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is my b/f a virgin?
guys im worried.. ok so this guy im dating, we dont talk about EVERYTHING yet; weve only been goin out 4 3 weeks, and hes told me that his parents dont want him dating right now because of some wrong decisions he made in the past..but he never comes right out and says what those decisions were, and iv never asked because im scared he might not be a virgin anymore, and im a lil more prude than him, i know that for sure.. im 14, almost 15, and hes 16, almost 17... and whenever i tell people that im dating him, they're like "girl what are you thinking, ive heard so many stories about him" ive never asked 2 hear those stories either,cuz im scared of the truth, but i know he went out with this "slut" last year that was a grade older than him, and a girl 2 grades older than him which is who he made the bad choices with.. do u think hes jus datin me cuz im a grade younger, so his parents might let him date again? im also scared he might not be a virgin, which means he might try something i dont wanna do with him, although i made it clear in the beginning im takin it slow n im not a slut... eeek hes at work camp this week with his church which is where he hooked up with his g/f he made bad decisions with (but that was last year @ camp).. i hope shes not there again.. and i dont really doubt the fact that he'll try 2 put the moves on other girls... hit me up ladies~ im worried about this one..
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This really reminds me of the movie Chasing Amy. You should see it. It's about a man that is going out with this girl who has a lot of stories surrounding her like she's done two guys at the same time and shit and he is really worried that he is inadequate compared to her. And he ended up being sneaky about it and it ruined the relationship. The girl would have been a lot happier if the guy would have just come out and asked about it and had a conversation about it. If you guys are serious enough and like each other enough, you would have no problem talking about your "pasts".
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You have every right to know if your guy is a V or not. You need to ask him and don't be afraid of the truth. Ask your friends what they've heard and then ask your bf. If you heard stuff he doesn't say,ask him about that too. He probably fucked her. I can tell you that one right now. I don't think he's dating you just so he can go out again. But find out what the hell he did.
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You should judge your bf on who he is now and not the decisions he made before. You have to decide if it is really important to you what he did before and see if you can look past that. As far as what he may expect from you, it has been my experience that guys want relationships w/respectable girls and not easy or "slutty" ones.
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You should ask him the truth about what happened..and i am sure that if he respects you he tell you the truth about what happens..and for the people that are saying the stuff like "girl what are you thinking" dont listen..you can make you're own dissions about who you date and dont date..
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Well I know you may be afraid of the truth, but you need to know it. Because you need to be ready for anything that might and/or will be coming your way.You should be strong and sit down with him and talk to him about it. Let him now how you are feeling!
x0x JamieLynn
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If you've only been going out 3 or 4 weeks, he may not be open enough to tell you certain things about his past. Everyone makes bad choices, and his parents are right to take away some of his rights. However, I don't think he's only dating you because he wants to get his parents to let him date again. Sometimes when a guy makes bad choices, he just feels more comfortable with a younger girl. And even if he isn't a virgin, it doesn't mean he's going to try anything with you. My advice would be to tell him straight out that you AREN'T interested in a sexual relationship with him...& if a lot of people have "heard stories" about him, it might not be a bad idea to listen to them & then ask him about it.
I hope I helped :)
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you need to stop being so scared to find out the truth. whoever told you that they herd stories you need to go back to them and ask them about the stories. but once you find them out dont automatically believe them ((people do lie)) and about the who "hes using you so his 'rnets will let him date again" i wuld need more information about if he is someone who wuld do something like that. I dont think he will try to do something you dont want to do but if he does just say no and if he keeps trying walk out and dump him! if he cant understand that you want to wait...he's not worth it!! *good luck* xox Emily
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