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breaking up
I want to break up with my boyfriend because when we are doing "stuff" he is more into the tv than me. He gets really depressed and everything. I was gonna tell him that if he really loves me he will understand the decision I have to make and tell him I just need a break right now. I will wanna be friends but I dbout he will.....any sugestions?
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oh lord what ever you do dont break up with him unless you enjoy watching little emo boys kill themselves.
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While your intentions may be good "I just want to be friends" is a cop out that a lot of people use. Keep in mind that friendship with an ex is difficult to maintain. There are so many more emotions involved than there is with someone that you have never been intimate with.
Maybe he has a serious problem with depression, or maybe your expectations of the relationship differ from his. Guys do not think or communicate in the same way girls do. So while he appears to be more into TV, you still don't know what he is thinking or feeling.
If at all possible get him alone, without any distractions (such as the TV) and discuss how you feel. Maybe a little time and distance will make him realize how much he really cares, or maybe he will move on. However without some space between the two of you, you will never know.
Good Luck.
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Your decision to break up with your boyfriend over this issue, instead of just talking to him, makes me wonder whether there are other issues which trouble you. If there are, then you need to be honest wiht yourself: you say he "gets really depressed"- depression is hard to deal with , whether in yourself or a partner. I suspect that this negative attitude is at the root of your problems. Otherwise, the T.V. during making out is annoying, but not worth breaking up over-you could just tell him how irritating you find it and insist that he shape up or get out:in short, ultimatum him. If however your problem is, as I suspect, down to more than just his bad television habits, then you need to tell him that, as you say, you need a break. By all means offer him your friendship-if he's mature, he'll take it in a while, if not, you're better off without him anyway.
Good luck!
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wow. i was talking to my one friend yesterday and her friend, brooke, is having the same problem. I think you shoul ddo what you feel. If you think you'd be better off alone, they break up. YOu're so right though, if he really loves you he will understand. Obviously, if you feel like you want to break up wiht him and just be friends, you don't love him the way you use to. It's your life, don't have some guy control it. Good Luck<3
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well first hun think it over. then before you just end it tell him that you were thinking about doing it but that you really want to be with him and tell him the reasons why you want to end it and talk about it and try to resolve it. but be honest doing this and lying will get you no where.
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if he is depressed ;; he probably needs you. and breaking up with him right now, might not be the best thing. [i`m not telling you you hvae to stay with him.. it`s your decision] but i think you should just be there for him but tell him how you feel about all the stuff going on. and tell him how you think he is more interested in tv and junk. turn off the tv and tell him straight up how you feel. because i mean you two are in a relationship so you should be comfortable telling him how you feel.
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