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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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i love my girlfriend but i dont want to get dumped i want to tell her the truth and have her forgive me but i dont when to tell her what happened and if i should leave anything out purpusly . WHAT DO I DO NOW?
Yes of course you will want to leave out the details. Tell her you didn't mean for it to happen, it just happened!
im 14/f
ok so i had sex with my boyfriend like last week and some days ago we were both virgins so we had sex we used a condom and we did it like for 8 fast seconds without one then we stoped for good
he said he dident cum but i been having to pee alot and im not sure why he promised me he dident cum he said it took him a while to cuase he went in the bathroom to do so
my friend told me i might have to pee alot becuase my body is dehydrated cuase i got a cold sore after i had sex and she said you can get it from lack of water drinking and you get sick she said it happened to her too she would pee every thirty minutes
and that i agree i never ever drink water it all started when my mom brought can soda\'s i went crazy
im not sure oh i havent got my period but im only one day late and sometimes my period dosent come exactly on a date
but im freakin my self out im becoming paranoid my boyfriend told me he dident cum and that hes 110% sure he dident im not sure as to wut to think we used a condom the whole time except the one 8 seconds things wut should i do?
If you are dehydrated you will go less. The one 8 second thing is enough to get you pregnant. It takes one tiny sperm to fertilize an egg and there are millions in one drop of semen. He may not even be aware that the drop of semen was there.
Go to the Dr. He/she will most likely want to rule out pregnancy first, and a urinary tract infection second.
Hi, I'm doing this project for school. We need to find an apartment and a job--saying that we're 18 and unexperienced. We are to see if we can "make it" on mininum wage based on our needs and such. Anyway, my question is--How much does a one bedroom complex cost? I looked up this place..that charges $425..but is that per week or per month? I can't call them because the number is a 1-877 number and they're closed right now. Soo please help anyway that you can. Thankyou. :)
Most likely it is per Month, most apartment owners aren't going to rent on a week to week tenancy.
Sleeping rooms, boarding houses or hotels would most likely have weekly rates, but not condos or apartments.
see now i every1 at skool is asking me is it tru that u did it with her and i have to say no and tell them that she made it up becuz if my girlfriend found out she would dump me and i love her. so i want 2 stay with her. what do i do? HELP ME!
If the girl is really pregnant, and decides to give birth to the baby there will be DNA testing, which will prove you are the father. If you refuse testing, there can be a court order.
Since you have lied, it's going to be hard to tell the truth, but it's much better to do it now. If your girlfriend is very understanding, and loves you as much as you say perhaps she will forgive you, but the truth better come from you and no others. Most people do not find their life partner in 8th grade, so I am sorry to say that your relationship most likely won't make it anyway. If you two were meant to be, then no matter how terrible the circumstances you will be together either now or later..but it will happen.
Well you see i wanted friends with benifits with this one girl (my neighbor) and i have a girlfriend one night me and my neighbor decide to do it for the lest time becuz i had a girlfriend so i said that this was the last time and we did it i felt reeeeeeeeeely guilt, next thing i know she gets pulled out of skool early and she tells me on the fone that shes at the hospital becuz she thinks shes pregnant and now a rumor is going around skool saying i did it with her and now ve been denying it and telling every one that t isn't true and that she made all of that up. bue now i think she might be pregant. WHAT DO I DO ? i'm only in 8th grade and shes ion 7th. please help me by telling me what to do .
I can't tell you what to do, but I can give you suggestions.
Well, I would say the first thing to do is to ask to meet with your neighbor girl and talk to her in private. Some girls--in fact many girls say they are pregnant as a game to get you and keep you in their life.
So in this case, if you are not sure, you need to ask for proof. Ask her to take a home pregnancy test and show you the results or ask to see a paper from the hospital, or go to a Dr appointment with her and speak with the Dr. If she cannot give you the proof, move on with your life and forget that you ever met this girl.
If in fact she is pregnant by you, you have no other choice but to step up to the plate and do the right thing. Admit that it is true, and tell your girlfriend about it. Your girlfriend may decide to leave you, but that's a chance you have to take.
Now both of you are obviously way to young to raise a child, so with the help of your parents you are going to have to make some decisions about the baby and what to do next.
You will continue to feel guilty until you are able to face and admit to the truth.
you answered my question before.... may i ask more? i have looked stuff up online, but its not really helping me much. my friend got me a test, so im going to take it tomorrow. if i am. i have no idea hat im doing and both my parents would kill me. i didnt mean for this to happen. and i mean. im not being stupid asking if i could stop eating. i dont want to go to a doctor or anyhting.... because well im the gothy cutter girl. im not looking for attention. which is why i dont want to go.... what should i do if i am? no one i know can help me.... no one i trust. who should i tell?
Sure, I know you are not being stupid, you are just scared and confused right now. Since you probably can't drive yourself, you are going to have to find someone that you can trust. A friend, or a friend's older sibling, your boyfriend, his friend...at least one person who can drive and take you to planned parenthood. You will be able to trust what they tell you and they can help. You may eventually want to tell your parents though, it would be a shock yes, but they love you and will want to help you.
Your choices are to have an abortion, give the baby up for adoption or keep the baby and raise him/her yourself. You have to decide what it is that you want. No one else can tell you..or should tell you what to do. Even if you are a "gothy cutter" you can change for the better of your own child if that is what you want bad enough.
I feel kind of bad saying this but i really hate my little brother he is 10 and i am 14/f. He pisses me off soooooo much! LIke he does whatever he can to get me in trouble like if i say like one thing mean he will freak out and tell on me or try to get me off the computer. He also always sits next to me when i am on the computer and reads my e-mails while i am typing them or pretends to be me on instant messenger when i'm not there. He acts like a dork in front of my friends and alwaiz says hi to me in a stupid voice when i am with my friends. When i use the bathroom to put on makeup he gets mad and cries so i have to get out. He punches me all the time (it doesn't rly hurt) and threatends to punch me in the boobs!! That really makes me mad because that is nothing he should be getting near. He also always pretends to hagve a crush on me and that is DISCUSTING and it makes me hate him even more. What am i supposed to do?! I can honsetly say i hate him!! when i try to talk to my parents they tell me i'm over reacting and they tell him to stop AND HE DOESN'T what am i supposed to do? Please help!! I'l rate!!!!!!!!
He thinks it's his job to annoy you, and he is doing a good job at it. He's only doing this because he wants your attention--and he loves you and looks up to you as a big sister.
Remember, with kids, negative attention is better than no attention at all.
Is there any way you could tolerate him long enough to spend a set amount of time doing something he would enjoy once or twice a week? Go to a park, play a video game, cook a meal together, play catch and so on. He might even enjoy planting flowers or rock collecting? I am guessing that if you spend special quality time together some of the annoying behavior will stop.
i was wondering what should i get my soon to be 4 year old neighbor for his birthday? i was thinking about getting him that Planet Frog Habitat for his birthday but besides the fact that it has really low ratings it says for kids ages 6 and up
has anyone tried that and have reviews on that
also i was thinking fish but fish tanks are expensive and only start at $20. and id have to play for all of the supplies and what not
I am looking for a gift that is under $20 and i would prefer to get him something that you can put animals in (fish tank, Planet Frog Habitat, ant catcher etc) and is all inclusive and doesnt require to much work and you can most likely get at wal-mart or target or toys r us (no ebay or overstock.com)
How about a lizard or a hermit crab? Hope you asked the Mom first, because he is obviously too little to care for a pet all alone. Maybe you could make up some coupons to go with the pet such as free "cage cleaning" or "tank cleaning"..now that's one gift I would have loved my kids to have when they went through the exotic pet stage!
Note: We live in the middle of the midwest and hermit crabs are everywhere around here! (In stores that is)
i fuckin hate my life. THere has been a lot of shit lately. My parents, the love of my life moved over 1,000 miles away. and the list goes on and on. whenever i do anything, i feel depressed or hatred towards my life. i wish i was dead all the time. anything to help?
Yes, call the number on this site. It's free.
http://hopeline.com/
You deserve to feel better!
okay, so im 14. and i have a loving boyfriend. we get really close sometimes and well, once we werent protected. my period is late and i cant get a preg test. i think its about 5 weeks late now. i was wondering if i just cut back eating for a week or so, if it would.... stop me from being pregnant? if i am. im not skinny, im like mediumish. not fat. will this help? i have no idea. im so scared....
Going to planned parenthood is good advice, but if you don't have a local planned parenthood you need to see your physician. You should have already had your first exam by this time.
Nothing will stop you from being pregnant if you already are except for an abortion. I am not suggesting this is what you should do. However, if you wait too long, you can't do that either. You may consider giving the baby up for adoption as another option, but either way you still have to EAT and take care of yourself.
This should have happened before you decided to have sex, but anyway you can still educate yourself on pregnancy.
I suggest you do some research online...
Search for "Teen pregnancy" "Early Prenatal Care" "Fetal Development" "Nutrition During Pregnancy"
This is weird for me, I am usually the one answering the questions and dispensing the advice here.
Anyhow, my problem is thus. I have an IUD in place, and such, I am infertile. I already have a 21 month old son, who is a handful.
However, a few months ago, I started getting a yearning to have a child, especially when I see pregnant women. I am on a low income, so I know having another child wouldn't be a good decision at the moment.
In the last month or so, I have started experiencing a few symptoms, such as bloating, morning sickness, acute travel sickness and feeling kicks in my womb. I know I am not pregnant. There is no way I COULD be pregnant. However, these symptoms don't seem to be disappearing. I've visited my GP and my psych, and they are both completly baffled. I've had everything, including IBS problems and infections ruled out. I suffer from bi polar disorder, and I was wondering if this could affecting my thought processes regarding pregnancy.
I've had quite a few people suggest that it could be something called 'phantom pregnancy'. I've heard of this, but I'm not extensively knowledgeable on the subject. Could it possible I'm suffering from this, and if so; how do I get it to go away?
Or is there anything else it could be?
The thing is, you know you are not pregnant, in a phantom pregnancy the person honestly believes they are pregnant no matter what the tests prove.
Your bipolor disorder could affect your thought process, and of course medications can give you side effects, your best bet would be to see a psychotherapist. I am wondering if you might be a good candidate for hypnosis in treating this problem? It would certainly be worth a try.
Best wishes
Hello,
I woke up yesterday morning with an awful itchy white spotty mouth, the spots are tiny, white heads in patches all around the mouth area, extremly itchy, feel really dry when scratch them and came from no where.
I am going make a doctors appointment, but i really would like you advice before
Hope to hear from you before
Some questions your Dr may ask. Have you been on antibiotics or a steroid type medicine lately? Are the sores inside your mouth or just around the outside. Of course only your Dr can provide you with a diagnosis or treatment, but two things that come to mind are "hand-foot and mouth disease" or thrush. Don't just assume they are pimples especially if they cropped up overnight. Don't use any products on the spots until your Dr says you can.
Okay so I'm pretty thin; 5'4 and 110 lbs. I really don't like fat, at all on girls. I think girls should be thin and wear a pants size no bigger than a 3 or 5. Five is pushing it.
All my friends are thin and have nice figures as well, like me but I have a few that don't. I mean, they aren't huge but they wear like a 5 in Abercrombie pants. And those of you that shop there know that their sizes run bigger. When I see them in like a bikini (we're always at my house laying out and stuff) I want to throw up.
I don't know why I feel this way and I feel extremely bad sometimes because in my head, I want them to loose weight.
Now, I assure you that I have never said anything along those lines to them and I NEVEERR would, ever. I know I have some sort of problem with weight so I know better than so say something to them.
Does anyone have any ideas on how I can get over this?
Well as far as something being wrong with you, no most likely it is not serious, and the fact that you don't say anything is good. We can't always control our thoughts, but we can control our mouths. So I think your doing good in that department.
Magazines and TV give most of us the idea that people should fit a certain profile--and have the perfect body. What this does is set up our thinking to find the perfect body more appealing. So really, I believe it is nothing you have done wrong, it's just our culture!
The more you observe the body style and shape of others, the more you will become accustomed to them.
After 20 some years in nursing, to me a body is just a body, it's how the person behaves and their personality that counts, as I am sure you know that already, but you are wondering why you think the way you do.
Well I am here to tell you, there's nothing wrong with "thinking" in fact it may just be that you are more observant than others.
It's okay to pay attention to the different shapes of people..who has a tummy bulge, who has pear shaped hips..and so on. Instead of wanting them to lose weight, picture them in different clothes that would suit their body style better. The more you do this the more you will come to accept the range of bodies out there and be less repulsed. Perhaps you can even develop the skills to become a fashion designer someday. So instead of thinking that something is wrong with you..and I doubt that you need therapy or counseling, turn your form of thinking into something constructive. That's probably the key to your contentment with your friends right now.
Best of luck...and most of all don't worry..you will be fine.(((smiles)))
Hey guys sup?? Well I've been working at my local Dunkin Donuts for the past 4-5 months for extra cash. Recently my boss has been a real dick and given me a real hard time about everything. He even talks behind my back when I'm not at work saying how bad of a worker I am. The ironic thing is that he hasn't fired me yet..He's really rude to me all the time and even curses at his workers, becuse he has a really bad temper. Maybe he really likes me in a sexual way and that's why he doesn't want to fire me...(he's 50 and I'm 16) I really don't know. Anyways last night I even hd a nightmare abut him that he was like yelling and screaming at me. I'm really afraid of him...
I feel like I should quit but what should i use as my excuse?? Should I be truthful or should I make up some bs and leave?? Or should I try to stick it out even though I'm really scared of him?? Please help me..I'm facing the Devil here. lol. Thanks in advance!!
You shouldn't have to work for someone that you are afraid of. It is not right that he cusses and talks behind your back. I doubt that you feel that you can have a meeting with him to attempt to resolve these issues, but is there someone else higher up, or above him that you can go to? If there is, try that first before quitting. If you can find a collegue to back you up and voice the same concerns, that would even be better.
If after two weeks the situation has not improved then you should put in your two week notice.
Just say in your resignation letter that you are leaving to search for a job that fosters a positive working environment and will teach you a new range of skills. This is the truth in a nice way!
my face is oily but whenever i have foundation or concealer on my forehead, it seems like its peeling, like i can see the little skin peeling off.. but its not alot.. what is this and how do i get rid of it? i use mosturizer so i dont know.. and also how can i get rid of the oil on my forehead?
My guess is you might be having an allergic reaction to one of the products you are using on your skin, or perhaps the concealer contains medication to help clear your skin and you are using it too much. If your skin is oily, you probably don't need a moisturizer. A brand that comes to mind that is hypoallergenic is Almay, you can buy cleanser, toner and foundation in that brand. Before you switch to new products don't use anything for several days but plain water, allow your skin to rest and recover from the reaction.
http://www.almay.com/
i have known my this girl ashley since like 1st grade we were like best friends up until the summer going into eigth grade we had so much fun together we never stopped laughing and with my other friends we grew apart but nothing wood ruin are friendship or atleast thats what i thought during the summer going into 8th grade we had a HUGE fight like it was crazy but the weird thing is i dont remember what its about or who started it but it was big so big that its almost then end of 8th grade and even when i walk by her in the hall there is anger in are eyes we havent even talked since the fight and were going to high school next year and i really wanna just be friends again but i dont no what to do i refuse to talk 2 her because then it would be to acword so i need to no what to to 2 be friends with her again other then some cheesey answer like talk it out should i even try to be her friend anymore idk please help!!!
Your friendship may never be the same, but if you want to be friends again and can't talk to her right now, write her a letter. Remember this "The bigger person always forgives first". If she doesn't accept your apology at least you will feel better.
recently my friend had a bonfire with about 17 ppl. and we were all drinking. her dad knew about it though. well the cops came and her dad got a ticket for minors in possession of alcohol. is there an estimate on how much it will be for the ticket?
Each state will be different on this. The fines are usually "up to" a certain amount. The bottom line is the fine will be what the judge determines. I imagine that the court system sees something like this as very serious in nature and will probably give the max fine.
Even though you say the charge given to the father was "Minors in possession" I think that is the charge that could be given to the minors.
It is most likely "Providing a minor with alcohol" If he provided 17 minors alcohol he could get one count for each. This is only an educated guess, but the fine could be $2,000-$3,000 dollars and include jail time.
Didn't know whether to put this under relationships or spiruality, but here it is.
Ok, so i was with this guy for 7 months, we broke up a while back and have jsut got back together.
We're both Christians. We had a greart relationship, and I completely adore him, but one of the problems with it was the whole sex thing. We weren't having sex, we're only 15 and fully intend to save sex for marriage but apparently most guys find it harder to control than girls. We went further than we wanted to quite a few times and regretted it later. We've prayed a lot about the issue, and when we're talking rationally, we both know that less is more. We want to keep as much physical stuff as possible for later on. But that's easier to say than do. It often seemed like he wanted to keep going, and I knew we should stop. It was always me that had to say no. And after a while, it makes you feel bad, constantly having to say no to your boyfriend.
So my question is, now we're back together, ready for a new start and really want to make this relationship work, how can we help ourselves to stay in control and put God first in this area of our relationship?
Sorry it's so long, and thanks (:
I respect what you are attempting to do. It is very difficult, but it is possible to save sex for marriage.
Here's something that might help:
http://www.christiananswers.net/q-eden/edn-g005.html
first i gote know this girl in my uncle home she is one of the son's of thee ministers of the country and we gte konw each othe before but we didn't any hey or handshake just we gote know by an eye know she is one of the city pretty girls i gote fall in love with her ,the only thing i neeed from her is her body ,and i start to make some move and i say one day hey i wanna ur mobil number and she gave me i have called to her and i have lied that we have part and if she can come and she say i think no and the nextweek i have called that i want to talk with her she came but late after 30min and i left and i have called in the next and i told her that i want to meet her and i tell her where she want to meet me and she told me the place near her house but she told me that she come at the time (e.g4pm)but i came (4.15pm)she wasn't there and when i came to the downtown from the place she was hanging with her friend and i don't say hi just i left out but she have tried to say hi anyway what i want to say is ,what can we say form here is she ready with me i'm cute but alttle bite thta i don't want put my self in begging her so plz help me.
If all you need is her body...you better find someone else, apparently she is not that interested.
So my friend told the guy I like that I liked him. But she wrote a note saying it was from me. And he hasn't said anything to me. And now it's just awkward. What should I do?
Another thing, my friend who's a senior has a little brother who's a freshman and i'm a junior and she's like you should take my brother to prom b/c he's the only normal asian at our school. do you think she's kidding, or serious?
Get the guy alone and tell him "I really do like you, but I didn't write the note". Then hand him a note with your phone number on it, say "call me sometime". and leave it at that.
I think your friend is serious. Why would someone say that as a joke?