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ok, my face isn't exactly in need of medication, but I do get occasional breakouts usually under the skin so they just make my face look rough. The only reason I want medication is because it is VERY hard for me to get into a habit, no matter how lazy that sounds. I could never be able to wash my face every single morning and night. It might sound weird, but it's true and hard to explain. So, are there any type of pills, preferably non prescription, that clear up your face and make it look healthy? I would be able to take the pills regularely because I already have to take adderal every morning :) Thanks!

http://www.acnedoctor.com/acne-pill.html

i(16 in december) had sex for the first time last night with my boyfriend (18 in november)! i have a few questions;

1. is it okay if it hurt for most of the time, but felt so good at the same time?

2. is it good or bad that i bled while having intercourse?

3. it hurt like heck when he first inserted his penis into my vagina, is that alright?

4. we used protection, is he supossed to cum in your vagina with the protection?

5. how can i be 100% positive that im NOT preggers.

6. is it okay that i couldnt sleep the night we had intercourse? i fell asleep at like 1145 then i woke up at 4am before school!

7. is it okay if i sweated a lot on my body, but not my face?

8. do you think it was a little early? we have been going out for a month and a week.

please dont lecture me about the age difference between us, i like this boy a lot. he has done so much for me, hes gotten me out of so much trouble, gotten me away from almost being arrested twice. drives me to school every morning. kisses me in the hallway. holds my hand around his friends and my friends. he isnt all about hooking up or sex. i am able to tell him anything thats going on. i trust him 100% with anything. he meets me after almost every class.

oh, and 9. is that a good relationship? what i just described.

answer what you can =]
thank you in advance!

Honestly if you have to ask that many questions you are not ready to be having sex.
And you need to stop before you acutally do get 'preggers'.
You need to go talk to someone at planned parenthood or your parents and get real information.
Number one cause for teen pegnacys and sti's is lack of education which you seem to have.
I'm really not trying to be mean but you will regret all of this if you don't become smart about what you are doing. Sex isn't something you just do.
Because just because he holds your hand doesn't mean anything.

I drove approximately 50 miles today and when I stopped my car was dripping water near the passenger side front tire, then stopped, it did the same thing when I came home. It is straight water no antifreeze or anything. Should I be concerned?

Did you use your air conditioning?
If so its more than likely from that.

i heard that you can get std's from using other people's lipstick and lip gloss. Is that true because i used one of my friends and then someone told me that i could now have an atd and that is not good because i am only 16.

The only way you could have an std from using someones chapstick is if they have cold sores. And really cold sores are not a std but it is a form of herpies.
And the only way for that form of herpies to turn into an std is if you have a cold sore, give someone oral sex and it turning into genital herpies on them and then them giving it back to you.
So its very hard to get an std from using chapstick but not mouth sores and such so buy your own.

can someone give a good example of something "way ahead of its time"?

James Dean.

first time have sex in the vigina
or have anal sex
what does vigina sex feel like the first time..did it hurt you and how bad was the pain on a scale 1-10??

Anal sex for the first time hurts more ESPECIALLY if it is not done correctly, ie if you want to do it read about it first.
You can't really explain what it feels like to have vaginal sex if you really want to know, you can put a finger or two up there and feel.
It hurts differently for every person, some girls there is no pain others its pretty bad.

f/15
everytime my parents leave the house..I watch porn and masterbate...
i watch hbo and wait for the sex scenes then i masterbate to thoses...i masterbate all the time...do i have a problem...i havent had a boyfriend in a while could that be the problem..i havent been touched for a while!!like 2 years..what is my problem..should i stop will this affect me when i have sex for the first time..will it make having an orgasim harder???

I'm not a sex expert but I am in a human sexuality class and we are thought that, that is very normal.
And don't listen to that other person about how you shouldn't watch porn because the stars are not smart, just because you watch porn doesn't mean you will become a porn star.
And masterbating right now will not effect you having sex later or ever. I've read that it acutally makes it easier to have an orgasim during sex because you are more intone with your body and your likes and dislikes.
And what do you mean by all the time, like once or twice a day or ten times? Cause if it is more than once or twice I would say start cutting back because it shouldn't interfere with your life, such as not doing homework or hanging out with friends.
If you have anymore questions feel free to drop me a line.

is pediatric a major in college to become a pediatrician or is it just another name for pediatrician???

a pediatrician is: a physician who specializes in pediatrics.

so yes i would guess pediatrics is a major in college.

so i got a new cat, he was a stray so he was understandably skinny. i started feeding him and i have had him for about 2 weeks now and hes still very skinny, so i gave him some de-worming medicine adn about 5 minutes later, he puked up what i think was a worm (long, thin, and white) it was moving. sorry thats gross. but anyways, what can i do about this? hes never puked before,and he has no trouble eating or drinking, or going to the bathroom.

any help is appreciated!
thankyou

Goats milk.
Works everytime.

i weigh 165 and i really needa lose more weight than i already have. i'm at a plateau. i dont know what to do. i don't have any more time for exercise.

can you PLEASE help me out?! anything is appreciated. and i know that i have to "maintain a healthy lifestyle" and "eat healthy" but i really need support, help as to what i should eat, or YOUR STORY ON HOW YOU LOST WEIGHT =]]
please!!!!!

I'm really not sure if this would work, but it wouldn't hurt to tell you.
I would think that maybe a detox diet would help with getting over the plateau. Or just cut back more on your calories to help you lose those five or ten pounds to get you back on track.
Good luck!

First, I apologize that this is gross.

I am 17/f and insecure about "down there." It is ALWAYS moist or a little bit wet, I always have discharge (sometimes clear, sometimes white and tacky), and sometimes it smells really bad! I have been to two gynos in the past few months and neither one thought anything was wrong. But there must be! The smell can be so bad if I don't shower every day and it makes me really insecure in public. Can anyone help me? What is the problem? Is there anything I can do to fix this? This has been an issue for months...

Well, if two gynos thought nothing was wrong, nothing is wrong.
Almost all women are wet down there, acutally you want to be so it means you are not all dried up.
But there are things you can buy for the smell if you have that big of a problem with it, I know one brand is St. Eves I believe, but just go to the area with panty liners and such and look for products for the smell.

I'm 17/m
at the beginning of this semester we got this new guy in our class. he calls himself and emo and wears skinny jeans and even eyeliner. he doesnt have many friends. I started talking to him and hes actually really nice and i think i'm starting to get feelings for him?! i think about him all the time when im not with him and when i am i sometimes just feel like kissing him and taking him into my arms. i just dont know how to handle this. I'm pretty much the only person he talks to but i dont think he's gay coz he always checks out girls. ive never had feelings for a guy before so im not used to this. ive never had a real girlfriend and never had deep feelings for anyone except for him? hes not really manly and seems like he often needs protection. hes also pretty like a girl. so do i feel attracted to him because of that? i think im falling in love here.
im really scared to tell him how i feel coz it might ruin our friendship. im his only friend and hes always happy to see me i mean he never smiles except for when hes talking to me. does that means something?
i dont even CARE about what others might think. hes just more important
i need advice FAST

This is not something a person from online after reading this could say yes or no too.
You need to realize that you are still very young and your body is full of emotions and hormones and most everyone has same sex attractions in middle or high school.
It really sounds like you just have true best friend and everyone loves their bestfriend. I myself feel like that half the time with my best friend and I know I'm not gay.
But like I said I can't tell you yes or no and you can always go talk to a counsellor to help you figure things out.
You can even read stuff online even take little quizes that will give you a better understanding on what you are really feeling.

I am a 24 year old male with a girlfriend of about a month or two now and we have unprotected sex almost everyday. About 3 days ago it started to burn when I urinate, I went to the doctor today and yesterday for gonorrhea and chlamydia tests. I thought at first it may be a kidney or bladder infection due to it being a common thing in my family with kidney infections. And she says she has been tested recently and I haven't recently but haven't been with anyone for a year before her but sometimes when I urinate it smells like her vagina smell and we haven't had sex in 4 days. The question I have is that common to urinate and smell that smell it is so strange?

Its good that you got tested but there is a very good chance its just a bladder infection.

http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/understanding-urinary-tract-infections-symptoms

ok so you replied to my anal question say how to work it up. I guess i should of added into the question that we do. He is kinda of anal guy so he always fingures my butt. but it just hurts really bad. after a while yeah we can do it but i can only be on top. He wants to do rough anal like in and out. That hurts me like crazy and he doesnt force me but i would love to just surprise him. Could i do anything to work it up about an hour before we do it so i can just hop on it with out finguring my butt for 30 minutes. I just want to get straight to it?

I really don't know much about anal sex all I know if Im fingered it doesnt hurt but I would think maybe a little anal toy something like this maybe: http://www.xandria.com/sex-toys/anal-toys/anal-dildos/jelly-delight-id-287.html

Also read this (the first part doesn't have much but it has good information about pain once you keep reading): http://www.xandria.com/learn/sexuality-questions/sexuality-question/anal-virgin-will-it-hurt.html

I really hope this helps cause it is a lot of fun when it doesnt hurt, but also don't be afraid to do a little research on your own because you know every little detail while I only know what you tell me, ya know.
But if you have anymore questions feel free to ask.

my boyfriend loves anal. i dont mind doing it either, but i hurts me. so i was wondering if there is anything i can do to make it not hurt. i dont mind doing it cause its kinda hot to me. i jsut need to be able to handle it.

If you already don't do this: make sure you for lack of better word 'stretch' it first, meaning put one or two fingers in to get your anus used to it, then go ahead with the penis.
Plus use lube, and maybe try different positions and see if that helps.

Ok I have taken all 3 of the gardasil vacs. Now I hear that it can cause all these sideaffects. I was just wondering if anyone can find a really good article about what they are talking about. Or if you took it and had troubles will you tell me what happened.

From the article I read it sounds like the side effects occur right after the shots, so if you haven't experienced anything yet you should be fine.

http://www.webmd.com/cancer/cervical-cancer/news/20080708/gardasil-safety-questions-and-answers

Whats a really good deodorant for sweaty armpits?
Please tell me if you've tried it before.

Certain Dri is a good one, the only problem is if you are a girl and are like me and shower/shave your underarms at night it will burn when you put it on because you put it on at bedtime. But if you shower in the morning or are a boy its fine and works great either way.

ok im wanting to dye my hair a chocolate brown color, and my natural hair color is a redish brown... and it costs alot to get it done at a beauty salon like $60!
how much does it cost for the dye it yourself kits you can buy at stores?
and how often would i have to re-dye it?
and does it even work????

Self dye kits cost about $10.
You would have to re-dye it about once every three months. But really that is just the norm, if your hair grows fast you'll have to dye the roots before that, but if your hair grows slow and you don't wash it everyday you might be able to go longer than that.
And yes they do work, but it just depends on the color your hair is now with how light or dark it will come out.

how easily is it for the average [horny] 15/16 yr old guy to get hard?

say the word sex and they will get hard.

How do you know when a girl gets horny or not

well, if you are 'down there' she will be wet.
moves her hips around a lot.
seems to want sex...

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