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okay i know i shouldnt even be thinking about this or worrying or complaining...but me and my ex bf broke up about 8 months ago, im not quite over him yet...but i broke up with him cause he cheated on me...and i just recently heard that hes been hanging out alot with that girl latly...it really hurts..do u guys have ne advice to not think about it, or how not to get so sad over it?? please dont say, its been 8 months get over it! cause its harder than u think....thanks

Wow this was exactly me a few years back. I was going out w/ this guy for like 8 months and then i thought he was cheating on me so i dumped him. It really sucked and i felt horrible. He and this girl started dating the day AFTER i dumped him which confirmed my suspicions. I was completely devastated for months and he'd still call just to talk and i'd see him around and it would just break my heart every time. Then i met someone else and everything completely changed. I actualy hate my ex-boyfriend now for messing up my life for as long as he did and i'm the happiest now that i've ever been.

So you need to get out there and find someone new!

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Hi,
Maybe u guys might think i am stupid or ignorant but right now i am really worried.
I never have had sex, but did indulge into foreplay with my bf.
Yesterday though, my bf rubbed his penis on the surface of my vagina (till he could ejaculate)but he didnt ejaculate near my vagina, could this cause me to be pregnant?
Need some advice....

In my opinion: no.
But i could be wrong. It all has to do if he pre-came and if pre-cum holds sperm. There are so many different logics that people have and it's really confusing. But personaly i don't think that you could be pregnant if he didn't ENTER your vagina and he didn't ejaculate NEAR your vagina, you should be all set. And thanks to a little thing called ovulation, you have even less chance of being pregnant because you only ovulate a few days a month.

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Alright...So, I've always been the rebel type. Stayed out late...never did what I was told. I couldnt WAIT til I was 18 and could do whatever I wanted. You know the type. As my 18th birthday is coming up...i've felt completely different. It's like I dont want to grow up. Its not that I dont want to deal with the "real world"...its just that I dont want to be grown up? lol Anyone else going thru this??

I was sorta the same way. I used to stay out late and party alot when i was younger. It was a blast and i couldn't wait to be 19 to be able to drink legally (Canada). Then when i turned 18 i felt so much more grown up and partying wasn't as much fun as it used to be. I think its because my parents gave me so much more freedom. I was an adult and i could do what i wanted. When i was a kid i could always get in trouble if my parents found out the things i did. Then when i turned 19 and could legally drink and go to clubs, it wasn't as appealing. I hardly ever wanna go out now. It's weird and sometimes it sucks but i guess that's just growing up.

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Me and my bf have been together for 7 months. Hes going to uni in at the beginning of october, so hes moving.
Hes one of these guys that can get any girl he wants but Im a lot more quieter. Im kinda worried about the whole trust thing.
I know he hasnt done anything in the last 7 months coz we've been together practically all the time.
Recently I found evidence that he contacted his x-gf last month. They got really close in the short time they were together. They only broke up coz she had to move. He was saying stuff like I miss your gorgeous face, call me when you are in the area etc. She practically said the same stuff.
I didnt say anything to him but I hinted it to him a little bit. He caught on but denied ever contacting her. I just left it.
Hes a really nice guy. He always puts me first and has done so much for me.
I really want to trust him but theres just something in me thats just waiting for something bad to happen.
I know long distance realtionships aren't meant to work, but hes going to come home sometimes and im going to go and see him.
Judging from what you have read, do I have something to worry about when he goes?

18/f

FALSE: long distance realtionships aren't meant to work

I've been w/ my boyfriend for almost 2.5 years and we live more than an away apart. We only see each other on weekends, more in the summer. We have the best relationship ever so LD relationships DO work.

The main thing is to trust him. I would have been pissed if i would have found out about my boyfriend talking to his ex like that but until he actualy DOES something, you can't fully accuse him. If you get suspicious and jealous he'll get pissed. If you really want this relationship to work you've gotta trust him.

I have PLENTY of girl friends who are off to university and have boyfriends at home or another university. They're relationships are great so i'm sure yours will be too!

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Hey i got an interview in an 2 hours i need some last minute advice can anyone help me out???if its helps its going to be an interview for coldstone creamery (its an ice cream place like a more expensive one)

Ooh i worked at an ice cream place for 3 years! It's fun but trust me...you won't wanna eat ice cream ever again after a few months!
Just be confident and be sure of yourself. You have to make them believe that you're the best for the job and to do so YOU have to believe it yourself! Good luck!

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okay well i've always told myself that i'm going to wait until marriage before i have sex... but now that i'm older and in highschool i've faced reality. and i'm not gonna kid myself. if i'm ready to have sex, i'm going to. of course i'm gonna wait for the guy i love, but still. everyone always says "wait til marriage" but in reality WHO REALLY DOES? and even if i have sex with a guy and we break up and regret it, that doesnt mean i'm gonna be depressed for the rest of my life would it? so whats the big deal? who agrees.

I totaly agree w/ you. I never told myself i was going to wait till marriage...but i did tell myself I was going to wait till LOVE. I lost my virginity when i was 16 to my boyfriend and almost 2.5 years later...we're still together and as happy as ever. Even if we would have broken up shortly after having sex...i would have been heartbroken but i wouldn't have regretted it one bit.

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ok like all my friends ave done something wit a guy like sexual n i really havent lke sometimes i really want to do something more wit a guy but my longest relationship was like a month so i ddint do anyuhting like i odnt like this kid too much but hes really sexually active and i wanna like do something wit him but i dunno how to do anhting and i dont wanna embarress myself im only 15 but time is running out and im still here wihtout sex lol

First off...it's okay to not have done anything sexual w/ a guy at 15. Time isn't running out...you've still got years and years ahead of you for stuff like that. I personaly only started being sexualy active when i was 16...and i think that was early. Altho at the time i thought i was such a loser but now i see that it was just normal.

If you don't really like the guy, why would you do stuff w/ him? Sorry but that's dumb. You'll be labeled a slut. Save yourself for someone you really love...you'll be happy you did.

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I really wanna hook up with my friend but he's 18 and he thinks I'm 16-17 even though I'm not even 15 yet. Is that illegal? (to hook up with someone 18 and have them not know your real age?)

I would say yes. I think the law is that anyone who is over 18 is legal and if that person has sex w/ anyone under 18, it's against the law. It's not really illegal to lie about your age like that but it's wrong.

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well my hair is like a bit past my shoulders and its kinda frizzy or like idk it doesnt stay straight and isnt very smooth/silky... or like it will always dry out when I dont blowdry it or itll just kinda go different ways at the end even when I do. I dont know what to do about it if you could help that'd be great. thanks :-)

my hair`s kind of the same way...
You should get some smoothing serum and blow-dry it when you wanna get it really straight and sleek. Also, when you blow-dry, use a paddle brush, it pulls the hair more.
I personaly use Brilliant Brunette`s Sleek product and i find it works great!
You could also get a good straightening iron but i find the only ones that work really well are Ceramic ones which cost around 1OO$.

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I'm really attracted to my friend. Hes 17 years old and is a total hottie. I really would love to spend the rest of my life with him. He gives me chills down my spine to see him happy and when hes sad it kills me ... literaly. The only thing is, that is stopping me from being with him, is my religion. In my religion it is against my code to have sex with another male. What do you think i should do? I really want to be with him and have sex with him but when i do i feel bad... help please. im an 18 year old male. Weve known each other for 5 years now. please help.

Hmm this is tough. It all depends on weither you want to choose religion or happiness. Personaly, i`m not a religious person so i`d go w/ happiness but it all depends on where you stand.

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Ive been goin out wit muh b/f for almost 2 weeks now but we knew eachother like 3 weeks before that and we were kinda close before he asked me out. Well a couple nights ago muh friend talked to him on the phone and they got on the subject of sex n all that. Now I am 15 goin on 16 in 3 months and hes 17(senior) goin on 18 at the end of sept.Well they were talkin and now hes really into wantin to do shit. Before we juss chilled n all we did was makeout and still do.I mean hes not pushin me to do anything I dont wanna but I did tell him I would have sex wit him but not now ya know?! But yeah I wanna but I dont know if Im ready or not. I like him alot and I can see my self bein wit him for sometime now. I have talked to some of my friends that arent virgins and about like when its ur first time n all that. Im juss scared about like the consequences and of it hurtin or somethin??.. Can someone PLEASEEE gimmie advice worth taking..Thankyou:)

DOn't do it. Obviously you're not ready. If you say : "But yeah I wanna but I dont know if Im ready or not." or "Im juss scared about like the consequences and of it hurtin or somethin?" you're NOT READY!

You haven't known this guy long enough either. I mean, you should at least get to know him more before you do something this serious.

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If a guy wanted to go down on me should I let him? I mean girls say it feels good n everything but I dunno. I mean I know im clean down there but DOWN THERE isnt the best lookin and juss yeah down there. I mean u cum and what if it starts to smell or somethin or I dunno.. Juss thinkin bout a guy doin that..Doesnt it taste BADD I mean why would a guy wanna..??

Most guys actualy love going down on a girl...even tho it's not that pritty and might not taste the greatest. If your guy wants to do it...let him go right ahead cause it rocks!

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How long does a girl have her period? like how many days?

It all depends. When you're a teenager you could have your period for 3 day or 2 weeks. It's different for everyone so don't compare you're period w/ your friends because you'll think you're abnormal. With time and as your body grows you're period should last between 5-7 days.

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OK...i noticed this horrible odor and after awhile i discovered it was coming from my vagina! Ughh its disgusting. I know "they say" it smells down there if you eat certain foods like meat...i had a turkey sandwhich for dinner..could that be it? or could i have some kind of infection? I really dont wanna be in school and have people notice the odor ...wat can i do to conceal it / get rid of it? Any help is good help..thanks

It could be an infection. I'd say talk to a doctor about it...maybe you need antibiotics or something. I'm not sure of ways to hide or conceal...i'd go straight to a doctor.

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Hey I'm 14/m and i still haven't ever kissed a girl outside my family.... I feel kinda out of place here because I'm already in high school and ive never kissed.... is there something wrong with me?

I've gotta admit this...i didn't kiss a guy until i was 16. Now i was immensly popular, had tons of boyfriends and i KNOW i'm attractive (i think so and many people have told me). I didn't know if it was just ME doing something wrong or what but it didn't happen until i was 16. It's just how it goes...it's different for everyone...and don't rush into it. Kissing means relationships and relationships mean problems and fights. Enjoy your youth while you can!!! Don't rush into things...everything will fall into place when it's supposed to!

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I like this guy named Ben and hes really really hott and nice and I talk to him online like everyday and I met him at a highschool game and I asked him if he wanted to go to homecoming and he said He MIGHT ask me Is he going to or not ? Cause he said it in a happy way but I dunno help me

Ugh guys are SO hard to read. You never know if they're REALLY gonna do things or not. Personaly i don't think GUYS even know what they want. They don't think of homecomming as something as important as girls do. He may just be feeling you out to get to know you better or he may be keeping his option open for a bit longer.

I can't tell you if he's gonna ask or not...just don't pressure him and keep other options in mind in case he doesn't ask!

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I really like this guy I met him the first day of school when him and all his friends came up to me to tell me I was hott and he was just standing there so I talked to him its been 13 days since we met but I feel like its been more then that anywayz Today we were hugging alot and holding hands I was hugging him when someone said AWW u guys are so cute U should go out So i said ok I will then he said NO she doesnt want to SO everyone was like u just missed a big huge chance to ask her out then all of a sudden hes like I have a girlfriend I cant WHy didnt he tell me sooner and what should I do about this?

To me he sounds nervous and insecure about the situation. Guys don't like being put on the spot like that and he just freaked for a minute. My advice is talk to him alone, either in person or on the phone and talk about where this relationship is. Obviously if he was hugging you and such, he likes you. He was put on the spot and didn't know how to react. Talk to him one on one and you'll get the real scoop.

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Ok, im 7ft tall, and of course a guy. It seems like every time i approach a girl shes always so afraid of me. She never wants to talk to me and hold a convo. w/ me. When people do talk to me, they always ask how tall i am, then sit and stare. Why are girls so afraid of me? and how do you suggest i cure this problem, and maybe advise on how to keep the convo going w/o it dropping off at how big my feet are.

I personaly LIKE tall guys! It all has to do w/ people's preferences and someday you'll meet a guy who, like me, likes tall guys. I'm sure you have preferences in girls...and it's the same way around. If these people make you feel badly about yourself, drop 'em cause you don't need them.

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