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I decided this year to skip over the bikini for a one piece bathing suit because I have a chunky stomach...but I have no idea where to get a cute one at!! All the one pieces I see are all ugly. I really dont want to wear a bikini because I feel self-conscious but I may have to resort to that if I cant find a good one-piece, something cute and sexy. So please help me! Thanks everyone who helps!! (link)
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try victoria's secret. id never thought to look there but im 99.9% sure i saw some in their mag.
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I dated this guy for like six weeks, feelings got involved mostly on my behalf, but I broke it off because he freaks when he gets close to people and I didnt wanna get hurt, hes too young (17, and I am 21) and I felt like I paid for everything (His train down to see me, cinema, food, clubbing, presents) he only ever got me one thing on valentines day that cost £3.00. He also meets peps for random sex off the net, and is well known as a whore. It gets worse as I HAVE to see him every week in my youth group, and I still have feelings for him. My friends define him as poison, how do I deal with this situation of seeing him every week, and Ijust know hes gonna sleep around the group, and hurt me more...I have been so depressed these past two weeks.
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wow he sounds horrible. just know your the better person. hes not the kind of person you want to involve yourself with anyway. dont wrory about having to see him since you know he wasnt worth your time. i dont know what to tell you about if he sleeps with people in your youth group... thats just low. i just hope its not a church youth group. anyway your better than him. dont forget that. whenever your around him just try not to think about how much you like him or what he did to you but instead think about your friends and hang with them dont worry about him. hes not your problem anymore. hope i helped.
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My ex boyfriend & I have been broken up for about 5-6 months now. We didn't start hanging out until recently. We're closer friends than we've ever been & it seems like we're climbing back up to being more than friends. We flirt alot & he gave me his jacket. When we broke up, it wasn't an earthshattering reason that would prevent us to date again, so there's a possibility for that. I know I like him but I'm not sure if he likes me. Whenever another guy flirts with me or I talk about another guy he gets really jealous. He even asked my friend if I liked my guyfriend, Grant, & told her not to tell me he asked. Does it sound like he could have feelings for me again?
Thanks for reading, will rate!
XO Jane (15/f) (link)
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it sounds like he does. i think you should go for it. :) tell him you still like him.
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Im new at a school, i met a girl and i think she likes me but i dont want to risk rejection and embaresment and a new school. (link)
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you could go with the boring idea of just asking her or looking for signals. but i think its more fun to have some excitment right? so my advice is to either ask her, talk to her about it, talk to her friends about it, look for signals, send her signals OR write a note that says "(her name), do you like (your name). if you do/dont write that on this note and put it in (your name)'s locker or (another place) by tomorrow. -?" have some fun with it. creative is alot more fun. your only young once. have fun! hope i helped.
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i need to loose weight on my thighs like badly i need so much help its disctuing. what exercizes can i do to slim my legs down by april ill rate 5's (link)
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run. run. run. eat healthy. but what i do to keep my thighs perfect i do 30 squats every other day and jog every other day. so lets say my exercise sched looks like this..
sunday- jog
monday- squats
tuesday- jog
and etc. when the squats start to hurt keep going thats what builds the muscle. remember to ALWAYS stretch before you excerise you dont want to pull anything. always eat protien before you do some kind of excerise also. to do squats just bend your knees stand back up. mk? i hope i helped.
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About 3 weeks ago i had sex with this kid hes 16. Well While we had sex he didnt use a condum untill i asked him to. (i know i should have asked a head of time)(but its to late for that now)well im having the feeling im pregnant (scary thought) i was going to wait a couple more weeks and take a test. And Suggestions? and if the test is positive what should i do? please help im almost 15 and really scared at this moment (link)
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ok have you missed your period?
do you even have your period yet?
you should take a test and if its positive talk to your mom about it... or school counseler. i know how hard that would be but you have to do it. its best for the baby and you. dont have an abortion how would you feel if you killed something you created.... you couldnt kill a puppy could you? then you couldnt kill a baby. if you dont want to keep it try putting it up for adoption there are tons of familys that want kids that cant have them. it would go to a loving home. so take a test and see whats up.
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My friend told me that he fell in love with this girl that he has known for 8 years. He asked me to ask her out for him but she said no and i dont know how to tell him. Im 14/m by the way i really need your advice. (link)
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tell him that maybe he should ask for himself. that you cant have someone ask for you i mean is he going to have you kiss her for him too? maybe she just wants him to ask her..... girls do stuff like that trust me i know.. ive done it. tell him to ask her himself if he wants a chance.
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So I like one guy. I haven't really talked to him, but I like him A LOT. Now there is this other guy. We have went out a few times, but it was little not-serious things. He also happens to be one of my best friends. Should I go for the new guy, or for my friend? My friend likes someone,but a while ago he said he's always liked me. Ughh. Im desperate. HELP! (link)
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well its better to keep friends just friends... they tend to stay around longer that way :) so id say go with the new guy.
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ok so im going on my first date with my b/f this weekend..we're going to the movies
& im going w/ another one of my friends & this guy that she likes..& he also likes her
but ne ways..
i think my b/f might kiss me but idn
like i want to kiss him but not really in front of my friends..
so what should i do if he tries to? (link)
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im sorry about that. sarcasim is my strong point :) the thing of it is if you want to kiss him and hes not shy about kissing you infront of your friends then what does it matter if they see it? i think that you should just go with it. i doubt that he'd kiss yah infront of them anyways. he'd prolly try it before or after. most guys dont do the first kiss in public just from personal experiance. maybe call him or something and tell him how you feel and your concern and talk to him about it. he'll be glad to know that you'd like to kiss him and will most likely be very happy to come up with a time to do it. sound better?
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Background for reference. Disregard it if you only want to read the problem:
I met Ashley at Sam Goody. She kind of followed me around and talked to me a lot. Gave me hugs and flirted at random times. At first it was a little odd, she just seemed like a kid with a crush and I wasn't interested in the least. She quits work and I don't see her for the better part of that year. I don't miss her.
I see her working at a grocery store later on. She doesn't seem quite as interested in me, but she's still incredibly flirtacious. I eventually develop a big crush on her. I ask her out on a date, but what was implied was that her parents wouldn't approve. She was turning 18 later on this year before I turned 21, but the 20-17 year old age gap was too much for them. Shortly after, I pretty much lose the romantic feelings I have for her. They're replaced with pity, from the terrible things I find out happened to her (from someone who knows us both). Before five days ago, we never really talk much outside of her workplace.
What's key to know for the problem:
Sunday (five days ago). She gives me her new number and invites me to her new place that night. While there, I listen to her complain about her now ex boyfriend and how she isn't over him. He used her for sex after he dumped her, then left without saying a word.
Tuesday. I text her asking if she feels like doing anything that day. She said, "I made a huge mistake. Shannin called and asked to see me and I said yes." I told her she can use plans with me as an excuse to not see him if she feels she shouldn't, and that I didn't think she shouldn't see someone who recently used her. She says, "Thanks. I know I'm really stupid but I just still love him so much"
She calls me later that night, crying from what happened earlier. I asked her if she needed me to come over and she said she wouldn't be much of a host since she would just be crying, but she could use the company.
It takes me a little while to get there, and when I do no one answers the door. I walk in and find her in a room with depressing music playing. She has a blade in her right hand and her left arm is covered in blood. She cries to me telling me how stupid she is and how it seems she can't learn from her mistakes. I try to comfort her I tell her how common such a thing is and turn off her music. I have her choose from a few different movies I brought over and we watch one that is now one of her favorites. She says that she feels a little better now and asks me to hang out with her the next day.
Wednesday. We start hanging out in the late morning. We watch a few things and talk. I learn some things about her past, distant and recent, that don't reflect well on her, for instance, she's capable of stealing. We go out to eat and to a few different places, an overall good time despite my being quiet from drowsiness. I leave to give my mother a ride home from work, and she asks me if I'm coming back afterwards. She said she would like it if I did.
After I come back, we go to her father's place to watch a movie (her father's working on her house) and so she can check stuff online. I get a quick glance at what she types in an e-mail. It read, "...heart broken again...feel like maybe I should just kill myself..." An exaggeration of her recent mood, but it still alarms me. I ended up staying with her until she was almost falling asleep after midnight again.
My problem: I've been noticing a list of things I don't like about Ashley, but the biggest thing in that list is the fact that I now have feelings for her again (spending over 12 hours with someone and you'll know how you feel about them after you leave). It might be stronger feelings than before, since I can't get her out of my head. I can't date her because no matter what she feels for me, which probably isn't more than friendship, she still is so caught up with and damaged from her ex that she's thinking about suicide. No good can come from having feelings for someone like this.
I desperately want to help her. I haven't been getting more than a couple of hours of sleep a night worrying about her. In the past, I've tried to help friends (all female) by trying to convince them they shouldn't make mistakes like this, which lead to arguments. They end with them being pissed at me, then making the mistake anyway. I've learned it's better to just give your advice/opinion once and hope they'll listen to it. If they make the mistake, they make the mistake.
The thing is, I don't think she can afford to make this mistake again. I can't tell her not to, it's her life, her business. I already told her how I felt about everything. My best friend thinks I should stay away from her, and she might be right, but I can't turn my back on her when just spending time with her seems to cheer her up a little, especially since now I care for her more than I would a friend. I considered trying to convince her to see someone about this, but I know from experience that, despite the good intentions, it will driver her away. I can't afford that since it seems like I'm one of the very few things kind of helping her. I know for a fact that she would go back to this guy, and I don't want that to happen. It could literally kill her. So what can I do? How can I help her past this? (link)
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thats a tough problem. i say if you like her alot that your presense around her keeps her happy then your giving her life everytime you see her. thats the greatest gift of all. one day she will thank you for all of that. even if she doesnt love you now she will later. you cant be around someone that much that cares for you and takes care of you and not begin to love them. see love has to be earned and made. it isnt an instant thing. just love her and never think of her as a burden... love is a burden in itself. love isnt easy. just do what you think you can for her. love isnt just a four letter word. its an emotion and cure. maybe all she needs is someone to really love her. hope i helped yah out.
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I have a boyfriend who I have been with for about a month and a half. He's only a year younger than me but since my birthday is at the start of the month (JAN 06) and his is at the end (NOV 24)it sounds like a bigger age gap (I'm 17 and he's still 15) I really love him and I know he cares about me. But theres this voice in the back of my head telling me its all wrong. Please help me I don't know what to do.
PS I rate really high (link)
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its perfectly fine!
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I've been working with this guy for like 4 months now and we seem to get along quite well. I don't know if he has a girlfriend or not, but the signals he gives me, tells me he does not. The thing is that I am 18 and hes 16. A lot of people have a probelm with the age thing, but i don't, i think hes mature for his age. (thats y i can't ask my friends this) Anyway i don't have his email or anything but we're good friends at work. Would it be weird if i asked him to my prom? and if not how would you ask him? thanks in advance (link)
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he sounds like a great pick! just ask him! tell him something like "i cant think of a cuter/funnier/better/awesomer/sweeter/amazing guy to take to prom! wanna come?"
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Okay, so I broke up with a guy about three months ago. The breakup went prettu well, considering, and we talked a couple of days after it, but once, we ended up fighting and he really upset me. Some things he wrote in a journal, or said, or whatever, kinda scared me.
Everyone I talked to told me to give him three months or so away from me, not to contact him for awhile, but I see him on line every so often and I want to talk to him. I'm friends with all of my exes, and I want to keep that up. I liked him as a person, not just as a boyfriend.
The thing is, he was really kind of heartbroken. I don't want to hurt him again, but I want to talk to him. I want to see if he's okay, I guess. I don't even really have anything to say to him.
Also, like a week after we broke up, he asked me if I had a boyfriend (I didn't then, but now I do), and I have a feeling he'd ask again, and I don't want to tell him, but I don't want to lie either. That's not really my question, though.
I guess I want to know what do you think I should do.
Should I go with my impulses and talk to him even though I don't really have anything to say? Or should I wait 'til he contacts me? His aim is to forget "we" ever happened, so if I do that, he won't.
Proper spelling and grammar is appreciated, thanks. (link)
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i think that if you just give him enough time he'll be fine. as they say 'its odd how when someone breaks your heart you still love them with all the peices' you prolly just broke his heart and of course he will be jealous about this new guy. i have this thing i do after i break up with a guy i always make sure i wait about 5 months so that i can stay friends with them and give them time to be fine when i find anyother guy. just try to give him enough space. k? mkay.
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how do you ask a younger guy you work with (who your friends with) to your prom? (link)
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something like "want to go to prom with me?" generally works. dont make things harder than they have to be. just be like "i cant think of anyone more fun to go with. wanna go?"
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it wont go away. i am a guy and 16 yrs old. i'm used to working under pressure and stress, but this started happening all of a sudden... i mean nothing new, nothing bizzare, but ive never had this problem before.
im worried - am i always going to be like this? i mean i know what my triggers are to stomach acid [stress related one]. is it something i can grow out of? any medicine i can take for it to go away? or will it just go away once my nerves calm down. is it permanent? thanks i wanna know cuz im scared (link)
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i have the same problem. (although im a girl)
it will go away you just have to go to a doctor and tell them that you have this problem and ask for medicine. they might send you to a hospital for a test to see what exactly causes it to do this. and then they can give you the best meds. just do it :) no tests they do hurt. for most of them. you just lay there.
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when my bf is 18 i will be turning 17 5 months later. it sounds not a big of a deal but he doesnt want to give my parents a reason for him to stop talkin to me so he is plannin to break up with me until i turn 18. he still will be close friends with me but i just dont like the idea. can someone help. my mom doesnt like him and wont get to know him bc of his skin color she thinks she has my whole life planned for me. (link)
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you dont have to break up. you just have to make people think your broken up. just tell your mom you broke up...but dont actually do it. he might like that idea better.
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I just made the volleyball team and I would like to know these two questions:
1) Can you always see panties under the spandex? Because I only have 3 Thongs and I'll have practice everyday and my mom doesn't even know I have the thongs.
2)When your on your period is a pad visible? I'm not comfortable with tampons, I just got my period a few months ago.
Thanks guyss! (link)
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depends on the color spandex.
id say talk to your mom about it and get some flesh colord undies or some flesh colord thongs. just talk to her about it.
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So there's this guy that I'm best friends with. And we've been friends since 4th grade, so we know each other really well. Well, I like him. A lot. I really want to go out with him. Last night at the school dance we slow danced together and now everyone thinks we're going out. And I could tell he enjoyed dancing with me. I mean I would just ask him out but there's more. Two of my other friends like him. One likes him a lot and I'm afarid to tell her I like him (even though she was one of the people that got us to dance). The other one only likes him a little and knows I like him, and, frankly, doesn't care (as in she wouldn't be mad if we went out). But I still don't want anyone to be mad at me. What do I do? Thanks. (link)
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well ultamitly its up to him. he prolly likes you. he might not like your friend. be mature about these things. as long as your mature with your friend and stay nice she might not get to mad. if she does she needs to be a better friend. just dont say anything like "ive liked him longer so hes mine!" thats 7th grade stuff.
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I want to break up with my boyfriend because when we are doing "stuff" he is more into the tv than me. He gets really depressed and everything. I was gonna tell him that if he really loves me he will understand the decision I have to make and tell him I just need a break right now. I will wanna be friends but I dbout he will.....any sugestions? (link)
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well first hun think it over. then before you just end it tell him that you were thinking about doing it but that you really want to be with him and tell him the reasons why you want to end it and talk about it and try to resolve it. but be honest doing this and lying will get you no where.
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Ive been really good friends with a guy for like 10 years, ever since we were 5. Lately, idk we're talking a lot more and getting along really well. Hes going to a dance with me and seems really excited. I told him one of my Lenten goals was to go to stations of the cross every friday night, and tonight he showed up too. I talked to him after and hes like "Oh, I decided to copy you:)" When he saw me he got this big smile on his face. Now my friends think he likes me. I like him. Does he like me? And how can i let him no i like him without actually telling him? (link)
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hmm he likes you.
ways to let him know.
this is my specialty :)
try hugging him...alot. guys love hugs.
write something cute on his hand. like your name. with a heart.
if theres music. dance. just be goofy... make him dance with you.
change the welcome message on his cell to something. be creative. then turn his phone off and walk off... (works best in a mall) then call him. go find him then be like "why didnt you answer your phone. is it dead? it went straight to voice mail.." walk off with a friend... let him read his welcome message. laugh. make sure its something funny/cute.
be creative!
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