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i had my first time last night
i(16 in december) had sex for the first time last night with my boyfriend (18 in november)! i have a few questions;
1. is it okay if it hurt for most of the time, but felt so good at the same time?
2. is it good or bad that i bled while having intercourse?
3. it hurt like heck when he first inserted his penis into my vagina, is that alright?
4. we used protection, is he supossed to cum in your vagina with the protection?
5. how can i be 100% positive that im NOT preggers.
6. is it okay that i couldnt sleep the night we had intercourse? i fell asleep at like 1145 then i woke up at 4am before school!
7. is it okay if i sweated a lot on my body, but not my face?
8. do you think it was a little early? we have been going out for a month and a week.
please dont lecture me about the age difference between us, i like this boy a lot. he has done so much for me, hes gotten me out of so much trouble, gotten me away from almost being arrested twice. drives me to school every morning. kisses me in the hallway. holds my hand around his friends and my friends. he isnt all about hooking up or sex. i am able to tell him anything thats going on. i trust him 100% with anything. he meets me after almost every class.
oh, and 9. is that a good relationship? what i just described.
answer what you can =]
thank you in advance!
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There's a 100 percent chance you're pregnant.
Screwing after a little more than a month of dating has that effect.
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Honestly if you have to ask that many questions you are not ready to be having sex.
And you need to stop before you acutally do get 'preggers'.
You need to go talk to someone at planned parenthood or your parents and get real information.
Number one cause for teen pegnacys and sti's is lack of education which you seem to have.
I'm really not trying to be mean but you will regret all of this if you don't become smart about what you are doing. Sex isn't something you just do.
Because just because he holds your hand doesn't mean anything.
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Wow, lots of questions! Okay, here we go:
1. Sex can be painful or uncomfortable the first time. If you felt pleasure then that is positive.
2. It's neither good or bad that you bled. Many virgins bleed, many do not. It's a hymen thing. Google "hymen" and you'll see what that is and where it's located. Sometime it stetches for first time sex, other times it tears and bleeds. Some women tear theirs prior to sex in some other way. Everyone is different.
3. The pain was probably him tearing your hymen. The fact that you bled makes me think that is what happened. Totally normal.
5. If you are sexually active, look into getting the birth control pill and take it as directed. It's very VERY effective in preventing pregnancy. Continue to use condoms to make absolutely sure you're safe. As for now, make sure you get your period. If you're late, take a pregnancy test to check.
6. It sounds like you had an important night and couldn't stop thinking about it. To figure out if it's okay or not you couldn't sleep, spend some time reflecting on the night and ask yourself: was I comfortable? Was I happy? Did I feel safe? Did I feel loved? Am I confident I made the right choice?
When you've answered these questions for yourself you'll know if you couldn't sleep because you're worried and upset or if you were excited. If you were worried and upset, talk to your boyfriend about it and let him know how you feel.
7. Sweating on the body is a normal sexual response.
8. It is a little early, if only because when you're in your teens your feeling are really intense. When you're older your feelings will mellow out a bit more (good news, right?) so it's good for teenagers to take things a little slower, just to give themselves time to handle their strong feelings.
Ultimately you have to make your sexual choices based on what you want, what you feel ready for, what makes you comfortable. Also, think about what you would be prepared to do in the case of an unwanted pregnancy. Now that you've started your sex life, this is an important part of it. It's not fun to think about, but it's part of becoming a woman.
9. Your relationship sounds caring. I'm concerned about the getting arrested part, though. Try and stay outta trouble.
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