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I have a boyfriend who is abusive. He doesn't hit me.. but he makes me fear him. He's always telling me that my best friends don't like me and that i'm not as special or great as i think i am. When i ask him why he would say that because it really hurts he says that it's the harsh truth and i need to realize it and stop being such a poser. I'm also bisexual and he tells me that i say that to fit in.. that that isn't really who i am. he thinks he knows me so well but he really doesn't. Normally i wouldn't put up with this kind of stuff, i'd break up with him, but the problem is is that i really really love him. For a year we went out on and off 7 times.. this is the 8th. He's the one who always persued me and the one guy i always knew loved me. he's never treated me like this before and it scares me and i don't know what to do because i miss him.. the guy he was.. the guy who would run away with me.. the guy who loved me.. i don't know what to do and i don't think i'm strong enough to leave him.. please help
<3 Kenzi
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oo hunn get him some help.. i think he needs it.. i think hes trying to tell you to get him help!! try that or talk to someone about it like a school theripest.. or if your outta school your mom or just some you know like a best friend//but i would deff get him help..also if that doesnt work id tell him how you feel... or i no you cant do this but i think you should break up.. i no it will be hard but if you dont want to be abused like that then leave him i.m me at jilliix3 if you needa talk or anything good luck xOx jiLl
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How can you love a person thats hurting you. Break up with him you dont need that. Or tell him if he doesnt change your going to break up with him. dont be scared he wont hurt you.He's probably like that either because he's cheating on you or he thinks your cheatinh on him. or he wants more sex.
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Even though you love him, I think you should break up with him. He has no right to treat you this way. You can try and talk to him first, but if he doens't shape up, break up with him. Let me know how everything turns out! Hope my advice helps!
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Break up with him and find another boyfriend whos actually caring. This guy is cleary being an asshole.
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hey sweetie..I was in this same type of situtaion not to long ago. I know that it does suck and it hurts a lot especially coming from someone you think you love. However, if he is doing these things to you it is safer and healthier for you to leave him as soon as you can because that is not a good situation to be in. And as far as the bisexual issue goes, I understand that as well because I am too and its not something you do to fit in so either he doesn't understand or is just plain out stupid, I don't mean that offensively either. So the best way to go about this is to leave him as soon as you can so you don't get hurt. Whether he has treated you like this before or not, it is not safe, also if he is doing this to you, I know it is hard to hear, but he can't possibly love you.
I am here if you need anymore help!!
<3 Julie
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If you need persuading to go back into the relationship then you most likely don't love him...
Please get yourself out of there before things get too bad! Are you sure that you love him and you're not just scared of what will happen (i.e. you won't be able to get someone else, he'll get violent, etc) if the relationship breaks up?
Don't stay somewhere where you aren't happy - life is too short!!
I know it's hard but you really do have to get out of there...maybe you could talk to ChildLine or a counsellor to help you through it and to decide what to do?
Good luck!!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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ok there are way too many girls who are in this situation. the main thing that i can tell you is that if he is starting to act like this than he might be trying to get rid of the REAL you. he might be trying to make you inhis own image and thats when you have to put a foot down and just say that this is who you are. if that doesnt work than you must certainly go to an adult and they will tell you the same thing: 1.) dump him 2.) dont see him for a while. i know it might hurt really bad about not seeing the one you love but its really for the best. right now you might be putting your life on the line. stop this nonsance now before its too late.
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to kenzi it dosent matter how much u love him if hes abusive leave him i sure there are better guys or girls out there for u.
from britt brat
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Kenzi,
As you already know you are being abused (emotional and physical abuse are on the same spectrum). Most, if not all, physical abuse accompanies emotional abuse, and usually precedes the emotional abuse. You don't deserve that kind of abuse. Being bisexual is not something people say to fit in. There may be other things going on in your life that you feel that you need to be with him. I've seen it in a lot of people who have been in a lot of abusive relationships and often they have something else in their lives that is messed up that they feel that they need this to stay normal.
You may have colored him to fit the guy that you wanted but now that haze is fading and you're seeing him for who he really is. He may be so insecure himself that he may feel he may not have anything if you leave him.
It is innate though that we have a warning system in our minds and hearts that tells us that something is wrong. You know that this isn't the best thing for you, and it may be with support with friends, time to find someone who will love you for all the beauty that you really possess.
Take care of yourself- and if you need any help- drop a line.
-AK
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Dear <3Kenzi,
i know you are scared to break up with him but you cant let him heart you like that u shouldnt be in that big of a hurry to go out with somebody just dump him and wait u will find somebody better i gurenntee it
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confront him about it and break up with him. a good boyfriend wouldn'y make you feel like that.
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