ok im an 18/f.. whenever my boyfriend and i get in arguements i start screaming and cussing at him when im really mad. i usually feel bad about it later cuz i can be so mean.. but i cant calm myself down when i need to. when im really pissed off i dont think about it, i just start yelling. sometimes i feel like its the only way i can get him to listen even though i know it only makes things worse.. what should i do to stop doing this?
Two words. Anger management. Everyone needs a little.
Don't listen to people who think you're a pyscho. A lot of the doctors who teach how to control your anger really know what they're doing and they probably can help you. If your boyfriend already dealed with all your current bullshit, he'll probably stick through with you through your conseling (sorry if i didnt spell it right). I'm not trying to make you feel bad because believe me I went through this too.
Good luck!
Jacki
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Okay.. so me and my boy friend have been dating for 8 months ! Well just last week we were looking at his digital camera and a picture poped up and he was like oh look heres when they had a stripper come to my dads birthday ! Im Like WHAT ? so i didn't say anything until we got home well when i did hes like its just a joke come on i mean she was ugly and she only danced in front of everyone else ! I was like ok and i let it go away well then today i was looking thru the pictures and i seen one of her dancing all over him !! i didn't tell him i saw it but now its all i can think about i really love him what should i do !
That sucks! Hes probably cheating on you. Break up with him before he makes a fool of you. I know you think you love him but dont hurt yourself. The problem is only going to get worse. Theres only one guy out there for you and cleary hes not the one.
Trust my advice and break up with him before he breaks your heart. If you dont do it soon, you could get really sick over this and we dont want that.
Good luck with your problem sweetheart...
Jacki
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Ok, this guy didn't kno what I looked like and my friend pointed me out to him and he still talked to me on AIM, and then I asked him if he saw what I looked like and he said "No I forgot" and then later on another day I asked him "so do u remember what I look like know?" and he said "Yeah I remember now" and then he started talking to me less and less. He never said I was ugly or anything, and he's the type of person to say if ur ugly or not. He didn't say anything. I'm confused! Why is he being this way?!
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Life can be in a pickle sometimes. Same things happening to me! However, it doesnt mean he thinks you're ugly! My suggestion is talk to him in person more. If he starts to back away in person then he might not want to be friends as much. Dont judge anyone about how they act on AIM because you cant see their faces or read their minds on their. All you have is the text on your computer. If he starts to back away from you, dont be upset. There are many fish in sea and only one guy in the world for you. If youre only talking to him online, cleary you dont know him that well and he could really be a jerk! Thats the problem with talking to people over the internet.
Good luck!
Jacki
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I know this is going to sound like a stupid high school crush, but thats what it is i guess, this guy said that he liked me and he asked me out. At the time i didnt like him, i did about a year ago but since we had no classes together and i barely saw him. Now over the past few weeks ive started seeing him in the halls and beginning to like him more. I am very shy unless im with my closest friends and have never told anyone to their face that i like them.I want to know if i shud just wait it out and let it, like all my crushes, slowly fade away or should i tell him how it is?
Tell him. If he had the nerve to ask you out once before, he must have liked you. If he says no, don't be crushed. Don't ever cry about anything like that because remember theres only one guy in the world for you. And if the one you're currently having a crush on doesnt like you the same way you like them, obviously hes not the one for you. There are plenty of fish in the sea and I bet you within the next few months, your probably going to have a different crush no matter how much you think you like this guy now. If he says yes, congrats! Enjoy your time together and maybe some day you'll be grateful you asked. Take a chance! Who knows...he could be the one for you.
Good luck hun!
Jacki
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My fourteen year old daughter has been going out with this nineteen year old boy since the beginning of January, first of all she lied to me saying that he was sixteen. I am quite worried about this. Can somebody help me and tell me what I should be doing. She is my only daughter, in fact my only child. I am worried. Help.
Wow its nice to see parents caring so much about their children! I understand your concern. My suggestion is to get to know this kids parents! If you know the parents very well, he might feel as if he is being looked after and probably wont do anything bad to her. On the other hand, if she lied to you shes probably hiding something and doesnt want to tell you. Don't be mad at her for that. A lot of teens feel as if their parents dont understand them, even I did. Sit her down and tell her to tell you whats been going on, whats been up; you know friendly stuff you usually wouldnt say. Dont be childish be motherly. After she tells you whats been happening (if you can get it out of her) DO NOT punish her. No matter how bad the situation is. Try to help her. Dont be mean and try to understand whats its like to live in her school. Shes probably suffered and punishing her isn't going to help at this point. Try to form a trusting bond and maybe she'll tell you more things.
Hope I helped
Jacki
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ok so i have a friend and shes been dating this guy for a couple months. well first problem is that her parents hate him. they go to church together and shes not even allowed to sit by him. the thing is they have been dating behind her parents back and the parents keep finding out and she gets in trouble and they hate him more. well the thing is.. they always find ways to get together behind everyones back and first they made out and thats ok but then he fingered her on a church van. he keeps wanting her to go farther and shes a Christian and this whole thing is pulling her away from God, i dont think she even cares. he keeps hurting her (emotionally) and i dont want to see her go through this. ive tried talking to her but i really cant get through to her. i dont want her to go too far but he is pressuring her. sorry its long but i need advice.
You should tell her parents! Maybe ask a priest to talk to her or bring her to confessions with you. Do something besides trying to help her as yourself as an individual. I know telling other people whats really going on might seem like your being cruel and betraying your friend but these acts will only help her. Its for her own good. Since all boys are equally as peverted because thats just how they are. It doesnt mean their bad because that kind of stuff is natural and if they arent something is seriously wrong. However, girls need to know when a guy is going to far. If this guy keeps doing this he could seriously hurt your friend. Maybe even after a while she could end up pregnant and we dont want that. So my advice is, make your move before its too late.
Jacki
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Ok..I have to go get a root canal sometime this week I think..and I guess there going to give me laughing gas. or whatever its called..i havent had it before so can anyone tell me what its like..and if you can still feel anything they're doing? and if they've had laughin gas with a root canal..and if it hurt! Thanks..im really scared =(
When you're in the process of root canal and you have laughing gas, you'll probably feel the dentist moving around in your mouth but there will be no pain. After everything is set and done, you might not be able to eat hard or solid foods for a few days depending on how many teeth you get pulled. There'd going to be a space where your tooth was just like when you use to have your baby teeth fall out. After about 3 days, you should be able to eat solid foods again and it will seem like the whole thing never happened. Sorry to have to tell you about the pain but I dont want you to have to go there and be in shock when you can only eat soup, bananas, applesauce and yogurt. Anything else you can think of that is soft would be good too and I suggest you pick some soft foods up from the supermarket before the root canal so you're ready.
Good luck!
Jacki
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im a 14 female. and i have big boobs, and all the signs of my period.but i haven't gotten it yet. what the eff IS WRONG WITH ME GOSH.heheh
You could be getting it soon. Keep in mind some people dont get it until they're 16. Although its something you want to have, I suggest you dont rush it. Having your period isn't the best thing either. You have to use pads and tampons when you're young and with that money you could be doing something else. Like going bowling or seeing a movie! Not to mention the few pairs of underwear you could stain when you least expect it. But when you're older you might choose to have a baby and that (including your pubic hair,boobs,hips and all other new feminine features) is what your period comes in handy for. Dont worry it will probably come sooner or later, but if you're 16 and you still dont have it, go see a doctor. Just to make sure everythings ok.
Good luck!
Jacki
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I have a boyfriend who is abusive. He doesn't hit me.. but he makes me fear him. He's always telling me that my best friends don't like me and that i'm not as special or great as i think i am. When i ask him why he would say that because it really hurts he says that it's the harsh truth and i need to realize it and stop being such a poser. I'm also bisexual and he tells me that i say that to fit in.. that that isn't really who i am. he thinks he knows me so well but he really doesn't. Normally i wouldn't put up with this kind of stuff, i'd break up with him, but the problem is is that i really really love him. For a year we went out on and off 7 times.. this is the 8th. He's the one who always persued me and the one guy i always knew loved me. he's never treated me like this before and it scares me and i don't know what to do because i miss him.. the guy he was.. the guy who would run away with me.. the guy who loved me.. i don't know what to do and i don't think i'm strong enough to leave him.. please help
Break up with him and find another boyfriend whos actually caring. This guy is cleary being an asshole.
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ever since i was little, ive always wanted to go to florida. and so today, my bff(she knows ive always wnated to go there) calls me and tells me that her family is going to florida for spring break. then she said that she was going to invite my other friend kim, and not me. im soo mad!! y would she do that?? she didnt have to tell me that, and it really hurts, should i confront her? and how? thx everyone=)
This girl is either a bitch or didnt realize what she was doing. Tell her how you feel. Thats not right now. If she doesnt apologize, dont be her friend because what she did was wrong.
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My family believes very strongly about lots of things. One of those things is legal marajuana. They think if somebody in the USA wants to smoke pot, let them. Pretty much everybody in my family smokes pot except for me. I'm 15 years old. I think they're wrong. I don't think pot should be legal because it makes people do stupid things. But so does beer and other alchaholic drinks. But they're legal. So I think maybe they should not allow alchahol or pot. I'd like to point this out to my family but I don't want lectures. What should I do?
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Thats horrible. Just horrible. Tell someone you dumb ass this is against the law! Someones life could be at stake!
Please do something!
Jacki
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I haven't gotten a boyfriend yet (kinda sad, i know) and i don't know what im doing wrong. What do guys look for in a girl? Any tips?
I know...its difficult...
When your a teenager most guys either look for prettiness in a girl or other stuff....perverted stuff. When your a teen, while it may seem like its worth it, its really not. Ive tried so many times. Its truly a waste of time, for they are too perverted for my taste.
Dont waste your time like me.
Good luck....
Jacki
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OK. I didnt really know what to put this under. I have play tryouts coming up soon for a school play. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on getting into character. And I also need tips on learning my lines. I tried to look it up on google, but i didn't find anything. Thank you for helping me if you do. I need it.
Well as far as acting some things just come naturally to people. If you believe in yourself Im guessing you probably will get in. Unfortunately, not all people get the role they want but when you know what you have to do just pretend you're really into it, even if your not. Sweet talk to the judges. Kiss ass sometimes works although it is terrible to say its true. Just do your best and dont worry so much. Basicially, thats really one of the best things you can do at this point.
I wish you luck!
Jacki
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i really extremely am i love with my boyfriend...but I just dont know how to deal with it!! i cry out of happiness...and just being with him makes butterflies in my stomach..i try to concentrate on other things ...but all i can think about is him!!
Thats really cute but....what sorta advice do you need on this topic? You're supposed to ask a question on this site and you didnt...
As far as your boyfriend goes, Im really happy that you are happy together! Thats great! Be careful though, just keep in mind some things dont laste forever. That doesnt mean it should keep you from your happiness now though.
Good luck with your relationship!
Jacki
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Right now in my life, I cant trust anyone and it feels as if there are so many conspiracies going on behind my back. Like everyone in the world is against me and its just sooo frustrating. I just dont know what to do. Can anyone help?
Alot of people feel like you. I remember I did too...
are you in your teen years because I know alot of people who are in their teens and feel like you do.
Try talking to a guidance conselor in your school or possibly even a teacher. Im sure they would be more than happy to help you in this situation you are dealing with.
Good luck!
Jacki
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I think I am loosing my best friend. She has been hanging out alot with someone else, and when she isnt she always has excuses. she isnt the same person, i know she has to change, but i mean- she is obsessed with her weight and eating. Im not really worried about that though, i just miss her. what should i do? just forget about her?
Try to talk to her. Tell her how you feel. It just might effect her attitude. I understand she might be a little uncomftable as far as her weight goes and thats normal and probably not her fault. Its natural to not like yourself at times. Since you've been a friend to her I think you should tell her what your feeling so far and wish for the best. At this poinr thats all you can do. Dont forget about her because I dont think shes trying to make you upset on purpose.
Good luck!
Jacki
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Me and my family have been spliting apart this past couple months, my mom left my dad and found someone else. Im not sure how to accept this because it seems like she left my dad to be with him.but here lately my dads been tryin to but all the pressure of his on me and trying to make me feel bad about it and it works i dont know what to do about it though.
Aww... thats really sad. I suggest try to do something to take your mind off it. Play a game, take a sport, go somewhere with your friends. Eventually it probably wont seem as important as it does now and maybe then your parents might mature a bit and realize they have a child and their first job as far as love is to take care of you before considering themselves. Dont let their selfishness effect you. Stay strong hun! I wish you luck.
Jacki
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At home sometimes I use a nasty answer and my mom takes it the wrong way when I dont mean to. Therefore, she does not trust me as much and thinks Im disrepectful and doesnt let me go many places. What can I do to fix this without having to tell her what happens in school and shit because I know she WILL NEVER understand...
Well since this is my own question and people are asking them, I think I'd like to say that a 'nasty answer' to her is answering her back or sayin shut up or cursing or whatever...you get the point. Also, things affect me in school sometimes which make me come home grumpy sometimes and thats maybe why but I cant tell her about that because she wont understand.
Any more questions?
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my brother and i used to be extrmely close even though he is 14 yrs older than me. but after he found "the love of his life" he seems lik he doesnt even no who i am. when he got engaged i cried and when he was married i wanted to die. we can never seem to talk about anything and hes always saying how stupid i am for going out w/ my bf bc he doesnt live by me. hes wife is super awasome and i love her and all but sometimes its lik its her fault. everytime someone talks bout my brother i get rele upset and when they compare us i always say since you think hes so much better than me go get him to do it. i hate it bc everyone asks why ben (my brother) and i dont spend that much time together anymore. and hes having a child and im afraid hes going to rele forget about me. he relationship w/ everyone else hasnt changed only w/ me. when i was little and i cried when i had a nightmare hed come in my room and sit w/ me till i went to bed but when i my first bf broke up w/ me he told me to shut up and get over it. and it rele hurt bc i used to be able to turn to him when i was sad but now i cant. i rele dont no what im asking but do you think r realtionship will ever be the same? or how can i tell him how i feel? thanks and sry bout the length
Its ok...please...dont be so upset about your brother sometimes families grow apart and at this point all you can do is try to talk to someone about it because you cant change someone unless they truly want to. Its like the phrase "You can bring a horse to the river but you cant make him drink." So just try your hardest and if things dont work out remember its not anyones fault some things just happens somethings and you might just have to try to live with the fact that your brother is happy and thats what you want isnt it?
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my exbf just broke up with me and now im looking for people. well i didnt know this till yesterday but i met his cousin and his cousin was flirting with me and i was flirting back. his cousin even knew i was his exgf but he still flirted but i didnt know so i didnt think i was doing something wrong. now i feel like im doing something wrong! can i go out with my ex's cousin?!?! im so confused and his cousin seems intrested in me and he knows a couple things i never told any1 bfore. is it right to go out with him? i really like him and i know he likes me so please tell me or should we just stay friends? i think my exbf would get mad but he broke up with me. kk
thnx
signed,
CONFUSED
Its really your decision....sure I mean your ex broke up with you...its not like you broke up with him and now hes aching...
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