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abuse?
When I was little and did something bad, my parents used to beat me with a leather belt, however, they only did that when I did something bad (threw a tantrum, talked back rudely, wouldn't listen, etc). When I got these whippings, they hurt (a lot, like somebody slashing your butt numerous times with hot sharp knife).
In my parent's country, that was just the way you disciplined children who were bad. But they did it here, in the USA. (So I really believe they thought they were doing the right thing.)
Now, my last whipping was when I was 11 (I'm 17 now), but I was just wondering, was that abuse? And my parents are wonderful parents and I love them a lot, so don't tell me to report it or something.
Also, my brother never got that punishment,no matter what horrible thing he did, which makes me feel kind of like my parents don't like me as much.
I don't know. I would just like some feedback. Tell me what you think. Oh, and I'm a girl.
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i dont think it was abuse, i just think that it was your parents belief to beat you like that when you did something bad. it was their was of giving you dicipline. abuse would be like if they beat you all the time for no reason. hope i helped =]]
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Corporal punishment was a common thing here in the US not long ago with parents, I lived through it, but with a twist. I was beat for little to no reason, my younger brother delighted in blaming me for the things he did so he could watch my mother beat me with a metal fly swatter, electrical cord, or whatever she could find handy. You search for reason in something that has none. Why does anyone take things to this extent? Pleasure, frustration, or they just don't know another way. You will not be satisfied with any reason they give you, trust me on this one. Instead of wondering why they did not do this to your brother, be thankful they did not do this to your brother. I was there to take all this punishment and it spared my younger brother and sister, I am glad for this. Realize that you are coming to a new life and soon enough the stage of life you enter will make this seem like it was another life. Parents are so often counted on to make the children's life a bed of roses, learn now that it is up to you to make it so.
Be well
P.S. Learn the right lesson, then leave it alone. Find another way to discipline your children once you have your own.
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well it depends on your parents beliefs. my mom is from russia and the first impression you get from that is "soviet and tough" but she never hit me because that wasn't her belief. i think that your parents were just brought up that way. plus america is very laid back and easy going and the punishments here are absolutely nothing. i mean if your mom slaps your hand for touching something that you shouldn't have been touching, you can file for child abuse and a big deal is made of nothing.
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well maybe your parents expected more from you as a child,and they thought that whipping you would make you try harder for suceeding. also, your parents aren't perfect, they might have regret this now. mybe that's why they aren't doing it to your brother. you could try asking your parents about this. they can't get mad at you, you are curious and deserve the right to know why they hit you. it would definitely be considered as abuse though. and there really wouldn't be a point in reporting it anyhow, even if you wanted to. i mean it was so long ago, and you said they don't do it now.
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