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First time didn't feel anything
Me and my boyfriend has sex for the first time yesterday and a few things went wrong.. It was both our first times so we wern't exactly sure what to expect, when he first pushed inside me I experienced a bit of of pain which felt like pressure which I expect is normal as it would have been stretching me out? But then when we tried to get into a rhythmic motion there was no "good feeling" it felt like I was being prodded for a while but eventually just felt.. nothing really.. perhaps we didn't give it long enough for a 'good feeling' to kick in or could nerves/anxieties have played a part? we were in missionary position so we switched so I was on top but again it made no difference, alot of times he kept falling out of me which he was embarassed about because he claims his penis is smaller then average size. But also another thing that was worrying was his penis kept hitting something inside me, as he pushed past/against it it felt like he was pushing against an eardrum? My first thought was cervix but he reckons he was pushing past it from the side, should I be worried about this or could it be possible he was hitting something such as my gspot from the wrong angle? Also I can't see how this could be my hymen as I would have broken that ages ago when I started using tampons.
Would really appreciate any feedback, we are both 17 and feel we need some clarification on what went wrong, thankyou in advance for your time.
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i thought i poped my hymen when i wore tampons but when me and my boyfriend had sex he poped my hymen then it hurt and i didnt have fun the first time because of the pain but i was small and tight (13) and he was big and long (17)
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First off, if its your first time it will hurt. It really wont start feeling good until like the 3rd time? So give it a few more tries... The pain is defenitaly normal. If he kept falling out maybe it was because y`all we in a bad position or he just kept missing when y`all were bouncing or something. Most people`s hymens dont break from using tampons or anything. Usually they break from gymnastics. But you should bleed a light pink color, and not very heavily.
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It should be all flowers and sunshine, shouldn't it? Books and movies make it look so easy...
The first time you rode a bike, I'm guessing you fell a few times, right? This is like any other learned skill...it takes time and practice to get right.
As far as falling out, he's probably bringing his hips back too far, thinking that he'll hit you deeper only to pull himself out. That, again, is an experience thing. His size wouldn't have anything to do with that, it's just knowing how far to go back in the pulling before the thrusting. No biggie, he can learn that, and it's not his anatomy. :)
As far as what he was hitting...the vaginal canal is only 3-5 inches long, depending on the woman. If you're particularly short or small for your age, it's very possible that he was bumping your cervix. Yep, you're probably right, your hymen would most likely be long gone, and his thrusting would have broken through that, rather than him bumping against something. It sounds, from his description, like your cervix. There's still vaginal canal to either side of the cervix, so try different angles (maybe a pillow under your lower back or behind?) to experiment with how to make that feel better, if it's bothering either of you.
While it is true that the vaginal canal may slightly lengthen during arousal, it's not going to be a whole lot, so don't depend on that to get you through. Change up positions, control your angle, and be able to have a good time with it. Take a deep breath, and realize that this is for FUN! Be safe, be careful, and I hope you find your pleasure. :)
Marissa
P.S. The G-Spot is not a mass that your boyfriend would probably be able to feel with his penis. If you were to experiment with your fingers, it's roughly two inches in, on the side of your vaginal canal closest to your belly button. The tissue there will feel kind of spongy. That's your female prostate, or G-Spot. Just wanted you to know. ;)
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hi,
your first time usually doesnt feel good, especially if neither of you is experienced, but like anything it will get better with time and practise. your boyfriend is just feeling insecure like any 17 year old male measuring up is a big thing, just assure him he is fine and there is nothing wrong with him. both of you need to explore your bodies and understand what you like , experiment with each other, see what floats your boat! foreplay before intercourse is the key and i dont just mean the fingers and the hands i mean kissing and touching it will make you feel a whole lot more relaxed and intimate. as for his penis hitting something it sounds like he was penetrating very deep it sounds like your pelvic floor but see a doctor just incase as im not 100% sure. hope it all goes well and contact me at lisamudd21@yahoo.co.uk if you want to ask me any more questions.
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Because so much emphasis is placed on having sex, everyone fails to mention that your first time ususally doesn't leave you seeing stars. It can be awkward, and just not downright pleasurable.
When it comes to not feeling anything, you won't feel a whole lot, since there are very few nerve endings inside the vagina. Try using some manual clitoral stimulation to help that good feeling along.
Him falling out is perfectly normal! You're not quite used to the angles that you need to be at in order to make a position work. As you explore sex and each other, you'll find angles that work for you.
The thing he might have been pushing against is likely your cervix; if it feels kind of weird, try using lots of foreplay to get you really ready, because being aroused lengthens the vagina.
Keep at it! It'll start to feel better once you relax and get to know one another better.
:)
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