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i have white filmy stuff that collect in my vulva. i don't know what it is. could it be the toilet paper? i have very good hygiene but even after 24 hours of my last shower there's white stuff. WHAT IS IT? HOW DO I PREVENT IT? HELP!!!!
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It's totally normal hun. Sometime during puberty, ussually between 12 and 14 the vagina may begin to produce a clear or whitish discharge, which is a normal self-cleansing process.
Unless you are having itching, burning or it smells really really funky, you are completely fine, just know your days of being able to wear the same underwear for more then one day are over :D
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how come guys get horny so fast and girls dont? i mean it takes my bf 5 minutes to get horny and then like 30 minutes for me. how come? and is there a way to change that? thanks
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It's just not fair is it?
Anyways, there is no way to change it persay but there are things you can do that will help. Pyching yourself up, fantazing or such before you see him will help, and it will also help alot if you can tell your boyfriend just what makes you horny. Guys can be a little clueless about that so don't be afriad to ask for what you want.
Good Luck!
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ok i have this friend and he is sort of like a pansy the flower...and a pansy in the other lanuage means something weird...well how to i tell him hes a pansy...and i dnt like gay homosexual friends because there always lookin at the gay men nxt to you rather then you. !!!please i need serious help with this one...
smooches and kisses
Barbra a.k.a burt
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How do you know he is gay? Or like you said, a pansy? And why do you have to tell him?
It seems to be that being gay or not gay is really up to him to be and know, not you. So all you can really decide is whether you want this guy as a friend or not if you think is *acts* like he is gay.
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does anybody know the title and the band that play the song that goes
"i'm a bitch i'm a lover, i'm a child i'm a mother, i'm a saint i'm a sinner..."
thank you
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Actually it's called Bitch. By Meredith Brooks. a few people have sung it though, somebody told me Alanis Morissett did a cover... *shrugs*
Lyrics for you:
http://www.lyricsfreak.com/m/meredith-brooks/91966.html
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I'm a 14 yr. old girl. My Mom is going to college for a 2nd time. She's just had her heart broken. She's drawing from her life savings, so this is her last chance for school. The problem is, she is so hurt, she can't sleep or study. She drinks more than she used to. She won't talk to me about it much (I thinks she thinks I won't understand).
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Your mom sounds like she is having a really tough time right now and doesn't want to burden you with her problems.
Have you told your mom you are worried about her not sleeping, studying and her drinking? I think it's something you should talk about very gently and lovingly because it will be very difficult for her to hear but knowing how much you care about her and her happiness will help her through this alot.
Sick by her and give her all the love you can and she will pull through. Broken hearts are hard to mend but it sounds like your mom has a ton going for her in life and she will remember that soon.
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my grandmother is making me go to therapy again. i don't wanna go, and i don't see the point of wasting the money for me to talk to someone just so they can't say anything about it to her. my grandmothers reasoning is that she feels that my friends may talk to their parents about what i say and she wants me to be able to talk to someone that won't be able to say anything about it to her. now im not normally rebelious and something that i just got back is at stake if i tick her off, so should i just go though it to please her or say something??? ill rate high for good advice!!
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Just go to the therapy, it's not your money she is wasting, just a bit of your time.
Why don't you want to go anyways? It might feel a bit wierd but your grandmother has a point of having someone to talk to who can't tell anyone else what you are saying. It's a nice way to get stuff off your chest.
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hey wow ok so heres my problem. it might be kinda long so sorry. at like the end of the school year i started going out with my neighbor and i liked him sooo much but he was always at baseball during the summer and i never knew if he was home or not cause like he wouldnt call and he got on the internet like .. not alot. lol so like yeah there was this grad party at my friends house and i went and i ended up making out with this guy there and we started talking alot and i ended up liking him so much more than my neighbor so i dumped him and went out with this other guy. but this guy is going to portugal for a month and then coming back for a week then going to some camp til the rest of the summer. he hasnt called in like 3 days but i talked to him like twice online but then like 3 days ago i talked to my neighbor and he told me he wanted me back and that he still liked me and that i was special and all that andthat he would dump a girl in a heartbeat for me and now i think i might like him alott . i'm so confused. should i take a break with my bf right now till he comes back ? i still like him a lot too but idk... i might end up doing something really bad while hes gone so should i just take a break with him and maybe try something with my neighbor again? i want a long term relationship and i cant figure out which guy is like more up for it like which guy could actually do it.
i'm 13/f and sorry that it was really long
thanks
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You don't get into a relationship by dating the guy that is around more often, you get into one by talking and hanging out and having fun and meeting someone you really connect with. It sounds like you aren't sure at all which guy you want for a boyfriend or even which one you are willing to put the work into having a relationship with, so take a break from a serious boyfriend searching for a bit and have some fun with the guys you are interested in. Get to know them and understand them better before deciding if they can commit to a long term relationship (or if you even want them too)
Take a deep breath and relax, you have plenty of time in your life for long term relationships but this is a great time to date a bunch of people and figure out just what you want from those relationships!
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I have a thing with the dark. At night if i go downstairs while everyone is asleep or upstairs in the rooms, im always scared someone is watching me. I dont go downstairs that often but i need help. Is it because im weird or am i going crazy. Please help.. 14 female..
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You're not wierd or going crazy I promise. Some people are just naturally more anxious then others. I have a complex system of turning lights on and off when I'm walking through my home so I'm never in the complete dark and I'm not above carrying a flashlight either (and I'm years older than you are.)
The other thing that works for me is humming a song or something to keep my mind off scarry thoughts.
Yeah it's a little wierd, but it doesn't hurt anyone and it makes me feel safer.
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How do you cure bad breath? I brush my teeth twice a day, but I still have really bad breath!!!
Thx!!! I rate high
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Brushing your tongue helps alot and there are some really expensive treatments for constant bad breath. The best thing to do I think is to brush your teeth and tongue well, use a mouth wash and then carry some tic tacs or breath mints around with you and have one after every time you eat.
Good lucks!
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okay well my best friend is bi. im a girl and i kno i like boys. i was also pretty sure i didnt like girls like that but then it was on my mind a lot. a lot of people at school thought i was bi because my friend snd i are so different but we're really close but not like that. shes never liked me like that. but then i got really confused when i had a dream that she kissed me and i liked it i think but i told her not to kiss me now but later. so now im kinda confused. it bothers me a lot. any helpful thoughts?
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This is really confusing for you and scarry. I completely understand, when I was thirteen I had a very similar experience (Turned out that I was definately bi)
But no one can answer that question for you but you. In my opinion, enjoying a kiss with a girl doesn't make you bi, especailly not if its just a dream (I mean, kisses are really nice, period). You are bi if you want a loving sexual relationship with a girl.
Please know that this isn't a question you can answer overnight. It takes a lot of thought and sometimes a lot of time.
Drop me a line if you need any more advice babe. I'd be happy to help.
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Well, my sister is 16, and she's pregnant by her 20 year old boyfriend. I want to help her, I really do. She is about to turn 17 next month and she wants to move in with him. However, my mom told me that she wasn't going to let her and not to tell her that because she would get upset. So, I don't wanna upset her about it, so I am keeping my mouth shut.
I try to help her the best I can. If she wants something to drink, I'll get her something to drink, if she wants something to eat, I'll get her something to eat. However, it seems like whatever I do isn't good enough. She always complains that its too hot, or too cold, or she doesn't like it. She has the biggest mood swings ever. She cries constantly; when she's not crying she's screaming.
I just want to help her out so much. She's young and we have birth defect problems in our family. I want her pregnancy to go well. I just don't know how to help.
Signed,
Wants-To-Know
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I'm probably going to annoy someone here but here it goes.
You're sister sounds very selfish to me.
She wanted to get pregnant at a young age even though she couldn't provide for a baby as well as she could have if she waited and she is taking your wonderful treatment for granted.
You are the best little sister ever for wanting the very best for your sister but your sister has taken a big step into adulthood and you need to let her learn how to cope on her own.
Being nice is one thing, but please make sure you don't become your sister's doormat. That wont help her in the end.
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I am going to be staying in a small village in Northern Italy this summer as an exchange student for 6 weeks! I know I should dress modestly there as to not offend who I am staying with, but what are some cute ways to dress and stay in style while abroad?
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It can get hot! I'd go for cute flowing skirts and funky blouses. Nothing sleeveless. Caprees would probably be fine too as long as they aren't too many jeans. Have Fun!
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Ok, well I give out alot advice my self, but I am unable to think of anything. My story is this: My friend is real big in acting. She does charity plays for small children. She is now pressuring me into going to a summer acting class but I can't go. I have to be free to watch my younger siblings. I want to go, but i also have my responsibility. I've talked to my mom and she says its completely up to me, but I don't know which to choose. If I decide to say no to the class how should I tell her with out hurting her feelings?
Thanks & Sorry if its a little long!
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Since your mom has let you off the hook with watching your siblings it sounds to me like you really don't want to go which is completely cool.
Just tell her the truth, it's not your idea of fun. Make sure she knows you still really like her and wanna hang out with her in the summer just not at a class. She might be a little hurt but if make time for her and hang out with her doing things you both enjoy, you'll both have way more fun in the end.
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I go out alot and when I do I tend to hook up with guy friends or friends of friends, casually. I've realized that I have never not felt bad or guilty at some point about any of my hook ups.
I may not feel bad about all of them now but I've definetly felt bad at somepoint. I even feel bad about hook ups I've had with boyfriends.
I don't know what to do about this.I don't feel slutty, because I know I'm not, but I do feel badly.
Should I stop hooking up with people? Try as I might that's never too easy for me. What do I do?
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Although I think it's great you've identified that you don't seem to happy with your casual hook ups I think you have some more serious soul searching to do.
What exactly do you feel badly about? Is it just other people possible perceptions of your behavior or is there something you want you feel you aren't getting from these casual encounters.
My personal advice would be to stop hooking up with people for a little while. Set yourself a goal, like no hook-ups for 2 months. It might help shead some light on what your feelings really are and what it is you really want.
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ok here the thing.this one girl that i like is on the war path with me.she doesn't talk to me & makes stuff up about me.but i really like her. so wat do i do? do i say the heck with her or wat?
HELP A POOR BROTHER OUT!!
-thanks
The Answer
Why do you like her?
Is she actually a nice person? does she have a good sense of humor? or is she just hot?
I don't think it is really worth it to you to put any effort into trying to get someone to like you when they are only ever mean to you.
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okay um i had the same qustion earlyer but i forgot something my promblem was:
Theres this guy well theres two guys and there both friends and they both like me. they didnt come out and tell me but i know there friends and sisters have told me and they give off more then enough hints. but my promblem is: they like me but i dont like them well at least i dont think i do see there bosinas and i dont date bosinas i only date americans i know i knoww sounds dumb but thats just me. and i kinda think i like one and i cant like him i wont let my self. but i kinda think i only like him or think i do is because im still trying to find the right guy. im 16 and i still havent found the right one. so what do u guys think my promblem is? thanks for the help..
what i forgot was that: im bosian as well so its not that im raceist or anything being that im the same thing as theses guys are. does that change anything? thanks for the help
*K
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You sounds pretty confussed to me. First you don't like them, and then you maybe like one of them.
I think you are right about only liking the guy because you want to find a guy and that is perfectly okay. I hadn't found the right guy at 16, I don't know very many people who do, and there is no point in wasting your time if you aren't sure.
I am sorta worried about your question though. What is the problem with dating people from your own culture anyways?
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i otld this kid that i liked him and he has a gf. Now hes saying hes gonna break up with her and then he started asking me all these nasty questions like "if we went out could we have sex" and "do you shave" and "would u let me finger you" and then i told him that no i wouldnt have sex with him and when i told him that and then hes like "dude this isnt even him bye" and then they got off but i kno it was him and now im afraid he'll tell everyone PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!!!!!!!!!!
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He obviously is not worth liking!
Don't worry. You didn't do anything wrong and he has no dirt on you. If he tells everyone about your conversation hold your head up and high and say "Yes, that's right, I'm waaay to good for him."
Chances are he'll keep it to himself though, unless he wants everyone to know what a sick pig he is.
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ok is it true if you take a hot shower it will delay your period? do certain foods make your period come sooner? like chocolate or whatever?
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I've never heard any of that before I'm afraid. The only thing I know from personal experience is that stress and eating very poorly, (or not at all) will make your period late. I would not suggest doing either of those!
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i've dyed my hair over 10 times in the past 2 years and now its dry and gross, does anyone know if there is any hair product that doesnt cost alot that would make my hair more silky??, ill rate high.. please someone help me out
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I absolutely adore Redken conditioner for colour treated hair. It is a salon product though and kinda expensive (not rediculasly expensive but more then regular conditioner) I dye my hair every 3-5 months and this stuff keeps my hair looking smooth and alive.
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okay i hav known this guy for around 3 years..we were friends and then he got all these girlfriends and (we still were friend but not as close)...now the past 2-3 weeks he has been acting reall sweet..and he just changed from kinda caring about me to ..like whoa he cares alot...and now i like him again and i dont know if he likes me or not how do i found out if he likes me?...i really dont want to ask "do you like me" or have a friend give him hints..because then he will think its ot true that it is just a rumor...so how do i find out? ..thank you..
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You ask him. It's the only way now. He's given you major signs that he does like you and if you've been good friends for so long it probably wont ruin it to ask, you can laugh it off.
Be bold and brave. All you need to say is
"Hey, I've been getting the feeling you really like me, do you?"
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