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i miss my best friend.
16/f
this is gonna be a long one, but please take the time to read it...
my best friend.. well we were best friends for as long as i can remember. she was the one i always went to, the only one who really had my complete trust. for some reason, this school year weve grown apart. we barely say more than two words to eachother in a day anymore. although we only have one class together, thats not it cause last year we had no clases together. we used to do everything together, and i miss her and the rest of her family. were so different from each other but that never seemed to be a problem until this year. we have different friends now, and another girl came into the picture whos basically replaced me. weve both changed but that doesnt mean we cant be friends. i have other friends and ive grown apart from many of my old ones too, but i cant stand to let myself just throw away a friendship that lasted over 10 years.. the thing is we tried to work things out since both of us know things arent the same anymore. this was about half way through the school year, we said we'd hang out and talk more again but it never happened. we basically spilled everything out so it wasnt just a pointless talk we had, we made it clear that both of us missed the other. i dont know why it didnt work. i kind of blocked the whole thing out of my mind until last night when i read a note she wrote to me when we tried to fix things. the first line says "i dont know what i did for you to not like me as a friend anymore, but im sorry." i read that line, which the first time i read had no effect on me, but this time i broke down. cause thats the thing, she did nothing and neither did i. it just happened and i hate it, i want to fix things for real. summer is coming up and if we dont figure things out soon maybe we never will.
i would be thankful for any advice whatsoever.. i need it.
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i realize that you are missing your friend. and she is probably really, really missing you too. since you both feel the same way about the friendship, you need to take time to fix it. just saying you are going to fix it doesnt mean it will happen. i know this from experience. i was best friends with this girl for three years, and this year we both changed and just grew apart. it hurt alot and i would never want anyone to go through what i did. so you guys need to get together (probably somewhere like your house or her house, and somewhere quiet where you guys can talk privately.) and just talk it out. you both value the friendship and would not want it to fade away. you have to both make the effort to make time for eachother and hang out together to get the friendship going again. try to do things together that you guys used to do when you were better friends. you may discover that its like nothing ever changed. or you may discover that it seems that its just too little too late. if thats the case, just try to take it one day at a time and know that things can only get better. but i really hope everything works out and tell me how it goes, okk?? good luck!! =DD
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Heyy, I understand your problem completely. I have had almost the exact same issue.
Usually, there is an underlying issue that causes two people to grow apart. For example (this is dumb) you were going out with someone she liked and she told you it was okay, but she really minded it.(or the other way around) Things like this, if not communicated could do serious damage to relationships.
I used to send notes to my friend and things didn't get resolved that way.
Your best bet is to go up to her and tell her that, you miss her so much and you feel like you have to make it work.
If she values the friendship as much as you, she'll agree and you guys should talk everything over that has gone on over the past year.
Hopefully, you'll find the problem and fix it.
Also, you may not want to hear this but sometimes people do grow a part and even if they want to fix it, sometimes it just doesn't work out. Don't get me wrong, you should try very hard to get your best friend back. but just keep in the back of your mind that it may not work.
I really hope I helped, and you and you friend get back to the way things were, I get what its like to be so close with someone and even their family. Good luck!
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i think that sometimes people fade away from each other. it just happens. but for a friendship atleast one person has to be willing to work for it to stay alive. you need to tell your friend how you feel, that what she said made you breakdown and feel sad because you don't get what happened either. i think you to should set up a playdate for you guys to hangout and catch up. take things one day at a time. everything can't go back to they way it used to be overnight. and it might not ever, but you guys could build something new, and make it last and worth so much more. i hope i helped. good luck! (:
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