ok i have this situation me and this guy have been really good friends and recently our feelings have changed he likes me alot and we have been talking alot more and i developed some feelings for him as we were talking but idk wat happened i just dont feel the same no more and he really likes me he is so sweet to me treats me the way any girl would want to be treated and i feel bad because i dont have strong feelings for him like he does for me and my friends are like give him a chance and stuff so i have been and when were together its wierd now he is kinda shy and then i makes me feel wierd cuz the way our relationship was as just friends was kool always laughing and stuff now its just different and i dont really like it i feel wierd to flirt with him and its just not right and i dont know how to tell or what to do at all he is so nice to me and i dont want to hurt him
Oh my goodness..I have been there before!! It's always complicated when you cross that line between 'friendship' and 'love'. I know that you don't want to hurt him, but it's inevitable that this is not going to last. The longer you wait, the harder it will be on both of you. Often people fall for their "friends" and for many reasons. In my case, I saw this guy that I could talk to about ANYTHING, I could always be myself around, I could use as an 'alibi', I could trust with my life, etc. All these things are very charming, very easy to fall for. But you have to remember that that's what GOOD FRIENDS are all about. Once you cross that line, there are things you can't talk about. You know, those things that you ONLY talk to friends about. It's not unusual for this to happen, in fact I think it's probably happened to 85% of people living on this earth!
You don't want to ruin your friendship, so first and foremost, you have to be honest with him. Make sure he knows that the reason you are doing this is because you want things to be like they used to be, like they were when you all were just friends. I warn you, things are going to be awkward at first and most likely, you all WON'T go right back to being best friends. If he needs space afterwards, give him that. Give him a chance to process things. Who knows, maybe he feels the same way and is scared to hurt YOU. Either way, it's unfair to stay in a relationship with him if you don't like him that way. The longer you stay in this relationship, the harder he will fall once it is over. Good luck hun and I hope I helped you out some! Let me know how things turn out.
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Ok, so thanks to some of my dad's genes, I sweat really easily. The underarms, I don't worry about to much because I have deoderant for that. My face, on the other hand is looks terrible when I do the most simple tasks. For example, I play sports, and within the first 10 minutes of volleyball practice, i'm sweating like a hog and everyone else is just red faced and dry. So yeah, how do I deal with this? It runs my makeup when ever I go to the freakin mall! Plus it makes my bangs all sweaty and gross :( please help, what can I do to minimize the sweat? Thanks!
Have you talked to a doctor about this? My friend had the same problem. I felt terrible for her because not only was it embarrassing to her, it was uncomfortable. Her doctor told her what it was (but I don't remember the actual name) however, he put her on Ditropan, which was a medicine to help reduce the sweating. It helped her, however, it didn't get rid of it completely. Other than that I'm not really sure what can be done. I'm really sorry I can't be of more help. I would try consulting a doctor if it is extremely excessive. Hope I helped atleast a little. Good luck hun!
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okay well i want to know if there are any cute things that i can do for my boyfriend. i've the love letters, the dinner, and blockbuster movies. so i'm out of ideas. so if anyone has an idea that would be great.
Have you tried the homemade "coupon book"? It has things like massage, watch a football game with you, take you to your favorite restaurant, etc. Then he can 'use' the coupons as he chooses by simply giving it to you. Of course you can add whatever you choose.
You always have the 'picnic' also. It sounds corny, but my bf loved it lol. Just get you a picnic basket, find the perfect place (maybe a park, by the lake, could even be your own backyard), set out a blanket. Take the picnic basket so things will be set up BEFORE you tell him. Then tell you want to 'take a drive' or 'take a walk'. Take him there.
Get him a "just because" card.
Above all though, when it came to my bf his favorite thing was the scrapbook I made of our relationship. It had everything from pictures, to letters we'd written, to an empty dorito bag we shared. Just silly stuff that will mean something to you and him, but not necessarily anyone else.
I hope I helped a little! Sorry, but it's hard when you don't know much about the couple. =) Good luck hun!
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I've been thinking about getting a straightener recently, but I'm not going to be using it every day so I don't want to get something really expensive. Do you know any cheap straighteners ($20-30) that work well? I want a Chi but those are just way too expensive unless I'm going to use it every day. Also, is it easy to burn yourself when straightening? Because I've only straightened my hair twice and my friend did it for me. And I burn myself a lot when I use a curler, but I noticed that the plates in straighteners are kind of centered so it doesn't really touch, but just in case, is it easy to burn yourself?
I'm Asian so my hair is kind of soft [I don't know how to explain it really. For some reason, Oriental people's hair is kind of different] and fine, but not like, super thin.
Thanks!
I agree with the person below..the Remington Wet and Straight is a great straighter if your hair is not super super curly (like mine =/) Also, as far as burning yourself, the place most people burn with a straighter is their scalp by trying to get to close. If you take a wide tooth comb and place it up against your scalp as you straighten (it's much much easier than it sounds lol) then you will prevent yourself from doing this. Honestly though, it's a LOT harder to burn yourself straightening than curling. Good luck and I hope I helped a little!!
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Okay. So I don't know what to do as far as organization for school this year. Last year I used a separate binder for each subject, as I did the year before. I was organized, but bringnig that many books home was always a hassle, and my shoulder was strained every day from carring my bookbag home everyday.
I'm going to be a junior this year... and I don't know what to do! I was thinking about getting a notebook for each subject (each about 500 pages) and then 2 of those portfolio-like things that have 5 different folders (i don't know how to explain them, i hope you know what im talking about ) to put worksheets & whatever else in them.
Does that sound like a good idea? If not, any other suggestions?
Suggestions would be very useful, thank you.
Well first off, have you thought of an expanding folder? Something like the one pictured here http://www.buyonlinenow.com/viewproduct.asp?sku=ESS01158
When closed it is about the size of a standard notebook, but when you open it, it has several folders inside and tabs to label them. You can find them in the office section at walmart, target, office depot, etc. They come in very handy with my classes AND job! The ones you find at walmart are super cute. They have all different kinds of colors and styles. Atleast check it out to see if it could possibly help you. I think, as already said, you are on the right track. I'm not sure what your classes require of you (many may prefer that you have your own notebook for ONLY that class). If that is the case then get a note book for each class, if not, try getting a 5 subject that you can use for all. Or maybe a couple of 3 subject notebooks. I hope that I helped atleast a little bit. Take care and good luck!!
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My family (My mom, sister and I) are going on vacation for a couple of days and we are driving there. We are going to Omaha, Nebraska. It is about a 2 hour drive. What are some fun things to do on our way there are back? I googled some and have ideas but I wanted to know if any of you have fun activities. Also, if any of you know, what are some fun things to do on Omaha? We are going to the zoo but we don't know if there is anything else there that we can do. Restaurant suggestions would be great too. Thanks!
First off, I hope you all have a great trip!! I have traveled probably 65% of my life so I am no stranger to trips =P. Some games you can play (and some may seem dumb, but you'd be amazed at how much fun they are when you play as a family).
*License Plates - Try to find as many states as possible on passing cars license plates. Before starting, all of you bet on how many you will find and see who is closest by the end of the trip.
*Road trip scavenger - Before you leave, come up with some things you are likely to find on a road trip (blue car, texas plates, pine tree, stop sign, etc.). Put them on a different list for each person. Make sure that you have the same items on each list but have them in a different order. Then the first person to see all the items (you must go in order) wins.
*Road trip bingo - same as above but make bingo cards instead.
*Then there is the classic - Alphabet games. Pick a subject like "girls names" (it can be anything). The first person starts with a name beginning with A, for instance Angela. The next person then must repeat angela and then say a "b" name. Every turn the person has to repeat everything said, in order, and then add the next. You may choose to do "things you'd see in Omaha" or "At the zoo".
I hope that these help out a little.
Good luck and have fun!!
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I have a child with my boyfriend (been together 3 years with an almost 2 year old). I love him, but I am not "in love" with him...like I don't feel deep down and really don't miss him when he's away, and recently have not even been sexually attracted to him. I have been in love with someone else for 8 years and I believe in my heart that one day we will find eachother again...but it could be a very long time from now. Recently I have decided that I am ready to expand my family (have another baby) and settle down, purchase a home. My boyfriend wants to move to alaska and buy a home together and have another child. I just don't know if I should wait for my true love, or pursue my other dreams with the man I already have...like the song that goes, "If you can't have the one you love, love the one your with". thanks for the advice
WOW! What a complicated situation! First off, you need to leave the guy you are with. It's unfair to you, unfair to him, and unfair to this child you have. I saw that someone else said you should stay with him for the child. It is true that this will be hard on the youngin, but what happens if your "true love" comes along? You sound to me like as soon as it happens you are going to jump on that boat. What if it's say 5 years down the road? Now you potentially have a five year old and a seven year old. They are now old enough to realize that mommy and daddy are apart, but too young to cope with it. I can tell you really like the guy that you are with, but it takes love to have a happy home. Love goes both ways. You need to break it off with this guy (even if the other doesn't come around) so that you all can split amicably (and not because of another man). You all can sit down and discuss custody, etc. It's not your fault and you aren't a bad person for it. You can't make yourself love someone. Kids don't always seem to understand what is going on, but they WILL feel the tension. You don't want that for them do you?
Secondly...and this is ONLY after all is said and done with your current boyfriend, you need to tell this "love of your life" how you feel. Give him the chance to say whether or not there is a future with him. If he says there is not, then you need to accept that both of these guys are just stepping stones to the man you are supposed to be with.
Hun, you can't stay with a man just because he's available or because you "like" him. And you DEFINITELY shouldn't continue to build a family like this. Sit him down, tell him that your feelings aren't the same anymore. Tell him that you aren't IN love with him and that you want to do whats right by him, yourself, and your child. He may not understand now, but when he is with someone who loves him the way he loves you, then he will thank you! I know that good things will come to you both in time. Patience, although hard, is a virtue. Good luck and please keep me informed. I hope I could be of atleast a little help.
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I know that my dad is cheating on my mom. It's a fact, despite my best friend telling me to "be 100% sure" before I jumped to any conclusions. I can't feel anything right now except bitterness and betrayal. How can he do something like this to me and my mom? Actually, I've known for 5 years, and I'm 16 now, so I think 5 years of being sure is more than enough. My issue now is how to tell my mom. I burst out crying just now after I logged onto my dad's other email and read the stuff between him and his wh*re. Apparently, he wished her a happy 4 years last December. He's been an irresponsible father and unfaithful husband for 4 freaking years. And before that, it was with some other woman that my mom found out about herself so I guess he had to end it. He just can't be happy with what he has. My mom works so hard to keep our family happy and this is what he does in return. However, it's hard to be cold to him suddenly, because I'm the kind of daughter that everyone expects to be kind and obedient. And I can't find it in my heart to fully hate him, despite his unforgivable sins. No matter what, it was both he and my mom's efforts that made me who I am today. And the other day, my mom was telling me that in the future, if my husband strays, I shouldn't go to a divorce instantly, and try to make it work. She's already done that once herself. Can she take another hit? I don't know. She's not as strong as she used to be, both physically and emotionally. What can I do right now? I feel like I'll implode from what I've kept for so long. I never told her because I was selfish; I didn't want to break my ideally "happy family." I'm stuck right now. I can't imagine telling my other friends because they've all got perfect families and it would be shocking to hear that my dad, who seems oh-so-nice in front of them, is like that. I have no choice but to turn to a stranger for advice. Please help me.
The first thing I would like to say to you is about one of your last sentences.."I can't imagine telling my other friends because they've all got perfect families and it would be shocking to hear that my dad, who seems oh-so-nice in front of them, is like that." Do your friends not believe that you have the perfect family? Exactly!! It may be that one of your friends is going through a similar situation RIGHT THIS SECOND and they don't want to tell you, their friend with a perfect family. Get what I'm saying?! You are not alone in this, sadly many families result in broken homes. Inspite of why you think you haven't told your mom, you are NOT selfish. I think that a part of you just wants your mom to go on believing that she is in the perfect marriage. How do you tell someone you love with all your heart something that you know will shatter theirs? It doesn't make you selfish, it makes you human! Secondly, don't try and hate your dad. Hate does nothing but cause YOU problems. Have you ever heard the saying "forgive but don't forget"? What this means is that you need to forgive for YOU, so that you can move on without all the built up anger, but you NEVER forget the actions that hurt you so bad! Hatred will only hurt yourself. I think that you need to sit down with your mom. Tell her that you want to talk to her about something that is bothering you. She's been through this before, so odds are she knows what's going on and she is trying to act like its the perfect family so that YOU are happy. You see, you and your mother have a lot in common here. You are both trying to protect the other from the inevitable truth. What you need to do instead, is work together to get through the bad. Your dad messed up..he messed up big! If you can't find it in yourself to tell her, maybe you could print out the emails, or write her a letter explaining what you've found out, or both! This way you dont have to worry about bursting out in tears AND you are giving her time to deal with the truth that is staring her in the face. Once she knows you know and vice versa, it will make it much easier for you both as a family. I wish you the best of luck and I hate that you are having to go through this! I can only imagine how it must feel. My parents are divorced, but it happened when I was very young, not old enough to comprehend. This must be extremely difficult for you. I hope that I've helped you out and I truly hope that you will continue to let me know how things are going. You seem like an amazing person with a huge heart, you are just stuck in a bad spot right now. Remember one thing..no matter what happens, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. I've been through some things that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, but I don't want to take them back either, because they made me who I am today and I'm pretty satisfied with that person. Take care and please know that you can tell me or ask me ANYTHING. I won't judge you and I'll be here to help the best I can. If for nothing else, just as someone to talk to.
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I just a job this summer at a really small store. (i'm 15/f, by the way) There are 5 people total who work there, and it's a pretty close-knit environment. There's a guy who works there too, who's my age (well, he's 16) and in my grade. We've only known each other about a month, but he just told me that he liked me a couple days ago. We haven't had time to talk about it though, so he doesn't know if i like him or not. I think I do, but I'm not so sure. Sometimes he's perfect and wonderful, and other times he's just weird. (he's homeschooled, so that probably has something to do with it). Should I just date him and see how it goes? Or should I say that I'm not really ready for a relationship?
If you don't know that you like him, I wouldn't jump into a relationship with him. Take time to hang out with him, get to know him. Remember that if this doesn't work out you are stuck working with him. If you decide to go with this, then keep in mind that you have NO choice but to keep it professional at work. You don't want to act like bf and gf while you are on the job. Good luck and remember, if you aren't ready, don't push it. Good luck hun.
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this whole month we have barely talked.
he got kicked out of his house and his cell phone was disconnected so he stayed at a friends house (we live in different states by the way) and he would call me some nights and it was really hard cause we used to talk on the phone everynight and fall asleep on it together and then i kinda got used to tlaking to him like 3 times a week and then like 2 weeks later his aunt let him come back and he promised me we would tlak more. and that never happened. and then he just got a job and his hours are really lame. its from like 5pm-12am and im up till like 3 always and he told me a couple times he would call me after work. that never happened either. and when he would get home and would post bullitens and it would be like 1 in the morning saying lets chill ill come pick you up. and you wouldthink since we barely talk anymore he would take the time to talk to me instead of go with his friend which he is alaysss with. its like he doesnt have the time for me anymore. and its hurting me. and i told him that. and he doesnt seem to do much about it. we used to talk everyday alll the time. now im lucky if i even get to tlak to him for 5 minutes aday.
i spill my heart out for him alwayss and i get nothing in return except my heart breaking more and more each day. he always tells me im never going to lose him and he loves me so much.
i need help. i dont know what to do :[
I hate to say it, but long distance relationships seldom work out. It's nice talking on the phone and sending letters, but it's hard when you don't have the ability for physical affection; holding hands, hugs, even a kiss on the cheek..the simple things like this keep a relationship going. Plus trust is ALWAYS an issue. It's hard not knowing where he is, what he's doing, who he's with. You have to have 100% trust in him, because his word is all you have. How often do you all get to physically see eachother? How long have you been going out? Answers to these questions would get you a more detailed response. The first thing you need to do is talk to him. One last time you need to tell him exactly how you feel. If he doesn't react appropriately, then I think it's time to call it quits. Maybe you should try moving on to someone who lives closer to you. It may not seem like the best thing for you now, but you'll see how much happier it will make you. Who knows, maybe you all will find yourselves together again, or maybe when the opportunity approaches you'll turn it down because you've found true happiness. I hope that all works out for you hun. I'm sure it will!!
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okay so im 14. but my parents wont give me any money. so i cant go to the mall or the movies or anything. it tottally sux! so i was wondering if anyone has ideas for a 14 year old girl to earn money! :) thanx 4 even reading this! but please answer.
I agree with askme. First, offer to help your parents around the house. This way they know that you are actually taking the initiative to MAKE the money instead of having it handed to you. A lot of times parents feel that their kids will take advantage of them if they just give you money. If you earn the money, then you can prove to them that not only are you responsible, but that you are also going to spend more wisely knowing that you have to work for it. Good luck girl and I hope that they work with you on this!!!
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ok so here's the deal... i like this guy in my grade and i see him everyday. I really like him and i don't even know him! i don't know if hes nice i don't know if he has a girlfriend and heck! i don't even know his last name... two qustions...
1.) is it bad to like somebody u have never met?
2.) What should i do?
HAHA! We have ALL been there. Sometimes it's the 'mystery' that makes us like him more. The less you know about him, the more you can make him the man of your dreams =P. You are perfectly normal..nothing bad about what you are feeling at all. You need to strike up a conversation with him, get to know him. Pay attention to his friends, where you see him, this will help you to decide what he likes and you will have some basis for conversation. Is he in one of your classes? If so, maybe you could ask him about that. Here's the deal..let's say hypothetically speaking you NEVER talk to him, just continue to dream. You'll have the perfect guy, you've made him everything you want him to be, but his biggest flaw...he'll never be with you. Now next case scenario. You walk up to him, strike up conversation. Atleast now you've given yourself the chance with him. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't..atleast you aren't forever wondering what if. Believe me, you do not want to be in limbo forever. Gain some confidence and just go up to him. You don't have to ask him out..just small talk. Good luck hun and I hope that everything works out. Correction, I KNOW everything will work out, even if it doesn't turn out the way you wanted. It all happens for a reason! Hope I could help a little.
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My girlfriend ask me a question like this
" Baby you know that i love being in love with you but sometimes i get a little nervous that one day you'll fall out of love with me so just be honest with me and tell me something."
How can i keep your attention and interest?
Then she imply's " You say you will always
love me but what will keep you in love with
me? So tell me and i'll leason.
We've been together for seven years now. Don't
get me wrong we've had our up's and down's when
didn't see each other for a year. Doing the
years of break up's and makes up's she dated
another guy while i was single.
I just want to knoe what would make her ask
this question wheni tell here almost everday that i love her.
You seem to be a great person and I can tell that you truly love her. Girls often need to be reminded of these things. I've only been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I still worry that he will get "tired of me" or bored with the relationship. As said below, try and think of things that you can do to show her you love her. Maybe you could do something that she LOVES to do, but you dont care that much for. You know what I'm saying? Something that she knows you wouldn't just go out and do. Also bye her cards for no reason. It doesnt have to be b-day or anniversary..get her a 'just because' card. And DON'T just sign your name to it lol..write something in it. Girls just need simple reassurance, that's all. Plus, you say that you all have been through atleast one break up. Maybe she is just stuck on that thought, wondering if it will happen again. Have you ever thought of a coupon book? You can make them at home. Things like "Wash the dishes" "Give a Massage" "Watch your favorite chick flic", etc. This way she can use them as she chooses. Good luck and I hope that I've been of atleast a little help. You all have been together for 7 years and I can tell just from this post that there are many more to come!!! I wish you BOTH the best!!!
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I have had a crush on my best guy friend since 5th grade (I'll be in the 11th grade next year)... We went to the Sadie Hawkin's Dance together last year and I don't know if I should ask him again or what because We had lots of fun and he was teaching me to dance... What should I do?
Definitely ask him to go again. Let him know how you feel. I know that "FOR" (fear of rejection)is probably kicking in, but nothing good comes if you don't take a few risks. Worse case scenario he says no, but atleast then you'll know. If he says yes then there could be endless possibilities. Tell him how much fun you had, tell him how you feel, don't throw it all on him at once, but maybe start with asking him to the dance. Then at the dance or even after, you might tell him that you like him. Go out on a limb, take a chance..it might be the best thing you have ever done! You definitely don't want to be wondering 2 years from now "What if". Good luck and let me know how things go.
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i always wanna have sex but im a virgin so i dont know how it feels what should i do? what is wrong with me?
Babe there is NOTHING wrong with you. For one, it's normal to 'want' for something you've never experienced, whether it be sex or being in a hot air balloon. Second..it's good that you are still a virgin. Don't ever go and have sex just because you want to know how it feels. Wait until you are ready. By ready, I mean TRULY ready. Wait until you are with the guy that you care about, your in a relationship. Don't think you are strange, be proud of yourself!!!
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i have an absolutely beautiful perfect best friend ha. and my closest guy friend is her boyfriend. they are perfect for eachother! hes my neighbor, and we hang out alot. but trust me we are NOTHING more than friends. we USED to like eachother, but were way over that and she knows.hes a GREAT friend that i can trust with all my heart too. so i dont ever want our friendship to end. i dont know if i should get any closer with him because i dont want to make her mad that we talk alot. but when we talk it about her or one of the guys i like. it doesnt seem to bother her but i hope one dy me and her friendship doesnt get torn apart because of it.
should i remain as close to him as i am now?
There isn't anything wrong with the relationship you have with this guy. For less confusion we'll call your guy friend Joe and your Best friend Sally. If you and Sally are BEST friends, then there should be trust there. She should know that she can trust you and she shouldn't ever ask you NOT to be friends with anyone. In fact, I know that one of my prerequisites to getting with a guy is that he get along with my friends..I want that to happen! Does Joe feel that she is going to get jealous or upset? If they are 'perfect' for eachother, then trust should not be an issue. Don't over think this! I think that you are a great friend for just being concerned. Continue to do what your doing girl! You've got nothing to worry about in my book.
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OKay, so I'm 17, female. And I play basketball, cheer and track. Well A couple weeks ago. I say like the 9th and 10th of July I had a basketball tournament. Well My knees and legs got banged up, but the bruises are still there, mainly on my shine(spelling). I'm seeing some on my arms too. The one on my shine, doesn't hurt. But on my arm it does. I have no idea how I'm getting the ones on my arms. I'm scared that it is Leukemia, My grandmother just died 7 months ago form it. I don't know if I'm just freaking myself out or what. Any ideas?
Yes excessive bruising is a symptom of Leukemia, but it's also a symptom of low iron, excess vitamin b, diabetes, physical sports, or you could just be like me - I bruise very easily. I see bruises (some really bad) on my legs that I have no clue where they come from. Bottom line is that because of the past incident (your grandmother) Leukemia is on your mind. Either way, you should probably go see a doctor. Even if it's nothing, the stress of not knowing could cause illness in it's self. It will be best if you can see a doctor and understand more what it is. I will say one thing though...DON'T look it up on the internet. One time I had a place (not a bruise but same type of story) on my throat. It came so suddenly and stuck around. I decided to look it up on the internet. The only thing that kept coming up was "The Silent Killer" and throat cancer. Turned out it was nothing, however I put off going to the doctor in fear of hearing the worst. I'm sure you don't have anything to worry about, but it won't hurt to go, even if it's just to put you at ease. I hope I've been of some help and sorry this was a little long.
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16/f
hi okay so basically i've been hooking up with this guy. we've been like best friends for like 2 years. he's liked me for these 2 years also. then i started liking him.. we were like almost to the point where we were going out, just like not actually going out. he was going to ask me out but there were some complications.. whatever not important. my point is we were REALLY close. then we started hooking up and it's like i started to lose interest. it was only around 5 times but i just started getting bored of the same thing over and over again. and it's not like we even did that much. i was teasing him a lot though.. (not letting him have tounge when he kissed me, like touching his dick but not giving him a hj, etc.) so do you think that's why i got bored of it? because most of the time we weren't actually like really into it..? i'm like a huge tease even when i like the guy and i just can't help it i just think it's because i'm nervous to mess up and when i tease them it makes me look more experienced and stuff.. ya know? i can't explain it but basically i just feel bad about not knowing if i really have feelings for this guy or not anymore. i know i was like pretty much in love with him before we started hooking up but then it just got.. weird i don't know. i don't want to like lead him on though because i don't want to hurt him and i know he's in this for more than just a hook up. i'm pretty sure he wants me to be his girlfriend but he wants to wait until he's 100% sure i like him before he does that. i feel like i might have just continued to hook up with him because it was easy to do. like there's other guys i could hook up with but it would take a little more effort to like let them know i wanna and stuff. i'm not really sure what to do right now. any advice?
Alright, first off, it's apparant you don't have true feelings for this guy. It's not abnormal to think you are 'in love' with someone, especially someone you've known for so long. However, you have to remember, you knew him for 2 years, but only as a 'best friend'. This often times happens when you cross that friendship line. After reading what you wrote, I think you seemed to (even though you didn't know it then) love the 'idea' of being with this guy. This is a guy you call your Best Friend, so I assume you could talk to him about anything, be yourself around him, trust him with your life basically..who wouldn't want a boyfriend like that?! But when a guy is promoted to boyfriend from Best friend, these feelings often change. I think that you need to break this off now. It's not right that you are leading him on, which again..even if you dont realize, you are. It may hurt him at first, but atleast you are giving him the opportunity to find someone who wants the same thing out of a relationship as he does. Letting him go needs to be a selfless act, not selfish. Remember YOU led him on, so it may take him sometime before you can gain his trust, or before he can be around you as friends (like you were before). Give him the time he needs. Don't make him feel guilty as he has done nothing wrong. I hope that this helps and I truly hope you don't think I'm being mean. My guess is you came here for truth, for honest advice..and well..I come to this site to give that to you. Good luck hon and for your sake I hope that you can get your best friend back with time.
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16/f
so me and my friends were at the beach the other day and we met a few guys and they gave us their number and then asked us to hang out later that night but it was getting too late so we just told them we would call them another night this week. so i think we're gonna call them today. they go to a different school and they don't live THAT far away. but anyways we're not really sure what we should do with them. because this would be the first time we hang out with them.. any ideas?
we already have...
- park
- mall
- movies
thanksss :)
My friend Tonya and I met some guys at the beach and we decided to go shoot pool with them. At the time, neither of us were very good at it (although now I could kick all their butts haha). The reason this worked out so well is A)guys are more talkative when they are doing something that they are better at than you B) They were eager to teach you how and C)It gives you a chance to laugh at yourself - and show them that you can do this. It's just a good time and it's a 'guy' thing so it keeps them in their element. My advice, however, is to first give them the opportunity to decide. Meet them on the beach (or where ever) and see if they may have some ideas in mind. If not then you atleast have about 10 things you can choose from between your answers and the ones below.
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16/m
so, i'm a lifeguard at the local pool/waterpark. it's outdoor, so it's a popular place during the summer, and of course it's full of beautiful girls in bikinis.
so, recently i've had a lot of these girls start trying to talk to me. they usually are just like "heyyyy. what's your name?" and such. . . it's kinda nice to get the attention.
however, i always get way too nervous about it and just reply and keep walking. i'm always too afraid that i'll embarrass myself or something. i don't really know what it is, but i'm afraid to go up and start a conversation with these beautiful girls. . . i don't know what it is.
how can i work up the courage to talk to them?
thanks in advance
Laugh Out Loud is right. The biggest thing is to stay calm. A lot of guys 'overthink' the approaching girls scenario. Remember you just want to start up a conversation, not marry them. Like 'LOL' said, ask about the waterpark (or pool) that you work. Even joke with them..chicks love that (well the ones I know lol). For instance..if it's someone that you see there often maybe say something like "They should start paying you, you're here more than I am." It's just something to lighten the mood a bit. You wouldn't believe after the initial 'start' of a conversation how easy it is to continue it. Starting is the hardest part. Good luck and I hope I've helped out a little.
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