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Q: im with this guy and like he is a great boyfriend and stuff but like i always have to go see him and he makes me feel like he doesnt want to see me sometimes but like i know he cares. my 1st question is- so is it okay if let myself keep going on with this?
the other day (friday) i spent the night at his house and on saturday everything seemed fine then when we left to go hang out with our friends something started bothering him and i told me it was about his mom and i couldnt really help so i let it go. but then we got back to his house he was fighting with his parents & i was eating sonic at the table with his bro n he said something funny and jose heard his name when i started laughing so he thought that his brother was taking about him and i was laughing about it. so he got all mad and said that i loved it when people talk about him and i said no and i didnt want to argue with him so i went outside. then he grabbed me and begged me to go back in the house and i did then he said something rude again so again i went outside. then my mom pulled up like right after he came after me n i went inside to get my stuff and he hugged me for what seemed like forever and he whispered in my ear "im sorry, im sorry" and gave me the sweest kiss i have ever expeirienced. so my 2nd question is- is okay if i forigve him just like that?
im a 14 year old girl

i think it is. but if he does it again, i wouldnt forgive so easily.
he seems like a really sweet guy whose just sensitive w/ low self esteem. either that or anger issues. just tell him that you care often.

Q: Whell, I just started going out with a guy, and whell I want to make him feel really special and great..what are some little things I could do that would make him feel wonderful (besides sex and things of that nature heh) Also what are things I can say that wont scare him so early in the relationship but that let him know that I am happy I have him...

thanks

thats up to you, really.

Q: My boyfriend and i have been going out for a while now and he wants to do more things then hug/hold hands.. he wants to kiss/make out and i have never done that before.. so my question is how do you actually make out and what do ou do with your tongue and mouth thanks i rate 5's

if youre a first timer, let him control. but dont be too loose or slobbery. your best bet would be on his waist-(your hands). if you put your hands on his face, he thinks you know what youre doing . . .

Q: What are some good workouts that can flatten/tone my abs in a couple of weeks? I'm not talking about a six-pack or anything ... just maybe a flatter stomach for the summer. I already do a 20min jog, leg lifts, crunches, and situps ... is there anything else that may help?

Thanks so much!

-- the superman!!
*lay on your stomach.
*lift only your arms and legs off the ground.
*the more you do this, try holding them up for longer time periods

-- reaches!!
*lay on your back
*cross on leg over the other in the air. your body should make an "L"
*lay your back completely flat, your legs up, and rech up to touch your toes.
*start with doing ten reaches at a time.
*switch legs and repeat!
*the more you do it, the more touches you do.

Q: So there's this guy I've liked for a while. My friends didn't know until recently. When (for fun) theyw ere deciding who was good for me they said the guy i like. (that was before they knew I liked him). So there's this other gorl that likes him for a short while. she says she doesn't anymore but my friends and i think she still likes him. One of my friends (who is friends with both of us; me and the other girl who likes my crush) says that she thinks me and my crush would be good together. Better than him and the other girl. This makes me think i have a better chance of being with him. One of my guy friends said that if you make moves on the guy your chances of getting with him skyrocket 100% I just want to know what are some subtle fliting tips. And if he responds well, what are some bigger moves? Thanks!

be yourself.
dont fake it.
or else he starts liking the person youre pretending to be.

Q: Well there is this guy that i really like and he likes me. He even broke up with his girlfriend for me. He always tells me about how much he loves me and everything. He is .perfect.!, but there is one problem..AGE. His mom won't let him date me bcause he could go to jail. Some of his friends have been giving him hell about it too. Others say we should hookup. His best friend is trying to tell him he wont go to jail. I really love him, what should i do!?

um. well. he could go to jail. but only if there is public indecency. i, personally, would look up the laws and rules about this. but if his parents say no, you would get in more trouble not for listening to them.

Q: Today in English we were reading some story about something to do with someone having a disability wanting to play golf. He had trouble walking and had to use a cart to get around to the hole while everyone else had to walk (obviously I wasn't paying much attention). But, towards the end of class my teacher brought up a good point about what the word "fair" meant to us.

Her question was, "Is being fair treating everyone equally, or giving lea-way to those with disabilities so they can be like everyone else.

I was wondering what it meant to you guys.

i think that it depends on how they are disabled. personally, i hate it when people are treated differently even though they are handicapped. i dont beleive in minorities, either. its like, if you dont wanna be singled out, dont call urself a minority. i think that being fair is fair and rules are rules no matter who you are.

Q: My friends and I are trying to get this one boy from my classical music class to start to appreciate rock music and rap music, pop music etc. He isn't responding to most of it and is giving answers to rap music like, "You don't know what he's saying!!" Is there an easy way to introduce him to this type of music?

omg .. if he wants to listen to classical let him. leave him alone ....

Q: i just turned 14 and in janurary or feburary i got my first period. now its april and i havent had it since, i know irreguar periods are normal but for this long?!?!

yeah totally.

Q: ok ther is aguy at skool and we r friends.. he is always tells me thing that he doesnt tell other people ... and same thing i can tell him stuff like that to.. and we always talk on the fone 24/7..... and we always flirt .. i dont kno if he likes me .. i really do and how can i find out??
.....
??

i had that once... then all of a sudden he stopped talking to me ... if he does like you, the two of you would never go out. ever. sorry.

Q: I'm going to prom on the 23rd but I haven't gotten my period yet. I think I might get my period by that date. It makes me worry because I don't want to screw my new dress up with blood. It's not tight at the bottom, it's like a layered skirt that's kind of full looking. I'm going to be out from 5:30 PM to 7:00 AM for the dinner and the festive events or whatever, should I use pads or tampons? Pads are kind of gross, they make me uncomfortable because I'm afraid they'll move, but if I wear tampons I'm not sure if I'll remember to even change them during prom and I don't want to risk TSS. What should I do?

omg ... you wont fricken get tss in like a day. stupid. no. wear what you want. and if you 4get ur stupid... theres bathrooms in both places, the dinner and the prom ... so you can change whichever you wear when you need to.

Q: Well the thing is...my mate (who iv known for all of my life, n i kinda trust him) fancies my other friend from my school. He wants to set me up with his mate, who sounds a nice enough guy. he wants to meet up, shall i or shall i not? saz x

you shall

Q: hey my friends going through suthing right now to get over a guy what are some songs that just mean "basically im over you and dont need you" because im really proud of her and i want to make her a cd of songs wtih this point

thanx ill rate high

lol ... be goofy...

"dont want you back"
by the backstreet boys. --heck yes!!

Q: do a girl's head/forehead size matter? i look somewhat like christina ricci.. except tanner, do you think shes pretty? would somewhat of a big head/forehead turn you off? would you suggest me getting bangs? thanks!

if you have a big forehead, bangs would look 100% stupid .....

and its just a forehead.

Q: 14/m.. 8th grade
at my school there aren't any girls my type. they are all stuck up and preppy. at the other school i have a lot of friends. i know i would fit in over there. there are so many hott girls that are so fun to be with. whenever i hang out with them i have a great time, but they are at a different school which makes it hard to have relationships. what should i do?

go for it

do anything it takes

Q: my friend at school is going out with this boy that i liked.i'm asking u do u think she is a true friend or no. but i don't like him now.please help me i will rate.

shes a perfectly fine friend.

youre just jelous

Q: I really want to become and actor...but I haven't seen any agents or anything...I might want to do The Starlet or something or hopefully, someone will discover me because I really want this...does anyone know what you have to do to be an actress...besides memorize lines? Also, I need to know how to cry on cue..I rate..

when i cry on cue; i just think of the saddest thing that has happened to me. plus i get all into it and i feel like im that person. also if you dont blink for a long time then they water bc they get so dry. i cant really help you with the agent thing, though

Q: Well lets see, theres this guy and i like him alot and we went out before but he broke up with me after like a week, now supposably he likes me again or somethin and i still really like him, but hes 3 years soon to be 4 years older than me and there are plenty of other better looking girls that he knows, and if we were to go back out, who knows what will happen, i guess im tryin to say that im scared of getting hurt, what should i do? what if he doesnt really like me, and i probably like him alot more than he likes me so if he broke up with me if we went out it would be like easy for him and soo hard for me..

grow up ....

**supposedly....

Q: this is this guy that is older than me and we have been messing around for a few months now...but its not serious and we never took it seriously since i know he is messing around with other girls and what not. but i caught feelings for him and he knows this. well, he keeps telling me all the sweet things i want to hear and then recently he told me that he was just in it for the sex...but then he tried to take that back and say that the only reason he said that was because i kept questioning his feelings towards me. i dont know what to do bc i feel for him and he says he feels for me too but im not sure what to think. he keeps tellin me he wants me to be his girl and all, but whenever he calls me to chill i go and hang out with him and within 10 minutes he always asks me for sex. i know what it looks like but we also talk on the phone alot for lyk an hour at a time just about stupid things and all that ...so were close on that level but i dont know what to think!!!!

ps. he treats me good when we're together and everything