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hey. yeah. i keep it real, and i'll try to help out annyway with annythin i can. im Em, and im a pretty smart chick. im a preddy good person, you know the type you would let babysit ur kids. dont take me for granted. i k how to rock it and keep it kool. w/o all the drugs and tequila. go ahead, ask me. ill anser. cuz u k im good lik that ;)

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i like to read books but only if there good.the books that i like have to do with people my age(14)or around that,and also with them dealing with peer pressure of drug,smoking,drinking, sex, etc. but i could never find any books. i would like to know any books that you would suggest. the title and author would be greatly appresiated(sp?)

thanks

theres quit a lot of books that are like that. there is my favorite, go ask alice but its annyonmas and is basicly the jurnal of a girl who abuses drugs. its preddy sad though, but its one of my favorites. theres a fantisy book i like, i dont normally like fanasy but this one particular book, called tithe by holly black i have read at least 7 times and basicly all of philis renolds naylor's books are good and are like the tipe of books you discribed. theres lots of them out there just go to a bookstore somewhere and look in the young adult or teen section thats your best bet of finding the kind you like. hope i helped

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i got my period about a year ago and i still have discharge even 2 or 3 weeks before my period comes..i know its not a yeast infection..is this normal?? 13/f

yes, it is normal. it happens to me all the time. it happesns to my friends too(the ones that are girls lol) its perfectly normal. but if it smells bad, has a yellowish color, or makes you itch, you may have a infection of some sort and may need to go to a doctor. hope i helped

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I have a crush on this guy, actually it's more than a crush, I think I'm in love with him. We have been friends for 3 years, but I've always hoped we'd become more than friends. Well someone recently asked me what qualities about this man that I love attracted me to him. Then suddenly it dawned on me: He's exactly like my father!!! These are all the similarities:they both have dark hair and brown eyes, they both have really hairy chests, they are both very tight-wadded with there money, they are both workaholics, they both drink a lot of beer, they both are very flirtatious with woman, they are both humourous yet serious, they both have REALLY bad tempers, they both have been the boss of there own business, they both have been called an asshole behind there back, they both have been to court because of enemies made at work,they both are the oldest child, and they both have sex addictions (my dad cheated multiple times on my mom, and my crush admitted to me that he struggles with pornography.)
Well now that I've finally figured out why I'm so attracted to this man, it kind of grosses me out. Should I still have feelings for this man? Because in some perverted way it feels like I have feelings for my dad.
What should I do?

its perfectly normal. that happens to me, only its with my brother. yeah it is kinda discusting when you think about it, i mean, i always thought my brother was the uglyest thing on earth and now ive fallen for someone lik alsmost the same as him... its perfectly normal. there was a study done that said people are attracted to others based on the past acperences lol well i hope i helped :)

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okay so sorry in advance if this is just kind of long. and thanks for taking the time to read it. :). okay so i have a best friend lets call him jack. So i have known jack for a veryy long time and im really good friends with him.And i guess he got into a fight with one of his good friends cause i guess his friend is like always ditching him to hang out with his gf. and jack dosnt like his friends gf in the first place. So i guess jack was really upset and all and i was talking to him and he said that he didnt see any point in living anymore. and he said he hoped he died before his birthday. I talked to him about it and everything and now he says he's okay but im still kind of worried.. any tips on what i should do and if i should still be worried... Thanks so much, I appreciate it greatly.

ok, i think what you need to do, is tell him that you are worried about him and you care about him. it might sound kindof gay but if he was seriously thinking about suicide, he wont see it that way. tell him that you are there for him if he needs to talk things over with somebody. you might want to still be a little caoutious, like maby keep a eye open for days where he seems sad and/or upset. you might also maby want to tell a school councelar about it if you are seriously concearned about him. he/she will probly have a talk with them about it without telling him who told them. hope i helped ;)

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I think I am in love. Can someone tell me if this is love. I'm only 14 but I think I get it. There's this guy that I am going out with. I like him alot. I can't help but smiling everytime I talk to him on the phone and on the internet. I smile everytime I see him. I think about him before I go to sleep and when we hug neither of us can really let go. He tells me that he loves me alot. I think I'm definately in love. So please tell me does it sound like love to you?

ok, im going to tell you rite now, that i have had love and obsession. obsession is where you cant stop thinking about someone and its the only thing you can talk about even if the other person your talking to is talking about something serious. you think about them so much that it keeps you from doing things like homework, eating, sleeping, etc.
love is where you care for someone so much that you would die for them, and you still think their gorgous when there sick and have no hair. love is when you can actually imagine yourself dieing and suffering for that person. you decide if its love or obsession, and no, you cant have both. hope i helped

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17/m/lonesome

Ok there is a girl at work that i have feelings for, but I dont know if she likes me or not. I mean whenever I talk to her she alwasys gets a smile on her face, or starts to giggle. I will tell you this right now I'm not too good at reading the signs to tell you if someone likes you or not... no its more like i trip and fall into love., but I am a hopeless romantic at heart and I've alwasy treated women with the highest respect and dignity, and I think I could build a very long relationship out of this but idk, PLEASE HELP ME!!!

well, if she always gets a smile on her face, that means you mae her happy, witch makes her want to be around you more. when ever i like a guy and he talks to me, its hard for me to stay serious, like i giggle if they say hi to me and stuf. maby you could buy her a flower and just leave it with her stuf or something. that can be pretty romantic. or comment on her eyes and see how she reacts. it also gives you an excuse to stare into them. the flower thing is a good idea to because it will give her a thrill and also let her know that someone she works with likes her. i know this stuf would work on me. hope i helped

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Hey ok, I like this guy and when we hangout we act like we really like eachother but he is known to be a player and always asks me to do stuff with him and i dont, but yet he still hangs out with me.... do you think he is just going to keep trying to get some and doesnt really like me, or do you think he actually likes me because he sticks around?

ever think he sticks arond because he respects you because you said no, and is knowne to be a player because he doesnt respect them? who knows... he probly likes you. just be carefull
hope i helped

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i know this is bad for me
so dont bother telling me to stop
i dont even smoke that regulary.. only when im stressed out lol
i always get dizzy?
is this normal? i mean ive only been smoking for about 3 months.. im not on 20 day.. im not even on 5 a week... more like 2 a week, it takes me about 2/3 weeks to get through a pack of 10.
could some one tell me why im feeling dizzy when i smoke?
thanks x x

you feel dizzy because it is killing your brain cells. you know, you can run out of those

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ok, im a 16 y/o guy, and i've never had a health class (reason i'm asking.) What are some signs that a girl IS NOT pregnant? like, is her period not the same? my girlfriend is 15, and we dunno. we had sex about 3 weeks ago, and we were woried about it. she's on her period right now, but does that mean she is FOR SURE NOT PREGNATE
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yes, she is POSITIVLY not pregnate. but next time use some type of birth controll like the pill or a condom. hope i helped

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Ok, my gramma has cancer and shes dying. We dont think she will make it until Christmas. I have a big family, and we are all very close, so it's a sad thing. But for some reason, i just dont feel sad. I feel guilty, it feels like i dont care. I know i do care, but i dont feel sad. It seems like everyone else is sad except me. Am i like a bad person? Is this normal? Please help!

when my grandma died, i went through the same thing. you arent a bad person, its just it probly hasnt hit you yet or something. but its perfectly normal. i cant explain it, but i know numerous people it happens to. maby your just in shock. or maby you are just to exuasted to be sad. but you arent a bad person. hope i helped

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Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering about something...
I know its normal and not exactly their fault and everything, but when a girl goes through monthly stuff, what are we, the guys, supposed to do. I really don't mind it, but sometimes I feel like I need to help out my g/f with whatever the problem may be...but I can't. Should I just be there to talk and listen? That's what I've been doing so far. I mean I can't think of any good advice other than lie down, take some medicine, try to relax, and stuff like that. Should I try to help, or just stay out of the way? Is there any way I can help or no? I know I don't or ever will understand what it feels like or anything, but I'd still try to help with anything. Will rate, thanks in advance.

ok, first of all, dont ever bring up the phrais pms around her. if you do, she might get really pissed off. it might be a sortof good idea to stay out of the way, because if you slip and make her mad you might get, like, runover. if you guys get in a fight, just give in. take her to the movies or buy her chocklate. chocklate is better than like, annyother medicine. or ice cream. it doesnt sound like mutch, but if you get her chocklate or ice cream it will help in a BIG way. hope i helped

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13/f
ive lived with my grandparents for 13 years and just a few months ago i moved in with my mom and her boyfriend. i REALLY miss living with my grandparents and i feel like my moms trying to take me away from them. sometimes ill ask my mom if i can stay the night with my grandparents and she says no. we fight and argue every single night and im so sick and tired of it. i cry myself to sleep everynight because of her and her boyfriend. her b/f is so rude to me too. i try to talk to her about this but every time i try we get in another argument. i talk to my grandparents about it and they undersatnd but they dont know what to do. i just cant stand living with my mom and her boyfriend. if anyone can tell me what i can do besides talk to my mom please help me.

ok this might not be that big of a help but...

write her a note, giving 15 or whatever # you can come up with of reasons why you should go back to your grandparents. you cant get in a fight if its a note. also ask her questions about why you arnt alowed to spend the night at your grandparents' house. tell her in the note that you feel negleted when ever your sister is around. or maby you guys could go to a place where you know your mother wont raise her voice, like a restaurant, but if it is in writing your mom might take the time to try and understand what you are saying. dont critisise her or her boyfriend, whatever you do or she will get angry and might either stop reading it or read it carlessly. it should work good luck hope i helped

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I'm 15/f.
Usually a couple days before I start my period, I get this feeling like I really want to beat someone up that I hate. Lol, it's really weird. I'm not psycho or anything. I'm a really really happy person usually, and I'm super nice. It's just like 5 days or so before I start my period I just want to beat someone up. Is this normal? Does anyone else feel like this?

ya that happens to me all the time. its p.m.s. (pre menstral syndrom) my mom gets it to so my dad always goes fishing on those days lol hope i helped

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Hey, i kind of like my best friends boyfriend,...but the thing is,...i hooked them up,...it's all to strange for me and i dont know what to do. he's nice, funny and cute and everything....i got myself into something big, i know and her mom is like real sick and she's gonna die soon which makes the drama so less appealing

i would just let it go. your rite, its not a good time for drama so you should probly just talk to her boyfriend snd tell him you didnt mean for it to happen. you shouldnt tell her about it or she would probly be varry upset.it feels rong but later you will realise that it was for the better. think. if she found out, she would probly maby b/u with him and get mad at you and it sounds to me she could use a good boyfriend and not to mention a good friend. but make shure no one else knows about the hook up or the plan not to tell her could backfire. hope i helped

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I'm 5'7" and I used to weigh 120 and then around 3 months ago i started losing weight but the past 2 weeks I've been losing alot more weight than usual. I mean I eat just as much as I used to and i still get the same amount of excersise but I weigh 99 pounds now and i need help. How do I gain any weight?

you should probly actually work out more, sence muscle weighs more than fat. make shure you get full, compleate meals durring the day, and try to focus on lifting weights or doing crunches than cardio. you should probly see a doctor, so maby if you have a medical condision its noticed soon. are you having lots of stress latly? stress can trigger rapid weight loss... your best bet is to see a doctor. hope i helped

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My bff Ashlyn, like this guy Tanner. Secretley I like him too but I haven't told her that yet. Well Tanner is been flirting with me ALOT latley and invited me to the movies. I told him, that I like him, but I don't want to hurt Ashlyn's feelings, he said he respected my descion since I've known Ashlyn longer and that he'd wait for me, cause he really likes me. I don't know what to do. I don't know how Ashlyn will react if I tell her I like him and he likes me too. What should I do. I really like him, but I love her too, shes my best friend. xox i`ll rate.

ok first of all you need to talk to her about it. tell here that he asked you out a few days ago and that you didnt want to hert her feelings so you told him that you wouldnt intill you knew it was all rite with her. she might not anser for a couple of days, she might have said that shes ok with it rite there or she might get really mad and just walk away. the important part is that you tell/ask her about it asap or if she hears about it later she might get really pissed. make shure you also tell her that you always liked him before but you were scared to tell her because you thought she might get mad. hopefully she will say its ok with it but if she isnt its probly better off if neither of you go out with him. hope i helped

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okay, so i REALLY like this guy.. and he says he likes me.. and we are liked "together" but not going out.. like we are basically dating.. but we have a commitment like we cant date other people. and he comes to my house every friday and he like kisses me and holds my hand and stuff.. but he will hardly ever hug me at school.. is he just playing a gam?

ok, so you really are 'going out', witch is dating without seeing other people. do people know you 2 'like eachother'? if so, i wouldnt be to worried. maby hes just not into the hole p.d.a. stuf (publicly displayed affection)but if noone knows about the 'thing' you 2 have than i would ask him if he wants to make it offical and see how he reacts. hope i helped

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my bestfriend that's a girl just broke up with her boyfriend today i really like her and have liked her for two years i don't want to be her rebounder but i still want to go out(m13)

i'd wait about a month, just so she had all the time she needed for her to get over him. but you can hang out with her to 'cheer her up', like you can rent movies, go to the movie theatres with other friends along, have dinner at her/your house with family, etc. and when she is over him just casualy ask, "hey, have you ever thought about what it would be like if we were more than friends?" it should st least get her thinking about it if she hasnt already. hope i helped

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I am a 25 year old female with a huge life decision to make.I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. And i love him with all my heart, he's pretty close to being perfect. Hes kind, caring, smart, athletic, he's the whole package. And of chorse im not satisfied. My problem is, i still have a crush on my high school crush...i know it sounds silly because high school was 8 years ago for me, but yes there has not been a single day since high school where i have not thought about him in some way. After high school we kept in touch at college for about a year, and after that we kinda lost touch. But that didnt stop me from thinking about him all the time. I always compared every guy to him, and every guy i dated i always told myself if "Bob" (my high school crush) were to ever come to me and say he wanted to be with me i would breakup with whomever i was with and date him. About 2 and a half years ago me and "bob" found each other again. We began talking again, it was like we never lost touch, we picked up where we left off. The problem was that i had a boyfriend whom i really care about and love. "bob" on the other hand was single. And since i already believe that him and i are soulmates i thought that was a sign, because he is so gorgous that him being single wasn't bound to last long. Just like high school every female that lays eyes on him instantly is drawn to him. I have opted not to tell him my feelings because of my boyfriend. Him and i still talk on occassion, and maybe once or twice a year we hang out and catch up on "life". I have found out from sources that he too once had a crush on me in high school. And when we do see one another he always asks if i still have a boyfriend and when he finds out i do, he asks if im happy, and if i see a future with me and my boyfriend. He has been in and out of a few relationships, but i know the time is going to come soon when he thinks he has found the person he wantst to spend the rest of his life with, and when that happens i would have lost my chance to tell him anything forever. And this just kills me because i want him so badly. I want to be able to tell him everything on my mind. I want to tell him that i love him...yes i do love him, but i cant tell him that cause its not fair to my boyfriend. But at the same time this is just killing me inside. All i want to do is just get everything out in the open so i can have a sense of relief. Im curious how he would respond to my feelings. i truely believe he is my soulmate, i have always been drawn to him. i believe he is the person im suppose to marry. Whenever i have dreams of him (which are often) i try to hurry and go back to sleep just so i can be with him. What do you suggest? am i crazy? is this jsut a silly crush?...well i dont think its just a crush because the crush evolved to me loving him....and you see the reason wny i never told my crush my feelings when i was single was because i am really shy, and i thought that he was too perfect for me and that he could have any girl he wanted so why would he choose me....and i use to push him away big time a few years back because i was affraid of my feelings for him, and i was affraid of getting hurt if i told him. But now i feel an almost need to tell him my feelings just so i can get on with my life. What do i do? please suggest....

you should tell him your feelings, but you shouldnt drop your man. he came at the rong time. ya, you probly will be able to get on with your life after you tell him. but inless you two are truly just friends afterword, you probly shouldnt see him, sence it would be out in the open. and if you have had a boyfriend for 5 years, there's gotta be something to that. you shouldnt ruin it for a highschool crush. hope i helped

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okay so i have to make an outline to a story in creative writting i'm suppose to have a . .

1.Charater
2.description of the charater
3.a problem it has to deal with
4.attemting to solve the problem but fails

ect. i need help on a problem for the charater and it failing anyone have any ideas?

1.nikki the mouse
2.small, gray, female
3.nikki needs to get to the cheese
4.nikki cant find the cheese because the people cleaned it up

1.gilmore the cat
2.red, striped, fat, pink nose
3.gilmore doesnt want to go to the vet
4.gilmore hides but his owners find him

1.alice
2.17 years old, blond hair, blue eyes, tall, reasonably thin
3.alice needs a scohlorship to get into collage
4.she gets turned down

sry if these are really lame but i hope i helped annyway

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