 'cause you want back with him, the place and time to lay the groundwork for that is not out with his buddies, it's quitely between the two of you.
If you really want him back, and he doesn't reach out to you. Then give it a few days and call him up and ask to hang out, and talk it out then.
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I really don't think you should do it...... he might beg you back, JUST to have sex.... been there done that.. came to visted, it was a long night!!!!
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i would. because if you don't, it will send the wrong message. that you aren't interested. it's better to send a message that says "hey lets get back together" right away, than to think you're playing hard to get, but he thinks youre not interested. got it?
just show up at the airport with something thats a nice gesture. like a card, or coffee, or balloons. nothing too extreme. then just talk and be casual. don't bring up getting back together. if he brings it up, just say "i need more time to think". let him wait for a few days and make him chase you. drop a few hints like "i'm busy tomorrow but i'm not sure about the day after?" that will make him think about calling you. hence, chasing you. let him know where you'll be a few times and what times (not all the time) that way it will make him chase you a little. if he calls you the first time, ANSWER it. then after that, ignore his calls for a while, then call him back.
key here is- make him think about you.
then after a few days of playing hard to get, talk to him about getting back together. then fate takes it from there :)
if you guys dont' get back together, then it wasn't meant to be.
good luck!
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