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hello :)my name is amanda.
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Alright.. I have an amazing boy friend who I've been going out for almost 5 months now, but lately I've developed feelings for another guy. I think about him all the time and he always smiles at me.
Is that normal?
What do you think I should do?
-sigh...
okk well i've had this problem before. i have been going out with my current boyfriend for almost 4 months now. and dont get me wrong, i love him. but, there is this one guy that i just met who i am really starting to like. he's really cute (he has gorgeous eyes)and i really like him. but then when i hang out with my boyfriend, it reminds me of how much i really love him, and why i'm with him instead of the other guy. you just really need to think about it. are you willing to give up your boyfriend for a guy who you sort of like now, and regret it later?? i would wait. you are probably with the right person if you have been dating for five months. the feelings for this guy who you are beginning to like may even be just lust. so stay with your guy. i hope i helped and tell me how it goes =]]
I need an honest viewpoint on this.
Lets say you're a 16 year old girl and you broke up with your 16 year old boyfriend (which is my case). You broke up with him because he's been giving you really obvious hints that he didn't wanna be together anymore. He even said so one time. After a week of breaking up, he sends you a text saying something like: "You're contagious because I cried for no reason last night"
and all of a sudden, you start seeing your ex boyfriend depressed. (he never was before...in fact, he was happy). He tries to flirt with you more... He doesn't eat at lunch...he feels really sad and crappy. He doesnt flirt with girls like he usually did to try and make you jealous. He just sits in your table at lunch and sulks.
If this was your case, do you think he's depressed over the break up?
Thank you
i think that when he was with you he didnt realize what he had and how lucky he was to have u and how much he really loved u. and now that you two have broked up, he really realizes how muchh he misses you. he wants you back, in my opinion. i hope i helped. =DD
16/f
this is gonna be a long one, but please take the time to read it...
my best friend.. well we were best friends for as long as i can remember. she was the one i always went to, the only one who really had my complete trust. for some reason, this school year weve grown apart. we barely say more than two words to eachother in a day anymore. although we only have one class together, thats not it cause last year we had no clases together. we used to do everything together, and i miss her and the rest of her family. were so different from each other but that never seemed to be a problem until this year. we have different friends now, and another girl came into the picture whos basically replaced me. weve both changed but that doesnt mean we cant be friends. i have other friends and ive grown apart from many of my old ones too, but i cant stand to let myself just throw away a friendship that lasted over 10 years.. the thing is we tried to work things out since both of us know things arent the same anymore. this was about half way through the school year, we said we'd hang out and talk more again but it never happened. we basically spilled everything out so it wasnt just a pointless talk we had, we made it clear that both of us missed the other. i dont know why it didnt work. i kind of blocked the whole thing out of my mind until last night when i read a note she wrote to me when we tried to fix things. the first line says "i dont know what i did for you to not like me as a friend anymore, but im sorry." i read that line, which the first time i read had no effect on me, but this time i broke down. cause thats the thing, she did nothing and neither did i. it just happened and i hate it, i want to fix things for real. summer is coming up and if we dont figure things out soon maybe we never will.
i would be thankful for any advice whatsoever.. i need it.
i realize that you are missing your friend. and she is probably really, really missing you too. since you both feel the same way about the friendship, you need to take time to fix it. just saying you are going to fix it doesnt mean it will happen. i know this from experience. i was best friends with this girl for three years, and this year we both changed and just grew apart. it hurt alot and i would never want anyone to go through what i did. so you guys need to get together (probably somewhere like your house or her house, and somewhere quiet where you guys can talk privately.) and just talk it out. you both value the friendship and would not want it to fade away. you have to both make the effort to make time for eachother and hang out together to get the friendship going again. try to do things together that you guys used to do when you were better friends. you may discover that its like nothing ever changed. or you may discover that it seems that its just too little too late. if thats the case, just try to take it one day at a time and know that things can only get better. but i really hope everything works out and tell me how it goes, okk?? good luck!! =DD
i like this kid and he likes me, and we have kissed once before. i need to know how to french kiss for next time we do more than a peck
okk so first you want to lean in really slowly. and dont fully close your eyes until your lips are like a cenimeter away from his. imagine a light dimmer as you are closing your eyes. start out by doing a simple closed-mouth kiss. then slowly open your lips a little bit, and gently go into the tongue phase. just make sure you aren't poking his toungue rougly with yours or anything, and make sure you dont drown him in spit. trust me, once you start french kissing, your insticts will take over and you wont have to worry. dont be nervous!! just remember to enjoy it! hope i helped =]]
good luck!! =DD
lol okay so im a 17/f and umm i added this guy i went to elementary school with on facebook. he's really cute and umm we go to different schools since i moved. b ut yeah.. what should isay to him on facebook because he's so hot and i really wanna talk to him haha. so how should i start the convo?
just be like,
"omg i havent talked to you in forever how have you been??"
and then the convo will just off from there =]]
hope it works =D
When I was little and did something bad, my parents used to beat me with a leather belt, however, they only did that when I did something bad (threw a tantrum, talked back rudely, wouldn't listen, etc). When I got these whippings, they hurt (a lot, like somebody slashing your butt numerous times with hot sharp knife).
In my parent's country, that was just the way you disciplined children who were bad. But they did it here, in the USA. (So I really believe they thought they were doing the right thing.)
Now, my last whipping was when I was 11 (I'm 17 now), but I was just wondering, was that abuse? And my parents are wonderful parents and I love them a lot, so don't tell me to report it or something.
Also, my brother never got that punishment,no matter what horrible thing he did, which makes me feel kind of like my parents don't like me as much.
I don't know. I would just like some feedback. Tell me what you think. Oh, and I'm a girl.
i dont think it was abuse, i just think that it was your parents belief to beat you like that when you did something bad. it was their was of giving you dicipline. abuse would be like if they beat you all the time for no reason. hope i helped =]]
Everyone here has been saying "if that's how your partner (boyfriend/fiance/whatever) is then that's who you chose and you can't and shouldn't change them" ... what I'm saying is doesn't that go the same for us women? ... for example: when we started dating he knew i didn't like this or that yet he still dated me. So instead of me trying to change him or him trying to change me.. shouldn't we compromise and make changes ourselves without being asked? When you love someone, wouldn't you climb mountains to make things work?
yes, i do think that you should compromise a bit to make things work. if you really love them, you would do anything for them, right?? besides, i think it really just makes the relationship stronger in the end, because you are showing each other how much you really do love them and would do anything for them, even if that means tweaking ourselves a little bit. i hope that this is helpful =]]
Do people who feel the need to hide things or lie ever really change? I want an answer from someone who has been in a LONGGGGG term relationship
for me the answer is no. i was in a relationship with a boyfriend for six months, and then he cheated on me. we stayed together and tried to make things work, but again he cheated on me. so he didnt change at all even though he promised and promised me over and over again. my answer is no just from personal experience, but i guess that it could really go either way. i think it really just depends on how well you know the person to really determine whether or not they will change. i think its really just a matter of trust. i hope i helped =]]
im and seventh grader.so i like this guy and he is one year younger than me. he always says hi and smile at me in the hallways. but i dont know if he likes me or not. so what should i do?
i would say that you have to get to know him better first. try becoming friends before you guys go out. that way you guys will already have a strong relationship, and it also gives time for his feelings to grow for you. i think he likes you, but maybe he's just too shy!! so getting to know him would make him a little less shy around you and a little more likely to ask you out.
hope i helped =]]]
what happened to blair in gossip girl??? i just saw she was leaving to france ..well suppposse to be leaving but serena convinced her not to go ..what happened to her that she was so embarrased adn wanted to leave
Ok well blair and nate broke up. So blair was upset so she and chuck hooked up. Then she realized that she missed nate and he apoligized so they got back together. And then they hooked up. So then blair thought she was pregnant and took a pregnancy test. Then word got out that blair had hooked up with chuck and nate, and everyone was calling her a slut and it was just too much for her to handle. So that's why she wanted to go to paris. Hope I answered your question =]
my right eye wont stop twitching!!
its been doing that for 4 days now.
how can i make it stop??
I don't thinl that its anything serious. Its probably twitching because ur under stress. It does that sometimes when ur under a lot of stress or tension. Just try to relax and it should stop =]]]]]
so really like this guy [lets call him J]. but the thing is that i liked his best friend [T] and he hates me a lot [long story]
but i actually started liking J cos he always looked at me alot also smiling very nicly, often turning around when he sees me and things like that. but i kinda cant believe that he might actually like me because of the whole situation with T which makes me really unsure. also his friends often react when they see me. and J has another guy he likes to hang with [A] who points at me ALL the time when he sees me when he is hanging with J. but the thing is that when he's not with J he always smiles at me but when he's with him he points at me and looks kinda irritated or mad while J goes red or acts awkward or showes off. and now i'm a bit confused because i have no idea what's going on and if A maybe likes me. i like J but i also dont know if HE likes me because he also ignores me sometimes and often looks when i dont see it [my friends tell me lol] and i also cant believe that J MIGHT actually like me because T [his other best friend] hates me so much. and J also has these days when he ignores me alot. and sometimes when i walk by him theres just this tention between us but in a good way. and it feels like he's actually 'giving' it to me. for example yesterday he was walkin by me and half way i didnt feel anything, but then he saw me and as soon as he did i felt it again. its really freaky actually lol.
but i dno if he really likes me or if hes just making fun of me or something, because also his friends never added me back on facebook, and i tried talking to him on msn TWICE but he never answered [i wasnt sure if it's him or my msn, but i never had a problem with my msn].
and i cant deside between J and A because J is really this sexy kinda guy while A is really sweet and basicly does everything for J. i'm sure i like J more but i also sometimes get feelings for A because he's always acting so sweet.
sorry if this is so long but please help !!! thankss xxxxxx
I think that he might be acting different just because of his friends. If he is nice to you and acts normal when his friends aren't around, then I think that he just acts different around his friends because he thinks it'll make him look cool. Guys do this all the time. He just wants to impress his friends. I think that you should talk to him about it. Don't corner him or anything, just simply ask him why he acts so different around his friends. As for his mean friend, just ignore him. He'll eventually stop it. I think you should go for it!! I hope it works outt =]]]
okk HI first off. im the girl who was talking about her bf and how im moving and all that. my ? is you said that since im moving it wont really last anyway and your right and i am making a point of metting other guys and (trust me) i will flirt lol but i want to date him until then because i want to make the most of the time i havwe with him. hes my first serious relationship and first serious boyfriend and when i go to Kansas (where im moving) i dont think i want to have another serious relationship for a while. thats just too soon. i just want to have some fun. but anyway dont you think its worth it to at least date him until i leave?
ohhh and BTW i live in the suburbs of Pittsburgh!! i saw that you put on your site that you live in Pittsburgh so i thought that was cool. im 14 too. my bf is almost 16 anyway thanks :)
hahah that's so cool =]
ok, well if you really want to date him while you're still in pittsburgh then thats fine. i was just making a point that it might be harder for the both of you when you move. but there is no reason why should'nt date him while you're here. why not have a little fun, right?? anyway i hope it works out!!
xoxo
mandyx3
my bf and i love each other but we are having a lot of problems because i feel like im not a priority because he never has time to talk to me. well right now his phone is broken too but he doesnt email and occasionally IMs. its just we used to talk so much and now we dont. we is super busy with school because its getting really tough and i know he wants to talk but he just doesnt have time!! what should we do because i keep getting hurt when he says he will call me and then doesnt. dont say understand him because this is serious. i am getting so upset and feel like their should be a way he can make time for me. and he cant do anything on fridays and a lot of times i cant on sat. or sun. and we cant on school nights. we go to different schools and im moving in 2 months so i want to spend every second possible with him. he does too and i know he wants to but he just cant seem to make time. i want to come up with a solution and stuff and i just want him to make me feel like he truly does love me and cares about me. if we cant solve this in a week (he asked me to give him a week to prove himself) then we are going to take a break(or breakup depending). he didnt want to call me today (like he promised!! he promised he was going to fix everything and make it all right and that it would OK and that he would call) but he didnt because he said it feels like i am upset with him (i AM...but i still love him) and he doesnt like going and talking to me when i am upset with him and unhappy with our relationship (he said). PLEEEASE what should i do? i dont even have a way of contacting him on a phone because his cell isnt working and hes getting a new one soon but idk when and he doesnt have a home phone. i have his dads # cause he has been calling on his dads cell when he had time to talk so should i call his dads phone?? thank you SO much...you dont know what this means.
i am so upset and sad and scared because i love him but i cant keep getting hurt. please help and i will rate thank you!!
ok. what i'm going to tell you is probably not what you're wanting to hear. but it's what you need to hear: he has to make time for you. if he didn't even *feel* like calling, that's just lazyness. he needs to make an effort to make the relationship work. you are his girlfriend, and you two love each other. so there should be no reason why he can't make time for you. it probably doesn't help that you two go to different schools also. and if he refuses to talk to you even if you are upset, then maybe he just doesn't want to deal with it.
i'm sorry, but don't think that the relationship will last. if you're moving, then that will make it harder for you guys to talk and see each other. i don't think that you two should stay together. i know you love him, but you have to look at where the relationship is right now and do whats best or you. i hope this helps you make a decision =]]
I just met a guy yesterday and well I really liked everything about him and my friend talked to him and he likes me too. =]But last time I liked a guy we kind of hooked up and went out but it went too fast so we ended up breaking up after a week. I want to really get to know this new guy and actually like him for him not just a guy to make-out with. I've never had a real boyfriend but recently i think I've found who I am and now I think I am ready to maybe get in a relationship but I want it to go slow. How can i make it so it wont end up like last time? I don't want to forget who I am and become obsessive or weird about this.
thanx =]]
well you just have to take it really slow. maybe try to get to know him before you guys start going out. try hanging out after school or something, and just talk. this was you can get to know hik better in a casual situation. and then when you guys start going out just tell him that you want to take it really slow because you want it to last. i did the same thing and right now i'm in a relationship of two months. trust me, it'll all work out!! =]
15/f
I used to be best friends with this one girl (morgan). We were like sisters, inseperable. But then she got all snotty and i didn't like her attitude. So i just ignored her and eventually we stopped talking. (I never told her "I dont want to be friends with you) Now, we sometimes see each other and she says Hi to me and i dont want to be rude so I say Hi back. Occasionally we have small talk like "hows it going? whats new in your life?" but nothing big.
Now i'm starting to remember all of the good times we had together and how much different my life is since she is no longer a part of my friendship. I really miss her being around me! I'm starting to consider being friends with her again. I have her cell phone number so i've been texting her more than usual lately and we are sorta becoming friends again.
But now here's the problem (actually 2 problems)
1. my other best friend (sarah) dislikes this girl (morgan). But sarah has some friends that I dont like either so i'm thinking to myself "if she can have friends that i don't like, why can't i have friends she won't like?" so is this a good idea or what?
2. my parents got worried when i told them that morgan and i don't talk that much. They are always asking me why we arn't friends anymore and I tell them that its her attitude that bugs me. But now that we are sorta talking again, I don't know what I should say to my parents. I don't want to be all like "oh ya, morgan and I are best friends again" and they'll be like "why's that?" and i don 't want to explain to them that i missed her. what should i do?
thank you for taking your time to read this and answering!
well, maybe morgan has changed. people do change, sometimes for the good, sometimes for the worse. it looks to me like she had changed somewhere in your friendship when she became really snobby. but she may have had a change of heart. maybe she missed the friendship too. it wouldn't neccarily be a bad idea to give the friendship a second chance. even though your other friend dosen't like her, i don't think it's fair that she gets to have friends that you don't like but you cant. you have to ask her this question, and tell her that maybe you'd like to be friends with morgan again, and you need to let her know she has to accept that. also for your parents, just tell them that you two have just started talking again.
i hope this answers your question =]]
okay.
so me and this boy cody used to be really good friends.
and he started liking this girl amy...
and i always helped him out with "girl trouble"
and so i told him what he should do.
then finally he asked her out.
and i didnt know it but she HATES me to death.
and i have no clue why.
but then he randomly starts hating me too.
he calls me all sorts of names now.
and he deleted me off his myspace.
so whats up with that?
help..?
please. "/
you know, sometimes people hate just because they can. there are always going to be people who hate others for no reason at all, it just happens. this girl amy probably influenced cody's opinion about you. deep down, he doesn't hate you. but relationships can influence people to do stupid things, like hate someone just because their bf/gf hates them. it's just something that people do to keep the relationship. eventually though, this whole thing will end, and they'll break up, and you'll find you two talking and hanging out again. this won't last forever, i promise =]
hope it helps =]]]]]
im so depressed. and i want to cry but i hate people asking me whats wrong. i bottle it all up. and my brother is the reason. my brothers all reason for pretty much all my depression. its to the point to where it hurts everywhere. but i pretend to be happy and i just forget about it. and be happy. but it hurts. and my brother doesnt help at all. and i snap rubber bands on my wrist.
it hurts inside. but i cant tell anyone.
-Depressed
dear depressed,
please don't bottle up all of your feelings. it only makes it worse. and the thing is, you can cry if you want you. crying is good. it's ok to feel and be emotinal. you also have to talk to your brother. you have to tell him how you feel. or you have to tell your parents, a grandparent, a teacher at school, a friend, ANYBODY. you just need to vent and let these feelings out. don't feel like you can't tell anyone. because you can. you can tell anyone you want. try journaling to let it all out. or, you may even want to consider getting a counselor. they really can help with depression and help you work out your feelings in a healthy way.
ok, another thing. please don't hurt yourself. trust me, it's really not worth it. something like snapping rubber bands can lead to using erasers and then eventually cutting, which can get so bad so please don't ever ever do it. if you ever need any advice or anyone to talk to i will be here. i know how much depression hurts, but it can never get better unless you talk about it.
i hope everything works out =]
i have moved a lot. i want to send my old friends something so i can keep in touch with them. what do you think i should do? would cards be fine? (i dont have much money to spend, but lots of friends). any ideas?
well i think it would be a good idea if you put together a photo album or a scrapbook of all the pictures you have with them. they'll get to see all the effort you put into it and they'll appreciate it alot because it'll be really cute and heartfelt. i hope i helped =]]]
on my bottom eyelid near the tear duct it looks like i have a small hole. my eye has been itching all day and leaking fluids as if i was having an allergic reaction.
i'm not asking for doctoral advice- just wondering if anyone has had similar problems or might know what this hole is?
thanks
well actually it could be really irritated. it's probably not a hole just a backed up tear maybe? i had it its when your eye gets really irrated and it hurts pretty bad. the tear duct gets backed up but since i kept rubbing it the tear came out and everything was okay. i don't know if you have the same thing but i hope i could help a little =]
if you still don't know what it is and you're worried, you should go get it checked out. it's probably not anything too serious but it still might be nice to know. =]