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uptight mom
my mom is a uptight. I'm going into the freakin 8 grade and she has parental controls on the computer only giving me five min a day and barely any websites. she has 3 computers, one of which is a laptop, an iPhone, an ipod, and a n iPad! One computer was supposed to eb for the kids but then she put on all these settings.... the iPod is supposed to be my bday gift but she changed it into her extra phone. i can't do anything. she makes these dumb rules like u can't lock the door in the second bathroom which is my bathroom.i can't wear some clothes i have cause she wants to pick out my outfit when we are going to some places not every wear tho. She yells at me when i break one of her rules or talk to her while she's on her electronics cause she says I'm disgracing her. I get it when she s coin bills but when she is on Facebook?WHAT! it makes me feel like I'm doing something bad all the time cause I'm used to so much yelling.WDID?
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Ouch! My mamma did so weirdo things when I was in 8th grade too!!
5 minutes is punishment! Suggest to your mum about a computer scheduele! Like maybe 1 hour a day from 5:00 pm-6:00 pm
If it's possible,check the possibilty of getting a used No-Contract phone,like StraightTalk.They can give you unlimted everything for a super awesome deal! Check with your parents if that will be okay!
Also,maybe if youre at the store,sneakily as your dad or mom about GoogleChrome small Laptops,they are only a couple hundred dollars and very awesome and simple to use!
I hope those ideas work!
Keep your head up!
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All of this sounds very normal. For both of you.
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Alright. First of all, you need to let go of that anger. Your mother, no matter what she does currently, gave you life. That is pretty much the most precious gift she could ever give you, so I think a little patience and understanding from you wouldn't be so much to ask.
Yes, I agree that most of what you listed there is a bit unfair. Only five minutes a day? When I was in the 8th grade, my mother let me use my laptop after I was done with my homework and chores. I could use it only until 10 p.m.
So yes, I think giving a time limit is great, because we don't want to turn into coach potatoes but five minutes is a bit exaggerated.
You didn't really clarify what are "all these settings". If you mean she blocked a few websites, or put in some parental controls then I don't see what's the big deal. Are you trying to get into these blocked websites? Is that why it's bothering you? If she blocked out social networks, (facebook, youtube, twitter, etc.) then I could maybe understand your anger.
On locking the second bathroom, my mother doesn't let me lock the bathroom door either and I'm grade 12. She says it's for two reasons: In case I fall down and need help, or in case she needs to use the bathroom while I'm showering. It makes sense, so I don't question it.
Now for the rest of it, here's my real piece of advice to you:
Sit down and talk with your mother. Tell her to put down her electronics because you have something important to say. Tell her you're not a kid anymore and you'd like to be treated as a teenager. Let her know you don't have problems with most of her rules, and that you'll always follow her rules if she's willing to compromise with you. Ask for more time on your computer, tell her you'd like to use YOUR iPod more, maybe comment on unblocking those websites you'd like to visit, etc. Just let her know about how you feel because she's not physchic.
Be polite and respectful when talking to her, you don't wanna set her off. I really hope you get to sit down with her. Good communication goes a long way.
Best of luck!
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