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how is having sex defined?
like if he puts it in u does that count?
or does he have to actually cum in a condom? like i dont know what "counts" and what doesnt
thanks!
Depends on who you are. I personally define sex by anything above hj's and fingering. But he doesnt have to cum. Its sex.
-hayley
i started dating this guy and its been almost a month.
hes really open with me and my family. he hasnt met my friends but im sure he'd be the same.
me on the other hand, im not shy because ive never acted this way. i can start a conversation with a toal stranger and go on for hours.
but when it comes to his friends or family, my mind goes blank and i just giggle or smile and thats it!
how do i get over this or what can i do to get over this? well i ever get over it?
he thinks im shy and afraid of what they will think of me. i honestly dont know?
Most do that. Girls i mean. Because we want them to think good of us. We dont want them to be disappointed with what they see in front of them. The only medicine i can give you is to get to know them better. It will get easier with time.
-hayley
let me start off by saying i belive that God has a greater purpose in my life, than what i have in mind right now. im not sure what it is but i belive that. and the reason why i belive that, alot of friends i have are in to drugs, having sex outta maraige, smoking, drinking all that stupid stuff. and i try telling them that if they don't stop they will loose control of thier life, and get in alot of trouble. every time i tell them this, it happens. and what im having trouble to understand here, is WHY does this always happen. every single time i tell a friend or a person this, it happens that way. and i also don't get if God has put in the position to basicly minister to people, and try to lead them straight, or does this just happen for no reason. some any advise to ease my mind and help me with this would be really nice.
okay i think i might have missed the whole thing that "happens" but im going to make a guessdament. I think that God might be testing you. He might be trying to see what you choose to do in these situations. I would just continue believing what you believe. But you have to remember that you can start to get on peoples nerves, and although you are thinking of them there is a fine line. So just try not to shove it down there throats. And if you say happens happens then just be there for them and try to help them find God.
-hayley
I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on a health problem that my husband is having. He is 33 years old, otherwise healthy, but has been experiencing what seems to be inner ear problems his whole life. Since he was a child he has had episodic vertigo. As he ages it seems to be getting progressively worse, now with ringing in the ears, constant disequilibrium, dizziness, vertigo attacks and now weight loss. He's been to an ENT who is apparently the best and he can't figure out what is wrong with him. He's had MRI's, CT scans, and blood work. All normal. His hearing is fine as well. Please help!!!
it could be some type of infection...try and get the doctors to check for those.
-Hayley
ok hes only 1 yeah older but still.
im scared hes going to want to kiss me and im scared cause i dont know how..im 13 and hes 14.
like how do i know if he wants to kiss me? and how do i kiss him. like, all the ways to kiss.
lol and please no links.
Thank ya!
well, its ok to be scared. i mean we all are the first time with the new guy. Especially the first guy lol. You know he wants to kiss you because usually he will try to get you alone and he will stare into your eyes and play with your hair and hold your hand. And your heart will beat faster and faster, until he just kisses you. and its amazing and you will want to do it over and over.
At first i would start out slow. Maybe suck on his bottom lip. BUT gently!! cannot stress that enough lol. dont worry about kissing for the main part, you will probably forget everything you learned when you go for it anyways.
-hayley
15/f
is there anything you can do to make your hair grow? my hair will not grow, it's been the same length for months. i'm a vegetarian and ever since i became one a year and a half ago my hair turned to crap. it got thin and damaged really easily. anything i can do?
you probably need more protien and vitamins a b and c
-hayley
I got bit by a bug which i wasnt aware of, and now my whole foot is swollen just on the top part and it hurts to walk. How long would it take to go away and is there anything i can do that would make it go away?
if you have had it for a while, one word...doctor. And if not use the rice method rest ice compress and elevate...if not better in a few days go with the first thing.
-hayley
i've heard a lot about "TAZZINISM’S" but can anyone tell me what approach the author is using? i feel like it's another loaded fake self help book but many are recommending it!
yeah by approach like what do you mean??
this guy is telling you how to be succesful and live a good life and get everything you ever dreamed... i must say that if you want to be successful and live a good life, turn to God. He is almighty and will give you plently as long as you give your life up to him. No i am not preaching to you, because i hate when people do that to me, but a book will not help you live a good life, its the choices you make that does that.
-hayley
hello. im 20 yrs old and i jus had sex for the first time.My partner and i had protected sex. What i want to know is he pulled out before he came even though he had a condom on. He then ejaculated and the sperm or watever ended up on my upper thigh and also in my pubic hair i immediately wipped it off and went to sleep. Is it a possibility that im might get pregnant. Oh and i just finished my menstrual cycle the night we had sex.
nope
-hayley
ok so apparently im a flirt, which i dont always try to be, but you know. now that it's summer, my best friend [who is also a major flirt] and i have been partyin and just hangin out with lots of different groups of people, especially guys. i dont mind flirtin with them if theyre cool and even keepin in touch via text and myspace and stuff. the problem is if they start to flirt/show interest back, i start thinking ooh he likes me and get attached, and i dont want that! i just wanna be able to flirt around and have fun, no attachments. it's my senior year i dont want anything serious =] how can i achieve that ?
when you flirt they will flirt. Its newtons law honey. well not literally but you know. and if you dont want to get attached tell them you are not looking for anything serious just some fun.
-hayley
Okay, female/12, my ex-boyfriend is really pissed because i broke up with him on a wednsday, and was asked out 2 days after, an I said yes. And now hes really mad, and told my boufriend to F*** Off! And now my boyfriend told him not to talk to me or else! What should I do?
Stay out of it. Its too bad for your ex. You wanted to break up with him because you are no longer interested, tough luck. You found someone who cares about you. He is sticking up for you and what kind of girlfriend, or human for that matter, would you be if you was going on with your ex?? exactly. Just stay out of their sqaubble, they are going to fight no matter what you do because the ex is jealous and the new guy wants to protect you.
-hayley
i am a student. i am suppose to finish my study a few years back. i am supose to do some work to finish my study but i kept doing other stuff until now. what i mean with other stuff is i tend to think about my problems and it made me cry. i dont knw why i would cry every time i want to study. am i creazy?
I dont really think your crazy, its probably just stress, and anxiety, and maybe a little depression? If you are still unsure however, then contact a doctor as they can give a precise diagnosis.
-hayley
i want a coach purse but not the real one.
does anyone know a store i can get it at?
& how much are they?
Im not sure about now, but you used to be able to get them at places like kohls and goodys, but like i said im not sure about now. They would probably range at goodys from 20-30$...which is actually pretty good considering the real ones are like 200$.
-hayley
16, in case anyone thought it was relevant, aha.
My boyfriend and I have sex every time we're together unless I'm in the middle of my period. We'll have sex on like, the last 2 days or so of my period but only because I bleed barely any. But anyways, I've been on the pill for almost 2 years now and I take it everyday but sometimes later than others. I know that may not effect it much but my boyfriend doesn't pull out majority of the time.
For the past week or so I've been getting cramps but they only last a minutes or two if not a few seconds. I've been feeling nauseous, mainly after I eat. I can't stand for long periods of time or else I feel sick and my stomach aches. I'm not really taking my headaches or my getting lightheaded into consideration because it happens all the time. But I haven't been as hungry lately, or I'll feel super hungry but once the food is laid out in front of me I'll feel sick.
I'm supposed to get my period in 2 weeks but I'm still worried because I'd been pregnant once before but had a miscarriage, 3 months in, in December during Christmas Break.
Okay, well, birth control isnt completely effective. And you didnt say anything about a condom, which should always be used with the B.C. and you can still get pregnant while on your period. My advice to you, considering you sound like my sister when she was pregnant, is to wait it out. And if you are late on your period, take a test. And just to be safe take another one a week after.
-hayley
EDIT: Yeah i think...she was constantly wearing panty liners
I want to learn French over the summer. What are some good DVDs to watch. mostly ones for kids that will be really easy. thanks
Muzzy!! i see it advertised all the time!
http://www.early-advantage.com/
-hayley
I'll make this short. I recently tried making a clean break from a guy-friend who's hurt me in the past. I haven't told him exactly why he hurt me, just that he hurt me before and he took it badly.
Now his girlfriend/my best friend wants me to talk it out to him. You know, try and give him a second (well technically third) chance, and discuss what's wrong. She promised that it was my choice if I wanted to, she was just suggesting trying but I really don't know.
He's friends with a lot of my friends, and I don't want to make them think they have to choose. And I haven't told him WHY, so maybe that will help.
But I don't want to be hurt again. What should I do?
tell him or your friend but dont take him back if you dont want to. Just start out as friends and work your way up
-hayley
Can you smoke grape vine ?
Like a grapevine?
from grapes?
just curious
haha
probably.
-hayley
If youve read my last question, which I deleted, youd understand my situation a bit better.
But I have a sleep and mood disorder, so I was recently homebound but I keep in contact with my closest guyfriend and thee cutest crush. Oh! Im fourteen female, by the way.
But a heck of a lot has been going on with me and this boy. There was this whole debacle a few months back involving tons of new friends, old friends, threewayIM attacks...and MYSPACE.
A week ago I was able to fess up and say how I felt, but only after he did first. Things have been shaky for this week after.
Hes turning into a bit of a hypocrite, I think. It would help if you knew he was moving upstate within the summer.
Just hours ago on AIM, he claims that Im trying to push him away, that he sees right through me, that Im the cause of his breakup and the big fight months ago. He insists Im lying but cant find proof, I guess. I sorta had to just a bit. I needed to protect myself from the same situation as before. So I tried. Then he starts to compliment me, apologize, etc. I go with it.
He keeps coming up with these CRAZY things, all in the "wrong window" because hes talking to seven people at once? But he sure had an awful lot to say to me earlier. It was only a ten/twenty mintue convo, I think. He says "yeah we had sex. OMGOMG wow awkward i am SOO SORRY that is in the WRONG WINDOW. yeah you dont wanna know" so Im actually not too shocked even though he DID tell me he still had his vcard on the phone months earlier. So I say "um no its your life, i guess. your business. id rather not know what went on" but he keeps pushing the subject at me. "Oh if only you KNEW who it was. Your world would be UPSIDE. DOWN." "No, I dont think it would. Not completely" "Mhmmm. Noo it would. I know it." Then, he TELLS ME who it was!!!
Then when I insist that Im okay with it [yes. i think im over him.]
Suddenly; I hate him? Im lying? Im so effing confusing, the way I 'rephrase everything no like everytime'? I cant get a damn thing right?" Where is this coming from??
Its like hes trying to MAKE me hate him.
Even though he said he has to explain every little thing a good five times, everytime, as he said...I dont know.He wont believe that I dont hate him. I didnt tell him I didnt likehimlikehim either.
I dont know WHAT has gotten into him. He said he was gonna stop saying bad words cuz I didnt like them. But then he said...'this is me. I am me'
--- wolde you bothe eate your cake? And have your cake?
I saved the conversation for future references. If you need it or wanna review or the full story, just lemme know "]
But what has gotten into him?
ok well i dont know what has gotten into him, and neither will anyone else on this site, but if he is trying to make you hate him, then then hate him. Its seriously not that difficult. If you want to be with him, be with him. If he is making you crazy, dont deal with him.
-hayley
Okay, so i have like extra skin surrounding my clit. and it like kind of droops sounds nasty i kno but its rlly embarrassing.. ive talked to my mom about it and she didnt have much to tell me.. i also think i am "loose" because of this. I cant enjoy sex; only oral. Any info vvould be super fantastic =]
15/f
its probably just the hood that surronds the clit to keep it safe.
-hayley
17/f
okai.. long story short.. about two weeks ago, me and my bf had sex.. penetrated ONCE...yes ONCE.. and we kept trying but it didnt go back in.. is there a possibility that the precum might've empregnated me? although it went in once, i see it as a threat.. i haven't gotten my period..its a good 6 days late.. been getting some headaches and tiredness... could it be> thanks so much uin advance!
just test it. I mean you could just be doing that because your mind is playing tricks on you or it could be because your eggo is prego. But you never know unless you take a test!
-hayley