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i wanna figure everything out I don't know where to start.
So I'm a girl, and I'm starting to wonder if I'm bi. You see, I notice cute guys on TV, and cute girls on TV and like looking at guys abs amd girls in bikinis. I could imagine myself being with a girl amd boy the thought of kissing a hot member of each sex seems fun. I've never actually dated someone and at the time I'm crushing on a guy. I'm guessing my mom notices my confusion because she is trying to wiggle it out of me. She says she wouldn't mind she just wants to know and not get supprised if I marry a girl. But I don't know how to figure it all out. Also, being bi seems fun u can date anyone u want.
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There is nothing wrong with being bisexual. The only problem with being bisexual is while in high school if the other kids were to find out you would be ostracized by your classmates, teased and possibly hurt as they would not understand. College it would be different as Bisexuality is somewhat rampant especially for women. Mostly because it is safer, more convenient and the fact that girls usually outnumber boys. Once college is over most all girls go back to being straight.
Now as for actually being bi. Since you have not given your age I will assume you are a young teenager in the early throes of puberty. If so it is completely normal to be wondering about your sexuality; which I believe is what you are experiencing at the moment. If you were bi you would have known this long before puberty hit you.
Both boys and girls go through a phase during puberty where they wonder and explore their sexuality. During this phase the may explore have some form of sex with the same sex. This is all totally normal and part of the teenagers passage into becoming an adult.
My advice is enjoy who you are today. Explore your sexuality and when the time comes you will know who you are sexually.
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No, being bi doesn't mean you can date anyone you want. Bisexual people get a lot of hate because they're "indecisive" and people say they just don't know what they want. SO if you're serious about "wanting to explore" then be serious, and know that there are serious consecuences and some people will hold it against you.
Now, there's a lot of studies about women's sexuality. There's actually even more studies about women being bisexual since they are born. Here's a link to a site I found helpful: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Anywho, I really think that once in your teens and you start having these kind of thoughts, you should explore. No, I'm not saying go around making out with every girl and guy you find attractive. I'm saying find someone who attracts you and tell them how you feel. Maybe kiss a girl? See how that makes you feel. A little exploring might help you decide what you really want and who you really are.
But don't go fooling around with everyone. Talk to your mom about how you feel, I'm sure she'll say to wait a little bit longer. You might not feel the same in a year or two.
Good luck!
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