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Im melissa and im 16 living in Illinois. I'm very good at advice and i will try my best to help you as much as i can! I will give you advice that i think is right and appropriate. I will answer any question of any category.(: Thanks.
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well i broke up with this guy for another guy that i had liked for 2 yrs and now i feel like i messed it up the one guys name is caleb and i really really like him but i think he hates me now i was textn him the other day and tld him how i felt about the sittuation n he was like well ive been through it and itll get better trust me and i dont think it will i think i just lost the guy im inlove with can someone please help me asap ..
~alysaaaa (link)
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well if you broke up with him then just leave it at that. if he really loves you and cares for you, he will come back to you!
but if he doesn't (but dont expect to happen over night) maybe a little while later (not to long) twll him everything and tell him you made a big mistake and you were thinking about all the good times you guys had and you were never as happy befor you met him! just talk to him, what is the worst that can happen, he says he's over you?
i hope that's not the case, but if it is, it will hurt for awhile BUT guys aren't the only thing in the world! you have the rest of your life with more exciting things then just that!
"You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore"
hope i helped and i hope everything works out!(:
if you have any questions just ask!(:
melissa!(:
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well today i was talkn to my boyfriend on fb and he sent me a link .. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwD0xJrmtSM your a bitch by bowling for soup he posted it on my wall and i dont get it so i think he was calling me a bitch and that reallly upset me i wanted to go off but i waited 3yrs for him and i really dont anna mess this up ..what can i do to make this better? (link)
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get him back and send him a song! just laugh it off and maybe be like "im sorry baby am i really bitch?" or joke around and say "damn i turned this way ever since i met you, maybe im turning into you." haha or something like that. if you guys really like each other don't get mad and start a fight because if it's a joke he will be like "wow she can;t take a joke." but if you do think your acting like that and you know it, try to change it! and to the post maybe comment it with a heart or a :p
hope i helped, good luck!
ohhh and something else you can say:
"Bitch"
"A bitch is a female dog.
dogs bark.
bark is on trees.
trees are in nature
and nature is beautiful,
so thanks for the compliment
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I am 14 and I have always had really irregular periods and there is no way for me to really predict when my next period will be, are there any really prominent signs that will be a heads up that i will be starting my period soon? (link)
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when you first get your period, it doesn't stay constant.
when this happened to me, how i knew when my period was coming... was dicharge.
discharge is some white stuff that comes on your underwear or when you walk you just feel a little wet.
hope i helped!(:
if you have any questions ask!(:
melissa.!(:
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My fiance will be leaving for Navy bootcamp in a little over a month. By the time he leaves we'll be married. But all I think about is how much I'm going to miss him. I know I should think about spending as much time as possible together but I'm a planner type of person. It gets to a point where I'm just really depressed. I don't know if you call it depression or not but he's not even gone yet and I'm already freaking out about it. I just want to know what I can do to fix this. I don't want to have to take any anti-depression pills so that's out of the question. I just don't know what to do. Thanks! (link)
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well if you think about it... he's doing a VERY good thing! and yeah your going to worry about your husband and stuff but don't drive yourself crazy because if you do, your never going to be happy, all your going to be doing is worrying. at least not worry now that he's here and when he does leave, think positive about everything! pray at night! and i know it's going to be hard but try not to think about it, go out with friends, have a party, shop, go to the pool, go on a little vacation or something.
i know it's going to be hard but you cant do it!
good luck and i hope i helped!(:
if you have any questions askk!
melisssa.!(:
and before he leaves maybe go to dinner or maybe you to go on a little vacation... but don't do all of this becuase you think somethings going to happen to him, do it because you want to!(:
i hope everything goes well for you and your husband! and you don't need depression pills, it's all in your head!
my step mom always used to say "when you get up on the morning and think im going to have a good day today, then you will. but if you say im going to have a horrible day, you will." i've tried thinking both ways and they work haha!"
think about the positive side.
if there is a cup half of water... do you think of the glass half full, or half empty.?
melissa!(:
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growing up not having my dad around really messed me up. he never told me he loved me and as a result to that I have been on a search for love ever since. Ive been with all kinds of guys who abused me mentally physically and emotionally. I have been heart broken so many timetimes... How do I get over the whole "i neef love" phase ?
18F (link)
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well if you think about it... life isn't all about love! your only 18 and you still have your whole life in front of you! don't go after guys just because you miss your dad or you miss his love. if you lived without him however long or he never said "i love you" to you, im sure you can live with it more! it may hurt, but he doesn't know what he's missing!
you're his daughter, his little girl! i'm sure he will always remember that!
when my mom was little, her dad never showed up! he always said he would be there and my mom would watch out the window waiting for him and he never came, until she just forgot about it! yeah she missed him and wondered why all of this happened... but you can't change it!
my mom dies when i was in 2nd grade! yeah i used to cry but if you really think about it.. no matter how much you cry, it's never going to change the fact of what it is!
if you know where your dad lives or anything, take him out to dinner or something and talk serious about all of it! tell him how you feel. tell him EVERYTHING! i really hope everything goes well!
but im sure A LOT of people love and care about you!
good luck!(: hope i helped
if you have any questions ask!(:
melissa.
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17/f
I just got my eyebrows threaded for the first time in 3 months. I needed it, lol. But when I got home, I realized that the lady made them wayyyy thinner and it's making me upset. I'm probably just psyching myself out, but I hate having thin-ish eyebrows, because I wanted to keep them thick. I just wanted her to clean it up. Oh well. Anyways, I have this eyebrow gel from Sephora that I used to use. I started applying it. Does anyone have any other tips for growing eyebrows back thicker? Also, how can I maintain my eyebrows without going and getting them done? Should I just keep tweezing to keep it clean? Anything will help! (link)
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i hade the same problem but i did it myself tweezinjg them haha.
what i did, was whatever color your eyebrows are i made them a little darker but made it look like my hair color so it doesnt look like i purposelt did it and i used eyeshadow, kinda weird haha but yeah! hope i helped!(: good luck!(: and when they grow back i would just tweeze them or you can use a razor but thats kinda hard :)
if you have any questions ask!
melissa,.
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hiiii :) .. so i started my period in november of 2010 .. i have been using a pad since i started it . i am in sports and i love to swim so i want to use tampons.
I dont really know how to use them and im really scared !! :/ ahh/
Im not sure where to insert it. my biggest problem is that im scared to do. I dont want to ask my mom because im to nervous to. i want to know how to put it in and if it hurts .. im really sensative around my vagina.
someone pleasee helpp !!! thank you (link)
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don't be scared! i was the same way! it's nothing to be scared about! you instert the tampon in the middle hole. not the top hole, not your butthole haha. your midddle hole, if that makes sence.
make sure you change it every so often!(:
hope i helped.
good luck!(:
if you have any questions ask!(:
melissa.
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How do I apply my eyeshadow so it looks bold?
I try, over and over, to apply my eyeshadow so you can see it through my glasses. However, when I put my glasses on, it's really hard to tell that I'm even wearing eyeshadow, but you can always tell that I'm wearing eyeliner/mascara. I have blond hair, and blue eyes, so I can wear greens, blues, pinks, purples and browns. I like Covergirl and L'oreal the best, but I'll wear any brand. My skin isn't sensitive. Thanks to all who answer.
I hate the applicator brush, so I use a shadow brush. Here is my traditional makeup routine.
1. Moisturize
2. apply foundation with a powder brush (I HATE the sponge!)
3. LIGHTLY apply bronzer
4. Apply light mosaic face powder (to help lighten the bronzer, since I look like tanning bed gone wrong otherwise.)
5. Apply black liner. I do this so that the liner somewhat takes on the color of my eyeshadow
6. Apply the shadow. I use a light color for highlighting, then put the darkest color I want to use from my lid to my crease. from crease to brow is a lighter color.
7. Apply mascara
8. Blush
9. Lipstick or lipgloss, depending on what I want to use. (link)
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i heard that if you wet your eyeshadow when you wanna use ittt, (not the whole thingg)just on the brush you want to you and wet it first then dip it in the eyeshadow it it will give it more color !(:
hope i helped, if you have any questions askk!(:
melissa.
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http://29.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lo0bg46K4P1qihslwo1_500.jpg
im the one in the front btw
and i want something different.
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if that was me... i would let my hair grow out longgg!(:
melissa!(:
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Ok..... Im 13 but have the body and mind of a 16/17 year old. Female.....Im 5'5" and weigh 215 lbs..... I need to lose 60 lbs because i should only weigh 150-155 lbs..... I dont want to have to work out.... What is the fastest way for me to lose this weight??? (link)
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don't eat ANY snacks. only eat one portion of food. drink water. and do excersises, such as running, squats, crunches, jumping jacks... there are MANY excersises. you can go to a gym!
i heard that the "contour ab belt" works very well! my friend had it and she had the flatest stomach EVER! she said she would have it on like all day everyday! you should do research on it... but if you get it and you're using it, still eat only one portion of food, water and NO snacks.
i know a lot of people say eat healthy and work out a lot! but my stepo brother had to do the same exact thing that you have to, and all he did was drink water, ate no snacks, and only had one portion of food at dinner and by the time summer ended a couple years ago he was skinny, really skinny! but you HAVE to keep up on it. and he never worked out once, but if you want to loose it faster you prob should unless you like the belt idea!
or get a tredmill, i know those are expensive so maybe go to the gym!
hope i helped and good luck!(:
melissa(:
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Ok so I have a huge crush on this guy and I hope he likes me back. He has given me some signs but I need to ask other people to be sure I'm not just thinking this because I want him to like me. Some things he does are he stares at me or in my direction a lot from across the room When he does this I look to see if there are other girls near but there are none near me. Also on time I was next to him but i was kinda day dreaming and he waved his hands in front of me and smile and said and the got my attention. Also sometimes when he sees me he says my name in a funny voice. And then there was this one time when I walked by him and we made eye contact and smiled at each other for what seem like a while. And sometimes he hugs me and kisses me on the cheek. I have some doubts though. I try to talk to him but he seems like he is having a hard time talking back like he's not interested but he's more sociable with other people except for me and the talks to other girls in front of me. I get a jealous because i wish he was like that with me. But on the days he is nice to me is he just being friendly or do you think he likes me and what could I do to help move things along to the next level? (link)
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THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME! I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOUR GOING THROUGH!!
in my situtaion he ended up liking me and trying to get me jealous and we always texted and said we should talk more at school but we never really did!
if i were you, i would start talking to him, it seems like he does like you, it sounds like he's trying to get you jealous and is waiting for you to make the first move.
when you see him staring at you, look at the clock or something and if he looks at the clock to, that means that he kept his eyes on you!
when you see him talking to the girls in front of him, try to make eye contact with him and give him a cute smile and look away, flirt a little with your smiles or looks if your to shy to talk.
then you will have to start talking a little later to break the shyness because it seems like when he's around you, he has no idea what to say!
ohh and when you're talking to him DONT talk about yourself, unless he askes you a question!
and don't be boring, be funny and cute.
if you like him, i would go for it before it's to late!
hope i helped, good luck and have fun!(:
melissa!(:
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My boyfriend's been acting weird to me lately. He does have multiple personality disorder but it never really effected us negatively. His case of this disorder does not even seem that bad, he just changes his mind about certain things a lot. But one thing I am surely certain about is that he loves me. Not only does he tell me, but every little thing he does shows me he loves me. But lately he's been acting weird. We'll text for about an hour or even shorter and then he'll just stop answering me. And to be honest he really doesn't do much. He barely gets out of the house, and if he does it's only for a short errand for his parents or to come see me. Usually he's playing video games all day or just laying around. Last night he stopped texting and didn't answer my calls but this morning he told me he went to bed early. He usually always tells me goodnight and I thought that was weird but brushed it off. Today I've been feeling depressed and I need someone to talk to and he's always there and he's the only one that I go to for my problems. I stopped texting him for a while but told him to call me when he's not busy. I get insecure at times but I have a full trust in him, even though I'm a little paranoid something is going wrong (link)
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maybe you should talk to him about this... and tell him everything that is going on!
tell him how you feel, maybe go out to dinner or something, and just talk to him. see what's up!
maybe it's nothing, something you thought that was a big deal. that happened MANY times to me and then i just talked to him and he told me everything and i felt way better after talking to him thinking "why was i freaking out so much."
and if it is that he doesn't like you... (which i hope that's not the case) you will be hurt but you will get over him. that's not your whole life, you have way more to life then that!
there was this quote i found from someone:
"You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore"
BUT lets hope that's not the case!(:
i hope everything goes well, wish you luck!
if you have any questions just ask!(:
melissa!
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I had the weirdest dream about my boyfriend John last night. He has told me he wants to marry me but I've been cautious about believing it. However, I've had a weird series of dreams lately.
Last night I had a dream I was wearing a light yellow dress in front of a mirror, and I walked out into the hallways of his house, and out into the courtyard. His parents smiled at me and his mom kissed my cheek and was squealing excitedly saying how pretty I look and such, and my boyfriend came over and he took my hands and sat me down next to him. His little sister is two and she climbed up into my lap and pointed to the baby that appeared in my boyfriend's arms. His parents started taking pictures of us and after that my boyfriend took me into this really fancy decorated room that looked like a hotel and he smiled and kissed me and told me that he's so happy that this day is all about us and he turned on the tv and hopped on the bed and I changed out of my dress into pajamas and cuddled up next to him, and my mom came in with her boss and they were both crying and congratulating us with big grins and gave me bouquets of white roses and asked where we were going for our special night, and they gave me a little blue book and told me to fill it up with all of the memories and good moments with my boyfriend. Then the dream ended. It was really weird.
I also had a dream once, where I was in a jewelry store. It was a blurry dream, and I was standing over a glowing glass case full of rings and John kissed my head and slipped a ring on my finger but took it off and looked at another.
Could it be my mind just fantasizing or could these dreams really mean something? (link)
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that sounds like a good dreamm haha :D
it my mean something... maybe God is warning you... haha
but i honestly think it's just a dream and your fantasising... but if you really want this to happen it doesn't mean your dream can't come true!
hope i helped. if you have any questions ask!
melissa(:
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yM boyfrined and i are very worried. He touched his pre-cum and than touched me dowm there? Could i get pregnat from this even if i started my period today?
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im not 100% sure on this question... but i really don't think so!(:
melissa
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hi, i'm 34 and my boyfriend is 47. we love each other and have been dating for a year. he always asks me if he could come inside me during sex and and recently he's been texting me saying he wants to come in me. we have a long distance relationship and but we'll be living together soon. we're happy. we always speak on the phone and text each other everyday. just wondering, is he hinting me to get pregnant or am i thinking too much. thanks so much. (link)
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well if you know for 100% he loves and really cares about you, then he would probably talk to you asking if you wanted a baby before just making you pregnant.
hope i helped.(:
if you have any questions just ask!(:
melissa
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We want to do a party for a 15 year old but she really doesn't care about things so we don't know what topic type party we should give her. (link)
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any favorite colors? you can maybe put the table clothes a cute color that you think she would like. tomboy colors if shes a tomboy or girly girl colors if shes a girly girl. and then just decorate with cute happy birthday and 15 year old signs and make homemade signs also. maybe put her picture up saying happy birthday or something haha.
hope i helped. good luck!(:
if you have any questions askkk(:
melissa
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I'm 11 yrs old and I love kids. I have taken care of my lil sister who is 9 and took care of my 3 yr old cousin. I'm pretty mature and an honor roll student. I already have a trillion ideas to entertain kids with?
Do you think I'm good babysitting material? (link)
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it sounds to me like you would be! just be responsible with them! :D
have fun!(:
melissa
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My boyfriend and I get along great, and our relationship is very strong and built on a powerful trust and emotional attachment and perfect chemistry. Because I've been grounded we haven't seen each other since last Wednesday although I will see him Saturday.
but sometimes I get the feeling he is losing interest in me. I am getting this insecure feeling that I shouldn't have. I'm getting scared that I'm not making him happy and he's drifting away from me. I don't want to mention it because I don't want him to get upset and make the situation bigger than it already is, so I don't know what to do. (link)
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what i would do if i was in your situation is see how he treats you saturday! and then see from there.
if you text him a lot maybe stop and see if he texts you and comes to you!
i hope everything is fine, hope i helped.
good luck!(:
melissa(:
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I'm 5'5" and weigh 145
Can I lose 20 pounds before august 25th?
I do workout and eat healthy and drink water (link)
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if you eat a lot of snacks and cut down on them, then yeah.
but if you already have been eating healthy for a while, then prob not... but can happen if you work out a lot!
good luck! hope i helped!
if you have any questions ask
melissa(:
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could i hurt my vagina by masterbating with a dildo? (link)
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you can if you don't use it properly.
good luck!(:
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