This boy i really like talks tome A LOT so how do i know he likes me we are realy good friends :D
Just check out how he acts towards you.
If there's ever any touching that takes place, and flirting or any of this 'i would never ever go out with you' carry on then yeh he likes you.
Leave it a few months and time will tell-you'll either get closer or move apart. if you get any closer then ask him out! :)
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hi, me and my boyfriend been dating for fourteen months and we live together. it's just that, sometimes when he sees me texting, he asks me, who's that? you texting your boyfriend? and i told him that's very mean thing to say as u r my boyfriend, and he goes and laugh, says he's only joking. he also says, he doesn't care who i text and he's not bothered but still keeps asking who am i texting. guys, so is he jealous or just winding me up? thank you all.
He's probobly just curious!
If he was seriosly worried he'd like destroy the phone or something. maybe he's hinting that when your with him he'd prefer it if you wern't always texting whoever. When he says he doesn't care it means he does probobly care, but if he lets you know this then you'll think he's paranoid/controlling.
I wouldn't let it bother you :)
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what is something sweet to tell your boyfriend?
That you love him :) Also one of the nicest things you can say to a guy is to say they're good at something. But the sweetest things tend to be original to the person that said them. Which means not trying to be sweet but being yourself and him finding you sweet-you shouldn't have to try too hard :)
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Hi I am 13 and I am not emo, but i do write all over myself. I think that it is a good way to express myself, but my mom/dad says that it is not good to do that and it is a sickness! When I write on myself it is not out of depression or anger it is just to do it. But when my parents say that it is a sickness it makes me feel like i am not normal. I know that I am normal but some part of me says that im not.
I hope that you can help me out. Thnx :)
Hey there!
So the first thing to consider here is your 13-with hormonal changes present, therefore every gals emotions mess around with their heads at this point.
Just sit down and tell your parents your not emo-not that its a bad thing though.
I don't know what advcie to give as I don't know you personality, so this is all I can say.
Be yourself :)
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20/F
I've always been lucky enough to have clear skin. Aside from occasional spots, I've never had break-outs or acne or anything. Recently my skin has been much worse than usual. I've been getting a lot of pimples, especially around my chin, jaw and forehead. I haven't changed my skincare routine at all and I'm always careful to cleanse, tone and moisturize so I'm not sure what could be causing the sudden change. Any ideas?
This sounds to me like acne-which many people including my self have had before.
It's common in young women as well as teens and I went to the doctor and got some cream to stop it, so this is what I think you should do.
To answer your question, what causes it, it could be stress,hormone changes (in a girls case maintaining muscle and bone strength) before your period is due you can get acne, polycistic ovary syndrome or it could be side effect of any medication you could be taking, so i'd get it checked out by your doctor :)
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What do I say to someone that I really love and just got together with how much I care and love him in a way that he will remember forever?
Nothing for now. Because if you tell him you love him now then he may think its very eary, and that you're not wanting commitment (not that I know what you want)
But back to the question, actions speak louder than words.Buy him presents for no reason, take him on different dates-not just bowling or the cinema.
In the past I've seen alot of cute gestures. You could set up a firework display, get front row tickets to a gig, but the best way is to adapt soemthing you both love doing into soemthing romantic.
You could take him on a trip somewhere memorable (London eye) and hire out a pod just for the two of you with exclusive champagne in it an things.
Sorry, I don't know how old you are or what country you're from so this is all i can suggest. good luck :)
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Okay i know this is probably not a big thing but i really don't if my girlfriend is being truthful to me about her sex life or her Sexual orientation okay like i ask my girlfriend tons of times do like girls too because i notice she notices them a lot she judges them all the time and most of her friends are bisexual i know this is not a big deal but i will like to know if she is since we are having a baby together and i feel she will never tell me cause she lied to me at least 5 times before and i feel like she will never tell me because she is scared i may leave her when i told her i will never leave her when i asked the first time she got so defensive about it so it made me wonder so im asking do you think she is and what should i do ????????
Hey there!
What I would do is try to ask either a mutual friend or one of her friends in private. Then you could get some answers.
If you don't then you need to sit her down and ask her yourself.
However, not yet. The thing is about pregnany is that a womans mood changes all the time. And it's not fair on her to be confronting her during pregnancy, as this could cause unnecessary stress with, trust me, a woman DOES NOT need at this time in her life. Don't ask he either untill about a month after the baby is born, as this period of time is crucial for the baby and mother to begin bonding in, and I feel personally that this is not the best time to be questioning her. But ask her after this, making sure she knows that you love her unconditionally and will always stick by her no matter what for the babys sake.
Also, once you have a baby so many things that were complicated before just don't matter no more. Just forget it for now, help her through pregnancy and you may find that you simply don't care about this anymore. Good luck with it all :)
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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.
Hey,
Okay so I feel for you here.
The first thing to do is to take time apart. I know this is the opposite of what you want to do, but it's the first crucial step. Absense makes the heart fonder after all.
I'm only talking a couple of days where contact is kept to a minimum, just so that he can clean up his act.
Okay, so the thing that guys find most unattractive is a girl begging or being needy. If you keep hoveing round him (this is understandable as you want to be with him) then he will not see you as attractive, but someone who can't be independant on their own.
If you guys have already made out, kissed etc. then it sounds hopeful that you may get together someday. Think about this:we want what we can't have.
If you reduce contact with this guy in person, through text etc, he'll wonder why. He'll think you've gone off him, and then what will happen (in my personal experience) is that he'll think your moving on, wouldn't want to risk the humiliation and he will talk to you again, but in a more sensitive way because he will realise you're the one for him.
To recap, not to upset you but the fact that he's talking about how he doesn't want to treat his gf indicates that he may be trying to find a route out. So you need to give him a reason to warm even more to you!
Guys love girls who are independant not clingy, sweet and love them like a son and girls who maintain good looks but not overdoing make up. If you work on these three thigns, plus take time apart from this guy then trust me he'll see you in a new, romantic light.
At first it may not seem to work, but even for me this worked eventually! Feel free to ask for any more advice and good luck :)
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18/f
basically i met this boy over the summer and we hung out for like five months. i didnt want a boyfriend i was still in love with my ex, basically he wanted to date me for awhile and i didnt. i finally want to date him and he said romeo died along time ago. he met someone else. he doesnt even miss me or text me or anything anymore. i painted him a picture for his birthday and not being blunt but im a very good artist. i put so much effort and work into it like his birthdays coming up. i dont even want to give it to him, cause it hurts alot right now cause i finally fell for him too late. i know time heals all wounds. do you think theres any chance for us to be a "thing" again?
There could be a chance, but you need to forget about it for a while. Firstly because its not fair on his current relationship or his new girlfriend, secondly because you need to take time out to adress your feelings.
The thing is, we want what we can't have right? So becasue he's with his new girlfriend,you CAN'T have him, so this makes you WANT him. Follow?
My point is, whilst you may want him back because you want to fufill a loss, if you him back-what happens if things don't work out?
My advice is this: Move on. I know its tough and we've all been there before, but there has to be a point somewhere where we draw the line, because otherwise we'd spend half of our lives chasing a dream of somethign out of our reach. Take up a new hobby, chill with girl mates and have a good laugh. The time will come where you find that guy who accepts you for who you are with no strings attatched. Also check out the 'search questions' link on this site, as this problem seems to be common therfore you can find more advice.
Good luck :)
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me:13f
him:15m
So I've been dating this guy, let's call him "a'...so a is a druggie..but has recently been tryinf to stop, he is the sweetest guy I've ever met. My parents already know him...But they know him as a druggie...he has been changing though..I really like him, and hope my arents can acept him for who he is..butthey most likely won't..they will tell me that i cant date him, cuz my parents are very strict about the guys I date....I love him.. can someobe help me?? Please??
I'd hold off dating this guys for a while. First, you need to see if he is a druggie and has provenly stopped. Just be mates for now, get to know him, and if he is clean make your move. If not, leave him well alone, because since your only 13 you could be putting yourself in danger.
If he is clean, ask him out and go out with him for a couple of weeks. If thing do go well, then you'll have to tell your parents. Sit them down and maybe even have him in the room too, so that they can't express how they feel and hurt you so much.
If they trust you, then they shoul be accepting. And I don't think you do 'love' him,I think you love the thought of being with him-but hey as time passess and you guys get together then you may really experience what loving him is like.
Also I'd suggest looking on the 'serach questions' link on here. There are alot of stories like this and it may be benificial to get other advice givers points of view too, so you're more clued up as to what to do.
Good luck hope all works out :)
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I am sick and tired of living. My family hates me. They treat me like crap. I'm never appreciated and I want it to be over. I cannot continue to live this way. I'm either going to kill myself or run away and hope someone will kill me. I need help before I do something stupid.
I not a doctor so this is not a diognosis, but it sounds as if your depressed.
They say the best way to cure a depressed person is to take them back to when they were a kid. Have fun-even play with toys you used to or much about outside!
It sounds crazy, but it really works as your engaging with the happy past, in order to build up a happy future.
Also, you should talk to your family about this. hey don't hate you probobly, its just some people find it hard to express love than others. Also, see a counsellor/doctor for advice.
Finally, I'd recommend you click on 'search questions' on this site. So many people have asked this question and wanted help. You can find more suggestions there or even connect with other people who a feeling like this so you don't go it alone.
Good luck but I'm sure things will pick up :)
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So I have been in plenty of relationships before, but never have I made out with a guy yet. But now I have this really amazing boyfriend, and I don't know what to do! We have been dating for like three months now, and I know hes going to try to make out soon, but I am SOO nervous. I dont want to do anything wrong because I really like him. Can someone pleaseeeee give me advice!! Oh and I am female and 15.
Hey there!
The first fact is that if he was a serious boyfriend who really loves you for you then he wouldn't care about performing well during sex.
Secondly, if you're nervous and having doubts then you're not ready to sleep together yet. Just explain this to him, and like I said above, if he really loves you he'd respect you're decision.
Everyone is nervous for their first time, he may well be to. Do waht comes natural and don't pretend to be anything more. Guys really respect girls who are confident in life.
My suggestion would be this. Personally I think three months, especially at 15 is too early to have sex. This is because I don't find that 3 months is enough time to form enough trust and build up the commitment to each other.
Never feel rushed into having sex just because everyone else is doing it. And when it happens? Just be yourself-no one can ask anymore of you, and be honest with each other to-discussing your fears about sex makes the bond closer, and the is important as theres so much more to relationship than sex.
Good luck :)
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I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years because there were many arguments, not really big issues but it seemed right at the time. We texted back and forth after the break up, at first he was devastated, but after a while he agreed with the breakup. This upset me because I ended it but I still end up getting more hurt than him, I guess I hoped he would try to convince me to stay. Out of anger I said "F!@* you, don't text me ever again". He didn't text me since. I would like to try and get back together but is that even possible at this point? Should I reach out to him? What should I even say?
Sorry would be a good start :)
Just text him 'hey, you ok' and see if you get a reply. If not then don't text back.
The chances are I'm afraid that he's moved on, as he sees you as less attractive in his eyes because you swore out of anger.
But! It's still possible to get back with him if you let him know that you've chnaged for the better. Eg: improve how you handle arguments.
I think your ex may want you back. You say that he 'agreed' with the break up after a while. Many people who are so 'devastated' with a breakup pretend to agree to it as they think this will win their ex back, or at least make them more desirable. He could be playing hard to get and making sure you do alot of the contact, because then he's hoping you'll realise that he was right for you. And if this is the case it's worked.
You need to text him first as mentioned above, and if you get a response try to be friendly but not too much. And if he doesn't reply? Well we all want what we can't have, so you may actually find that because it seems you can't have your ex now, thats the only reason you want him back-not because you've fallen in love with him again.
Hope this helps, apologies for beign so long but if you need any more help ask because I'm reading relationship psycology :)
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What do you do when your crush gets a girlfriend and it's your best friend
This is what I would do: Let this crush go.
The thing about a crush is, usually its a new one every few months.
Just accept he's with your bestfriend, if shes anything like you then at least you know shes made the right decision.
Also, now he's with you friend, he maybe less likely o ever become your bf,because even if (god forbid) they split up-if your much of a friend you wouldn't date your mates ex right?
Crushes come and go, but boyfriends come and possibly change peoples lives. So don't screw anything up for your mate, and just be friends with her boyfriend, but primarily be a best friend to her.
Good luck :)
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Be honest. But just don't yell at me or lecture me. How bad is it that I like my teacher? He's pretty young.. like 24. I know it's not good. I honestly just want to know if there's anyone out there who's having a dilemma like this like me. or really anything anyone thinks about it. more importantly, how do i get over it? He's literally everything I've ever liked in a guy.. even guys my age. I need to SHUT UP about him. Jeez. Thoughts?
This happend to me in high school ^^ Unfortunatly, when the particular teacher says anything to you after you discover you fancy them, then you translate that as something romantic.
Most of the time, like me, you get over them when you leave high school. It's hard to, but heres my advice (what i did)
1) Imagine if things with him and you progressed any futher to a relationship. Write down the promblems there would be.
2) Think of their bad point: they could be impatient, they could always tell people off, they could have bad breath etc.
3)Think about other girls. If you like him, theres a massive chance other girls like him too, plus girls his age as well. He could infact have a fan club of girls.
4) He could get married.By getting over this crush now, then you're saving yourself tons of heartbreak in the future if he does marry someone.
Although it's hard having a crush on your teacher it's harder having a secret crush on some one you COULD date, as your worried more about being found out.
Good luck :)
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my amazing girlfriend is trying to leave me after 8 months. we are perfect for each other, have the same personality, love the same things, we are each others soul mates we both know it! :( for the last month odd i started getting really insecure about guys and one guy i particullar she started texting all the time, coz she never talks to guys usually and now she goes up her friends to be with usually a lot of guys from her college, i thin she's doing it because ive pushed her away with my moaning about loosign her and scared she'll cheat on me, but now she is trying to break up with me but she loves me so much :(. for the last few weeks all i've thought about is killing myself, its not a doubt anymore my mind is telling me to do it, please help me :/
The thing is with all relationship, they have cracks. First you have the 'getting to know each other stage', where it's all casual and friendly.
Then you have the delirous stage, when you're all over each other and claim to be head over heels blah blah blah.
Then comes the stage your at now-the comfortable stage. During this stage, you guys are 'comfrotable' in each others company, but the relationship begins to become boring as you've done all the exciting 'new' stuff before.
It's at this stage where most arguments occur too unfortunatly. Every couples at this stage argue, and most break up. But its the ones who can stay together through this hardest stage that stay together for an extremly long time.
So ok, you need to add some fun into the relationship. In your case though, I'd discuss with your gf about taking a little bit of a break for a bit, so you can 'sort your head out' During this time,assess how you're relationship went wrong (your insecurities) and vow to change them when you do get back together.
You guys also have to have a talk. Most couples have it-where they decide either to accept their not going to agree on everything and move on, or whether they're not going to agree on everything and split up.
If your scared of her cheating, tell her gently. Then she'll understand why you have these insecurities. If she truly loves you she'd help you remove them.
And if things on't work out, then you'll find someone better and will have learnt from your mistakes.
Good luck :)
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im 16/f hes 17/m
id like an answer as quick as possible please.
i just started dating this guys named Brian, and hes been the sweetest guy ever to me in a really long time. he doesnt talk about having sex, and hes not overprotective, i really feel cared about.
so he wants to go out on a date while we have a week off of school.
thing is my parents dont know about him
my mom usually taunts any of the guys i like. and this upsets me highly. cause hes soo nice!
my parents are strict spanish parents and im their oldest child, how can i go about telling them?>??
thanks!
Hey there! So obviously you need to tell them sooner rather than later.
Seeing as your female, I'd invite your mum into your room for a 'chat' and just say I've been asked out.
Because you told her in the politest way possible she'll understand that you must really like this guy. Then she can tell your dad in her own time.
Worked for me anyway :)
Good luck :)
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My dad all ways tells me to do every thing and when I forget them he get really mad and when he tell my small bro and he forgets them he don't get mad at him why?why do I all ways show like I am none child why? I don't understand please help me pleaseNour this is my name Please give me advice please
And thanks
. Please Help me I really need advice
I guess its because your the older sibling, so he expects a mature attitude by now. Also, maybe he tells you off to try to hint that you should help ihim more now your older by doing these samall tasks. If he didn't tell you off then how could you grow as a person? And when your little brother grows up he'll start to expect him to take responsibility for his own actions to. Your little bother may be too young to control his own actions yet.
Hope this helps :)
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Is 5'7 tall for a girl?
Its quite tall but not freakishly so. :)
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I sometimes out of no where get very strong chills that make me really cold and makes me shake so badly that it makes my body hurt. What can it possibly be?
I'm no doctor-lets just make that clear.
But this sounds like you could be cold-raynauds syndrome. Or, it could be low sugar levels (type 2 diabetes) or it could be with the chills a form af amnesea which can be cured.
Seriously speak to your doctor about this but it doesn't sound serious :)
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