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Me and my bf have been together for 7 months. Hes going to uni in at the beginning of october, so hes moving.
Hes one of these guys that can get any girl he wants but Im a lot more quieter. Im kinda worried about the whole trust thing.
I know he hasnt done anything in the last 7 months coz we've been together practically all the time.
Recently I found evidence that he contacted his x-gf last month. They got really close in the short time they were together. They only broke up coz she had to move. He was saying stuff like I miss your gorgeous face, call me when you are in the area etc. She practically said the same stuff.
I didnt say anything to him but I hinted it to him a little bit. He caught on but denied ever contacting her. I just left it.
Hes a really nice guy. He always puts me first and has done so much for me.
I really want to trust him but theres just something in me thats just waiting for something bad to happen.
I know long distance realtionships aren't meant to work, but hes going to come home sometimes and im going to go and see him.
Judging from what you have read, do I have something to worry about when he goes?
18/f
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Hey, if you really want your relationship to work, then you have nothing to worry about. Because all you have to do is just work harder to trust him; that's just how a relationship grows. If you don't learn how to trust him, 'n you stay jealous 'n suspicious..then it will most definately not work out.It'll just piss him off. My friend got suspicious 'n started to ask her boyfriend all these questions to put him in the spotlight, 'n he got so pissed that he called quits.Hope I helped!
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Look, if you trust him and you really want this relationship to work then you CAN and you WILL make it. If there is no trust, there is no relationship, that's what my friend Susie always says. If you don't think you can trust the guy then you have to end it, it's not fair on him if you can't trust him.
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FALSE: long distance realtionships aren't meant to work
I've been w/ my boyfriend for almost 2.5 years and we live more than an away apart. We only see each other on weekends, more in the summer. We have the best relationship ever so LD relationships DO work.
The main thing is to trust him. I would have been pissed if i would have found out about my boyfriend talking to his ex like that but until he actualy DOES something, you can't fully accuse him. If you get suspicious and jealous he'll get pissed. If you really want this relationship to work you've gotta trust him.
I have PLENTY of girl friends who are off to university and have boyfriends at home or another university. They're relationships are great so i'm sure yours will be too!
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To make a long distance relationship work, you need to have trust and good communication. From what I have read, I feel your relationship is lacking both. You already know he is lying to you by denying that he talked to his ex-girlfriend. What is to stop him from lying again. Yes, you do have something to worry about.
You must at least communicate your worries fully with your boyfriend before he leaves for school. Also talk about where you see your relationship going, and how you are going to handle being apart. These are importaint things to consider if want to keep the relationship going.
However to expect a college boy, or girl for that matter to stay faithful to one person for 4 years of college is pretty unrealistic. I think you may need to prepare for a seperation sometime in the future.
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Well just make sure that he is really worth your time because you never really know whats going on when you arent around, and i dont mean go getting all suspicious and stuff, but a relationship is all about trust and love and if you feel you have some reason to not trust him then maybe you should take a break for awhile and see if he comes back to you or he goes back to his ex girlfriend... or maybe try and see how the whole long distance thing is working out for you and if you arent liking it then just end it but definitely stay friends... Long distance is VERY hard, i'd know... you just gotta try your hardest to keep positive thoughts in your head...
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i dont think you do unless she is in iowa as well...but i would do further infestigating if you really feel that something might happen...and your right long distantr relationships are hard to keep going but if you guys care enough about each other then maybe yours will work...
JesusFreak
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