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13/f
I play lacrosse, do track, and go to the gym a lot. I've heard of people breaking their hymen doing sports, but I see it's possible for me to break mine that way. Just if I do, will I bleed? Or will it hurt? Thanks.
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If you do happen to break your hymen, it is hard to say how much it will hurt or bleed for you. It is different for everyone. For some girls it is extremely painful, but some don't even notice. As for bleeding, it is usually very light. I hope I helped.
Love, Rainbow
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13/f (gonna be 14 in about a month)
Alright so I've been getting my period since March 2006 and I usually get it every month except I didn't get it in July but I got it again in this month (my mom told me it was normal for me to come late when I am just starting out) To be specific I got it again today but yesterday and a few days before yesterday I've been experiencing itching and soreness around my vagina and it hurt when I was urinating. I thought I had a yeast infection but then when I got my period today that stuff all went away. Just the problem is, it hurts SO BAD when I try to put a tampon in. I usually wear tampons but this time I couldn't do it so I am now forced to wear pads. Just my question is, are the symptoms I was having earlier (itching and soreness around my vagina) just symptoms of my period? Or do I have a yeast infection since I can't put a tampon in? Sorry this is so long! Thanks!! -Emily (link)
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I have never experienced pain while urinating and sometimes soreness & itching happen but not as part of my period. There is a good chance you have a yeast infection. The symptoms of a yeast infection are most likely to present themself the week before your period. Before you started your period was there a strange discharge (it can be from lumpy and white to thin and yellowish)? Was there an oudor of bread or beer...yeasty? If the answer is yes to those questions then you do have yeast infection. If the answer is no, you could have other kind of infection. There are many types of infections with these symptoms. You should see your doctor or gyno (preferrably gyno, if you have one) to get this properly diagnosed. I know that it may be a little embarrassing, but these people are professionals and see things like this all the time. If you don't want to tell your parents many doctors allow you to set up private appointments. If you are comfortable with telling your mother then you should because she might know what it going on better than I do. Most vaginal infections can be cured with some simple antibiotics. I would get to the doctor asap if for no other reason than wearing tampons is so much more comfortable. :) Good Luck. Hope I helped.
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sometimes my freinds and i will be watchin a movie and i will say somethin and my one friend will just sit there and not say anythin. like i may say i like her dress on drew barrymore and she will just sit there.
why does she do that and not say anythin? i know she hears me cause other people respond to me. (link)
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She probably doesn't like it when people talk to her during a movie. When my friends talk during a movie I tend to shh them, I'm not mad at them I just want to watch the movie without inturruptions. I know you might want to talk during the movie, but lots of people don't like that. Maybe you should hold in your comments about the movie until it is over. She will appreciate it a lot. Hope I helped.
Love, Rainbow
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my birthday's coming up in 2 weeks. i know its kinda late to think about this, but i have no idea what im gonna do. i might just not do anyhting, but i kinda would like to do something with some of my close friends. any ideas? (link)
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There are lots of things you can do depending on how much money you are willing to spend such as:
- seeing a movie
- sleepover with junkfood and some good chickflicks
- going for a shopping spree at the mall
- Have a spa sleepover (homemade facials/manicures/pedicures/steam your faces/do each others hair/makeovers/etc.)
- go out for dinner
- go to a club
- go to an amusement park
- go to a lasertag place
- go paintballing
Use your imagination, whatever you and your friends like to do just get together and do it. hope I helped. Happy Birthday.
Love, Rainbow
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well im 13 and wanted to know what are good jobs that higher at that age if any. (link)
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Most bissnuess don't hire people as young as you, which can be unfair because some 13 year olds are extremely responsible. I think generally the youngest age for hiring is 14, but you cac check around. When I was 13 I got a booth at a fall fair through a friend and sold jewlery and clothing that I made. You could babysit, walk dogs, mow lawns, shovel driveways is the winter, offer to help neighbors in the garden/cooking. Ask your parents if they know anyone who need chores done or children looked after, chances are that they have friends who could use some help. When my friend was about your age she would bake cookies and sell them either door to door or at a bake sale. There are lots of things that need doing, think about your talents and use them to your advantage. If you are going door to door be careful, its best to go through family friends. My dad had a private practise and I used to file for him and organize his office or babysit for his clients for pay. I hope you find something, good luck.
Love, Rainbow
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should i get surgery on my nose....i really hate how its kinda up pointed...and should i get surgery on my ear..cause one of my ears got messed up.. when my dad abused me..when i was little..btw i dont live with him........sum people tell me my ears look fine but i can tell where one is messed up...should i get surgery..im probly gonna get surgery any way i just wanna know what you think?? 14 almost 15 in a month=D/f (link)
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I'm sure that your nose and ears are much nicer than what you think. Since you are only 14, I think you should wait for a few years to really think about it and asses the risks. Plus, as another person said, plastic surgery is extremely expensive and the recovery is quite painful. Sometimes you do not like the results, sometimes things go wrong. You should research and think for some years. Also, you will need the time to gather money because there are no insurance plans that I know of that cover cosmetic surgery. My answer is that you should consider very carefully the situation and what you would be risking, if you still feel you need to have the sugery in a few years than you might want to do follow through with it. Hope I helped.
Love, Rainbow
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do girls go for guys with piercings? if they are good looking that is, and do girls get attracted to guys with piercings,like let's say nose rings?and if they do, can you specify which part of the face or body you find most attractive for a piercing on a guy and how much piercings should your ideal guy have?thanks (link)
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Some girls go for guys with peircings, some don't. Personally I do. I think that a lip piercing is the sexiest piercings there is. Eyebrows are good too. My guy doesn't have to have any piercings, but if he does then I think 1 or 2 facial piercings and a few cartilidge peircings would be cool.
LOve, Rainbow
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ok so here's the deal. me and this guy had sex on august 8. we didn't use a condom but he pulled out probably 3 minutes before and finished off in the bathroom..well here's my question, could i be pregnant? i don't get my period till the 20th or 21st and i really need to know if i'm pregnant or not. if i was pregnant, would there be any symptoms like aches or pains or anything like that on the first few days? (link)
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Yes, there is a chance that you could be pregnant, the precum is extremely rich in sperm. In the future please use a condom. I would take a pregnancy test in the next few days. You can set up an appointment at a doctor to have a pregnancy test if you like. Hope I helped. Best of luck with everything.
Love, Rainbow
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my friend thinks she is a few days pregnant...she keeps punching her stomach because she does not want the baby. does this hurt the baby or cause her to have a miscarriage? (link)
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Wow, those answers were a little judgemental. They were right in saying that she should get a pregnancy test to find out for sure, she should also stop punching herself because as someone already said, not only could she hurt the baby, she could cause severe health problems to herself. If she does turn out to be pregnant, she should set an appointment at "planned parenthood" or some simmilar organization and set up an abortion with a reputable doctor. Tell her NOT to do it in one of those backdoor unsanitary outfits. An abortion is a big desicion, she should think about it and adoption could be another option for her. Punching herself COULD cause a miscarriage, but its not a garuntee. Please get her to take a pregnancy test and set up an appointment at planned parenthood if need be. Good Luck. I hope everything works out for you and your friend.
Love, Rainbow
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I don't know why but I'm nervous about being pregnant. I had sex the day after my period was over, a condom was used, and he pulled out, but its the first time we actually did it the whole way. I probably wouldn't be right? What would be the signs if I was? (link)
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It sounds like you were very safe, under the circumstances it is unlikely that you are pregnant, but not impossible. If I were you I would get a pregnancy test, just incase. The signs of pregnancy are nausea, vomiting, missing your period, fatigue, tender breasts and frequent urination. Hope I helped and good luck.
Love, Rainbow
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13/f ok so im 5'6" but im slim and most of the guys in my grade are shorter than me or at least a little short. My height at the most. Would they not want to go out with me or kiss me if im that tall? (link)
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Hey, since you are only 13 the will probably be going through growth spurts very soon and be taller than you in no time. 5'6" Is not THAT tall, I'm 5'8 1/2" myself and I have a friend who is 5'10". As for the dating/kissing thing. I wouldn't worry about it, you are only 13 and there is PLENTY of time. I know it seems like everyone has a boyfriend/girlfriend, but most people are in the exact same boat as you. My friend who is 5'10" has had 3 boyfriends in one year, so don't worry about it. Some guys are intimidated by girls who are taller, but those are losers and need to grow up. You don't want to be with them anyway. Don't worry about your height, honey. I bet you're just gorgeous. Hope I helped.
Love, Rainbow
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if i exsersize and dont eat for 12 hours will i lose weight and should i drink water (link)
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Besides the fact the skipping meals is bad for you, it also slows your metabolism which causes you to gain weight. You also won't have enough energy to exersize properly. If you really want to lose weigh, you should eat a balanced diet and exersize regularly. That is the best way to lose weight. Drinking water helps. Good Luck.
Love, Rainbow
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He is only an 8 year old Boxer and healthy. But all day he hasn't drank any water or ate any food. I have noticed this stuff all afternoon and night. I can hear his stomache growl whenever he coils up his body. He doesn't like to just stand, he has to walk or lay down. He seemed dizzy when walking down the stairs. He has been throwing up a lot today, and once yesterday. (boxers are proned to stomache problems so that wasn't too abnormal). He has been burping a lot. Me and my mom had a lot of trouble trying to get him to drink water. He wouldn't drink from his bowl with tap water, so I filled a glass with fresh water. He drank from that. Then me and my mom poured the fresh water in his bowl and he wouldn't drink it. What I think the cause of his stomache pain is either:
-hes dehydrated and hungry.
-he has a stomache ulcer (we just got back from vacation last monday (a week ago) so he might be stressed out whenever we go out to dinner or something.)
-he just refuses to drink from the bowl.
-he just refuses to drink tap water.
Anything would do. Sorry it was so long. I rate 5s. (link)
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My dog isn't a boxer, hes a golden retriver, but he had a simmilar illness when he was younger. We took him toi the vet and it turned out to juust be a parasite, but it could also be parvo or a number of other extremely serious afflictions. I would strongly reccomend taking your dog to the vet immediately. The longer you wait, the worse it will get. It may turn out that he is just picky or stressed, but better safe than sorry. Remember that your dog is suffering and he wants to be better, take him to the vet. I know its scary, but you need to do whats best for your dog. Good Luck. I hope he gets better.
Love, Rainbow
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I've been a lacto-ovo vegetarian since April. now it's June and hot dog season. I never really enjoyed hot dogs or barbecue as a meat-eating person, but I've started to give everything a try once. my problem is that there are so many different types of vegetarian hot dog alternatives. I don't want to try them all because I know some are probably terrible and I don't want to be turned off of them. if you're a vegetarian or have tried a lot of vegetarian products, I'd like advice on which hot dogs are better than others. (link)
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Hey,
I have been a vegetarian for a while now, I find that most veggie dogs have a weird taste and texture, but when I do eat veggie dogs or other vegetarian "meat" products, Oh Natural by Schnider is my personal favorite brand. You have to look on the label because some of the products contain milk, not all of them, though. Yves seems to be another popular vegetarian brand, I personally am not fond of it. Friends of mine like the burgers. I would reccomend the Oh Naturel veggie dogs, they have the best texture and taste of all the dogs that I've tasted. Good Luck.
Love, Rainbow
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You know the stuff they use to numb your mouth at the dentist? I don't know what it's called. Well I know that after it wears off, you mouth is still a little sore from the needles but how long is it supposed to stay sore? It's been 4 days for me and I still can't even sleep on my left cheek because of it. The soreness has never lasted so long. (link)
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Four days is too long for your mouth to still be sore. It really shouldn't last much longer than the day of. I would call your dentist or see a doctor because it is possible that something went wrong. Even if your mouth is still sore, you should be able to sleep on that side. It shouldn't be that sore. If you had your teeth pulled or a root canal, or some other invasive procedure and this is your first time the pain might be caused by that. Still, call your dentist or doctor and find out whats going on. Good Luck.
Love, Rainbow
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I was masturbating with a Sorry playing peice, and when I was done, the peice had a little bit of white stuff on it. What was it?? (link)
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That's normal. Its just vaginal discharge/fluid. Don't worry about it.
Love, Rainbow
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I'm going into highschool this year & of course i need school clothes. I'm definately not affraid to wear anything, i like funky things. Money is tight this year & i want to buy some gothic/punk/weird/creative clothing but for cheap. i live in northern ohio, do you have any ideas for where i could get really cheap clothes??
please, any suggestions would help! (link)
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Goodwill, The Salvation Army, any used clothes/thrift store. You could also try to find outlets for stores that you like. I don't live in Ohio, but there are bound to be outlet stores or warehouses where you can buy high quality clothes for cheap. You can usually find these stores on the outskirts of cities. If you can sew, then you can buy fabric and make your own clothes. Good Luck.
Love, Rainbow
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im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.
mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.
This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.
what about breast enlargement?
are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?
is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?
i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!
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Hey, I'm a c-cup and I've never had a proper boyfriend. Chances are it has nothing to do with the size of your breasts, the more likely reason is lack of confidence. You are obviously self-concious about your breast size. Okay, fifteen going on sixteen is not old...its very young. Lots of people don't get their first boyfriend or girlfriend until they're older than you.
As for breast enlargemt, your breasts are still growing. You should wait until you are at least 20 until you consider it. You never know, your breasts might grow. When your breasts are finished growing, if you still feel that their size is getting in your way of feeling good about yourself then it is reasonable to consider it. Although, there are many risks that you should think about. Besides, do you really want to be with a guy who is only attracted to your boobs? I know I wouldn't. There are lots of girls I know that are AA-cups and have had a handful of boyfriends. I wouldn't have enlargment, If I were you. If you do insist on having sugery, wait until your breasts stop growing and consider all the risks very, very carefully. Remember, not all cosmetic surgury goes well.
Love, Rainbow
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ok well im 13/f 5'1 and im 130 pounds
i want to loose 20 pounds by september
everyday this summer i will.....
speedwalk for an hour or 2
do a 17 magizne workout
eat healthy no junk
do another workout on the on demand
1.do you think its possible to reach my goal?
2.if not how much will i loose?
if you help me thank you so much i rate high!
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#1. You really don't need to lose wieight for any health reasons, if you are self-concious then the plan you have is good. I'll comment on it to make it more effective.
Power walking is a good idea, once you start to get a little more fit then you might want to try some light jogging and then into running. Like someone said 17 workouts are mostly for toning muscle, but they are still good. Cardiovascular excersizes such as jumping jacks, etc. tend to be the best for wieght loss. A healthy diet is always good, wether you are trying to lose weight or not.
You don't really have to do this EVERYday, you can give yourself a break once in a while. A plan like that is very ambitious. You might want to ease yourself in. If you are not used to being active you might not be able to take a hardcore workout at first. Try to do some lighter excersize first, jumping on a trampoline, swimming, walking, etc. and then move into the more physically demanding stuff. If find that the plan you have set out for yourself is too hard, don't give up completely. Make a new plan that is more to your skill level and then work yourself up to more difficult excersize.
Please don't go overboard, 20 lbs. is a lot, but if that is your goal then please do not go past that point. It is hot, so keep yourself hydrated (you should always keep yourself hydrated when you are sweating excessively i.e. exersizing). Don't push yourself too hard. Good Luck and I hope I helped.
Love, Rainbow
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Okay...this is a really stupid question/scenario. Alright so I am in love with this guy...except I don't even know him! He is an actor who played in this movie called "The Outsiders." He plays a guy named Sodapop Curtis. The guy he plays (im in love with the character..not even the actor!) is so sweet, loving, caring, funny, and seriously the cutest guy I have ever seen! I like actually cry over him knowing he's just a character in a movie and I'll never get to meet him because he is not even real! Here is a picture of him:
http://www.ishsolutions.com/malestars/db/rob_lowe/rob_lowe.jpg
That's also not a very good picture of him and he looks cute! The actors name in Rob Lowe and Im 13/F btw. Is there something wrong with me? Do I have to see a phsyciatrist?
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I have seen the movie and read the book, its good. Heres what I think, crying over a fictional character is a bit extreme. There are many people who obsess over people they don't even know, but even though it is common it is not healthy. Obsession of any kind is not healthy. It sounds like you recognize that there is a problem here and you no longer wish to have this obession. Thats a good start. I don't think that you need to see a psychiatrist yet, but if it starts to interfere with your daily life then, yes you might think about getting some help.
You are 13 years old, you have a LOT of hormones running through you right now and girls at your age do tend to go a bit boy crazy, I was too. I think that you need to realize that there are guys like Sodapop out there in real life, they are few and far between, but they are out there. You can meet and fall in "love" with your very own soda. You might try to find a replacement of sorts, try to meet new people this summer. All I can tell you that you are probably not really in love with Sodapop. You are probably infatuated. The good news is that infatuation goes away. The bad news is there is no telling when it will and it feels like it never will. I was infatuated with a guy I didn't know a little while ago, but I have since grown out of it. You need to focus your sexual and romantic energy elsewhere (meeting a new bot, etc.). This obsession is not healthy. If you really feel that you need to see a psychiatrist and that this is inturrupting your life and your thoughts to an extreme degree then it might not be such a bad idea, it may be good for you to be able to understand the reason why you have an obession with a character. I do not know you're personal situation so I can't tell you how to solve your problem completely. I have given the suggestions that I can think of. It isn't nessicary yet to see a psychiatrist, but if the infatuation grows then it is a good idea to maybe go to one for a while. There is no shame in it. Good Luck and I hope I helped. If you have any other questions or concerns don't be afraid to ask another question or email me. I'll be glad to help.
Love, Rainbow
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