Hey everyone!
I'm usually that friend everyone goes to for advice. (I'm also the one who gives good advice but doesn't apply it to herself, lol.) Whether I've been in your shoes, or know little of your situation I'll answer honestly and truthfully. I'm here to help.
Some background info for you guys: My parents are divorced. My mother's remarried. I have two older sisters, one with two boys. I'm a Senior in High School.
So go ahead, ask away!
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my mom is a uptight. I'm going into the freakin 8 grade and she has parental controls on the computer only giving me five min a day and barely any websites. she has 3 computers, one of which is a laptop, an iPhone, an ipod, and a n iPad! One computer was supposed to eb for the kids but then she put on all these settings.... the iPod is supposed to be my bday gift but she changed it into her extra phone. i can't do anything. she makes these dumb rules like u can't lock the door in the second bathroom which is my bathroom.i can't wear some clothes i have cause she wants to pick out my outfit when we are going to some places not every wear tho. She yells at me when i break one of her rules or talk to her while she's on her electronics cause she says I'm disgracing her. I get it when she s coin bills but when she is on Facebook?WHAT! it makes me feel like I'm doing something bad all the time cause I'm used to so much yelling.WDID? (link)
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Alright. First of all, you need to let go of that anger. Your mother, no matter what she does currently, gave you life. That is pretty much the most precious gift she could ever give you, so I think a little patience and understanding from you wouldn't be so much to ask.
Yes, I agree that most of what you listed there is a bit unfair. Only five minutes a day? When I was in the 8th grade, my mother let me use my laptop after I was done with my homework and chores. I could use it only until 10 p.m.
So yes, I think giving a time limit is great, because we don't want to turn into coach potatoes but five minutes is a bit exaggerated.
You didn't really clarify what are "all these settings". If you mean she blocked a few websites, or put in some parental controls then I don't see what's the big deal. Are you trying to get into these blocked websites? Is that why it's bothering you? If she blocked out social networks, (facebook, youtube, twitter, etc.) then I could maybe understand your anger.
On locking the second bathroom, my mother doesn't let me lock the bathroom door either and I'm grade 12. She says it's for two reasons: In case I fall down and need help, or in case she needs to use the bathroom while I'm showering. It makes sense, so I don't question it.
Now for the rest of it, here's my real piece of advice to you:
Sit down and talk with your mother. Tell her to put down her electronics because you have something important to say. Tell her you're not a kid anymore and you'd like to be treated as a teenager. Let her know you don't have problems with most of her rules, and that you'll always follow her rules if she's willing to compromise with you. Ask for more time on your computer, tell her you'd like to use YOUR iPod more, maybe comment on unblocking those websites you'd like to visit, etc. Just let her know about how you feel because she's not physchic.
Be polite and respectful when talking to her, you don't wanna set her off. I really hope you get to sit down with her. Good communication goes a long way.
Best of luck!
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Well I started talking to this guy since 4 months!! We talked about anything and any subject! He used to ask me about what I like in a guy and he gets really jealous when I talk about my ex bf or any guy I know! Suddenly he stopped talking to me for 2 days and then he asked me about a picture I had putten as a profile and then he stopped talking again!! What should I do?! (link)
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Hey there!
Well, it seems like he was flirting with you at first. Maybe you waited too long to make a move, or you didn't show any interest back so he's treating you as a friend. If he's not talking to you it's usually because he doesn't know how to talk to you because he thinks you don't like him as more than a friend.
If you do want something with him, let him know. Ask him why he hasn't talked to you lately and that you'd like to talk more often with him. Or just start up a conversation with him. Either way, try to busy yourself with other things than waiting for him to talk to you.
Go out, do chores, talk to other friends, just do something. Waiting around for him to talk to you is just going to make you feel frustrated and angry so don't do that.
Best of luck!
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What does it mean when someone says ''rather risk it all than play it safe' ? Please super curious my ex wrote this and I wanna know what it could mean, but in a relationship context like what can this mean in a love life sort of term .. (link)
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Hey there!
Well, one of the things everyone fears (whether they are in a relationship or want to start one), is rejecting. Maybe your ex meant he'd rather get rejected, or turned down than to have never made a move. People are always in that same battle. So yeah, in my opinion the "risk" he's talking about is rejection. Playing it safe would be not making any move, and maybe losing the opportunity.
Best of luck!
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I'm 52 inches and 60 pounds. No joke. I've only grown an inch, and gained a pound. I was wondering if this is healthy? I eat a lot like 23 snacks beetween meals amd I've never missed a meal in my life. My mom says she was like me, she couldn't gain wait and now she's too fat. I take after my mom's side of the family, and they are all extremely skinny, none of them have a butt, LOL. I also get stomach flu at least once a year, and when I get it it's pretty terrible: I puke everything that touches my mouth, even toast, water, crackers, and even when I haven't eaten anything I puke. That lasts for 3 days. Is this normal? (link)
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About your weight, I'm not sure that's healthy. You're probably underweight. Maybe you have a fast metabolism? You could take some protein shakes or some supplments to gain some weight if you doctor thinks it's okay.
But about that stomach flu. I really was surprised to hear about that, because the same thing happens to me. Annually my stomach begins to just numb out, I lose appetite and then I start puking. I can't sleep, or do anything because after I stop eating, the pain in my stomach is horrible.
I was diagnosed with Severe Acid Reflux. And my doctor thinks I get these annual attacks because my reflux is triggered by strong emotions. Before I began High School I spent three days in the hospital, (after blacking out randomly about three times) because I was scared about getting bullied or not being able to fit in. (Thankfully nothing bad happened, and I even made friends.)
Then I got another attack a few days before I was supposed to go see my Dad, (apparently flying also makes me nervous or excited), and the pain was unbearable. So when important dates like these come up, I take my PrevAcid pills (they are awesome!) about a week before and try to stay calm.
So that "stomach flu" is not normal. I'm not saying it's Acid Reflux, I'm not doctor, but you should really consult your doctor about it.
Best of luck!
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An old boyfriend, lives in another state, texts me, calls me, sends me pics of his kids. He is divorced. It was 30+ years that we didn't talk. Found me on facebook. Could this mean he might want to get back together? We share, on the phone, everything going on in our lives. I am a 55 year old woman. (link)
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Hey there!
Are you married? Single? Divorced?
I think it's sweet that you found an old boyfriend through facebook! It's nice that he's trying to have some communication with you. But as a wise woman, I'm sure you know that after a man gets divorced they tent to go a little coo-coo and just flirt with everyone they can get their hands on. So just be wary.
On the brightside, I think he might want to meet up or maybe catch up with you. Maybe you guys could arrange something like that? Who knows? Maybe you guys will have an awesome time and things can get rolling afterwards.
Best of luck!
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So im having trouble on what to do my ex told me he still likes me nd in a way I still have feelings for him but the problem is and was hes going into the army so I still wanna be friends but he said he wants nothing to do with me because he still has feelings for me and the even bigger problem is I have a bf but to be honest I know my boyfriend and my relationship arnt going to last I mean he barley messages me I always message first what do I do should I message my ex and try to be friends
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Okay first of all, just because your current boyfriend doesn't "message you" doesn't mean your relationship won't work out. The reason it won't work out could be that you still have feelings for an ex.
I think you should be friends, strictly friends, with your ex and tell your boyfriend about your decision. If you want to break up with your boyfriend, please don't do it because he "doesn't message you".
A relationship shouldn't be based on your texts, so maybe you try doing the wooing. Guys liked to be wooed. Maybe if you spent some more time with your current boyfriend, you'll appreciate what you have.
Best of luck!
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I have recently read the hunger games and found them quite gripping and they were so...... constantly suspending. I would like to know if anyone has read any other books similar? I dont like horrors or scary books though!!!!! (link)
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So this is a really old question, but anywho, there's this amazing book series called The Maze Runner by James Dashner. These are my favorite books and it's action-packed from the start. I think it's a pretty likeable series.
Happy reading!
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I'm a 47 yo gf. My 41 yo close friend needed a place to stay, so we decided she would stay with me, paying half the rent. There was a problem w/her paycheck the first month, so I told her I'd cover and she could pay when she could. Well, that time never came. After 3 1/2 months she started seeing someone, and that person started staying over every single night. When I made a remark about her s/o paying rent, our whole relationship went south. 2 wks later she told me she was moving out. Well, she left, but left her stuff here and she still hasn't paid me. And now she hates me. We were great friends before all of this, and this breaks my heart, but I don't think I was wrong. Help? (link)
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Hi!
I think you are totally entitled to asking for the rent money, heck! She should've offered to go 50/50 with all of the things she's using. (Electricity, food, and whatever else she may be using while staying with you.)
I understand she's your friend, but maybe that changed in these last months? If she doesn't respond in say, a few more weeks, just sell all her stuff. If she ever comes back for them, tell her you needed to pay rent.
Best of luck!
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I am a girl and I am 13 years young. I want to be a famous singer&actress, and I have a voice coach and I am about to join a community theatre. Most websites say that I need an agent? And move to California? My parents can't just drop everything and move, and my family is not exactly the rich kind to get me a producer. I want to be in movies as a kid still, not as a 16 or 18 year old. Auditioning for movies isn't really going to work either. My parents aren't SO supportive of me. Is there a way I can get discovered without spending TOO much money and not moving anywhere? (link)
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Hey there sweetie!
Well, moving to LA would be the next step once you're old enough to have your own flat and such. But for now, the only way I know of to get discovered without spending too much is sending a video of your acting abilities to someone of the business.
You could also ask your parents if you could make a Youtube account (always with their permission, let them know they can check out what you're posting) And upload videos of you singing either your own song (that would impress a lot of people) or a good cover of a song you like.
Maybe download the script of a character you really like and get a few friends to act out the other characters and upload another video of you guys acting out a scene.
Youtube is a great way to get recognized, and if you're good, surely someone important will see it.
Best of luck!
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I've been in a relationship with a girl from overseas for almost two years. I'm a 26 y/o guy, and she's 24. She came with me here about a year and a half ago. I treat her well, romance her, buy her roses, bake her cakes, take her out when I have time, tell her that she's beautiful, help her look for work, and a lot with English.
Last year she started acting funny and talking about a guy, and I found out she cheated on me by looking at her phone, and reading her emails (Not saying this was right, just that I did it). I confronted her, but I never really felt she thought what she did was wrong. I promised not to look at her stuff again.
For the half year since then she's been using her phone a ton, and hiding it from me. Lately she has been getting calls and messages from the guy she cheated with on me again, so often that even though she doesn't want me to know, it's inevitable that I would see at some point. She gets pissed off over trivial things, she's stuck to her phone 24/7, we hardly ever have sex anymore, and sometimes I don't feel like she even wants to be here.
So I gave her time, and everything just felt kind of wrong. I broke my promise and checked up on her. She's still cheating on me, and things never really stopped. She tells me she's faithful, nothing has happened, and she loves me, but I know she's lying.
Recently she got offered her dream job in my country, and the contract process is happening fairly quickly. She's staying here on a Partner visa with me, and we live together. If I break up with her, she either has to leave within a month, or become illegal. Apart from that, it will obviously make my life more hellish for that month than it already is living with a person who you know is lying to you with a straight face, while making out with another guy. I know that she is planning to stay with me for the two years it will take for her to gain permanent residence, and then leave me for the guy she is cheating on me with.
In my country, you can only ever sponsor two people to be partners, and if your first partner is granted PR, the length your second one has to wait grows to 5 years, rather than just 2.
I don't know how to handle breaking up with her, and what to say to who, when. I don't want to be taken advantage of, or have my name smeared by this. Breaking up with her before she gets PR will pretty much destroy her whole life as she knows it. She quit her job to come here with me, which is kind of a black spot on her employment history in her home country. I feel angry and upset about what she has done to our relationship, but I'm still battling feelings of love for her, and I don't want to see her broken. I wish everything I know about what's happened could be a lie, but I know it's not, so I have to deal with it.
To complicate things, accepting the job involves costly medical and security checks for her, and may mean we consider moving. I'm at university, and I only just found this out, right before the exam period. I really don't want to think about this before exams, and I definitely don't want to break up with her just before my first exam, so I am putting it off, but I feel so guilty for "supporting" her through the process of getting checks and references for this job that I know will be difficult if not impossible for her to keep.
What would you do?
What should I tell her? The truth? Or that I've fallen out of love, but don't know why? Or that one of her friends told me the truth?
How do I deal with the stress of living together with this oblivious lying girl who tells me she loves me?
What should I do to handle the resistance that I'm likely to have to breaking up with her? She won't want to break up with me, because she wants PR.
Can you tell me some steps and the order in which I might do them?
Any other general advice about the situation that I haven't asked a specific question about is more than welcome.
Thanks in advance.
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Wow. Where to start? First off, I know how difficult a long distance relationship is so congratulations on holding on for that long in the first place!
One question has been bouncing around in my head: did she move in with you the second she stepped in your country? If so, I think you made a grave mistake.
Being in a long distance relationship may be good for awhile, but when you're in person (living together) the story changes. Anything from leaving the top of the tooth paste off, to leaving clothes everywhere and even the side of the bed they choose could make you a bit irritated or angry with your partner.
When she moved, she should've stayed at a hotel/motel (whichever she could afford) for a few days, maybe weeks until she could stay over (maybe a day, then a weekend and so forth) so you could get used to her and vice versa. And dont't say that she couldn't have paid for a hotel/motel because she could've saved up. It's a sacrifice you have to be willing to make once you're in a ldr.
Now, onto your particular case. She's obviously using you. Whether she loved you when she was overseas or not is still up for debate but she's definitely not in love nor does she love you now. She cheated on you after you let her stay in your home? Eat your food? Sleep in your bed? I mean, if she didn't feel the same anymore she should've at least told you.
If you also feel different towards her than just tell her? When you two are alone, tell her to turn her phone off and have a real talk. Talk about how you feel when she cheated, how you feel that she betrayed you after you've helped her so much. Yeah, she might keep lying but maybe if she tries to say she loves you, you can reply with: "Let's be truthful. I don't feel the same way about you and you don't feel the same way about me."
Maybe if you admit to not having feelings for her she'll feel a little more open to saying it too. As for her residence and all the other stuff, maybe I'm just cold hearted but as I see it you have two options:
1- You can be real with each other and let her stay for a little longer while she gets a job and moves out. Let her deal with her own problems, she's a grown woman and it's time she starts acting like it. Give her a date, a month, two months whatever you want and tell her she has to move out by then. You're not going to get cheated on in your face.
2-Kick her out. Tell her you don't love her anymore and let her know that it bothers you that she's been cheating on you as if it were nothing. Tell her she has a few days to get her stuff together and decide what she wants to do. If she wants to move with the dude then so be it, and if she wants to go back so be it as well.
If she doesn't get her dream job, don't fret about it. Worry about YOU, worry about getting YOUR dream job. You did what you could for her,and she didn't appreciate it so it's her loss. You're still young and there's still a lot of women out there that would give a lot for a man like you!
You have to take this girl out of your life, she seems toxic. You focus on your education and don't you dare move anywhere for this girl! She can't even be faithful to you!
Anyway, that's all I have for you. I really hope you take my advice in consideration when you do any big decision with her. Thank you for being so caring even when she doesn't deserve it. Take care and best of luck! *keep me posted!*
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So I'm a girl, and I'm starting to wonder if I'm bi. You see, I notice cute guys on TV, and cute girls on TV and like looking at guys abs amd girls in bikinis. I could imagine myself being with a girl amd boy the thought of kissing a hot member of each sex seems fun. I've never actually dated someone and at the time I'm crushing on a guy. I'm guessing my mom notices my confusion because she is trying to wiggle it out of me. She says she wouldn't mind she just wants to know and not get supprised if I marry a girl. But I don't know how to figure it all out. Also, being bi seems fun u can date anyone u want. (link)
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No, being bi doesn't mean you can date anyone you want. Bisexual people get a lot of hate because they're "indecisive" and people say they just don't know what they want. SO if you're serious about "wanting to explore" then be serious, and know that there are serious consecuences and some people will hold it against you.
Now, there's a lot of studies about women's sexuality. There's actually even more studies about women being bisexual since they are born. Here's a link to a site I found helpful: http://www.livescience.com/37834-women-sexuality-and-alloparenting.html
Anywho, I really think that once in your teens and you start having these kind of thoughts, you should explore. No, I'm not saying go around making out with every girl and guy you find attractive. I'm saying find someone who attracts you and tell them how you feel. Maybe kiss a girl? See how that makes you feel. A little exploring might help you decide what you really want and who you really are.
But don't go fooling around with everyone. Talk to your mom about how you feel, I'm sure she'll say to wait a little bit longer. You might not feel the same in a year or two.
Good luck!
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Several months ago I started seeing this really amazing guy. We are both in college; he is graduating in a few days and moving away for work. His job is 6 hours away (driving), but less than an hour by plane and tickets are very cheap.
He doesn't believe that a long distance relationship will work, and wants to become "just friends" when he moves. His job relocates every 2 years or so and he may eventually return to my city, but I'm scared that he will lose interest in me (as a friend and otherwise) in that time.
What should I do? (link)
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A long distance relationship takes a lot of time, effort, and patience because it is not easy. Try sitting down and explaing all the pros and cons to a long distance relationship. Like not being able to touch, hold hands or kiss. Not being able to talk often(he might be busy with work, and you might be busy with school). If after the talk, he still doesn't want to go for it then you should let him go.
For there to be a relationship, there has to be two people who want to be together. If he thinks that moving away will change things between you two, then maybe you should just move on. Maybe keep in touch as friends. Forcing him to do this could put a strain on any kind of relationship you might want to have with him in the future so good luck!
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I hav this friend last year in 4th grade and she was one of my best friends we made a club with two other girls. The next year one of the girls from our club went to a new school and the other girl was in a different class. We were in the same class and there was a new girl that moved here from Michigan. She was homesick. She also rode the same bus as my friend and she became good friends. Then towards the middle of the year the new girl was comferterble and she was wild and hitting people and stuff like that. My friend started acting like her which was weird becuz she is quiet and clam. Then soon after my friend started hitting people like the new girl. I was so mad I didn't kno what to do. But that's not where it ends. Soon my friend got a boyfriend. Rite after the new girl had one. Then my friend got blonde highlights and everyone started hitting on her. After that I became the back up friend. I now summer I try to tlk to my friend on Facebook but she hasn't been on a lot and we ever she is on she doesnt answer me. I don kno if she's mad at me or Wat but I just want to b friends again. I hope someone can give me some advice on how to get my friend back. Obviously we are girls so I wuld like some girly advice. (link)
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Aw honey something like this happened to me. I know what you're going through. Me and my best bud met in 4th grade but when we got to 7th grade we met to other girls. It all went great until she( the one from fourth grade ) had left the school and started ignoring us. A whole lot of stuff happened and she even went as far as dating an 11 year old, which I always said was dating her so he could show off, her being 14 almost 15. I know that you still want to be her friend, and if it'd been anyone else answering they might have said to go for it, but I don't. As soon as my friend started ignoring me, I did the same. I met new people, people that I thought I'd never talk to, (emo kids, rocker kids, extreme nerds, jocks, etc.) I became popular with everyone, and not in a bad way. I had made more friends and I didn't depend on anyone which was something that made me stronger. Yes, sometimes I feel lonely but doing things a little more independently won't hurt at all, if anything, it'll help you in the future. Don't be afraid to hang with other crowds and pay attention to your business, let her be the other's shadow and do whatever she wants. If she talks to you, good and if she doesn't, even better. Don't waste your time trying to get this girl's attention when I'm sure they're plenty more people who can probably treat you better than she is! If anything, you know where to find me. Best of luck{:
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22/f. I have asked similar questions before, however, I am attempting to ask another, because it isn’t exactly the same. My other questions have dealt with particular instances, this one deals more with the whole issue. Ever since I can remember, no one has ever held my mother accountable for her actions. She could do the worse things possible and everyone will always defend her. I am not even exaggerating. This notion that she does nothing wrong is inside of my family only. When those outside my family see how she treats me, they cannot believe their eyes and get angry and upset at the things that the rest of my family does to me as well.
My mom chooses to be angry with me upon her own personal feelings. “Today, I feel like getting mad.” Not, “I’m upset with you because you hurt me and did something terribly wrong.” For one, my mother has decided to treat me like I am a criminal. She treats anyone who is not “like her” this way. For instance, I am not into fashion. I am into my appearance and I am into cosmetics and into clothing. But not fashion, per se, like runway shows and stuff like that. Because of this, my mother decides to tell me that I am ugly and that I am disgusting. Every day for the past year or so I have heard “you’re disgusting,” because I refuse to wear heels to school. I am 5 feet tall and she calls me a midget. She says “Why don’t you wear heels, you’re a midget!” She does not say this in a joking way, she is serious. When I watch TV in the afternoon, she says “Who does that? You’re so stupid.” She forbid me from watching TV in the house during the day because she says it reminds her of the hospital. So, I go somewhere else in the afternoon so she won’t have to put up with me and she say’s “who watches TV in the afternoon, you’re so stupid!...” Again.
To make matters worse, she looks like an angel next to the rest of my family. My aunt constantly reminds me that I am adopted and should be privileged to be a part of this family (I was adopted when I was a day old), and my grandmother is constantly telling me that I can’t get mad at my mom because her nerves are too bad. Yesterday, she was super angry at me because I went to go watch TV in the afternoon at my boyfriend’s house (with his parents). She criticizes brunettes all the time. I guess she thinks she’s naturally blonde. She says she hates dark hair. My hair is naturally brown and she makes me dye it blonde. She says that brunettes are “on the dark side.” Again… just because it’s what she’s not. Fashion, brown hair, and watching TV in the afternoon. If you don’t have it the way she wants it, apparently you’re a terrible person.
I’m tired of being treated this way only because of my natural hair color, the way I dress, and the activities I choose to participate in, which do not go against the values of my faith or my family. I am tired of my family defending her and not holding her accountable for her actions. If a FIVE YEAR OLD talks that way to another five year old in his/her kindergarten class, it is considered bullying and is disciplined. How can a 53 year old woman not be held accountable for her actions when a five year old can be for the same things? Except, this is far more serious because she KNOWS what she is doing. I told her that I apologized if I mentioned fashion in the wrong regard, but she should apologize to me for the hurtful things she says and she says “fuck you.”
Today is her birthday. I am trying to be humble and a great person. Because of my faith, I have chosen to live in a way that is humble as possible. But, I do not want to spend the day with her and be responsible for her tantrums. Her tantrums are worse than a child. I feel like as far as my family is concerned, my dad is the one who understands. He divorced my mom for different reasons, but mainly, because he was living a double life, which I do not agree with at all. So, it is difficult to go to him with stories of my mom’s wrong doings when he did a very huge one, himself. We all do wrong things and make mistakes, but, this is ongoing. No one is perfect. I have had arguments with my family members, friends, boyfriend, etc., but they are resolved and we all move on. It’s a part of life to learn how to forgive. But, since, this is ongoing, and not pertaining to ONE particular situation, it is very difficult.
I will be graduating from college within the next few months and hope to get a good job and move out of my mom and grandparent’s home. I don’t think I can change them. But, I need help in putting up with them until I move out. Please and thank you for your patience in reading.
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Ignore her. Keep out of her way, avoid her. That's the only way. Act as if she didn't exist. When she says these hurtful things, just ignore her. Block her out. Do you have earphones? Use them. Do your stuff, your chores and if you can spend less time at the house, better. Go out, walk, go to the gym. Do stuff to keep your mind distracted and just act as if she's dead. She'll either be annoyed that she's not hurting you or stressing you out, or she'll see what she's doing wrong. Best of luck! {:
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Hi, I'm a 27 years old woman from India.
I have been married for almost 2 years now and I love my husband very much. Before our marriage, we used to be the best of friends since 5 or 6 years and back then were pretty open to dating or being in relationships with different people. Our families knew about our friendship quite well (no relationship, that happened right before our marriage) and weren't apprehensive about it in any way. But time passed and being in a conservative Indian society, we had to settle down as per our families' wishes individually. Neither of us was okay with the idea of "arranged marriage" (it's like getting married to a complete stranger, for me). So, since we were in the right age, had proper jobs and shared same religions as well, we decided that we should rather get married. And that's how we fell in a relationship and got married within 4 months of it.
The real problem starts now. We only got intimate after we got married. My first few months with him were just magical. We fell head over heels in love with each other. It was all just like it is in a movie! But the catch was that we used to have too much of sex.. All through the night till sleep could come over us and in between the time after waking up and before leaving for work. And sundays or dayoffs were spent together in movies/lunches or entirely in the bedroom. But after about an year of this wild intimacy, I started feeling exhausted. He still wants me to spend all of my time excluding my office hours with him. Be it intimately or socially. I had to cut off many of my social contacts and gatherings for him. He gets restless if by any chance I get late in returning back home and gets really mad at me when I refuse to make love to him. It's really hard to get him back in his normal temperament. I have to let him have his way in the end. It's not that my love has reduced for him or anything, it's just that I'm really tired and energy-drained after all day's work. I even feel that my health has deteriorated in the past few months. And then there are my parents and in-laws, they want us to have a baby now as it's already high time we had one. How would I carry a baby in me when I am not able to carry my own self?
Moreover, why has my husband started behaving this way? He wasn't like this when we were friends. I though things would hardly be different once we got married. What can I do to root out his insecurities? I need to mellow him down real bad, though without hurting him in any way. I love him too much to leave him or anything of that sort, so that's not the solution. I want to be with him and even have kids with him. It's just that, for now, I want to re-energize my body and cleanse my mind. But how to do that, I have no idea. (link)
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I think what you need is a well deserved rest. Maybe a month away from him? But before you do anything, let him know how you feel. Tell him that you need some time, a breather as some people say. Be open with him, if he wants so much intimacy it's probably either to satisfy himself or because he wants to satisfy you. Either way, let him know your feelings and if nothing changes, take a break. Best of luck! {:
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Hi so I really really like this guy. He is crazy hot and is really sweet but he hardly ever notices me. I really want him to notice me so we can start getting to notice eachother but we are both the real quiet type and he is always in a big group. Just never talking that is. So how do I get him to notice me and start talking To me with freaking him out?please help!!
Ps I'm thirteen and don't tell me I'm too young cause I've had three boyfriends since I was 11. I'm obviously female and I have the ability to change my personality to suit if need be. (link)
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I myself am kind of shy. But when that outburst of confidence comes, I do not hide it. I advise you do the same. Keep it simple. Smile from across the room, when you have the chance say hi and so forth. Once you feel confident and secure enough go to him. Yes i know he's in a big group and you might not be accepted but your after him, not his friends. It doesn't hurt to be friendly, but don't worry if they don't like you. Be nice and be fun. Sit down at their table, do stuff that involves him and talk to him! Just standing there won't make a conversation. Example, Say your all at lunch. You see him with his friends at their table. Go over and say, "Hey you guys mind me sitting here? I don't want to sit alone ." Even if there's empty tables, I'm sure they won't point it out. Try to sit as close as possible and make conversation with everyone. Then talk to him. Ask everyone their names and then you can talk about what they like to do and he'll be forced to do the same. It may sound scary, everyone's scared of rejection but if you don't try you'll never know! And don't change for anyone, being yourself is one of the best things to do. Best of luck! {:
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I have this very pesky situation at home.My sister is friends with a girl who I cannot stand.I just don't like her and I cannot help i.She's not a bad person,though,but she's coming home every f.. day and sometimes she spends the whole day staying home using the bathroom,having breakfast,dinner and doing everything just like our house was hers as well.She's soooooooo annoying and to make matters even worse,my mum likes her and so does my brother.She's become like my boogeyman my nightmare because I think that she's being really disrepectful and obnoxious.I don't know what to do;I want my house to be respected but I don't have the support of anybody.I need help,I need to know how to deal with this situation.I won't let this girl do what she likes,but I don't know how to proceed.Would anyone guide me?Thanks! (link)
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I think talking to your mom or Dad if he lives with you, would be the smartest thing to do. Confronting your siblings or the girl herself would be asking for trouble. Sit down with the only people who can decide who comes and goes in your house, your parents. Tell them how you feel and that you'd like for her visits to be more limited. Best of luck! {:
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I am with this guy I love him so much! My mum knows I like him but she doesn't know That I am with him Shall I tell her I think she would go crazy! Thank you. (link)
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Tell her. It's best you keep a healthy communication between your mother and you. Best of luck! {:
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. We are happy together and it has been a great relationship. There is only one problem. My bestfriend that I have been bestfriends with for years dosen't act very supportive of our relationship. She likes my boyfriend and we have all hung out together before but whenever I have exciting news she just says "oh cool" without any real response. It makes me upset because we are also friends with this other girl lauren. Lauren and her boyfriend have been dating for about a year now and my bestfriend always talks about how cute they are, saying how he is the best boyfriend ever, liking their pictures on facebook together, when lauren and her boyfriend fight all the time. Call me jealous, but I just don't understand my bestfriend is acting this way and not being supportive of my boyfriend and I. Maybe it's because she has been single for 2 years now? I'm not really sure what to do about this situation. I don't want to tell her all this because I feel that it's childish. I'm just not sure what to do. I want the love and support for my bestfriend with the guy that I love and someday might marry. (link)
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Well if she likes him it's obvious that she won't be supportive. You're so worried with getting your best friends support that you don't see what she's going through, do you? She's stuck between being a good best friend to you and nursing her own hurt ego. She has to focus on forgetting him and you have to focus on putting yourself in her shoes. If she was with the guy you like, how would you feel? How would you react when she said good news about him? How would you feel if she said how happy they are? You see, she must be very confused and hurt right now. You have to give it time. Maybe she talks about the other couple because, as mean as it sounds, it's the only couple she can stand. And yes, she may be dying of jealousy right now but if you're truly her best friend you should sit her down and talk to her about it and help her get over your boyfriend. Don't let a guy, no matter how much he means to you, break a friendship. Best of luck! {:
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okay so I'm a 14 year old girl. A guy and i have had a thing for each other since 6th grade. recently things have been getting a lot more "relationship status". We talk 24/7 via text and he is always saying how he wants to hang out with me, so we're going on a double date with my friend to the movies but i dont know if this is a good idea mainly because the other day i was driving with my sisters past his house (we're like neighbors but we live out in the county so a mile or two apart) and a girl that "gets around" was riding on the back of his quad with him and hung out with him all day. this has happened before but every time i ask him he always says that they're just firends and that he likes me. plus he always says super sweet things to me via text. Also i think that one of the main reasons why i dont just stop talking to him is because i see how happy my sisters are with their boyfriends and i want what they have... I'll take any advice :) thank you (link)
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Well I say give it a chance. He might just be saying the truth. Instead of seeing her as a threat, tell him you want to meet her. Befriend her and even if she's a go-around girl, maybe you'll find something else. You never know. If he sees that you are trying to be friends with his friends, he'll be happy and you'll be more relaxed. Don't exclude yourself from things that he might want to experience with you. Just put yourself in his shoes, if you hang out with a guy friend and your crush starts to doubt you, how would you feel? If your crush befriended your guy friend and passes more time with both of you, how would you feel? Think about it. Best of luck! {:
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