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Im a young 16 year old girl i like to have fun,Im a modole, Im a cheerleader, i also play diffrent sports. Im blonde im 5ft. 5in. i weigh 145 pounds. i like blue, pink, white, and black, green. im singel but im looking for a boyfriend.i love giving people advise.

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Hey i am really skinny but the thing is I eat properly (vegetables, meat etc)n sometimes induldge myself with chocolate or chips or anything i can find but i never get fat. Its damaging my self esteem and I dont dare to wear short sleeved tops or a bikini or anything.

Is there anything that can help me be more evenly proportioned- Ive heard of fattening milkshakes but I dont know how they work or if they work..

ty luv rach xxx (link)
Yes they work but they taste bad and just think your not skinny


ok i keep getting mad for like no reason and to day i got really mad and i cut my hair and then i broke some stuff i need to know y i get mad over nothing like i will be sitting there happy and then i will be really mad and no i am not pmsing plz someone help me (link)
Go see a doctor cause thats not normal!!!!!!!!


How long does a period usally last? (link)
about 7 days but everyone is diffrent!!!!!!!


I know that when a girl first has sex, it [usually] hurts. So, are there any cons for the boys when they first have sex? Do any disadvantages come with it (pain, etc.)


thnx (link)
no!!!!!!!!!!


Well Sunday is Mother's Day. My boyfriend does not have a Mother. He lost her to breast cancer 4 years ago. I don't know what to do...Please help me/us.
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Dont remiend him that his mom is dead


There's a girl that I like. We go to different schools but live about 10 minutes away from each other. She has a boyfriend but we went out once and I found out that she likes me. She even told me. The time we went out was 2 weeks ago (last weekend she was busy and this weekend I am), and I don't know if I'm wasting my time because I think she won't break up with her boyfriend. They've been going out for 9 months, and she told me that he makes her cry almost every night but she just won't break up with him. What do I do..? (link)
tell her to think about hoes better for her


13/f

ok i havent gotten my first period yet, and lately, like the past 2 days, my underwear have been really brown, like around the part my vagina touches. Its almost looks like, i pooped in my underwear, like that color(sorry lol), but I know thats not it becuase I clean "over there" very thoroughly. Is it discharge? Will i be getting my period soon? Should I start wearing pads? (and how do you properly put on pads becuase i tried and it didnt work) THanks so much. ♥ (link)
Ok yes wear a pad and ask your mom


PLEASE READ. need adive now. =DD

background info:13.f -- alright so i have a really good best friend who ive known since kindergarten. (amanda) she considers all the people who sit at our lunch table to be her 'best friends'. but they're all quite annoyed by her. We had a chat about her, and she never gets invited anywhere, and while i admit that i was part of those things -- i hated it. so my other best friend was having a 'party' this weekend, and amanda figured, "oh ill be invited," and when she wasnt she asked me if my other best friend still liked her.

& what was i supposed to do? If someone didnt like me id want to know. so, i told her. and she got really upset and started to cry. and she decided to corner my other best friend and ask about everything. I asked her to say i hadn't told her -- but she did.

So my other best friend did what she always does, and denied everything, the chat, parties, behind back talking -- everything. And amanda being who she is, forgave her without even an explanation.

I got back from school that day and signed online and my other best friend was reall p/oed. she kept yelling, 'ew' at me. and saying things like, 'you screwed yourself over more than you did me' and then stated she didnt want to be my friend anymore. So tell, me -- how am i screwing her over by telling someone SHE DOESNT LIKE, thats she doesnt like her?

Being in seventh grade, theres drama. its funny how many people hate my other best friend. You love her or you hate her.and up till this point, id pretty much been her follower. and then she jujst makes everything more confusing by putting amanda on her away message. why would she do that if she hates her? trust me, she hates her.

and during the im conversation, i said i was sorry a million times. because i hate getting into fights especially with this one friend. she freaked out even more. and was being quite a bitch. so of course, things work out really crappy. shes not mad at amanda, but now she says im not even her friend. i didnt go to lunch yesterday becuase i had no place to sit, so i stood out by my locker the whole time. Its almost my birthday and it'd be a sucky present to lose who ive considered one of my best friends.

Help? adive -- opinions? please. ill rate 5s for any help if you bothered reading this thing. xx (link)
Ok well try to find a new group to hang with or tell all of them how you feel and maybe cry when your telling them how you feel....


okay i have been BEST friends with this girl since 1st grade. we are inseperable. but lately she has not been acting like a true friend. i liked this one guy for the longest time and he just told her that he liked her. well she has a boyfriend that she says she "loves" very much. she said that she'll try and hook me and the guy i like up. but he text messaged her and asked if she wanted to hang out and if her bf would have a problem with it. she said he wouldnt then she said "bye sexy" and he said "bye sexier." right when i was sitting next to her. this isnt the first time she started flirting with a guy i liked and got him into liking her. plus my other friend likes a guy named nick but my best friend says she claims him just because he lives across the street and because she has made out with him. and nick is her boyfriends best friend. she is really mean to her bf too. she flirts with other guys constantly. slapping austins ass everyday at lunch..telling other guys their sexy...sitting on guys laps and her boyfriend doesnt even know it. i dont want to stop being her friend cause she seriously is my Best Friend. but i really like this guy and she sits there and flirts with him right in front of me. what should i do?!?!?!? (link)
Tell her boyfriend and tell the guy you like that you like him alot and tell the guy you like that she's doin all of that!!!!!


I am 15/f. I am not sexually active and I am a virgin. The most my boyfriend has done is finger me. I'm not sure if I can explain this but I will try. The inside of my vaginal area, the folds inside the lips, are now for some reason outside of the lips. Before, the lips touched eachother and now they are apart because the inner part is sticking out a little further. My urine smells different and sometimes my vaginal area is uncomfortable. Any clue to what this can be or if I really need help? (link)
you could have a STD or STI you really need it checked out dont tell your mom what you did just say you think it looks weirod down there but you need to go get it checked out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Do u think its to soon to give my number? I had met this guy at a party and I was attracted to him, I talked to him on myspace for the first time and I invited him to a party and gave him directions.......I also gave him my number incase he needs directions. (link)
No its not to early


my boyfriend just confessed to me another girl kissed him and he didn't stop her. I was really mad at first, but then I realized i have no right to be. You see, we're in a internet relationship and not meeting till late this year. I guess it's understandable that if someone in the flesh comes along and kisses you, you're not going to stop them. I think I would do the same too, admittedly. Everyone I've spoken to though thinks I should be madder than I am, because he cheated on me. I guess i'm a pretty laid-back person. We care about each other a lot, but I understand why he did it. I feel I should be mad at him for cheating though. I still want to go out with him, but everyone is telling me to break up with him. What should I do? And am I being too nice on him?

Thanks. (link)
stay with him and no your not being to nice


Me and my boyfriend has sex for the first time yesterday and a few things went wrong.. It was both our first times so we wern't exactly sure what to expect, when he first pushed inside me I experienced a bit of of pain which felt like pressure which I expect is normal as it would have been stretching me out? But then when we tried to get into a rhythmic motion there was no "good feeling" it felt like I was being prodded for a while but eventually just felt.. nothing really.. perhaps we didn't give it long enough for a 'good feeling' to kick in or could nerves/anxieties have played a part? we were in missionary position so we switched so I was on top but again it made no difference, alot of times he kept falling out of me which he was embarassed about because he claims his penis is smaller then average size. But also another thing that was worrying was his penis kept hitting something inside me, as he pushed past/against it it felt like he was pushing against an eardrum? My first thought was cervix but he reckons he was pushing past it from the side, should I be worried about this or could it be possible he was hitting something such as my gspot from the wrong angle? Also I can't see how this could be my hymen as I would have broken that ages ago when I started using tampons.

Would really appreciate any feedback, we are both 17 and feel we need some clarification on what went wrong, thankyou in advance for your time. (link)
i thought i poped my hymen when i wore tampons but when me and my boyfriend had sex he poped my hymen then it hurt and i didnt have fun the first time because of the pain but i was small and tight (13) and he was big and long (17)
Good Luck!!!!!


I've just been prescribed one of the antibiotics that is known to affect how well the contraceptive pill works. That's no problem as i can use a condom for the next few weeks but something's worrying me- i know sperm can live for 5-7 days inside a woman and i had sex whilst on the pill without a condom two days ago. Therefore if i start taking my antibiotics now is it a possibility that i might get pregnant as the pill won't be able to do anything about the sperm that's inside me at the moment??? I can't find out the answer to this anywhere on the internet!! Thanks guys and please only answer if you have experience with this!! (link)
it's unlikely that you could be still pregnant cause antibiotics kills spearm


What is it when someone is prude? (link)
it means there afraid of doing anything with a guy/girl


i just turned 15, (female obviously) and i haven't got my period yet.. is this normal? and also i hate talking to my mom about things. i just get so embarrased. when i do get my period, idk how to talk to my mom. i like get so nervous thinking about it. i know im gonna feel soo uncomfortable and idk what to doo (link)
your one of the luckyest girls i started mine when i was 10 but some girls dont start untill there 16 but i could be a bad thing so just talk to your Doctor about it it could be a real big risk!!!!


well i am 13 and having my second child. that pretty much says it all. help? (link)
do you not know what birth control pills are!


Just wondering... because I'm a little bit worried.

I've been masturbating for years now and never had this happen. I'm a girl and about an hour after my orgasm, I'm experiencing some bleeding similar to my period. I just finished my period a couple days ago and I'm wondering if it's from that or if it's something entirely different.

Thoughts? :( (link)
if you've never had sex before i think you poped your cherry but if you have this is what i think it is you rubed aginsed the walls its normal that happened to me before


I have been with my boyfriend for a year but we have been sexually active for three months. He broke my virginity. And he takes care of me so I won't have to work and quit school. But his sex is very aggressive and I really don't like it most of the time. He even freaks me out by some of the things he tells me. Like he is going to let his boys get some of me and stuff like that. What should I do. I love him and he takes care of me. I don't have anyone else but him what should I do??????????????????????? (link)
tell him how you feel about what he says but take it slow on anything else


My friend went on the Depo shot sometime around the middle of March and lost her virginity (unprotected) maybe a couple weeks after that. Thing is, she hasn't started her period yet. It's now nearly 7 weeks later and she's scared. The only time she's bled on the shot is after having sex. She has only had PROTECTED sex once of twice but has had unprotected sex many times. She says she's not going to worry about it but I can tell she is and I don't know what to tell her. Is it normal for her not to spot or start her period or is this something she should see her doctor about or take a test for? Please help, I rate high! Thank you. (link)
take a home test first and then go see her Dr. soon she could be at risk!!!!!




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