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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.
People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.
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Thanks for you checking iambic pentameter of my sonnet. And I have encountered another problems about the sonnet. Since my teacher required that the whole sonnet must be iambic pentameter, maybe I have sacrifice the coherence or natural word flow of the poem...
It is because that I have put the sonnet in another forum and one person pointed the problem out. If you have patience, here is the link of my question in that forum.
http://www.englishforums.com/English/HelpIambicPentameterSonnet/bgzldk/post.htm#sc1949060
Actually I feel so upset after his/her comments but your comments give me some confidence!:)Thanks again! So I want to know your opinion about the coherence of the peom? And any suggestion?..
Here is my sonnet according to your advice(the "heavy" and "jingle" one I didn't change for I want to come up with another idea maybe..)
A Summer Night
A summer night we come across again,
Is in the countrysidewith easy life.
And time has passed so fast but now is still.
And I remember shining eyes of you.
Sometime you had a dream of literature,
Of love, of traveling around the world.
But when we drink, talking trivial things,
The glasses click a sound of broken dreams.
Again I wander lonely in the street,
where children kick a can ahead of me:
A jingle song from whose tough top,
A heavy sigh from whose empty heart.
The street is full of hot and sticky air,
And I felt so cold in a summer night.
They are right, there is some coherence issues (But on the other hand, have you ever read Emily Dickinson's Poetry?)
All you need to do is go through this line by line and ensure it is ten syllables long, but sound relatively natural to say.
"And I remember shining eyes of you" for example... isn't quite coherent.
Perhaps
"And I can remember your shining eyes" makes a little more sense. All it needs is YOU to go through it very carefully.
"And I felt so cold in a summer night" doesn't make full sense either.
"Yet I had felt so cold that summer night" may be a better option.
Once you have done this, read it as a whole. The sonnet should be poetic, but should also sound relatively natural. the poem should flow like someone speaking naturally. Your readers shouldn't have to work too hard to understand it.
So, this guy and I have been talking for quite a while. In the beginning, when we first established that we both had feelings for one another, things were great. There was effort from both sides of the relationship. Then somehow, a fight made its way into our relationship and even though we have made up, it doesn't feel the same anymore. He's recently gotten a new job which requires him to work late hours, so he's not really available to talk during the day, but at night he usually is up. Anyway, I feel like he doesn't put much effort like he used to any more and it makes me feel bad and angry at the same time. While he fought, he told me that it never seemed like I cared enough and that he won't try as much because he doesn't want to get hurt. But even though we have decided to start over, I still feel like he doesn't make much of an effort anymore. And I'm really insecure about it. I always over think situations and I constantly feel like he's ignoring me on purpose. For someone who used to call me every day and text me all the time, to once a week calls or barely any replies to texts, I feel like something is definitely missing. I dont want to bring it up and come across as needy given that he's busy nowadays, but I feel neglected nonetheless. He's always hanging with his friends in his spare time, and honestly, its hard for me to go see him when he does have time. Why do I feel this way? I feel like he's not making any active effort and he just talks to me just to keep in contact. Sometimes he will go days without contact at all and it makes me feel bad. I'm trying my best to make an effort more than the first time around so he can't complain I never cared. But I feel like he's just not trying to meet me halfway. What do I do? I'm so tired of feeling this way. I feel like he has the upper hand in the relationship and none of us should be feeling like that at all...
Right, do not text or message or call him anymore. If he wants to actually sit down and have a proper conversation because he likes you, he will do that. You gotta give him space and time to miss you. If not, then never mind. He was just not that into you.
If you feel you're quite close to him, tell him all of this (but maybe sum it up into one sentence), and see what he says. Is he sorry? Does he care?
Usually men will only want to talk everyday at the start of a relationship... they'll get comfortable enough not to keep on talking.
The worst possible thing is to worry and panic, because that comes across as desperate. Just do what he's doing. Have fun going out with your friends, and as long as you're not looking for it, a new, better guy might even come your way :)
I always stutter when i read hindi(I was born and live in India)but I am a good reader when I read english or french. Please give me a solution because it is very embarrassing when I have to read in front of the whole class.
Here is an iconic moment from a TV show here in Britain- a reality TV show about a school in Yorkshire. I don't know if your stammer is as bad as this boys' but watch it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cWeKiZS-dxM
He reads out loud whilst listening to music.
Is your stutter like that? If it is, try this technique. If not... then practise your reading more often?
Is Hindi your first language? Or your 2nd/3rd? If you're just learning I'm sure stuttering is fine, but if its a first language this may be different.
I seem to have the most acne for my age. The thing is I eat healthy compared to other kids ( not too many processed foods) and I exercise and wash my face and use organic facial scrubs with nytric ( idk how to spell it) acid. I guess I am sorta stressed but not put under the pressure that other kids are. WHAT IS GOING ON I had a clear zit free face last year and now, well now there's acne on my forehead and both cheekbones. I have tried using salt it doesn't work and the the acid stuff just prevents . My parents won't let me get prescription because my moms against drugs( she thinks everything can be solved by eating vegies) WHY ARE ZITS POPPIN UP AND HOW DO I GET RID OF THEM thx 😘
Lemon? Lemon is acidic and honey is antibacterial. Try using it as soap.
However, I recommend washing your face in the morning and the evening. BUT don't ALWAYS use the scrubs. Maybe alternate. Because, using too much of the stuff will dry out your face and it'll over compensate by going extra oily. Try not to wear makeup (if you are a girl/or if you do that ;D ), and keep your hair out of your face.
....Hmmm... depends, tbh, acne is just something a lot of us face, (ahahaha see what I did there) but if it gets really bad, like https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=acne&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=hnZNU87iNo3ZPOnPgcAF&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAQ&biw=1607&bih=793&dpr=0.85 some of these poor people... drugs are sometimes recommended. Sometimes injections!
But if its mild, its fine. It'll clear up on its own. Don't pick it!
I'm a 14 year old girl in 9th grade, whenever I like a boy or if I don't know them well I get really nervous, my hands just shake and I can't control it and I stutter when I talk to him! I've found it's with every boy I like and not just ones that are shy too. It's always really awkward, even on FaceTime or Skype and I just can't think of things to say!
Someone please help me!
Wow, never heard of this before.
Well, what do you want to know about him? Everyone, when given the chance, is good talking about themselves. Ask him a question, that will lead to a long, open ended answer. Not a yes/no thing. Ask him about his family... holidays or whatever. His response might remind you of something funny or whatever that happened to you and then just tell him! Just tell him what you're thinking (of course, filter, FILTER) and that's how a basic conversation works. Of course, you know that. The only way to get over this is to talk to lots of boys, and the one you like. Just put your hands in your pockets or behind your back. Don't think about them. Relax, immerse yourself in casual conversation and once you've done it, you'll be able to do it again.
I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...?
You sound pretty~
What are you worried about? Everyone is different! If your hair is dark reddish brown then surely you have the colouring like a redhead too?
If it really worries you, get a slight spray tan. But tbh, redheads look better with paler skin. Natural beauty is whats "in" right now. Well, in the UK anyway. Its all about pastel colours, natural hair and makeup at the moment. Tans are..." sooo last year, darling"
So FEAR NOT.
Body consciousness, like prejudice, is something that is taught to one by others.
I have written an iambic pentameter sonnet, but actually i am quite confused about iambic pentameter!
Can someone help me check it? Thanks!
A summer night we come across again,
Is In the countryside with easy life.
And time has passed so fast but now is still.
And I remember shining eyes of you.
Sometime you had a dream of literature,
Of love, of traveling all around the world.
But when we drink here talking trivial things,
The glasses click a sound of broken dreams.
Again I wander lonely in the street,
Someone is kicking can ahead of me:
A jingle song from whose tough top,
A heavy sigh from whose empty heart.
The street is full of hot and sticky air,
I feel so cold that in a summer night.
Aw bless this is cute.
Iambic Pentameter is a sentence with 5 iambs- that's one stressed syllable after one unstressed syllable... e.g the word "before" is like be-FORE Like ba-DUM.
like a heart beat.
So... on to your poem;
A summer night we come across again
a SUM-mer NIGHT- we COME- aCROSS- aGAIN
--this first line is iambic pentameter. In other words, ten syllables.
"Sometime you had a dream of literature"
Is not Iambic pentameter. If you say "lit-tra-ture" it is, but if you say "Lit-er-at-ure" it isn't. (I can't get my head around that... maybe cut the "a" and use "dreams" instead?)
"Of love, of travelling all around the world" Is not Iambic pentameter either. Unless you pronounce it "Trav-ling" rather than "Trav-el-ing"
Anyhoo try
"Of love, Of travelling around the world" instead.
Same with "But when we drink..."
Try "But when we drink, talking trivial things"
"A jingle song..."
Try "A jingling song from whose tough top" maybe?
"A heavy sigh..." Is one short too. Try "The Heaviest..."
The last line.. is not Iambic pentameter either but I really wasn't sure about that.
"I had felt so cold in that summer night"- That's Iambic pentameter.
Its a nice poem though, does it ALL have to be iambic pentameter?
Surely its alright not to be.
Well, I'm just finishing high school and next year I'll be going to university. See, my head has always been divided by arts and sciences, I can't live without one of them. Since I was little I was a little geek that asked for a microscope and a telescope when little and memorized a little book about the planets. I also loved to scavenge the grounds for "minerals" and "diamonds". Silly, I know, but I didn't know how silly it was when I was six! Anyways, I also loved to draw a lot. As I got into high school I also developed myself as a writer - I just LOVE writing, just about anything. My friends would always come to me when we had to do essays so I could peer review before the teacher saw them. I even write fanfic novels in wattpad and Fanfiction.net.
I entered my desired college through the Geology Department. Hehe, more scavenging. However...I'm worried. I don't want to loose my artistic side my emerging myself in all the science, loosing my inspirations and forgetting about my hobbies. My roommate is going for a bachelor in Physics so that doesn't really help. Not that she doesn't have an artistic side too because she does, she just inclined more for sciences. So, my problem here is that I was planning on taking a minor on either English Literature or Plastic Arts. However, I now realized that the minors aren't really looked at very much. I started thinking about a "double major". I don't know if that's a good idea however. I don't want to be from those type of people that works too much and forgets about family, because I still want to have time to be with them and friends and just have fun, not be always cooped up studying in a corner. What should I do? In any case I might take English Literature as my other major along with Geology.
I AM LITERALLY HAVING THE SAME PROBLEM.... sort of....
I am a sixth form student in the UK so I don't really know much about US education, but I'm taking Biology, Chemistry, English Lit and Drama A Levels and have decided to take English at University.
To be honest, Geology or science will probably earn you more money and get you a job beyond college/uni. There is always a demand for more people with specialist knowledge, and trust me, as someone who is about to dive headlong into the arts world, it is really competitive out there! You CAN keep up your hobbies. College/Uni has loads of clubs and societies for you to join with like minded people. You will not loose your artistic side if you keep up those hobbies. Hobbies such as writing can be kept up if you just set aside some time to do them and be committed.
If you can take English and Geology though, DO IT. Its good to have as many skills as possible and get the broadest horizon~~~. In all honesty, when you get to do higher education, it helps to do something you love, because then you will do well in it, and WANT to work.
Hello advicenators,
I am going to be buying a "new used" car pretty soon. I got a new job recently and I will be able to afford the payments. Im looking to spend somewhere in the $18-25,000 range. I don't want to buy something I'll regret with that amount of money. I have never bought from a dealership before.
What are some tips? What are some things I should look out for (Any salesmen tricks I should be wary of, or extra things that I shouldn't be paying for?) I'm a girl in my 20s that knows pretty much nothing about cars (other than how to fill up oil and change a tire-the basics) and I totally expect to be taken advantage of when it comes to cars. I'm not stupid but there's a lot of car stuff I don't know.
So anything helps, really. I'm going to do some test drives this weekend. I've researched and decided on a couple of different makes and models based on extensive internet searches and reviews. I would like to be prepared before I go.
Thank you!
In Britain we have like an automobile club, and for a small fee you can take a professional around with you to look at cars and make sure you don't get ripped off. Perhaps you have them in the US?
Other than that, I can't really help you as I am a 17 year old girl whose parents can't afford to let me drive yet! (This question ended up in my inbox for some reason? Maybe try asking it to the general advicenators..?)
I had a big fight with my best friend (Or 'ex best friend'...?) and she said she was done. We've had fights like this before, but it felt different. Well she said a lot of stuff, including that she's done with me and our friendship.
Well, about 2 days later, she texts me and says she's sorry. It seemed kind of weird. She said that she really honestly is sorry and that she didn't mean it, but can I trust this? She means a LOT to me and I've kind of been sad these past few days, but what if it's a trick?
Pretty Simple- she probably is sorry, and since you're best friends, you should take her back, try to trust her.
HOWEVER,
Whatever it was you were fighting about, simply don't trust her with it, until she proves she can be trusted. Be friends, but keep your eye out for tricks. Of course, being the bigger person would to genuinely be sorry and forget the whole thing.(you need to be that person, but don't be a doormat either)
Doesn't mean you can't be friends though. I've got friends who I certainly wouldn't trust with secrets for example, but it doesn't mean were not friends.
If you re-write the question with more detail, some of us may be able to give better insight into what is actually going on.
I've been trying to lose weight for a while, but I haven't had much luck. Anyone have some ways to shed some weight fairly quickly but healthily?
Cardio for 20 minutes a day!
E.g skip rope, Running, interval training etc.
+ 30 mins extra on a Saturday.
Limit yourself to 1 chocolate a week, and eat NOT NOTHING, BUT SLIGHTLY LESS. SLIGHTLY.
Healthy foods only! Stay away from ketchup (because its a lot of sugar) and fruit juices. Stick to water. In fact, drink plenty of water, as this aids weight loss.
Pay attention to what the others say too! And get on a diet and weight loss website.
Tomorrow I have my oral mocks, and I didn't really revise because I have so many mocks. I planned to revise today, but I think I spoke too loud or something. After 1+ hours I already lost my voice, so I can't revise now. What should I do?
Oral mocks?
I'm not sure what these are, but if you have to learn anything off by heart of course you can still revise!
But you evidently can't take the test. Just tell your teacher and ask to reschedule. Or... write to them if you can't "tell" them. They'll be fine as long as you do it at some point.
The Europeans hate them, Romans, Germans, Chinese, Indians. Hitler and the Nazi especially. I mean,WTF? I read number the stars, and was shocked at the Nazi. But that's nothing compared to the Diary of Ann Frank! What did the Jews ever do? Why are they hated so badly and horribly for there religion? I know they don't believe in God, but is that a reason to go all psycho-crazy-harm-kill-restrict-and-make-the-Jews-suffer? I'd like to know why people are racist in general. I live in a country with no segregation, but some people are really nasty in those areas. Like a boy called a girl from a south America a “dumb immigrant" and I know some children who say they'll only marry people in there culture. Laws in country's are really unfair, if God made us all, why is everyone shunned and humiliated for stuff like religion, race, sex, lesbian/gay/strait,etc.?
Your title is "why does everyone hate the Jews?"
Well, I don't hate the Jews! I'm from Europe! Not everyone does, but I can see your point.
You see, the thing with the Nazi's were that what started off as a revolution, went a little delusional. Some of the Jews, but not all, were doing particularly well for themselves in Germany at the time so they were used as a "scapegoat." Things went from bad to worse then, as you know.
Jews have done nothing. and by the way, they do believe in god. They're considered a "race" but fundamentally its a religion.
I think you've come to realise that the world is full of prejudice- and prejudice is something that is learned from others. You may even have some prejudice to certain people based on what your peers and parents tell you!
Life is unfair, and I can't answer your religions questions but....
Perhaps if you feel so strongly about it, you should take some advice from Ghandi: He said "You should be the change you wish to see in the world."
I'm In middle school and I just got my progress report and I have a D in that class. The end of the marking period is in 3 days. I barely understand the class and my friends are really distracting even when I try to listen. I want to talk to my teacher about it but he isn't the nicest of teachers. He'll probably just ignore me. I have kno idea what to do or how to do it in only 3 days :(
Btw I only have one missing paper the rest are bad quiz and class work grades
Sit at the front, away from your friends. If they give you that "NEEERD" shit, stick up a finger.
Secondly, write notes, do ALL the work. Prioritize Science as your worst subject over all others.
Thirdly, every weekend, set aside an hour or so to REVISE! REVISE! STUDY!
The only way to get yourself up some grades is to put in the extra work and effort. Work hard over 3 days studying the things that you don't understand first. Don't be kind to yourself and look over things you already know. Head straight to the deep end- complicated stuff first! Once you get it, you'll feel like you achieved so much more!
Trust me, do this, you'll get your A by the end of the year and can break out the champagne. Even if you are in middle school :S
I made out with this guy at a party and he has a girlfriend. I do feel terrible about it but it happened and I can't take it back. However, the next day, my roommate was talking to his roommate and he told her that the guy I made out with always tell his girlfriend when he cheats but he didn't tell his girlfriend about me. He told his roommate that he doesn't want his girlfriend to know. That would make me believe that he regret it happening and that's why he didn't tell her but his roommate said every morning after, he always says he regrets what happened and he wishes he could take it back but the morning after we were together, he didn't say that and we continued on being normal friends and we went to the diner together to get food after we woke up and it was all good.
I'm just confused and wondering if somebody could give me insight as to why he always tells his girlfriend when he cheats but why he didn't tell her about me.
19/f
Thanks
Do you know his girlfriend?
Maybe he wont tell her because she knows who you are and things could get sticky...
Or perhaps he hasn't told her yet.
Were you drunk when you made out with him? I'd consider that being slightly better than cheating sober.
But don't worry too much. These things happen and there may be a bit of drama but somehow you'll all move on from it.
It seems to be this guy cheats a lot, so its more or less his girlfriends problem (why is she still with him?!) Perhaps he's cheated so much he doesn't want his girlfriend to know he's done it AGAIN. Maybe she's very angry with him now~ just continue being friends, but try not to do anything with him again.
Ask him out
go for it
I broke up with my boyfriend today and he seemed kinda sad about it. He's a mostly quiet person... But I didn't really know how to break up with him, but I kinda lied to him (Yes, I know it was bad, but I wasn't thinking and I was scared). I told him that I got in trouble for dating him and that we should just stay friends. He asked who got me in trouble and I just didn't answer. He also said "Wow I wanna shoot whoever did that" and that kinda got me scared... He asked if it was my parents then said "No I wouldn't do that"... But like I don't know if he was just upset or actually meant it. He's a sweet guy so I wouldn't think he would do that, but like I don't want there to be like a school shooting... I'm a VERY paranoid person so I could just be overthinking this, but what do you guys think?
Also, please don't tell me to tell like an adult about this because it could probably just be nothing but I don't want to be wrong either.
I think you may be overthinking it.
If it keeps bugging you, come clean. Just tell him you weren't feeling it anymore, it wasn't right to keep going etc. etc. Its only kinder to end it before you're in too deep.
You needn't worry though. You broke up with him for a reason so stick to it.
Whenever I give my boyfriend a hickey it fades super quick or doesn't even leave a mark. Any tips?
...the thing with hickeys, you've got to hurt them a little - you're breaking capillaries!
You gotta do it reaaaaaally hard.
It takes a few minutes, not seconds, of "work". And in exact same spot each time.
Tbh, i've recently been there and done this and its true what they say, Hickeys are a form of advertising :S
I'm a junior in highschool and there's this boy in my history class. He sits two seats to my right and there's another kid that sits between us. Is there a way I can start a conversation without it being weird or awkward? I don't really know him, but I would like to.. any ideas??
Right, EASY.
Talk to the kid who sits in between you two about anything. ANYTHING--
Even more devious, talk about something you know this boy is interested in. Maybe he'll join in the conversation. And hey, you may make friends with the other kid too~
There is no reason not to talk to anyone. Keep doing it and eventually you'll be in there with in-jokes and history banter.
Then there's no reason you cant talk to him outside class either.
Then just you wait till that kid is off sick.
THERES YOUR CHANCE!
Hi
I have feelings for one of my guy friends. We are 21, I have known him for about a year and there has always been sexual tension between us. We would always talk and we always saw each other because he works at the gym I go to.
About 4 months ago he started seeing a girl, and recently I realised that I have feelings for him. He is VERY flirty towards me and he asks to hang out but then he bails last minute.
Last week i was out and saw him, we were all drunk and he kissed me on the lips just a peck. Then a bit later he sat down with me and was cuddling me on his lap and stroking my leg and I tried to kiss him but he wouldn't kiss me back he just kind of kept his face straight. Sooo then I tried again but the same thing happened. I brushed it off and we walked back and the next day I said sorry I was really fucked but he pretended like nothing happened and said all we did was cuddle.
I don't understand we talk ALOT but I always start the conversations. But the way we talk seems like he is interested. Should I just change gyms so i can get over him or is that weak?
Eyeee eyyeee yeeey this is very confusing.
I'd ignore the kissing thing, as that's not strong evidence for either way.
The fact that he's seeing a girl and always bails may suggest he's on to you, and not interested.
He may be trying to stay friends, and brush you off gently by cuddling and such. Don't change gyms, don't get over him quite yet-
You can always try a different approach to make him interested. Don't start ALL the conversations, don t be desperate for his attention etc. If he's interested, he'll naturally chase you. If not, he wont.
Simply keep calm and carry on. If it continues to no avail, you may want to try moving on. But he seems nice- so try not to lose friendship, because that would be sad!