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I love answering peoples questions! and knowing that i am not the only one having a hard time with life makes me feel good! also knowing that i helped someone makes me feel good too! so if you write me i promise i wont let you down! because you know what they say sometimes you learn from other people! and i have ben through a lot! and even if i wasnt i pretend i am in that position and tell you what i would do! so go ahead and open up to me! i promise i will help you! xox Emily {plz rate me}

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ahh i have so much celulight on my butt! what are some ways to get rid of it?? PLEASE HELP!!

if you go to www.ask.com and type in how can i make my butt more muscular and less fat? and websites should pop up about the information you want. click one you think will work and if it doesnt then go back on and try again. xox Emily {rate me}

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Theres this guy and he likes me and I like him..he's coming over to hang out two days from now and hes gonna ask me out...I just wanted to hang out first..but anyways whenever we talk online we have all these pauses...are there any solid topics that could keep a conversation going for more then 2 minutes? I'm scared we'll have nothing to talk about and stuff when he comes over!!!!

i know how you feel! i hate awkward silences!! lol but what i do that usually works is before the guy comes over i think of things to say and exacly how i say it so i dont make myself look stupid! lol. but its kind of hard to tel you what to talk about with someone who i know nothing about you kno? but think about his interests and what hes into and then spark a conversation about it! humor is always nice! xox Emily {rate me}

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How do you kiss good? Liek I know how to give little pecks and stuff but you do you make out...like i've heard the whole "Let it hapen" thing but how do youput your lips on his and stuff? And should i chew gum if I know i'm gonna kiss someone? becausei don't want bad breath! but is it bad to kiss with gum? ahh PLEASE HELP!

i kno you've heard it but how about...you believe it! trust me! even if i were to tell you exactly how to do it...chances are it probably wouldnt happen like that! There are a lota ways to make out i mite tell you to do it different than he does it thats why you just gotta wing it! ;-) i dont think you should kiss with gum. its not bad but it gets distracting if you have a feeling you guy is gonna make the move chew some gum and then take it out when you think it happens! so your breath is minty fresh!! :-D xox Emily

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guys im worried.. ok so this guy im dating, we dont talk about EVERYTHING yet; weve only been goin out 4 3 weeks, and hes told me that his parents dont want him dating right now because of some wrong decisions he made in the past..but he never comes right out and says what those decisions were, and iv never asked because im scared he might not be a virgin anymore, and im a lil more prude than him, i know that for sure.. im 14, almost 15, and hes 16, almost 17... and whenever i tell people that im dating him, they're like "girl what are you thinking, ive heard so many stories about him" ive never asked 2 hear those stories either,cuz im scared of the truth, but i know he went out with this "slut" last year that was a grade older than him, and a girl 2 grades older than him which is who he made the bad choices with.. do u think hes jus datin me cuz im a grade younger, so his parents might let him date again? im also scared he might not be a virgin, which means he might try something i dont wanna do with him, although i made it clear in the beginning im takin it slow n im not a slut... eeek hes at work camp this week with his church which is where he hooked up with his g/f he made bad decisions with (but that was last year @ camp).. i hope shes not there again.. and i dont really doubt the fact that he'll try 2 put the moves on other girls... hit me up ladies~ im worried about this one..

you need to stop being so scared to find out the truth. whoever told you that they herd stories you need to go back to them and ask them about the stories. but once you find them out dont automatically believe them ((people do lie)) and about the who "hes using you so his 'rnets will let him date again" i wuld need more information about if he is someone who wuld do something like that. I dont think he will try to do something you dont want to do but if he does just say no and if he keeps trying walk out and dump him! if he cant understand that you want to wait...he's not worth it!! *good luck* xox Emily

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umm well i like my nextdoor naboor n well he came to spend the night w. my bro n we madeout n i gave him a handjob n well he weent to visit his mom in NY n well he is coming back in a week or soo n still rele like him m im not sure if he likes me n well i rele miss him n i want to makeout w. him n how do i tell him that i like him n i want to makeout w. him??

try telling him exactly how you feel but make sure you dont go too deep because you mite freak him out. but just tell him that you like him and that you really enjoied spending time and doing things with him. myabe he feels the same way and just doesnt know how to tell you. good luck ;-) xox Emily

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I live in a small neighborhood, huge houses and lots of kids. That is the bad part lots of kids, so i have a bunch of friends, and they are constantly fighting. But i am always stuck in the middle, and then i give advice to 1 friend and the other thinks i'm on there side. It is so confusing and bad. hOW DO I handle this?? And i already tried the whole "its not my fight so don't get me in the middle" it doesn;t work!! i rate **LaUrEn**

well instead of giving one friend advice try sitting them both down and reminding them of all the fun they've had together. and try to get them to become friends again. and if that doesnt work when they try to bring you in the middle tell them that if they cared about u they wuldnt drag you into it. i hope i helped! xox Emily

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yo my sexlife is prolly the best thing that i have right now but i really need some more friends i mean the girls r purin in like crazy n im gettin a lot of action but i wish i could juss get 1 girl that would just wanna be like my friend ANSWER BACK PC

thats rele cool of you to want that. i dont know any guys who actually care about that! but like how does every grl u kno wanna do stuff w. u? do you talk about it a lot? bc if you do then when you meet a grl dnt talk about it dont flirt with her or cuddle when your together. that way she doesnt think that thats what you want outa her. xox Emily

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ok I amlike in love with this guy...and I think he may feel the same way. We have been going out for a month almost now. but..this is our 4th time going out in almost a year...Everytime we get together (like see eachother) we always cuddle just for a little at least...but when we cuddle usually we do things like he will like finger me and then I will give him a hand job..and like one time he like almost ate me out but then he didn't because his sister came in. But he lays on me and like pretends to hump me and It just gets me soo horny!! N I know he gets horny too.we have had anal sex with out a condom but I think that is the only thing holding him back! do you think I would be stupid to have sex with him?

if you have onlii been going out that long and you've alreadi done all that then you dont know if he is just using you because he knows that you will stuff with him. i know it sounds harsh but guys are like that...there hormones take over and they will do anything. i think you should take it slow for a little while but dont totally stop doing stuff because then he will get suspicious. wait and see how he responds to you not wanting to do stuff. if he gets mad then thats all he wants but if he understands then i dont think it would be dumb at all. xox Emily

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i like this guy so much ever since october 30th 2002 and like its been abt 2 years now .. and i dont know wut to do . i went out wif him 6times before .. buh hes wif one of my friends now . buh like were more like enemy's now . i mean im her friend and i want her to be happy buh i dont think she wants that for me cuz i cut myself and like she does too . but at least she's happy i mean i told * dan * how i feel and still . he still sayz i love paulina and shyt ! and i hate it i mean .. wow i kryed so much over him iono wut to do anymore !!


plzz help me !!


xOXo maYa xOXox

no guy is ever worth your tears or you cutting yourself i kno it mite seem like he is but maya you are so much better than that!! and i think that if these ppl are making you do this then they are not people that should be in your life at all! because if you date a guy and you break up ESPECIALLY if you stil have feelings for him the guy should be TOTALLY off limits for your friends to date!! i could understand her going out with him if you got over him and had no feelings what so ever for him but c'mon! and this guy obviously doesnt care about you if he is going to do something so disrespectful! go out more with your other friends and maybe you will meet someone! xox Emily

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ok well i met this boy chris at the begining of the year...and we bacame good friends...we liked each other but i had a boyfriend so nothin ever went beyond friends...well a couple weeks later me and my boyfriend broke up and me and chris grew closer...then a week later he asked me out...well we went out and everything was good but then we broke up and i cant remember why but n e ways...me and him became even closer after we broke up and we were best friends all year...well we were friends with benifits gess you can say...but then a couple weeks before school let out for summer break he started going out with this girl tasha...tasha is my friend and she has liked him for so long. well im still in love with chris and i just cant stop...he means everything to me....now hes always with tasha and barely talks to me....i dont know what to do...what should i do plezz help me....i cry everytime i think of him..

no guy is ever worth you tears! and if your friend knew that you liked him then that was so wrong for her to do that because your friends always come before your boyfriends! but maybe if you talk to your friend tasha she will understand ((she sould if she is a real friend)) also maybe you can talk to chris bout it maybe he feels the same but didnt think you did so he kept it inside and went out with tasha to hide it ((guys can be stupid like that)) but hunni plz dont cry over him! ik it will be hard but try! xox Emily

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Ok my boy friend iz at camp in maine he has been there since um.. the 10th of july n i love him so........... freak'n much ,but im scared he iz gunna meet sum girl there that's prettier funnier and all that stuff!!! i kno i should trust him cuz we have been togetha for almost 9 months n i trully ove him to death but im not to sure i can trust him cuz he iz a HUGE flirt!!! Do u think i can trust him not to do n e thing wid anotha girl????????

-X- Caitlin -X-

well it depends on if he has been faithful in the past. if he has i think you have nothing to worry about because if you have been together for that long and nothing has happened i think your relationship is strong. there is a fine line between flirting and doing stuff with another girl and i think he knows that he will never c this girl again and you mean more to him. even though us girls hate flirting we have to remember that it could be worse! xox Emily

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i really want to make out but i dont know how and then wheni wit a guy i feel like if i make out with him he is goin to think i suck enev if its my frist time idk what to do i dont know how to do it what should i do ?? i dont want to feel stupid when i doing it???=(

please help?!!

okay everyone experiences there first kiss without knowing how good or bad they are going to be for some it just comes naturally! when the moment comes you just have to go with it! but i understand how you feel so maybe if you have a guy whose a close friend and is honest with you and he has made out before then maybe if he is comfortable with it he can try out with you for your first time! xox Emily

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Ok well in the past year things have gotten really really bad for me! Me and my parents are constantly fighting ans when ever were suppose to have "quality" time we ALWAYS get into an argument!So ive been starting to cut myself! everytime i start to cry i bring myself to cut my arms up! how can i stop doing this to my self?

okay listen...do me a favor and ask yourself one question...what does cutting yourself do? nothing! i dont know how old you are but i do kno that as girls get older they start to fight with there parents and hang out with there friends more...so try to be around your friends more. and next time you wanna cut try taking your anger out by doing something else! xox Emily

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Okay , me and my boyfriend was talkin on ta phone and he asked me to marry him(AND AT A YOUNG AGE TOO) and I said no , was it the right thing to do ???were both 15.he aint mad but he is kinda sad , he said he wanted to be with me forever,and I let him down. was it the right thing to do???

i think you did the right thing. 15 is a young age to get married!and if he rli loves you he can wait! and you can stil be together forever if you dont get married now! xox Emily

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hey k so my boyfriend smokes and when he came back from thedoctor he said that if he smoked again hed die right there and then , he keeps wanting to smoke each night how can I get him to stop and hes 15, need help fast
~need ur help~

this sounds serious! you need to tell him that he cant smoke no matter how bad the cravings are! buy him the patch or something my mom used it before and it worked ((but then she forgot to put it on and started up again)) and make sure he wears it everyday! keep a close eye on him! xox Emily

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I feel that my father is cheating on my mother. There are some obvious signs, and I'm not sure on whether or not I should confront him about it. (I'm thirteen.)

1) There have been small pieces of paper in front of the family computer with porno sites on them.

2) I have seen porno links on the computer's history.

3) At strange times of the day, his 'work' cellphone rings, and on the phone's interface it reads 'private call.'

4) I went onto the computer one day, seeing that a Singles website was completely filled out with my father's information.

My feelings are mixed--it could all just be a coincidence, and if it isn't, should I confront him about it or would I just be getting in the way? Please help me guys.

xoxoxox,
Constantly Confused

wow thats tough! but what i think you should do is tell your mom...but make sure she doesnt tell your dad that u told her...tell her to tell him that she found the signs. and tell her what you told me about how you think that he is but it might b a coincidence then tell her your reasons for thinking hes cheating on her. one thing make sure your dads not home when you tell her so he doesnt over hear it! xox Emily

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ok...i was in a chat room for my school..and this guy imed me...and he was really sweet and cute//he sent me his pic and we started talking and now he wants me 2 meet him at the beach..but im not sure//wut if they dont even go to my school and wut if hes like a killer? he text messages me all the time and we totally click!! please help me b/c i think he might b the 1!!

you really need to be careful of who you meet online! because there are a lot of freaks out there! and its really easy to send a picture of someone who really isnt you when the person at the other end has never seen you before! if you do decide that you really need to meet this guy then make sure you dont go alone! and make sure its a nice day when a lot of ppl will b at the beach! bring a lot of friends...maybe even some strong guys who are going out with you friends! please be verry careful! and find out as many facts as possible about the guy before you meet him! xox Emily

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well i was at school 1 day just minding my own business...when my teacher suddenly gives us a pop quiz...it was my turn...she asked me wut was 6x2...i froze...i didn't know the answer...how should i prevent this from happening again...

prince, adidasboi...

well...maybe you just freeze when your on the spot in front of a lot of people or maybe you need to practice you times tables. if you get nervious on the spot maybe you should talk to your teacher about it...i never had a pop quiz before...but try that! xox Emily

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I've decided to start using tampons because I get my period every two or three weeks and it lasts for a week and I dont wanna sit home for a whole week for most of the summer and do nothing. Well the other day I got my period so I used a tampon and when I took it out, it hurt. Is this normal? This question is to the girls so please help me out!

as far as normal it depends on the situation...did it feel uncomfortable when you had it in? if it did then maybe you didnt put it in right or maybe you didnt put it in deep enough? you really have to be careful with tampons. also if you didnt leave it in long enough then it was still dry and yeah i could imagine that would hurt. make sure to pay attention to what size tampon you use depending on how heavy your period is if it is really heavy use super ect. but if the pain continues then maybe you should ask your doctor about it. xox Emily

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Ok well I am still very much in love with my ex. July 8th we would have been together for a year. We broke up in Febuary. He was my first love and the first person I have ever had sex with. We were suppose to go to prom and everything, but he said that we fight to much. He said that he would always love me no matter what. Then a couple weeks after we broke up he decided he wanted to take someone else to prom and just treated me like shit. We talked about it and he said he loved me but he just wanted to be fiends for now that later on we might get back together. That was in april and I have not talked to him since then. How do i get through to him and get him back??? 16/F

okay explain to him that if he really loved you he wouldnt be able to wait! because love cant wait! tell him what you told me! and tell him about how you feel about him. i think that if you really love him andhe really loves you like he says he does then things will work out but if they dont...maybe it wasnt ment to be! your only 16 theres plenty of time to find that special guy! good luck! xox Emily

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