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boyfriend. best friend.
My bff Ashlyn, like this guy Tanner. Secretley I like him too but I haven't told her that yet. Well Tanner is been flirting with me ALOT latley and invited me to the movies. I told him, that I like him, but I don't want to hurt Ashlyn's feelings, he said he respected my descion since I've known Ashlyn longer and that he'd wait for me, cause he really likes me. I don't know what to do. I don't know how Ashlyn will react if I tell her I like him and he likes me too. What should I do. I really like him, but I love her too, shes my best friend. xox i`ll rate.
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okies..first of all you and the tanner dude have to sit down with her and tell her the truth say you cant help they way you feel and that you will always love her as ur best friend..but you like him alot and if she is a great friend then she will let you be happy with tanner..cuz she will relize how much he means to you..good luck and hopefully i have helped...byebye
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well if you really like this guy you should be honest with your friend. if she gets mad just say, "I really like him and as my friend i think you should respect that." if she doesnt its her loss hope i helped ♥ Kelley ♥
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Wow, this is exactly the 20th time I've responded to a question with someone in this PRECISE, cookie-cutter situation.
(i.e.: You and a best friend both like the same guy, and the best friend only likes you, so you have to pick between your friendship and your other relationship.)
So, here's the obligatory advice. Get your best friend to ask him out, and make sure the guy secretly knows this in advance. Have him turn your best friend down, and after she gets over it (shouldn't take long at all), ask him out for yourself. It's a victimless situation, unless you count your best friend, who would have been a "victim" no matter what.
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ok first of all you need to talk to her about it. tell here that he asked you out a few days ago and that you didnt want to hert her feelings so you told him that you wouldnt intill you knew it was all rite with her. she might not anser for a couple of days, she might have said that shes ok with it rite there or she might get really mad and just walk away. the important part is that you tell/ask her about it asap or if she hears about it later she might get really pissed. make shure you also tell her that you always liked him before but you were scared to tell her because you thought she might get mad. hopefully she will say its ok with it but if she isnt its probly better off if neither of you go out with him. hope i helped
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you should talk to your friend and be like i didnt want to tell you this because i didnt want to hurt you and i felt i needed to be honest with you. then tell her that you like him and he likes you. be really nice about it though and give her space to think about this. she might be a little mad about this the first couple of days but shell adjust to it after a little while. or you could point her to a different guy that she might like and then hook them two up. hope i helped! buh bye! if you need any more help im me at T3RRI2010!
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tell her, cause if she finds out from a rumor.. it will not be good. you might lose her as a best friend, instead of her just being mad at you for a day or two.
trust me, if she's a real best friend, then she will be happy for you and "tanner". if she can't exept the fact that the two of you are together.. thats her problem not yours.
hope i helpd.
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First of all, you'll never know how she will respond unless you tell her. I understand why you wouldn't want to do that to her, but if you care about her that much as a friend, don't you think you should be honest with her? She might get upset and angry at you, but it's better than keeping this a secret. You could even have Tanner talk to her about it. That might seem a little harsh but just be honest with the girl. You also need to realize that you can't put your life on hold so your friend doesn't get upset. It's going to happen in life whether on purpose or accident. Just do your best to make it easy on her and i'm sure she'll come around. Hope that made sense and i wish ya good luck with it!!!
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