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bad breakup
I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years because there were many arguments, not really big issues but it seemed right at the time. We texted back and forth after the break up, at first he was devastated, but after a while he agreed with the breakup. This upset me because I ended it but I still end up getting more hurt than him, I guess I hoped he would try to convince me to stay. Out of anger I said "F!@* you, don't text me ever again". He didn't text me since. I would like to try and get back together but is that even possible at this point? Should I reach out to him? What should I even say?
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anything is still possible. start off by texting him and trying to be friends again. apologize and explain to him that you guys were fighting a lot and it was stressful for you but you realized that you miss him and enjoy dating him. see how he responds. he very well might be angry because you were so rude to him but if getting back together is what you really want, then make sure you show him you care about him and you didn't mean what you said.
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Sorry would be a good start :)
Just text him 'hey, you ok' and see if you get a reply. If not then don't text back.
The chances are I'm afraid that he's moved on, as he sees you as less attractive in his eyes because you swore out of anger.
But! It's still possible to get back with him if you let him know that you've chnaged for the better. Eg: improve how you handle arguments.
I think your ex may want you back. You say that he 'agreed' with the break up after a while. Many people who are so 'devastated' with a breakup pretend to agree to it as they think this will win their ex back, or at least make them more desirable. He could be playing hard to get and making sure you do alot of the contact, because then he's hoping you'll realise that he was right for you. And if this is the case it's worked.
You need to text him first as mentioned above, and if you get a response try to be friendly but not too much. And if he doesn't reply? Well we all want what we can't have, so you may actually find that because it seems you can't have your ex now, thats the only reason you want him back-not because you've fallen in love with him again.
Hope this helps, apologies for beign so long but if you need any more help ask because I'm reading relationship psycology :)
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You broke up with him, You ended the relationship.
If you didn't want it to be over you should of never recommended it in the first place, Talking to him depends on how long ago you told him to stop texting you. If it were only a few days ago you could text him saying "I just wanted to apologize for the argument we had the other day, I took a few days to myself to calm down and was hoping we could talk it over" If it's been a few weeks, I wouldn't bother. As when time passes people tend to move on and you wouldn't want to recreate the problem when he is beginning to get over it. If you two do decide to talk for future references I would calmly try to discuss how you feel because if you dump someone every time you have an argument somewhere down the line he won't come back.
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I think you need to explain why you said what you said.
I understand you are angry that he didn't fight for the relationship, but there are so many reasons why he may not have fought - maybe he wanted what was best for you - after all you were the one that broke up with him. He may have just "agreed" that it was best because you suggested it in the first place and he didn't want to show how really cut up he is about it.
Go talk to him. I think you should apologise for swearing, and speaking out of anger and tell him you regret it. Explain why you wanted to break up, and how you felt he didn't react the way you wanted to and it stung. See how he feels and what he says. Once those thoughts are out of your head and off your chest, suggest you'd like to try again, prehaps take things slow.
I can't tell you if he will agree with you, I don't know how much damage is there. But ask yourself do want him back because the reasons you broke up with him don't matter anymore and you love him or is it because you you didn't get the reaction you wanted and you now feel alone.
I means what's changed, it's a big decision to end a relationship so why do you want him back? I'm not trying to be negative, I just don't want you to make a decision that isn't right for you, or him either.
You guys have been together long enough to be honest. Just talk to him and explain. That's all you need to do - and then take it from there, from how he responds.
Good luck
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