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Q: What do you suggest I eat to lose more weight?

You can eat all the fresh fruits and veggies you want, do about 1 1/2 hours of non impact aerobics 4 times a week , eat 4 ozs. of red meat 3 times a week and you should really see a difference in about 3 weeks. Email me for more tips or visit my website www.healthfix4life.com

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Q: I am 5 feet and weigh 180 pounds...I really love eating junk food w/o control and I hate healthy food and I don't excersize...I know there is no easy way to do this, but I really want to look nice, but I don't want to give up junk food...is there something I can tell myself to just stop?

Yeah, how much worse do I want to look before I find out it's too late and now I am so stretched out of shape they could stretch my empty skin over a railroad car and have room left over. You need medical help NOW!

Q: heyy. i was looking through some stuff & found ur site.& i needed advice..
i manage to get mad at people very easily-if they mess w/ my friends. ive even gone after a few people, but ive only hit them..and i had a girl, who doesnt ever talk to me & does not know me at all call me phsyco..so what do you think? =/

It's not normal to fly off on people. You could actually have a small chemical imbalance. I cannot give medical advice but there is this over t counter stuff, St John's Wart that helps me when I tend to fly off over the little things. They sell it at all drug stores. Ask the pharmacist about it.

Q: 16/f
im bisexual and i admitt im not a virgin
i have different feelings for guys and girls
Guys: it feels better to do it with a guy than a girl
Girls:im more attracted to a girl than a guy and they turn me on more than a guy does

for the past 3 yrs ive been bi and for the past 1ish years its been getting awkward for me, lately everytime i see a naked guy i have to cough out the gag so i wont affend the guy. AND its been getting harder and harder to be turned on enough for a guy even to get in me in the first place...
the question is am i a future lesbo?

I usually don't answer questions like this because I have a tendency to see things as black or white. Just the other day I saw a similar question and here was my advice. I have noticed that mankind is the only species on earth that has sexual relations with it's own gender. We are also the only species with a free will. Notice that all birds of the same species build nests the same way even if the young birds are removed from their parents. A large dog will take food from a smaller dog and have no conscience if the smaller dog dies because of it. They are prewired that way. They have no choice. We on the other hand do have choice. We also understand the results of a poor choice. If you rob a store you o to jail. If you go to Harvard law school and get a degree you get a high paying job. For every choice there is a consequence both good and ad. You have chosen to experiment in an area of free will that now has become close to an obsession. The longer you continue to go down that path the harder it will be to get off of it.Man was never created to have sexual relations with it's own gender. Yes you may enjoy it but that doesn't make it right. Using drugs is fun at first but addiction and overdose are two very real outcomes if the behavior is continued. You will NEVER feel right if you continue to act in a way you weren't designed to act.

Q: Alright so my girlfriend of 7 months has gone through a lot. More than anyone I know and I am surprised she is still her. But anyways she just got a cell phone 4 or 5 months ago and it's a pay as you go phone. Her step-mom said she could only use it for emergencies. Of course like any teenager she didn't go by this. But she buys all her own phone cards and everything. Well a few nights ago I was talking to her about our amazing weekend (long story) well my phone has bad reception in my house so I thought it had dropped the call. I waited a minute to call her back and when I did her step-mom answered. Thats when I figured out she hung up because she came in. Well anyways she told me that she was only to be using this phone for emergencies and that she will have to talk to me another time. Then the next day she called me for just a minute to say she has been groudned for 2 weeks. She can't see talk or do anything with anyone. So pretty much isolation. And this is all my fault and now we may not get to go to the Journey concert we planned on for months since that is within these 2 weeks. I just feel the need to make things right. And to know if her dad had any say in the punishment. Because honestly it should be up to him and not the step mom since it's his daughter. Is there anything I can do to make this right?

Most likely any thing you do will make the problem worse. To let them know how long she has been disobeying will get her in even more trouble.

Q: Hi, I'm kinda poor in studies, especially in languages and math. Could you please provide some advice on how I can do better? Especially in languages because I can't understand the darn questions. Any help will be appreciated. Thanks.

math is more memorizing formulas than any thing else. Practice, practice, practice. A tutor could help get you on track.

Q: how do i lose alot of wieght in like... two weeks?

This is my personal routine for losing 8 lbs in two weeks with no side effects. I can't recommend that you follow this advice as I am not licensed to give this type of advice. No sweats, no junk food, 1 1/2 hours of walking of low impact arobics 4 times a week and eat only fruits and vegetables uncooked. No more than 4 ozs. of red meat 3 times a week and one gallon of water a day.

Q: im 14 and i dont know if im bi, i think i like girls whenever i see i pretty girl i usaully think "shes pretty" and i cant just stop staring. i always wanted to kiss a girl but everyone i know is straight i licked a girls lip before and i kinda liked it so im confused.. well please help

Alcoholics don't just become alcoholics. Drug addicts don't become addicted all at once. Have you ever noticed that man is the only species on earth that has sex with it's own gender? We are also the only species that has a conscience. The stronger dog will take from all the weaker species with no feelings of remorse. If that smaller dog dies because of the larger, the larger doesn't care. We know the difference between right and wrong and also have the free will to do whatever we please. Humming birds only build one type of nest and tigers don't eat roots and berries. They are pre-wired to live the way they were designed. They have no choice. God gave free will to man only. If you experiment with unnatural behaviors long enough then the same fate as the drug addict and alcoholic will also over come you.

Q: ok. i HATE IT. when other people fart. i think it's the most disgusting thing ever. well. my mom thinks it's fcking HILARIOUS when she farts and watches me freak out. well today, she farted. right in the middle of the kitchen where we were making breakfast and i calmly told her that it's not funny & that it's RUDE as well as disrespectful. at first she was laughing, and then she started crying. see, she has a disease and the medication makes her really emotional. she thinks she she can just start crying whenever she wants & she'll always get her way. and i hate it. i know it's horrible of me to say that. i love her and all but she takes advantage of the situation. so she starts crying to my poor, poor dad that everyone always "gangs up" on her when i CALMLY told her that it's rude. nothing i do can ever make her stop. she always does it, and starts laughing hysterically, and if i start freaking out, she starts crying. except i didn't even freak out today! i stood up and i told her that it's disrespectful for everyone around her. can someone PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE? I'VE TOLD HER countless times that i don't like it when she does that and she's always like yeahhh okay whatever -- SORRRYYY in a sarcastic way. ugh! it pisses me off! she never taught me any manners. she farts and burps and she's NOT a lady at all. even at restaurants she'll burp - out loud, but quietly - and people will glance at her and she says NOTHING. it's SO rude. can someone give me some advice regarding her farting? it's just plain GROSS!!!!

Sorry! Some people are like that. The only real way you can do something is to refuse to go out in public with her if she won't quit. Don't eat when she eats and slip her some beano. Forget that last suggestion. I am not licensed to give medical advice to help someone stop someone else from farting.

Q: hi all.... m in india and its summer season here... and summer in india means really hot summere.... well the prob is that i get pimples on my back and sometimes on the chest too... it just dosnt looks nice wen i have to remove shirt in front of anubody if i have to... like wen i go to swimming.... i feel bad bout it... any advice to tackle the prob??????????
ps ... m a male,, 19 year old

I have some health kinda info that might help. We sweat to cool our skin. The hotter it is the wider our sweat glands open up. Our sweat glands are also used by our blood supply to get toxins and other stuff out of the blood. The better you eat and the more pure liquid you drink the easier it is for the glands to let it out. The opposite is also true. The more junk food and soda you consume the thicker the stuff that is trying to get out and it plugs the pore hence a pimple. Try something for me. Don't drink and soda and eat more fresh fruits and vegetables for one week. Drink all the water you can take in and see if there is a change.
One more thing. Bath every night and use a soft sponge and really scrub the problem areas. This should help open the pores and flush them out. I'd be interested to know the results. Email me. support@healthfix4lif.com

Q: 2 things

when i shave my under arms it is never completely smooth and if it is then i can still sorta see the black hair under the skin, i guess its the best way to describe it what can i do?

and

the hair on my underarms and legs grows fast
like i need to shave every day to keep it 100% smooth but the most i can go is like 3-4 days in the summer. why is that and is there anything i can do besides waxing and lasers?

Got bad news. My daughter has the same dilemma. Unfortunately for her she got her genes from me and not wife. My wife shaves once a month. I have a lot of hair and need to shave every day. My oldest daughter takes after my wife. Same with shaving. The middle daughter has more hair on her arms than the other two. The youngest got it on the legs. Use a triple edge blade and you can get another 1/2 day. Laser removal is the only permanent solution.

Q: ive been trying to lose weight and its been the hardest thing ever.
i have to lose 15 pounds in 4 weeks, and trust me, losing that much will make me normal, not anorexic, so its okay.

ive been telling myself ill diet tomorrow, etc etc, but its so hard! like i keep eating and i have no self control. i used to look at pictures which would keep me determined but it doesnt work anymore.

what should i d0? what can keep me determined?

My advice would be to start a healthy living plan. This would help you get started correctly and keep you from getting into your condition again. Go to my website www.healthfix4life.com I have tons of free info on eating to live. On the tabs you will see "anemia, what can I do" Click on it and down the page you will see Michael Snyder's healthy living study course.

Q: Ok. I'm 14 year old girl and i'm going into highschool this year. I'm over weight, (Trust me, I know i'm over weight. I'm NOT one of those girls who are really skinny, or normal and say they're fat. My doctor even says to lay off the food because of my cholesterol, and weight. Even my parents agree.) But that should'nt matter because of course, they should like you for who you are, not your apperance. Am I right? Well, i'm wondering if i'm wrong, and it really DOES matter, because you see, my friends have boyfriends and they have perfect bodies. (I know that happiness does'nt come from dating, but I can't help it.) I guess you could say i'm jealous, but thats not the point. Does weight really matter? And, if it does or does'nt, does anyone have any good tips for the pounds to start lowering? I am really, REALLY bad at diets. The longest i've ever stayed on a diet was for a week. I keep trying and trying, but I can't break my old eating habbits.

Let me say up front that you should be accepted the way you are. Not all people are the same size. But from a health stand point poor health and poor nutrition go hand in hand. For the past 10 years I have been studying the effects of diet and health and to a great extent we become what we eat. Our body gets out of whack not so much as how much we eat but what we eat. Here's an example. If you were to eat 40 lbs of celery a day for a year you would most likely starve to death. On the other hand if you were to eat only 1 lb of hot dogs a day for a year you most likely would have some serious health risks. What you need is a balance. I know for a fact if you were to eat all the fresh fruits and vegetables you wanted and you were to be active the way a person your age should be you would be healthier, even more active, and you would naturally lose weight. I have a website with tons of great health related information all for free. www.healthfix4life.com If you are really serious about getting good information check out my site. On one of the pages there is a great healthy living plan. Stop dieting and start living. Have your parents check out my info. Much can be found out for yourself. I just make it easy by having it all in one place.

Q: Thank you for the advice earlier! I asked about my boyfriend who's being a jerk. I have another question.

Well, I told him I'm sad. He said he doesn't know what to say. I asked if we could meet tonight to talk things over and he said okay.

I really don't want to end it with him. What do I do?

One of the worst things a young person can do is stay in a questionable relationship. It's very important to have friends but not relationships. Here's why. A friend should be willing to accept you as you are and the same with you. If a friend turns into a jerk and you find it hard to be around them you just cut it off, no sweat. A relationship gets to the point where you have invested yourself into this person and thinking of losing all that time and energy bothers you in many ways. It would be like finally getting along with a step parent and then they decide to get a divorce. You feel cheated because of the energy you put into getting along with this person. So this boyfriend is starting to cause you to have second thoughts and you really don't feel comfortable having to start all over so you are going to try and make it work. It just might not be worth the extra effort to find out later on you are now making an even bigger mistake. Keep your feelings close to you until you are old enough and wise enough to know for sure the guy is worth the time YOU are going to invest in HIM!

Q: I need some tips to help me lose weight safely.

Great to have a desire to do things safely. Surf my website. Simply eating correctly can help you do this. Go through all the pages. I have poured out tons of free info to help people live a healthier and fuller life safely. If you are very over weight I have a page on that also. www.healthfix4life.com I have a "contact me" button if there is something I can assist you with. Remember the better you eat the better your body responds to exercise and immune health.

Q: I'm having trouble eating beef. I need to eat more meat, but I really don't like the way it tastes.

What are some ways I can make this easier? Like certain dishes where you can't take the meat that much?

For instance, I don't like eating roast beef or steak because it's simply just meat all by itself. I want to cover it up with flavor or sauce, like a stir fry or something, but what other dishes are there?

Go to www.healthfix4life.com and on my home page a little ways down are some terrific e-books on cooking. All the cookbooks are for living healthier and you will easily find something that will tickle that taste bud of yours!

Q: so there is this guy, and i told him how i felt about him even though he had a girlfriend and he said i wanna tell you how i feel about you and he did he said he wished we could have gotten to know each other more...
well we would just talk on emails over myspace and thats it until just recently two days ago from today he asked do you wanna hang out with me.....well we never did cuz of the timeing bbut the next day we talked more, ust over emails and he told me that him and his girlfriend just broke up!!!!! but the thing is we never talk about him and her and whats more he told i didnt even bring her up!!!!!
well anyways i asked why they broke up and he said it was because
.....she thought he was cheating on her with ....ME!!!!!!!!
and thats not true!!!!! so i wrote back saying im sorry i should have just left you alone i feel really bad now.....heres the part youve been waiting for......his girlfriend requests me as a friend on myspace and she says.........listen yurr not the reason we broke up things were just going down hill for us so its not yurr fault!!!!!
WTF!!!!!!!!!!! why in the world would he tell me that i was the reason!!!!!!???????
does anyone know why!!!
cuz im pretty sure he likes me or at least has feelings for me so why would he tell me they broke up cause of me??????

help me please!!

Players like to play on others feelings. If he can make you feel sorry for him he may be able to get you to do what he couldn't get his other girlfriend to do. Steer clear of this guy. If he would lie about something silly like this just consider what else he will lie about.

Q: Just out of curiousity, is it considered wrong to wear a bikini at a public pool or beach if you are pregnant?

Wrong, maybe not. Distasteful, Maybe. You could wear a nice button down shirt around the crowd and take it off where ever you are beaching.

Q: 15/F
For five months i've been dating this guy, and all has gone well!
He's really respectful, and sweet, and it seemed he really liked me for me.
About two weeks ago, we started making out on a daily basis.
Which is fine, because i really love him, and i love kissing him and stuff. But lateley everytime i try talking to him, or want to have fun, making out is all he wants to do.
Now, i said this before, i love making out with him, but i want to do other things too sometimes you know?
Yesterday, he brought me in the garage so we could do nothing BUT make out.
Theres more to realationships and love then just making out.
I know hes really into me and i know he loves me, but what are some very slight hints i can give him that will indicate that i want to do something else when i dont feel like making out?
Dont say change the subject because it never works, i tried it.
He'll just say "You're so pretty"
or
"You're so cute"
and then he'll kiss me.
what do i do?

I had this idea. How about not going where you will be alone. That way he won't have the opportunity to make out with you. However that will cause a bigger problem. The longer you do this the more he will long to get you back into the situation you are trying to avoid. Unfortunately since I am a guy I know where he is heading. For men we are all wired the same. We are visual. That means our feelings are usually based on what we see. Seeing you turns him on and in the end he will want to complete his conquest. Men are made to procreate. It is impossible to completely control the desire. In order for a relationship to continue there must be clear guidelines of our own expectations. That means you have boundaries and if his relationship with you is going to continue he must stay within those boundaries. YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO SET THOSE BOUNDARIES OR END UP DOING WHAT YOU KNOW ISN'T RIGHT! Hope this helps.

Q: My boyfriend & I made plans for last night on Sunday. He called me after work yesterday & asked if I had any ideas of what to do. I said no. He said his friends wanted to hang out with him so he would call me if he got bored. I got so mad, I just had to hang up. We had plans for last night for days, and then he says he'll just call me when he gets bored??

Then he asked me later in a text "Why do you make me feel so guilty when I see my friends?" When I explained that he basically blew me off, he just said that he thinks maybe we should just be friends because I'm too sensitive lately. Then he revealed that he was drunk with friends while he was texting me.

I don't understand this at all. I know he likes me because we've almost broken it off before but he always wants to stay together. Am I being oversensitive? :(

NO! It is obvious he doesn't want a deep relationship. Most men are shallow and only miss what they have only after it's gone. It may be you want more from a relationship than he does so that leaves you with only two choices. Accept what he is willing to offer or find someone more suited to your intentions. Sorry!