well i think im fun and i have lots of bestfriends.
i like to hang out and as long as i know u thats good
i was born in seattle and i moved there when i was 9 and now i live in TX i think i like TX better...i miss my old friends but i think it was a good move!
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Ok, I was friends with this girl from 7th grade to 9th grade,but then crap happened and we weren't friends anymore. Then earlier this year that girl was talking crap about my friend behind her back. And I was like get over it, your not her friend so why do you have to talk about her. And like she gives me dirty looks in the hall, what do you think I should do about her?? (link)
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i think that you should ignore her and if that doesn't help then go up to her and ask her what her problem and why does she hate you
hope this helped
lildesidevil143
p.s i think i know who this is!
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For the past while i have been cutting myself. At first it was just scratches and then i started cutting deeper and deeper. I am really scared and I don't want to talk to my parents, they have enough to worry about, so is there anyway i can break the habit and just stop...and please don't answer if you are just going to poke fun at me and mock me. I don't need that. Only post if you can help me. (link)
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first of all you can REALLY hurt yourself, since you don't want to tell your parents because they have enough problems think of it liek this that if you do something serious it will only increase their problems. To get help go to a counselor...or tell your parents that you need to talk to someone about your problems and you can't tell them because you don't feel comfortable. So hopefully they can get you to a counselor...if you go to school then visit the school counselor...you can write to me!
lildesidevil143 i hope i helped!
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I know there is something messed up in my head because i get angery, sad, and happy really quickly and when i am mad, i throw things. i hate the way i act and i have been trying to change, but nothing has been working. ive told my mom and sister this and they really havent done anything to help me. what should i do? (link)
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you should visit a counselor they can help you. and if you need anymore help then just write me =...i check daily so i can write back to you...oh ya and the counselors should help you not throw things and stuff and i also think that to get out anger you should get a punching bag or something so it relieves your stress..hope i helped write back
lildesidevil143
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16/f.... this may be a stupid question, but what are those people called that you talk to about your problems and you tell them everything and then they give you advice and everything is confidential. They do it for a living. Nothing SERIOUS is going on in my life (ex. I'm not pregnant, I don't go drugs, I'm not a lesbian, etc.), but I feel like I can't talk to my parents (about guys or whatever) I never have and I probably never will. I'm an only child and I've been the center of their lives for 16 years and I hate it. I always have...I wish I can share the spotlight with someone, but thats not going to happen. Sometimes I wish they didn't care about me AS MUCH as they do. I feel like I need to go see one of those people because I've kept so much inside of me all my life and now I think I need to deal with a professional who can help me. And I'm afraid of a lot of things (I always have visions of disturbing things in my head, but thats a different story). How can I tell my parents I need one of those people without hurting them? (link)
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they are called councelors. And it's normal to feel that with your parents bc u dont want to tell them everything...so i suggest go to a counselor they should keep it confidential unless it's REALLY SERIOUS...you can write back to me anytime you want i check my inbox daily.
lildesidevil143
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Okay, I ALWAYS feel like I am forgetting to do something. Most of the time, I go through the day, and nothing ever comes up where I'm like, "Oh yeah! That's what I meant to do earlier!" But it drives me CRAZY!!! It's like I can't relax until I remember what it is I needed to do, but I never think of anything. I'm seriously starting to think there's something wrong with me, like I have OCD or something. I guess my question is, is there anyone out there with the same problem? Or does anyone know what I can do? And if it helps, I'm an EXTREME overachiever with school and just an overall major perfectionist. I was thinking it had something to do with that, but I don't know. If you can help me, thanks. (link)
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well i think that what you need to do is to take a daily planner/ organizer and whenever you remember that you need to do something then i think you should write it so you don't forget...xoxo
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I'm not sure but I may be a victim of emotional abuse. I've been with my guy since high school, more the half of a decade ago, and we have a child together. Now he doesn't call me names and put me down to my face, though he's come close before, but it's like whenever he's in a bad mood he takes it out on me, he blames EVERYTHING on me that comes to his mind. It makes me feel really low. I think he does it to make himself feel better but then I feel like total crap and I hang my head down and sigh for like hours. Sometimes I get so sick to my stomach over it. It's just this vicious cycle that keeps on going. He acts nice again and I love that person that he is when he is nice so I forget everything and am able to relax again for a little while. But when he changes faces again I'm like, "Oh why do I put myself through this, here we go again." I feel like such trash for putting up with it. I just love him so much, and I know he loves me but wonder if there's a part of him that hates me because he has to blame so much on me. And if I say anything when he is angry, ANYTHING, it makes him angrier and he doesn't listen to anything I have to say. His father treated his mother like this and I think he's following in his footsteps. I don't want my son to think this is how a man is supposed to treat a woman. So I'm just wondering if this is considered emotional abuse. Thanks. (link)
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if it makes you feel sad then it is emotional abuse. So when he's calm and nice then talk to him about it and make him agree to going to get some help because you don't want your child to be like that do you? so for the sake of your child and your family i would talk to someone about him...hope this helps
xoxo aliya
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Therez this girl that i know and we used to be friends but then some crap happend and like we arent n e more but now she wont leave me alone and she alwayz tries to talk to me and like i sorta feel bad for her cuz she really doesnt have n e other friends but then like she buggz the hell outta me and i dont like her and we never really talk...shes just kinda there. And then like sometimez she makes up like weird excuses to talk to me online, like shell randomly IM me and say some crap and i just dont kno what to do to get rid of her and how to get her to leave me the hell alone. PLZZZ help its getting on my last nerve! (link)
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you should stand up to her and tell her that she is annoying you...maybe she'll leave you a lone.
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i like this guy and he is very nice.the thing is i always mess up when theres people around me when im talkin to him . i never mess up when its only me and the guy i like.He knows i like him i think the best part was when i told him i liked him our relationship as friends didnt change like other peoples . try to tell me everything u can oh,and im 12 years old and a girl1bye! (link)
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i think that maybe you don't feel comfortable with people watching you talk to him...I think that you should tell him this adn see wat he says! sorry i don't know wat else to say
hope this helps
xoxo!
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me and my ex dated for 4months...not a long time i kno but everything was perfect we were totally in love and i realli had faith in our relationship well we broke up in august and i still havent found sum1 that makes me truly happy like chris did. my friend mentioned that i should date her exbf but now she changed her mind and doesnt want me to date him. i respect that because he is her exbf and stuff but she did kind of have my hopes up on finding someone who would treat me right and stuff. i dont kno lately its been goin through my head to just give up on a relationship right now because im only 15 but another part of me wants to keep looking. should i give up for now or keep on looking? i just dont know...~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~ (link)
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you should definetly keep looking. But don't make boys your whole life. I think that you are just trying to find a good realationship so keep looking but don't make boys the center of your life.
hope this helps!
xoxo aliya
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Ok, there's this guy at my school (i live in Vermont) who everyone thinks is gay. Even though the rumors are most likely not true, no one wants to be his friend because of rumors, and neither do my friends. I really think it's terrible how people treat him, and I want to be his friend; I don't believe sexual orientation should affect friendship. How should I be his friend without making my friends mad, or making him feel uncomfortable when my friends want to hang out with me? (link)
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i think you should tell your friends straight that you dont care. And if they leave you then there not your real friends.
xoxo
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ok well my mom is a slut and always sleeps with guys she meets online. she never spends time with her kids and whenever we try to talk to her about it she gets all kissy kissy and does it all over again. she stays out until 7 pm to 3 am and comes home with dumb lame and unbelievable excuses. we really need help from someone because she is going to end up hurting herself as well as her kids. please help! (link)
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well, first you should just tell her to sit down and tell her how you feel, don't be afraid, tell her that he doing this is ruining her reputation and that its hurting her kids too. She might be just wanting someone that can love her but taking it to fast. You should tell her that she needs to slow things down a bit, and spend more time with her children.
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do you think it'll be hard to babysit 2 kids(grl-3)(the boy-6)on the first time ever havin to babysit? (link)
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well if you know that the kids are good then you should. But if it's your first time that your EVER babysitting you might want to try to handle 1 child. Then if it's easy THEN babysit another
xoxo
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I just moved to Florida from califorina a week ago,i now live with my aunt and uncle and 2 cousinns,AMANDA 17,JAACOB 15...I'M 15 turning 16 pretty soon...My cousin AMANDA is verry rude and annoying and just really a B*&%$...(i dont like to curse)anyhow from the day i got off the plain she wasnt all that nice to me...so over this week i have been hanging out with JACOB and i try to ignore her and stay out of her way...this makes me unhappy because we are family and we should be able to get along...i understand that maybe it is because i am getting all the attention but she has a job and she goes to school and becccause she is n advanced eveything she gets tons of homework and i hardly see her but when i do i wish i hadent...she is not verry social because of family issues...my question is this, is therre anything i can do so i dont have to walk on eggshels when i am arouund her???
thank you,
LISA... (link)
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well try to get to know her and be extremely nice to her and if she still has a problem with you then you should come right out and ask her what's bothering her. And if she say's its you then try to figure out what you all can do to figure it out.
xoxo
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well I am a 19 year old female who has been in a relationship with a guy for 4 years. I feel i am insecure about myself and constantly feel myself feeling and thinking that i am not as pretty as the girls that he sees. I have become controlling because i tell him he cant look at other girls and he can not have girl friends. I feel if he loves me like he says he does then why does he need to talk to other girls. I do not like him to work with pretty girls because i am afraid that he will flirt with them and not tell me. I get angry when he stares at other girls. We are constntly fighting. Is this all my fault. How can i stop being so scared that he is going to leave me for someone better. Even though everyday he says he wont i still get scared. And when i even see a pretty girl i say she is ugly so he wontlook . i know we care and love eachother so much . i do not want us to fight we are getting married soon please help my problem stop (link)
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well, what you really need to do is talk to your bf and solve this problem. And if you love him so much then you should know that he loves you back and you should trust him. Then if you start getting signs of him cheating dump him. I think the main reason you are thinking this is because you dont have enough self confidence in yourself
hope this helps!
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What can you do with a 7 yr old boy when your babysitting him? Thanx in advance! (link)
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u could let him play video games, or read him stories, or play games with him
hope this help!
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I love his family to death. Since he's away at college they invite me to visit them alot and I stop to see his mom at work whenever I go to the mall. I have a problem, though- I got his Christmas gift and everything, but should I get something for his family? His mom seems like the kind of person that would get something for me, but I would feel really bad if she did and I didn't get them anything, and I bet she would vice versa. He has an older brother, a younger brother, a sister, dog, and mom and dad. They're really nice to me, but I'm lost on the dating/present etiquette here. Should I get them something, and if so, what? (link)
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I would say like u should get them something since you love them so much but like you don't have to buy them that expensive stuff,for the mom u could buy candles and probably for the rest like clothes or something!
hope this helps!
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My dad got a job in San Antonio, Texas. I'm EXTREMELY happy!!!!! But the thing is, in a way, I don't want to move. I live in Central Pennsylvania, so its definitely a big move. I know I can't stop my rents from moving. But, I'm just going to miss my whole life. I grew up here, I'm going to have to start all over. Is this normal? (link)
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Yes, it's very normal. I had to move from Seattle, Washington to Dallas, Tx and i miss all my friends but when i think about it i;m sometimes happy we moved. And it is definetly normal...I cried for weeks...But since i have moved i have made great friends on the way and hopefully you will too!
hope this helps!
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kay..i have had a crush on john for a couple of months. then on monday, he asked me out!! i was so happy!! everyone was talking about it!! i know that he smokes weed and pot,( he told me b/4 we were going out) but i still like him..... and when he gets drug tested for his athletics, if he fails it, everyone will think i am desperate. but i really like him.
i will rate HIGH (link)
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hey im glad u got asked out by the guy u like...and i wouldn't be too worried about what people say...people just want something juicy to spread around you just need to tell them straight up but if i were you i wouldnt care so much what the people think i would care about john doing drugs i mean if he gets caught that could be BAD!
hope this helps!
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Ok..our uniforms are the navy shirt w/ khaki pants or plaid squirts..i have brown hair(past my bra strap) and brown eyes and i have no acne and i have a natural tan..so what kind of eyeshadow should i wear to go to school?
Thnx in Advance! (link)
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well my sister has a tan and she does have a little bit of, not acne, but liek zits so liek wat she uses is all colors and i have natural tan and i have no acne, so wat i do is i usually take liek goldish and shimmer nad liek matural stuff that looks liek you have make up on but just not liek to you know wierd looking or goddy
hop this helps!
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Hey I recently dyed my hair black and I was wondering if it will look good with red highlights. I have brown skin. if you have anyother colors that might look good please tell me. not blonde everyone has blonde i wand something different. (link)
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well, im brown and i have really dark hair that looks black adn i have redish brownish highlights and everyone says they look good! so i hope this helps! and if not go to a hair stylist and ask!
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