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Friends again?
15/f
I used to be best friends with this one girl (morgan). We were like sisters, inseperable. But then she got all snotty and i didn't like her attitude. So i just ignored her and eventually we stopped talking. (I never told her "I dont want to be friends with you) Now, we sometimes see each other and she says Hi to me and i dont want to be rude so I say Hi back. Occasionally we have small talk like "hows it going? whats new in your life?" but nothing big.
Now i'm starting to remember all of the good times we had together and how much different my life is since she is no longer a part of my friendship. I really miss her being around me! I'm starting to consider being friends with her again. I have her cell phone number so i've been texting her more than usual lately and we are sorta becoming friends again.
But now here's the problem (actually 2 problems)
1. my other best friend (sarah) dislikes this girl (morgan). But sarah has some friends that I dont like either so i'm thinking to myself "if she can have friends that i don't like, why can't i have friends she won't like?" so is this a good idea or what?
2. my parents got worried when i told them that morgan and i don't talk that much. They are always asking me why we arn't friends anymore and I tell them that its her attitude that bugs me. But now that we are sorta talking again, I don't know what I should say to my parents. I don't want to be all like "oh ya, morgan and I are best friends again" and they'll be like "why's that?" and i don 't want to explain to them that i missed her. what should i do?
thank you for taking your time to read this and answering!
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invite her to something. like to the movies of something light.
then you can see how she feels because of her answer (if she says yes or no and how she went about it)
as for your parents just simply tell them that high school is complicated and you make friends and loose them. Its a part of life. and things go the way they are supposed to be.
good luck with your "friend" and parents
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well, maybe morgan has changed. people do change, sometimes for the good, sometimes for the worse. it looks to me like she had changed somewhere in your friendship when she became really snobby. but she may have had a change of heart. maybe she missed the friendship too. it wouldn't neccarily be a bad idea to give the friendship a second chance. even though your other friend dosen't like her, i don't think it's fair that she gets to have friends that you don't like but you cant. you have to ask her this question, and tell her that maybe you'd like to be friends with morgan again, and you need to let her know she has to accept that. also for your parents, just tell them that you two have just started talking again.
i hope this answers your question =]]
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If Sarah has these friends you don't like, it seems to me that there could be a mutual understanding that the two of you can still be friends even though you might not get along so swimmingly with eachother's other friends. It sounds cliche but honestly if you and sarah are that close you can definitely work around it and still hang out.
As for your parents, you don't have to tell them that you and Morgan are "bffs" you could always just say that you've been talking more, which you have, and that you're fully aware she might get snotty with you and you'll be cautious before getting too close to her. All parents want is to hear that you aren't going to get hurt by it, so make sure they know you're down to earth about the situation. Since you know Morgan can possibly be snotty, you know that it might happen again, so you'll see it coming and still have other friends if it doesn't work out.
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