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constant fighting.
my parents and I ALWAYS fight. Right when I turned 13 they started becoming so overprotective. They track my e-mails, text messages, and phone calls. They won't let me hang out with my friends either. I got invited to Washington with my BFF for Fall Break and of course they said No. When I asked why they started yelling at me and grounded me for " being a brat. " I can't take it anymore. I'm stuck in my room everynight for the dumbest reasons like, I got an 83% on a math test (apparently a B isnt good enough ). I CANT TAKE IT. pleasee help, I'd really like it.
PS: I've never been a bad kid. I'm responsible, great in school, I don't get into trouble or do drugs or anything. SO why did they become so overprotective ?
thnks bunches.
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What does God say about your situation? Well, He gives this instruction in Ephesians 6: "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Hounour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; that it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord."
What does this mean?
First of all, God says that children are to obey their parents. This is YOUR first responsibility. You must obey. Why? God says, "this is right." The first way to gain the trust of a parent is to be gladly obedient. That means you obey with a good attitude. Even if you don't agree with their position, God says obey. Maturity will be manifested when you choose to obey and then start becoming content with their authority.
Secondly, God says that you are to honor your parents. This means to give due reverence and respect for them as your authority. Again, this is YOUR responsibility. Let me commend you here for not saying disrespectful things in your post about your parents. It is very apparent that you don't agree with them all the time. That's okay. But you must honor them. Don't talk badly about them behind their back. And what about when there is a confrontation at home. Even if your parents raise their voices, you must not. Honor them by willingly submitting yourself to their authority. I once hear someone put it like this. If the authority is becoming oppressive, the subservient is to do whatever he/she can to bring him/herself into line with what the authority wants. You are responsible for your actions and attitudes.
Thirdly, the parent is given instruction in the passage. The Bible says, "Fathers," but the original greek term is a term commonly used for both parents. Parents are to avoid provoking their children to wrath. What does this mean? It means that the parents are to bring up the children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, or in the teaching and discipline of the Lord. The parents are to do this without intentionally doing things to provoke a bad response/behavior and without making their demands more than the child can handle. This is NOT your responsibility. You cannot control what your parents do. So here's my advice. Obey and honor your parents. Pray that the Lord will show them that you are ready for more responsibility. Remember, you cannot be ready for more freedom, without being ready for more responsibility.
Let me know if I can be of further assistance,
-ByReasonofUse
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they became over protective because they dont want you doing anything bad and now that your a teenager and are almost in high school they are freaking out and treating you like you're still a child. Sit them down and first tell them to hear you out and wait till your done talking and that you want to tell them how your're feeling right now then tell them that you feel like your being treated unfair and that you feel like they're being over protective and that you're trying your best.
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They are uptight beacuse, in their eyes, you are still "their little girl". Sit down with them and have a serious and mature conversation about being treated like an adult. Or rather, an adolecent. Don't whine and shit because that just shows that you aren't mature. They don't want you turning into a whore. Ironically, most kids whose parents are very overprotective go completely crazy when they are eighteen and have freedom. They do shit that they regret for life.
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these days kids are so bad that its hard for parents with good kids to let go. but you're parents have a trust issue, and maybe over time you can win them over by showing them what a good kid you really are. study and get really good grades & then try talking to your parents and lettin them know you have no intentions in doing anything "bad" cause thats not you.
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well, show your parents how responsible you are get your bff's parents to talk to and maybe that will change your parents minds
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ok i no how stupid this sounds but your parents care about your saftey (both emotionally and physically).i think that you need to sit down with them, tell them that your not trying to b bratty, and reach an agreement that gives you your freedom and lets them feel that your safe.
hope i helped <3
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Usually parents are overprotective because something happened when they were at your age. Like they're probably paranoid that you're doing drugs, or whatever they tell you. They're most likely scared that you'll make the same mistakes they did and that's understandable. It just means they really care and love you. But as for them grounding and fighting you all the time. They're probably really stressed and so they take it out on you. So dont personally blame yourself because sometimes parents take their frustration out on their kids. I go through that alot too so i should know. Just try to be patient with them and if they keep it up, dont let it bother you. Stay calm and make sure that you dont give them a good reason to keep doing what they have been (like tracking your calls and such). Well, hope i helped ya and good luck!!!
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