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The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.

I am likely not the best columnist here, but I can quarantee I am very dedicated and concerned when I answer a question. If I answer a question you're not satisfied with, I will ask why, so I can try my best to change my answer. I only give people information that I know; not information that I might know. And if I notice a columnist giving you a wrong answer, you'll know I'll be correcting their response!!

I do allow everyone and anyone to ask a question. I may have listed favorite categories, but I really have no preference. I do love making new friends!! It's no problem to contact me by e-mail or IM. I do have a Myspace, and I will gladly give it out if asked! If you ever need advice, if you feel like ending it all, if you feel like no one cares, I am here!! Talk to me.. I will listen and I will help you!!

♥Leah

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I'm turning 16 in a couple of weeks and I'm having a party. Problem is, I have no idea as to what to do! I'll have music but I don't know what else to do. I invited like several people, and I don't want to be bored. So does anyone have any ideas? I'll rate 5's for good answers.

When I had my 16th birthday party, what I did was get MASS decorations. I got a lot of string, ballons (with a helium tank so the balloons can float) and tissue rolls.

I found a fairly decent website that can help you with your decision: http://www.simplybirthdaystuff.com/howtothbipa.html

"Age 16: If your teenager LETS you have a party-WOW! Then you make it ALL OUT FUN!! This is a good age to have a pizza party at home or a pool party. Again, involve your child in the planning of this party. Sweet 16 is an incredible birthday that your child will remember forever, make it special!" (Big Dot of happiness, "Simply Birthday Party Stuff")

I put decorations everywhere to make the place look fun. I also put in some dance music. Techno is awesome! And think of some great activities to do. Like play with silly string. That's really fun! Decorate your own cake, and have your friends help. That's also fun.


Here is another website that specifically talks about tips and tricks on how to make your 16th birthday party full of fun and frolic!! (http://www.chiff.com/entertain/sweet-16.htm)

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How can I, a female under the age of 16, help abused, neglected, homeless, etc. animals? Every shelter that I;ve heard of requires you to be 16 to voulunteer and I cannot adopt another pet. (I've asked, pleaded, begged). I'm thinking of raising money or donating supplies and setting up boxes at random places around my community (continue with what my girl scout troop started) Any advice or suggestions?

Well there are still many organizations to volunteer in. PETA is an awesome and effective organization that lets anybody at any age (13 and up) to help animals. They ship you packets, and brochures how to start, and where to begin.

If you're under 13, don't worry! Like the other person said, you can create your own organization or club at no cost. Just get some friends to join you and advertise it around. Just because you're under 16 does not mean there's no possible way to help animals.

And [without signing up to PETA] they have information on how to get started and such. (www.peta.com). I joined them, myself, and they're very informative and helpful.

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what are some good vampire videos

Dracula, Queen of the Damned, van Helsing, A lot of the steven spielberg movies.

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I bite my nails and they look really bad. So on special occasions I buy fake nails at like target or something and glue them on. They look pretty good. The only problem is that the glue is never sturdy enough and can never hold my fake nails down to my real nails. Where can I buy glue that is able to hold them down and keep them fully attached to my real nails in water for up to 4 hours! What nail glue can i get and where can i buy it? Thank-you

There is this chemical you can apply on your nails that can help your from biting them. It's a chemical that, if you attempt to bite a nail you will get this extremely bad taste in your mouth! Which gets you to stop biting them [so you can avoid that bad taste!] you can get it at a salon store. They're not expensive at all, and you don't need to get a professional. It works just as well doing it at home!

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How can I avoid razor burn? I was doing okay but now I'm getting it.

And also, how can I make my underarms smooth? It seems to have razorburn or..bumps.. that won't go away.. so I keep cutting myself there.
And I can't remove some of the hair there :\

Great things to use would be shaving cream that's high in aloe vera, and hydrocortisone cream. The aloe vera soothes the skin, relieving any of the razor burns while the hydrocortisone cream can decrease the inflammation (like the bumps you're noticing). Also try getting the aloe vera gel (which is also a common gel for sunburn relief!) Try reapplying those a few times a day. Don't shave it over and over, even if the bumps are worsening or coming back. Just wait until the inflammation starts disappearing and try shaving it again. This time, immediately after you're done shaving put on the gel and cream. This should help the area from any burns or bumps.

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I have some serious trust issues. Y'all know how most people say "I trust you until you give me a reason not to", right? Yeah well I DON'T trust you until you give me a reason TO. I honestly don't even trust a few of my best friends. How can I get over this?

I go through this sometimes, as well. Trusting people can be a struggle sometimes, and it's reasonable to think that the only way to trust someone is to find a good reason why they should be trusted. But first you need to think if they deserve to be trusted. Have they done anything bad to you recently? Like betray or hurt you? If so, you'll need to talk to them about it. Try negotiating about it. If they've been real friends to you and haven't done anything terrible, try giving them a second chance and trust them again. It is a long process but ask yourself if they really do deserve to be trusted.

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It's so weird, for some reason tonight, I'm so nervous, I can't eat, I can't sit still, and I keep on thinking about what's going to happen at school tomorrow.

The problem is, I have n-o-t-h-i-n-g to be nervous about.

Any advice on how to
a.) calm myself
b.) figure out why I'm so tense/nervous

Thanks!

I have the same exact problem! It sounds like your have high anxiety. It's common in most people, and stress, depression, and mental tension can be factors. Ways to calm youself down would be to take Melatonin pills, which mellow you out and relax you. You can get these at any drugstore! And you can also try meditating by lighting a few candles around you and take deep breaths. This works also, I tried it myself.

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ok im a and i want to know how to shave your....ya know...thing lol. like my hair right now is like and 1 inch long and if i just shave it with a razor it will hurt. how do i get rid of it? please help ill rate 5's!

Well first it would be good to trim it first with scissors, which makes it easier to shave it off. But be careful though. And a hair trimmer can work, as well. Next, you will need to get these accesories: Aloe Vera Gel, Non-fragrance/noncomedegenic moisturizing body lotion with vitamins E and C. Shave it off with a highly moisturizing and high in aloe with no frangrance shaving cream. After that's done, mix the aloe vera gel and lotion and rub it through on that area. The aloe and vitamins keeps the skin from breaking out into those "bumbs" and relieves the pain of that itching and burning afterwards. But make sure you reapply it often to decrease any kind of inflammation and bumps.

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okay. well for my choir we are singing in an honors program for the 8th graders at my school [ i`m in 7th ]
however, we aren`t wearing our choir uniforms, we have to dress up. not like reeeally dressy, but like something formal.
our rules are;
1. no jeans of any kind
2. no shorts
3. no tennis shoes
4. no t-shirts
5. no flip flops

any ideas on what i can wear? pictures/websites would be helpful. thanks a tonn!

I had to do the same as well when I was in the choir, and had the same kind of clothes. What I did was wear a blouse (which are not too formal yet not too casual) and i wore some cargo pants (you can get these in a variety of colors)

http://www.mmcareerwear.co.uk/images/news/Elizabeth%20Blouse.jpg

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I was wondering, if you are majoring in Phycology what different fields are there. Also what kind of jobs?



I'll rate high!

There are many fields to get into Psychology. You can become a criminal psychologist, child, teen, adult psychologist. If you're interested in becoming a medical Psychologist (Or a Psychiatrist)you can dagnose and prescribe medications. Also, the more college education you get, the more fields that become available for you.

Here's an awesome website that gives you all kinds of information on Psychology, the fields, and additional information. http://www.library.csi.cuny.edu/~psy/psychfields.htm

If you have any more questions you may e-mail me at xxmcrfan15xx@yahoo.com

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how do i change a firewall to let me download limewire?

i can download it, but when i try to open it and actuall download stuff, a little box pops up and says that a firewall needs to be changed

rate high.

This is a pretty common problem. You will need to open up your firewall settings. You can go to the quicklaunch bar (located in the bottom right corner that has those small icons and it's next to the clock) and rollover to the icons until you find one that says "firewall" or "antivirus".. get to your firewall settings. If you don't have an administrator account, you'll need to get the administrator to turn off the firewall or accept limewire. If you do have the adminstrator account, you can easily change the settings. But it does depend on what kind of firewall or antivirus program you have.

You may e-mail me at xxmcrfan15xx@yahoo.com if you have any more questions.

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I got a bad test grade and I promised my mom this wouldn't happen again this school year. If I get it signed, then I get extra credit and an A. Because of that, I want and need it sighed. Any good ideas on how to tell her without her being like super mad? 13/f

Well calmy tell your mom about it and apoligize. Tell her you may have gotten a bad grade but you have an opportunity to help that grade, and it can raise your grade so it won't have much affect.

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I am 16 years old and im overweight..i weight almost 200lbs. I feel really bad about it and i was wondering if anyone had any dieting tips or anything on how i could loose weight before the summer is over...THANKS!!!

I know just exactly how you feel! I'm overweight, myself, and at times I myself struggle with weight. I tend to ask myself what foods should I eat and what exercise is good enough to get me to rapidly (but safely) lose weight.

The things that helped me lose weight a bit was drinking lots and lots of water! But I always go for the flavored vitamin water. That helps, as well. It's OK if you can't reach that "8 glasses a day" phrase. Just drink a lot of water all throughout the day.

Some vitamins and minerals to help you would be: B6, B12, Selenium, Fiber, Calcium, and stay away from diet pills like Hydroxycut (and the like). Herbal supplements work even better! Try taking ginsing pills. They raise your energy and metabolism making it easier and 'faster' for you to lose weight. They're only a few dollars at the store. But I highly recommend getting the variety packs (the ones that have all kinds of ginsing) like korean or panax ginsing which are the strongest.

And go with your food guide pyramid as much as you can! If you must have caffeine (from drinking soda or coffee) drink water with it, too, which can help prevent from dehydration.

And get at least a half hour to an hour exercise every day. The ones that help me tone my body a little and get me to lose a few pounds pretty quickly was doing crunches. Running also helps, too and even playing sports could help. Also try doing something that you love. You can dance to music, walk your pet (if you have one), and play with your younger sublings (if you have siblings).

Be strict with junk food but not too strict. Don't ever starve yourself or you'll get the urge to eat double the food you can handle later on (anorexia and bulimia can make you do that), and it's OK to have a cookie or two on occasion. Even with getting healthy foods it's also good to get your fat and carbs for energy as well.

I hope this helped you with your question. For further information or advice you may e-mail me at xxmcrfan15xx@yahoo.com

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I'm making a music video for my friend's birthday and i want to have a picture put on the CD i'm giving him. Does anyone know how to do that? Like do you have to request it from a professional CD picture person or something? Or can you somehow do it yourself? I really want to have a design imprinted on the CD so if anyone can help me out it would be really appreciated!!

I need to kind of know really soon if it takes a while to order or something. THANK YOU!

You can actually buy sticker paper to put on a CD at a store. You can buy a pack of them at an inexpensive price, and you can design it right at your home computer. You can use a printer to make a design or you can do it all by hand - whichever you prefer. You can try stores like Circuit City or Target. You can also try looking at a regular grocery store in the home/office supplies aisle.

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What are some good sites for cute layouts for myspace. please give links.
no cleate blog
no whateverlife
or myspace pimper..

thanks n advance && cute advanaters things to please

An awesome Myspace Layout website would be http://www.mygen.co.uk. They offer thousands of pre-made layouts, in a variety of categories like music, art, television, computers/technology, and have many DIV layouts. You may also customize your own layout using an easy step-by-step process. They also offer awesome generators like picture filters (making your pictures look black and white; or xray; blurred; upside down, etc..).

I hope this advice helped you =)

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I know this sounds incredibly stupid, but I am terrified of spiders! Everytime I see one near me, or even up in the wall in my room, I freak. I know this is considered a phobia, but as far as illnesses go...? I feel like when I see one they're on me all over and I have to get it off. Is there anything I can do about this?

I know exactly how you feel! I get the same exact reaction with Spiders as well. They are terrifying, yes. But in your case, it sounds like it is not a phobia - just a minor fear of them. With a Phobia you got to ask yourself, "Is this affecting my every-day life?" or "Does it affect me so much that I have to be far away with them or I'll have a panic attack?" Because that's the symptoms of a Phobia. If you do not get those symptoms, then you probably just have a big fear of them. If you do, try to see a Doctor about it. He/she may offer medication or other options to treat the Phobia.

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Well, 2day my friends decided to tell the guy that i like that i like him, and it totally screwed everything up, because i wanted to do it myself!
Also, he told them that he didnt like me at the momment, so, what the hell is at the momment suposed to mean?
I totally hate myself right now, and feel totally worthless!

Hev

Don't ever think you're worthless and that you hate yourself. Tell your friends how you feel about this situation. Tell them you wanted to tell him you like him. And how disappointing it is for you. And when he said he "didn't like you at the moment", it sounds like he doesn't even like you at all. So to me he sounds like he isn't worth it anyway!

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I really want to quit smoking ciggeretts..
Any ideas on how I can quit without
the patch ?

Tips on how to quit:

1) Read a book - since smoking is done using the mouth, nose, hands, and arms, you would want something that can keep you busy during the urge.

2) Also get a pen or a pencil and write which can also keep you busy.

3) Try your hardest not to use nicotine substitutes - it still keeps you addicted, at some extent, to nicotine which you keep you addicted on it longer, and it'll later be even harder to kick the habit.

4) You can however, use gum or mints that are nicotine free, but use them moderately or wisely. Another reason why this could worsen in some ways is because this can form a new addiction. And this addiction is still bad.

5) No matter what - try your hardest not to smoke a real cigarette. Lighting one up and smoking it can cause you to get another cigarette immediately afterwards and smoke that.

I got most of these tips from this website: http://www.mnwelldir.org/docs/misc/smoke.htm. Visit it; it's fairly detailed.

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I`ve been very interested in wicca for a long time. I was wondering if anyone here new more about wicca or sites I could figure out more about wicca. I am very interested in becoming wiccan

According to Wikipedia.com, "Wicca is primarily a religion, and although its adherents often identify as witches, Wicca and witchcraft are not the same thing.

Wiccans worship a Goddess and a God; they observe the festivals of the eight Sabbats of the year and the full-moon Esbats; and they have a code of ethics that most live by. Wicca is thus generally considered to be distinct from witchcraft, which does not of itself imply any specific religious, ethical or ritual elements, and is practiced in various forms by people of many religions, as well as by atheists.

Wicca does however incorporate a specific form of witchcraft, with particular ritual forms, involving the casting of spells, herbalism, divination and other magic. While witchcraft in general can be for good or evil, Wiccan ethics require that magical activities are limited to good purposes only.

According to Gerald Gardner, who first publicised Wicca, the religion derives from a secret but wide-spread witch-cult of early modern Europe, which incorporated all of the key religious beliefs and ideals and the distinctive ritual structures found in modern Wicca. While this historical interpretation is now much criticised, it makes it difficult to conclusively say whether Wicca is a religious form of witchcraft or a religion incorporating witchcraft.

While most Wiccans practice magic, a few do not, and do not identify as witches. Similarly, many Wiccans, though not all, call themselves Pagans, though the umbrella term Paganism encompasses many faiths that have nothing to do with Wicca or witchcraft."

On Divinity: "It is commonly understood that most Wiccans worship two deities: the Goddess, often asscociated with Gaea or Mother Earth, and her consort the God (sometimes known as the Horned God).

The partnership of the Wiccan Goddess and God is generally viewed as dynamic and complementary, with neither dominating, however in some traditions, such as Dianic Wicca, the Goddess alone is worshipped. In those traditions, the God plays either no role, or a diminished role.

A significant number of Wiccans from various traditions do not claim to be dualist, but practice some form of polytheism, often with particular reference to the Celtic pantheons. They may also be animists, pantheists, or indeed anywhere within the broad spectrum of Neopagan forms of worship."

Elements they believe and practice in:
"These are the elements of nature that symbolize for Wiccans the different places, emotions, objects, and natural energies and forces. For instance, crystals and stones are objects of the element earth, and seashells are objects associated with the element of water. Each of the four cardinal elements (air, fire, water and earth) are commonly assigned a direction, a color, and "creatures." The following list is not true for all traditions or branches of Wicca:

Air: east, yellow, sylphs

Fire: south, red, salamanders

Water: west, blue, undines

Earth: north, green, gnomes

These correspondences may vary among traditions. It is common in the southern hemisphere, for example, to associate the element fire with north (the direction of the equator) and earth with south (the direction of the nearest polar area). Some Wiccan groups also modify the religious calendar to reflect local seasonal changes; for instance, most Southern Hemisphere covens will celebrate Samhain on April 30th and Beltane on October 31st, reflecting the southern hemisphere's autumn and spring seasons."

For more information on the Wiccan religion, visit this website: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wicca#Wicca_as_a_magical_religion. It offeres detailed information on beliefs, history, and tradition.





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This is my story:I have this guy friend who i've known for 3 years but we used to hate each other before we made out and well the other night he came over to my friends house and he brought a friend too and well him and my friend were kinda hooking up but he kissed me and we werer really wasted so i didn't know what i was doing and the next thing i moticed was the lights were out and i was dry humping with him.... does that make me a slut and could i get pregnate from that????

Doing sexual activity with another guy doesn't make you a slut; only if you're doing this deliberately [sober]. which you were intoxicated with alcohol the same night it happened. There is a possibilty of getting pregnant by having outercourse (dry humping; dry sex; frottage). But you're less likely to, unless you actually had close contact with semen during outercourse. But it's still a good idea to get checked for pregnancy. You can never be sure if semen entered inside of you or not. If you had dry sex with him with clothes on however, there's an extreme slight chance of becoming pregnant.

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